What do you think? Is chivalry really dead or do gentlemen still exits?
Q. I am a big fan of classic period dramas and books such as Pride and Prejudice and North and South. I love how women are treated in this era and how men are respectable gentlemen. I know i am not alone in this thought and that many women love ...
A. 25 May 2009: women are the ones to blame mostly for the lack of chivalry in todays world, or our society. feminism, has attacked men for years, with women moaning and groaning about their "rights" and that their just as able bodied as men. so men backed off and ... (read in full...)
Raped and now pregnant
Q. Hi. I have a very difficult problem,Around 2 months ago I was raped. Now he is in jail and facing many years but although I am happy about that, I'm very depressed. Last week I found out I was pregnant. And I know it was by him because not o...
A. 25 May 2009: its a HARD and most difficult situation for many, but for myself, there would be no hesitation nor debate. i would of had an abortion, only because for one, if i kept the innocent child, id always be reminded of its father, the rapist, as it would ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my hatred of my small boobs?
Q. I'm so disappointed with my body. With my breasts actually. They're small. However, I'm not "athletic". I'm not fat, but I'm not a skinny, long-bodied beauty. I'm medium framed, huge hips, most of the fat goes there, actually. I've always been ...
A. 23 May 2009: im a 32 a cup. i have to shop in the childrens section to get training bras, i went to victorias secret a few months ago. i love getting my lingerie from there. i needed to be fitted for some bras and they told me ever so politely, u are a minus a ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight quickly???
Q. What is a good way to lose weigth fast? I want to lose 30 pounds in 40 days any ideas?...
A. 23 May 2009: rule of thumb. treat ur stomach like a big container. imagine it partitioned into 3 parts. fill it 1/3 water, 1/3 food and 1/3 air. this is one of the best ways to start. then, a low carb diet should be followed. carbs dont break down properly and ... (read in full...)
Who is right here?
Q. ok, here at home, there is a little dilemma going on between my mum and my 25 year old brother: my mum does not want my brother bringing his gf over into his bedroom because she says that them sleeping together is "sexually immoral." she says that ...
A. 23 May 2009: while to an extent i agree as long as he and her keep their sexual trysts down to a level where she cant hear, i also agree that, if he has chosen to still live under his mothers roof, he should respect her rules. after all, would u want to hear ur ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around women but my friends do!
Q. I don't know how to act around women. When I go to a club, I see my friends casually walk past girls in clubs, rub up against them/touch them up a little and then carry on walking as if nothing happened. Other times it'll happen when they're ...
A. 15 May 2009: sure, u can do the same as ur buddies there do, rub girls up, get a little feely with them then take em home and bang them. but, is that what ur looking for? or are u looking for a respectable girl u can have good times with that will eventually ... (read in full...)
What does cum taste like?
Q. hey guys, I was wondering what 'cum' really tastes like? I have heard on here and friends that it tastes real bad and can anyone relate what it tastes like to a certain food or something? so then at least when the time comes I will be ready, so wha...
A. 15 May 2009: BARRRRFFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Who can advise him how to leave his wife and children for me?
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man with children. We want to be together but he is finding it very difficult to foresee a way he can leave his children. Is there any advise as to who would be the right person to talk to to help him achieve ...
A. 27 April 2009: if hes willing to abandon his children, assuming there all young, then i would question whether hes the right man to be with! u need to examine ALL avenues in this situatiion, and analyze them properly. secondly, regardless of how u two got ... (read in full...)
Backoff..I'm in a relationship
Q. how do you get someone you had an affair with to backoff because you are in a relationship??...
A. 20 April 2009: u are ur own worse enemy. star put it alll right. i think u might think twice next time u have an affair whiloe in a relationship....if ur afraid ur bf might find out.... why a one sided affair? u should just dump him, and move on. why keep hi round ... (read in full...)
I want to have plastic surgery on my breasts
Q. I know this is a very random question.... Lately i have been thinking how uncomfortable with my boobs..i want to go and have plastic surgery (stupid idea..i know) on the nipple area..so tonight i took some pictures of them to see if they are ...
A. 26 March 2009: ur still developing sweety, so its more optimal to wait to ur bodies fully done growing then, decide if u still want to. im 31 yrs, asian and very small. while a lot of guys think small breasts with nice size nipples r hot, i am not happy with my ... (read in full...)
He won't go out with me because I'm "flat chested" Grrrrr
Q. Well basically, I am 14 and I am not fully 'developed' yet. Like I haven't started my period and my boobs are basically like mosquito bites. This is because my mum developed really late. She didn't start her period til she was 16 but the annoying ...
A. 26 March 2009: ur young, the breasts will definitely come round for sure, heres a little something for u. how would this guy feel if some girl would not date him because his penis was, a little to small for her liking? OUCH! u want to hit a guys ego and ... (read in full...)
Help! Wife saw porn, I think I might lose her and my son!
Q. I have a big problem. My wife looked through the history of my laptop and saw some porn sites I had went to. I'm living a few hours away from home because of my job, and get home on the weekends. She had seen that I had searched for MILFs and a ...
A. 24 March 2009: dub dub, i have always said this to people and i will tell u the same. porn, in general, is a grey area, its a mild form of cheating but, it is u nique for every persons situaution. guys have their hangups and insecurities which sometimes make them ... (read in full...)
Jealousy inducing wife
Q. I am a married man coming into my 1st anniversary with my wife. Even though we made it this far, we have issues. I am laidback when it comes to a lot of things, but I can be jealous. It takes quite a bit I think, to bring it out though. My wife ...
A. 20 March 2009: i agree wuth u, and we all know women love to throw at men "whats good for the goose ought to be good for the gander!"
shes not following this though, eh? was she doing this before u married? or is this something new? if its new, then maybe id try ... (read in full...)
Could use a shoulder to lean on
Q. First of all..... Holy shit. Where to begin... I left my job for another in another overseas. My fiancee ( almost 6 years together) had wanted us to end up there eventually... Sacrifices had to be made in order to achieve this. Let m...
A. 19 March 2009: give her the "break" shes asking for, continue with ur studies, look at it this way, whether u stay with her or not, u will still need ur livelihood. so dont let this break u, rather allow it to strengthen u in every way. if in the end u dont have ... (read in full...)
Hidden porn on my laptop from boyfriend!
Q. I have just found hidden porographic videos on our joint laptop that we collected from his mum's on saturday evening. LO and behold i opened up the browser history and he's been masturbating to these videos everyday since saturday... it's now ...
A. 19 March 2009: krazykat, if u feel his porn habits are affecting ur ability to have sex with him, like ur performance, ur quality of orgasms etc, then u should bring this to his attention. i had a lot of issues with my bf before, and now, hes been porn frree for a ... (read in full...)
Kissing someone else considered cheating?
Q. Everytime i asked him if he found someone else he told me i was crazy. when really he was spending alot of time with this girl behind my back. When he found out that i knew he confessed that he kissed her and im thinking he obviously liked her ...
A. 19 March 2009: ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!! anything intimate, even phone sex, anything done without ur knowledege, and it was done in a secretive way,sneaky, lying, is ALL cheating.kissing the opposite sex, is cheating. because ur sharing something which should ONLY be ... (read in full...)
Baby blues...
Q. After having a baby 5 months ago me and my husband are not getting along and we dont have sex? What can we do to save the marriage? ...
A. 18 March 2009: are u close to his mom? if so, perhaps u should have her as a mediator, between u two, so she can also confirm to him that as women, u go thru hormonal rollercoasters after birth etc. like the others, i agree u gave little or no extra info on the ... (read in full...)
She still doesn't really want to perform oral sex on me!
Q. I have been with my Fiance over 2 years now and about 6 months into our relationship I posted a question about how to get her to enjoy going down on me more. She was borderline forced to preform oral in her previous relationship. Your responses ...
A. 18 March 2009: dear god dude, have u ever thought some people are xtremly disgusted at the thought of sucking dick, or munching on pussy? leave her alone, or discuss all the reasons why she wont do it, then let her be. when shes ready, she will. its a very ... (read in full...)
I hate my body! I am too fat!
Q. well for starters, i absolutely hate my body. i'll be 18 this summer which makes me feel even worse about the way i look. i feel disgusted when i look in the mirror, i mean i'm only about 113 pounds but i definitely dont look it. i keep trying to be ...
A. 15 March 2009: im anorexic, had 5 kids, im 32 yrs old, im 100 pounds and according to my bf, super hot and tiny as a mouse. i know deep down i am, my stomach is flat and toned, but i still feel fat.im also 5ft 2. its all in the head. people like urself and me ... (read in full...)
Cheated on while we were engaged, but didn't find out until after we got married.
Q. So my husband and i were recently married 2 months ago. a couple days ago i found out that he had sex with a married woman while we were engaged. He has hid this secret from me for so long now that it doesnt even seem real. The only reason he was ...
A. 11 March 2009: no kids yet? file for divorce, hes only sorry because he got caught. and nows hes fathered a baby.... guilty as charged. why should YOu have to be the one to forgive? sometimes one has to cut their losses. so, if he had not knocked her up, would he ... (read in full...)
Ex is trying to get custody of our son & he smokes weed!
Q. My son's father had a problem with smoking weed that lead to a cocaine problem. I got out of there and he never tried to see our son,so i just moved on. Now he's 9 and his father is trying to get custody of him, i tried talking to him but he really ...
A. 11 March 2009: good news for YOu! if YOu can prove he was not around to see his son nor made any true atttempts inn the past 9 yrs, then the court will question his seriousness at his claims to want to be a father NOW. after all, you just cant walk away, they ... (read in full...)
I am dreaming of our future and he is thinking of my past
Q. I am engaged to be married in less than 6 weeks. I am 30 years old. My fiance is 25. We have been together over 2 years. 90% of the time I am the happiest I have ever been; when he comes in the room I feel myself soften, my body relaxes and I can't ...
A. 10 March 2009: he needs to understand, at the end of the day, its to him you are coming home to, and its him your marrying. he sounds extremly jealous. my bf was with over a 100 girls before me, however, he never cheated. he is very sound in his morales, and his ... (read in full...)
He's hiding porn in the ceiling, should I just leave him?
Q. My husband lies about porn, he hides them in the ceiling and an unfinished room wall. I've caught him several times and he lies to my face. Then just pretends everything is OK. To top it off he has every excuse not to have sex We are 43 years old...
A. 9 March 2009: hes married more to his hand then it seems to you. the amount u mention of times a yr u have sexual relations is extrmly suspicious.... thats very rare to hear... especially a guy who is turning down sex? i mean i know guys love porn and its like ... (read in full...)
He's giving me a car for my birthday and wants sex, does my ex-husband want me back?
Q. I am currently separated and have been for almost a year. My husband left me last March saying he wasn't in love with me anymore and needed space. The past year has been painful but i've manage to be strong for the sake of our 5 year old daughter we ...
A. 9 March 2009: very hard to say. perhaps he may still care for u, and as we know, for men, at least most, sex can be 2 things, sex for what it is, and sex because its their way of bonding. if u still have feelings for him, maybe u should invite him either to your ... (read in full...)
In love with someone I will never see again
Q. Hey yall I will start from when I met her I was in the 11th grade and we had a foreign exchange student from Germany I really liked her so I got the nerv to ask her to prom and then we started talking more and the more I like her and then she told ...
A. 7 March 2009: If you had a gf you loved so much, would you want another man to do what you wanted to do, the point is, she belongs to another man with her heart in another place. You should admire her strength and loyalty to her bf, and hope you will find a girl ... (read in full...)
How do I keep both women in my life?
Q. I've been in a committed relationship for the past 6+ years with my girlfriend, "Rachel". I love her with all of my heart and I had planned on proposing but something recently has caused me not to. One of my close friends, "Tammy", and I h...
A. 6 March 2009: you already violated your gf trust. you cant unlearn what you have learnt, same goes for actions. shame on you, she gave and wasted 6 yrs of her life investing her love and loyalties in you. now she will have to restart over her life, but now she ... (read in full...)
Does interest fade in ALL serious relationships, or should I take it as a sign to move on?
Q. I'm looking for opinions from married people or people in long term serious relationships.... I'm trying to figure out if what I'm feeling/not feeling for my boyfriend of 2 years is "normal", or is it an indication that we shouldn't get ma...
A. 6 March 2009: could be he is picking up from u the same vibes, sex for men is a major form of communication, so if your sex drive has dwindled, he will think your not interested in him. thereby, he is treating you like the way hes feeling treated. for most men, ... (read in full...)
Do men like women who are a little hard to get?
Q. Do guys like women who aren't too anxious to talk with them...in other words those who play a little hard to get more than those who seem like an anxious puppy waiting to hear from them again? Is this a matter of individual preference or it it a ...
A. 6 March 2009: we are wired in certain ways, men usually, yes, love, the thrill of the hunt. it adds excitement, allure, and the desire to get what is out of their reach, such as a hot girl who has caught their eye. it adds mystery, and a girl whos usually too ... (read in full...)
I'm a forty year old man who is fed up with his marriage.
Q. I'm a forty year old man who is fed up with his marriage. I've only ever had sex with my wife as she was my first girlfriend and I have never cheated on her in the 20 years we have been together. There have been 2 occasions at least where she has ...
A. 6 March 2009: hmmm, sounds like shes playing some type of game. and does not sound like fun to me. she can play round with other guys but wont let u? i think u need to sit down with her and ask her just what are her motives in doing these things, why is she ... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust him when he lies about porn?
Q. How can a spiuse regain trust after sneaking in porn and lieing ab outout it? We had an agreement that he would not look at porn when I'm home as I feel that is very disrespectful, but I have caught him several times taking quickie porn looking ...
A. 5 March 2009: im going to be straight up. has ur sex life been affected? i would tell him this has destroyed ur confidence and ability to orgasm properly, that it has affected u physically, in regards to ur ability to climaz and soforth, and emotionally becuase ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Poll about size
Q. Ok ladies I have been in a discussion with my girlfriend and many other females the age old question here goes . DOES SIZE MATTER ? IS IT THE LENGTH ? IS IT THE GIRTH ? IS IT BOTH ? I am just asking. Please do not assume i am a...
A. 5 March 2009: i believe every womens prefernce may differ, but, most women will agreee the bigger, the more it will hurt when deep penetration occurs. u can be long, and very thin in girth. and its no fun, for the man, as he wont feel much friction, and the women ... (read in full...)
Putting the lust back into the marriage so I don't fantasize about other women
Q. Before we got married I was always attracted to my wife and would often fantasize about her. We never managed to have a very successful sex life primarily because my mind would always wander and I wasn't therefore able to achieve orgasm. Then...
A. 5 March 2009: while i do agree a lot of men, maybe even urself, like variety, once in a while, i also think that now that ur married, its to one woman. ur wife. and sex can be repetive etc and eventually become drull. however, a lot of married or men who are ... (read in full...)
We both want to stay together when she goes to uni but I can't help but think about the inevitable.
Q. My girl and I have been together for one year. When we started dating she mentioned an interest in an exchange program that our university offered. She applied and got in after months of waiting. She will be leaving the counrty for 8 months at the ...
A. 5 March 2009: then u need to ask urself, are u both looking for long term commitment? if so, then u should tel her u will commit urself to her in her absence . that u understand that it will be long distance, but u can handle the pressures. if u can outlast this, ... (read in full...)
From relationship, to friends....now will he ever want to be lovers again?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship with a widower for 5 years. We love each other very much, but he is afraid of commitment, so much so that when I asked him where he saw our relationship in a few years time, he said that he couldnt ...
A. 3 March 2009: i am a deep believer in soulmate relationships, my bf and i are so much in love and feel very strongly that remarriage will NEVER happen. to me, death is ONLY a temporary partition between two people who love eachother. and if the gentleman ur ... (read in full...)
If a girl that you're interested is always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does she just think of you as a friend?
Q. If a girl that you're interested is always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does she just think of you as a friend? I'm not talking sexy negligee or lingerie, I'm talking flannel matching top and bottom pajamas. Don't get me wrong, sh...
A. 29 December 2008: she may just feel very comfortable and super casual in her flannnels. she may be the type to just lounge round the home in her pjs, my guy friend wears his tighty whities when i go see him but were strictly friends, he is happily seeing a girl and ... (read in full...)
I want without my parents negatively judging me for it.
Q. Hi. I have been dating my bf for almost 3 years. I'm 23 (almost 24) and he's 25. He works for an airline company and is always saying we should go places and travel, especially since it's free for us. I would love to travel, but my parents are very ...
A. 17 November 2008: In the end, you are 23 years old and a mature adult. Although I understand your situation being Asian and all, respect and fear are two different things. How come you do not live in your own flat? Perhaps they see it as while you're under their ... (read in full...)
Can a Straight guy have interest in kissing/making out with other guys??
Q. Just a little question that im interested in peoples' opinions on - ESPECIALLY MEN. Okay, can a straight guy be interested in kissing/making out with another guy? I personally think that no straight guy can have interest in doing that, but...
A. 17 November 2008: of course! my first response here is, as women will often be curious as to whats it like to kiss a girl, ( iwas curious and was kissed by a girl and it made no difference in my sexuality..im straight still!!) and so too can men be the same way. ... (read in full...)
I want to move in together and get engaged. What's he waiting for?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's a sweet guy. We get along really good and talk about being together forever and getting married. Our connection is deep and we call ourselves soulmates. A few months ago we talked about our ...
A. 16 November 2008: maybe either he wants to build his financial status up somewhat before a real commitment. some guys want to have money for a big wedding ceremony, in which case hes working frantically so he can give u a fantasy wedding etc, perhaps he does not want ... (read in full...)
My husband slept with my friend's wife after our big argument and I've just found out!
Q. Hi, this is the first time I've been on a forum and I would appreciate advice on my problem. I'm sorry this is quite long. I have been married for 13 months and was with my husband for two years before we married and gave birth to twins a few m...
A. 10 November 2008: giving him another chance is not the question. forgiving him is only half the battle! because the fact u will ALWAYS remember, in the back of ur mind every time he says, i love u, u will always be like, " where was the love when u cheated on me"? u ... (read in full...)
Earlier today he asked me if him and one of his friends could..."play" with me
Q. My boyfriend asked me to dress in something sexy before we..."play".....but other then langerie what else is there? Earlier today he asked me if him and one of his friends could..."play" with me....um..what do I say? I wouldnt really mind it... but ...
A. 8 November 2008: i would be a little wary about ur bfs passing u around as a plaything to his friends.... u are NOT a plaything nor something to be objectified. he uses the word play? was he ever molested or sexually abused in some shape of form before? while this ... (read in full...)
How long until I can truly move on?
Q. Why am I still feeling this way? It’s been 1 year since the break up. One full year –time has flew by. Is it even possible to still feel LOVE? How long does it take to get over it. I know there is no possibility of me getting back especially ...
A. 7 November 2008: for every year experts say add an extra year, or something close to that.... (read in full...)
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