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writes: I met a girl in early December and we get on great. She lives in my city, but had to go back to her hometown a week ago and she'll be there for at least a month and a half. Our text messages are already getting repetitive and boring and the phone calls too, because we have little to talk about. It's just SO different than being face to face, and it's not that we've known each other our whole life to be THAT comfortable on the phone. Now she's acting a bit distant and I'm afraid she's losing interest, which sucks.How can I handle the distance? I thought of telling her to wait until she's back to get in touch again, but perhaps that's a bad idea. What you you think guys?
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (21 January 2014):
 hello i am canadian my bf of almost 2 yrs lives in the states.. we obviously have a LDR.. we met on xboxlive as gamers, were friends for 3 yrs, besties, and then i asked him to be my bf, of which he is 13 yrs younger then me, i am 36. i am in college, he isnt yet, we skype every day and sleep online together, wake up i go to school and wake him up to go to work.. i also proposed to him 2 weeks into dating him. he said yes.. we r still as happy as can be, and i just want to say to you, have hope, the only way LDR work is if both peeps r on the same page, meaning u both want no one else, but eachother, despite the loneliness and distance, u wont have it ANY other way. none. U both are honest.. i told my bf my entire lifestory the day i asked him out, online xbox.. EVERY lil secfret, every lil detail. cuz how can he rly say yes, w/o being informed of where i come from, who i am today, wat made me who i am, and where i see myself down the road? he told me EVERYTHING about himself and we have met. we MAKE it work. we sacrifice so much, to spend every waking second online with eachother.. we know wat we want. and thats a start.. u need to talk to her, and see where shes at, with u on this, is she lagging behind u, is she up to speed on the same page, or, moved on leaving u in the dust?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 January 2014):
 just keep in touch a bit and pick up when she gets back...
the concern is that if you have nothing to talk about now how does that work when you are together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2014): OP here. Easy for you to say. I actually like this girl and she'll be back eventually. Isn't "restarting" the relationship once she does come back an option?
Or is it just over?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2014): Sounds like it has fizzled out. Just let it go and move on.
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