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writes:My wife went to school for massage therapy. She was in childcare, but not certified, so not making much money,, and wasn't happy. She's now working in a massage place. Not a seedy place with oriental showers and the such you might think of, but supposedly a respectfull place. My problem is, I know (or at least she professes) that she isn't doing anything 'wrong', but she has admitted to seeing many men naked and with erections. I know getting an erection would be a natural response to getting a massage, and my wife says they are supposed to keep a large towel covering them, but she says that sometimes when doing the upper thighs, or lower stomach, she can't help but seeing their 'private parts' and they's almost always with an erection. I am getting more and more uncomfortable with this every day. She makes a good living, but I still don't like it very much. Even if she never touches another guy, I don't like her seeing so many erect penises. Am I being too jealeous/selfish? Or do I have a right to not want my wife to see so many other strange men?
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 if its not a rub and tug, who cares dude? shes a professional masage therapist. a masseusse is different. they give the happy endings. so why r u being so anal about it? do u go to strip bars? do u fancy looking at naked women? do u look at porn? for christ sake buddy get a life. shes not doing anything wrong. any more then u are if u justify going to strip bars or looking at porn. its all genitals. cock balls and pussy. so what? she comes home to you. shes faithful. trust her. and if or when things go bad, then u know what u need to do. until then, enjoy ur nude images of women. shes might be gettting little unintended sneak peaks at cock, but im sure shes not doing anything with it.shes not flicking her bean while shes massaging. unlike u or most men who cant seem to slow down on the amount of mileage thats being done to cptn. winky. relax. ur wifes doing no wrongdoing her. as far as u and we know. TRUST.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): you definitly have the right to feel ucomfortable about her seeing and touching naked guys.. however, it might not be such a good idea too demand she stop working there. you might send the wrong message. try to calmly have a conversation with her about how you feel. try to emphazie that you trust her. choose your words carefully so it wont turn into a fight. she most likely wont quit. but talking about it will help you feel much better about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Book a surprise appointment with her.
As far as her seeing naked men, what about you looking at naked women?
I hate to say this, but if you've seen it before, there isn't much of a surprise. Its not the body, its who's in it.
Like I said, just book a surprise appointment and this time, let her give you the one forbidden happy ending that she's not allowed to give any other naked guy.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 August 2009):
 I think it would be UNNATURAL if it didn't upset you at all. If my husband was rubbing/massaging women all day I would have a fit. It's about trust. Do you trust her?
My thoughts, if you have seen one you have seen them all..
Does she otherwise like the job?
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (25 August 2009):
 What kind of a massage place is this? An erection is definitely not a natural response to a regular, non-erotic massage (it can happen once in a while, of course, but not "almost always")!
You are right not to want your wife to be in close contact with sexually aroused men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Here's the thing, Idk how things are in massage places, but in some ways I understand your feelings, and in some ways I think that you need to move past them. Speaking from my p.o.v. my career has always been first, and for a good reason. A career puts food on the table. A career helps with independent living. Men come and go. Women come and go. Some special men and women stay in peoples' lives, but this is not always the case.
I think that she needs to make sure that they are covered with a towel, and to try in her own ways to be modest around them and make sure that they are being modest around her. This comes back to what I said about how I'm not sure how massage places are or how certain ones are. In certain ones, it is okay to be completely naked I think, not sure. But in this one, if they need to have towels on, tell her that you want her to make sure that they have towels on and that she try to avoid seeing those parts. The erection under the towel she will usually see, but yeah, other than that, tell her you want the skin to be covered. Maybe it would also help if she stopped talking to you about this, unless something bad happened to her or something. Also plz avoid asking her questions (shouldn't be a problem if she stops talking about her job, but for now)about how big the other guy is or if you are bigger than him, etc. I'm not saying you do this, but if you do, stop.
The problem with my towel suggestion though, is that if she is massaging upper thighs she might not see the penis and accidently touch it. She should be careful.
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