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writes:MOD NOTER: OP's own title:My girlfriend and I have been dating since the middle of our sophomore year in high school, and we just started our senior year. So it's been a little over a year and a half. I really really hate her two best friends, so she hung out with them and I seprerately all summer, me much more of the time. Everything was going well in our relationship at this point until school started, because she keeps ditching me for her friends. This is a bit out of character for her and it makes me very sad and angry. She knows I absolutely despise them so won't even try to hang out with us at the same time, which is okay but hasn't spent any time at all with me in school since it started. I have pretty good reasons for hating them and I know that it isn't exactly good for my relationship but I seriously can't stand them. But I don't know what to do this is driving me crazy please can I have so recommendations or suggestions?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 September 2010):
 You're not going to like all your girlfriend's friends that's just a given. But, if you're going to be with her then you need to set those differences aside and be the bigger person here. Tell her that you feel a little left in the dark because she's been spending a ton of time with the girls and you would like for her to split the time up evenly. If you got to buck up and hang around her friends a few times, it's possible to be civil to people you can't stand. Plus, you're scoring points with your girlfriend for trying.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Well you don't give a reason for "hating" her two best friends but really how bad can they be if your girlfriend is hanging with them? Here is your problem in a nutshell - you were forcing her to choose between you and them all summer long and that created a wedge - a wedge between you and her. You have already admitting that hating the friends was "not exactly good for my relationship." Yep. Learn from this. Back off. Stop being so controlling - it is never ever helpful in relationships. See where it got you?
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