I'm a girl and I have a moustache - how can I hide it?
Q. I am a girl and I have a bit of a moustache above my top lip. I bleach it so noboby can see it. But it worries me because it makes me feel really unfeminine. Also, I was wondering that when you kiss someone, can you feel their moustache? Have you ...
A. 8 November 2007: Unless it's very long I can't imagine that we'd notice. Our own whiskers get in the way -- they're a lot courser, aren't they?... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that her husband is cheating?
Q. There is this party store right by my house, and I know for a fact that the woman who runs the counter, her husband has been sleeping with this girl I know. I used to be friends with this girl, but I cut her out of my life as she's been acting ...
A. 8 November 2007: You run the risk of being the "messenger" in the "don't kill the messenger" complaint, but I think you would be doing this woman a favor. So yes, you should tell her.
If you can get any proof first, that would be helpful.... (read in full...)
The guy I dumped 5 years ago sends me flirty messages. What is going on?
Q. I heartlessly dumped a guy 5 years ago, for selfish and shallow reasons, realising almost straight away that it was a huge mistake but not being in the position to do anything about it. Anyways, he recently broke up with the girl he started seeing ...
A. 8 November 2007: First let's talk about your current guy. If you're thinking about someone else, you clearly aren't into your current relationship. Break up with him and move on, regardless of what happens with this other guy. When you're single, contact ... (read in full...)
He keeps photos of him and his ex in a special box and doesn't want to throw them out but I don't like this...am I being unreasonable??
Q. Hi, I got married in June this year to my gorgeous man who I have been seeing for 5 years. My problem is this ... he has photos of an old girlfriend in a special box including photos of them kissing and he is reluctant to throw them out ... I dont ...
A. 8 November 2007: He chooses to be with you, that's the important thing. Let these pictures go.... (read in full...)
He says he didnt take my virginity but I was in pain...am I still a virgin?
Q. hey i'm a 19 years of age my b.f and i were trying to have sex bt didn't acually go through with it because i was scared,and he saud he didn't break my virginity is this true because when he was about to put his thing i felt pain and asked him to ...
A. 8 November 2007: I would think you had a near miss. If you're willing to try with this guy a second time, make him slow down (good for you for making him stop). You obviously weren't ready, and it can really hurt the first time if you're not ready. Forepl... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find somebody who will always be romantic??
Q. Is it possible to find someone that will always be romantic? My boyfriend used to do romantic things for me and he doesn’t anymore. I like to be romanced, and by romanced I mean receiving small little gestures such as cuddling, unexpected kisses, ...
A. 8 November 2007: I have two friends who have been married 20 years. They're still sweet on each other. They were married in their early twenties. They've gone through some serious rough patches. They've decide to work on their marriage CONSTANTLY. And it's wor... (read in full...)
Should I ignore my feelings for my friend's sake?
Q. Ok. I have little bit of a problem. One of my good friends just went thru a bad breakup, and I have kinda been playing matchmaker and hooking him up with a new but very good friend of mine. They are getting to know each other, but they haven't ...
A. 8 November 2007: Okay. Let's ignore the husband thing. Let's just talk about the friendships involved. You've been trying to get two friends hooked up, and they know it. How will your guy friend feel if you say "nevermind" and yank her away, now that he's ... (read in full...)
Why am I so jealous?
Q. I'm 19, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half and we're both madly in love. I just have a serious problem with jealousy! Hes a very good looking man and we were friends before we got together. I saw what he was like before when...
A. 8 November 2007: I think that mostly jealousy has more to do with the jealous person than with the mate (there are exceptions). So let me ask you a question: how's your self-confidence? Do you feel "worthy" of him? Do you feel like he would choose someone else ... (read in full...)
Why do they care so much to push the issue.
Q. I have been going out and living with my boyfriend for three years and we recently got engaged. Our sex life is fantastic, and we do anything and everything sexually. We do some very filthy things and most of the time our sex is like a hardcore ...
A. 8 November 2007: Oh, I know you don't bring it up, no worries there. But when THEY do, they get no response from you but a satisfied, bird-that-ate-the-canary smile. That's it. Refuse to talk about it at all; you have nothing to need to defend to anyone. Be with ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend looks like she doesn't like me anymore
Q. My relationship is having a huge problem since a lot of time, and it is coming to a bad point. One day, when having sex with my GF, the condom broke. It was a hard time for her since she is very fearful person. Problem came when, after 2 times, it ...
A. 7 November 2007: Okay, sex is currently a problem for her, so (in the short run) take it off the table.
EVERYTHING ELSE should be fair game. Mutual masturbation, oral sex, etc. Stuff that brings you both to orgasm but doesn't have the risk of pregnancy. Promise... (read in full...)
Why do they care so much to push the issue.
Q. I have been going out and living with my boyfriend for three years and we recently got engaged. Our sex life is fantastic, and we do anything and everything sexually. We do some very filthy things and most of the time our sex is like a hardcore ...
A. 7 November 2007: They care because either they don't understand or they're jealous (my guess is the latter). Or they're self-righteous prigs who can't stand the thought of anyone else being happy if they're not (not saying that's the case, but it sounds like it). ... (read in full...)
After my divorce I met a man who made me feel wanted, loved. I'm not in love, just scared of being alone. What do I do?
Q. I am 45 and just divorced my husband whom we've been married for 22 years. Then I met this man 18 years older than me. He made me feel wanted. We've been together for 6 months now. But now I realise I am not in love with him. He told me he has ...
A. 7 November 2007: I know this is easier for me to say than it is for you to do, but don't tie yourself to this man if you don't love him. Hold out for the real thing.
Figure out a way to be comfortable being alone in your own skin; self-confidence is sexy and you ... (read in full...)
I am female and over six foot tall! I'm insecure about it. Tell me-- Do men find tall women attractive?
Q. This is a stupid question, but I am very insecure as I am so tall. I am six foot and tower over people, especially when I wear heels. I am very slim and used to be a model so everyone thinks I am so confident, but the truth is I hate it so much. I ...
A. 7 November 2007: Tall women are SEXY! But it's sexier if you're confident. Throw your head back and stand up straight. And any man who can't handle your height is NOT worth your attention!... (read in full...)
How soon could I be tested by blood/urine to see if I'm pregnant?
Q. i would like to know how soon could i be tested by either blood or urine? to see if im pregnant? ...
A. 7 November 2007: Well, you could get one of those test that "work" up to 3 days before the day you should get your period. However my wife had 3 false negatives (2 with the "early" tests and one with the regular one). The blood test finally confirmed what she ... (read in full...)
My husband demands sex in a demeaning way because I earn more money. What to do?
Q. I have been married for two years now, and I do love my husband. Least year, my husband realized just how much more money I make them him and at first, he was just resentful. It then leered its way into our sex life, and he only wanted to be ...
A. 7 November 2007: Drag his ass, kicking and screaming if necessary, into counseling. Seriously. If he can't get a handle on this he's less of a man than he thinks he is. A man's worth IS NOT based on how much money he makes; it's on how he treats people, his ... (read in full...)
I started to see my ex and father of my kids again but the attraction and romance have vanished. I'm too young to feel this way? Anyone can relate to my story?
Q. Hi - I'm not sure I want to be with my partner. We'd been together 4 years before splitting up earlier this year. We don't live together but started seeing each other again about 2 months ago. I was the one that ended the relationship - t...
A. 7 November 2007: Here's the thing, if you were sweet on him like you used to be, you'd get the ants back in your pants for him. But that takes work. I recommend counseling, or something that will get you talking like you used to when you were just dating.
If yo... (read in full...)
My sister keeps stealing my underwear!!
Q. Hi everyone My problem is my younger sister. She is 16 at the minute and turns 17 on the 1st of january. The problem is is that she won't stop stealing from me. She steals money, clothes, makeup, shaving razors, beauty products..basica...
A. 7 November 2007: Ask your bf for a drawer at his place; keep the sexy stuff there. Buy some granny underwear and keep it at your place.
And I'm with A Cappella -- start dumping her stuff on the floor after you've kept it for a while. When she complains, you can ... (read in full...)
How can I find perfect relationship
Q. dear cupid, i fell in love to a man that got married, I really love him, what will I do, I know he will never be mine - but I'm really crazy about him, and why if the man fell in love with me deeply I will not like him any more? what do I do, I ...
A. 7 November 2007: You don't find the perfect relationship, you make it. ... (read in full...)
My husband threatened my 11 year old with a knife!
Q. been married to a controling man for 10 yrs and have 3 kids lately he has grabbed me by the face a couple of times when he says i have done wrong and just last week he threatened my 11 year old while he had a knife in his hand. i have no life and ...
A. 7 November 2007: Run like your ass is on fire. This will only get worse. I don't know whether this is close, but if it is I recommend calling them:
Northern Ireland Women's Aid // 129 University Street // Belfast BT7 1HP // Phone 0232 24 90 42/24 93 58
He... (read in full...)
Surely I'm Better For Her... But She's Chosen Him
Q. She has a guy, but he's made her cry multiple times and chooses games and cars over her... I've been talking to her for several months and also spent time together... we had unbelievable chemistry like soulmates... We both said we made each other ...
A. 7 November 2007: The heart wants what it wants. Even if it's bad for you, it still want what it wants. Her head may know you're better for her, but her heart wants him, and that's how she'll choose.
No amount of support from you will help her get over this guy... (read in full...)
Every day there's a insult from my gf of 3 yrs or her kids. Should I break up?
Q. my girlfriend of 3 yrs will only give about 30%, wont come to my house i have to go there. always tells me how wrong iam and that her and her kids are right, ALWAYS, every single thing is done when she says, its not what WE can do to make this work, ...
A. 7 November 2007: "What you tolerate becomes your standard." If you ever want better treatment, you'll have to stand up for it. Good luck man.... (read in full...)
Ow can I build my confidence enough to attract girls?
Q. i'm smartmax,i've a problem attracting the kind girls i really want to be with.pls,help me on how to build my self-esteem,have confident and boldnss to talk to any girl....
A. 7 November 2007: First of all, start doing something you enjoy -- something you're good at. It doesn't matter what -- play a sport, join a club, sing in a choir, take a dance class, study martial arts. Anything that makes you feel that you're really good at ... (read in full...)
Seperated by college. He is doubtful of his love. What to do?
Q. i've been in a relationship with my collegemate for 2yrs now..he's gone to london to further his studies..we made several arrangments n promises to stay together, etc. it's been 2months of long distance relationship, we've had a few minor adjustment ...
A. 7 November 2007: Well, I can tell you what my long-distance sweet heart and I did when we were separated by college, but it doesn't work for everyone. Read through to the end, rather than just deciding it's not for you, please. Start dating other people.
Here ... (read in full...)
Do I choose a new life and a new baby or my fiances stepson?
Q. Hi, I have been with my fiance for a year and a half and he has a daughter aged 10 and a stepson aged 11 from his previous marriage. Both are difficult children behaviour wise and both bully my son and swear and call me names whilst at my house. I...
A. 7 November 2007: The stepson thinks of him as his father. You can't ask your bf to leave him behind.
On the other hand, you have to protect your own son.
Unless the two of you can be a united front (him backing your parenting decisions and vice versa) then... (read in full...)
Should I move on or wait around?
Q. Basically me and my ex broke up and i've been pretty much wanting to get with him since, i no its like anyother teenage romance. I complain about it too much, im sorry :( Recently he's told me he's liked me, and its lit an old spark between us, i do...
A. 7 November 2007: Can we have some more information? Why did you break up in the first place?... (read in full...)
I don't want to get married to anyone ever.
Q. I have been in a wonderful relationship for little over a year now. He is all I ever wanted from I guy and I know he is the kind of guy that is difficult to come across. We have a lot of fun together, great communication and have been living ...
A. 7 November 2007: If you're getting married only to close off any chance of being with you ex, I say you should postpone the wedding. Make sure of your reasons first.
If you truly love your current partner, and want to marry him because he's the right one for you,... (read in full...)
I never wanted to be the "other woman"
Q. I started seeing this guy eight months ago. We had a good relationship for the first six months, and then one day he gets a call. The woman he had been seeing before was pregnant. 6 months pregnant, she never contacted him, until then. I’m I stupid ...
A. 4 November 2007: If I have the math right, you'd been dating him for 2 months when he had sex with her. If you were in an "exclusive" relationship at that point, then this is a huge red flag. If I were you, that alone would cause me to rethink whether I wanted to ... (read in full...)
Do I move on? How?
Q. My mom died 7/12, on 8/16 I got a call at work that 6 1/2 years ago my husband had an emotional affair with someone, when I confronted him with this, he told me he was unhappy and wanted to move out. I found out in sept. that he had been talking ...
A. 4 November 2007: Offer him counseling, and really make a commitment to it. Work on it. The both of you are lonely; sounds like you both disconnected a long time ago. Wouldn't it be great if you could re-connect?
You might try this "Marriage Fitness" tele-boo... (read in full...)
How do I get him to dump his girlfriend and come after me?
Q. Right I Like This Guy, Alot. I Have Liked Him For A While, With Some Uncertain Feelings About Him. But Hes Got A Girlfriend That He Likes Alot Who Is Not As Pretty As Me, But Lives Closer To Him. We Havent Met Properly, Yet, But He Said Hed Com...
A. 4 November 2007: If he dumps his girl for you, he'll dump you for the next one. You don't want to play it this way, believe me.... (read in full...)
Why don't guys make a move on me?
Q. Hello. Im 15, and turning 16 soon. And my deepest darkest confession is, I've never been kissed. What i can understand is, why no guy makes their move? I mean, I'm smart, pretty, funny.. Jeesh, what do you want? A barbie doll? ...
A. 4 November 2007: The best advice for how to get a boyfriend is to stop looking for one. When you're desperate, you'll come across as needy, and that's NOT attractive. Guys can smell neediness a mile away, and they'll run, believe me.
Self-confidence is REALL... (read in full...)
How can I please him?
Q. I've started seeing this guy and he's amazing i like him so so so much!! But we got onto the topic of sex the other night, just jokingly and he was saying about how he hates it when girls just "lay there and take it" and he's really experie...
A. 4 November 2007: Don't be in such a hurry to be experienced. A lot of the fun is in the learning. Anyone who expects his/her partner to know it all at your age isn't being realistic.
The best relationships are ones where you and he can both ask, "how does this fee... (read in full...)
Son who won't mind and lies all the time
Q. My son adopted at 12 lies all the time and has no regret. I have spanked him. no good. He is now 14 I have grounded him .no good , i have taken away prevlidges. no good . I have talked about God with him no good . I am really fed up and don't know ...
A. 4 November 2007: I think this site will help you:
http://www.bily.org/
Here's from their site:
"Because I love you" (BILY) is a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting parents with troubled children of any age. We promote structure, consequences ... (read in full...)
He's on porn sites 5-6 times a week yet we make love on 2 or three... what's going on?
Q. My husband is on porn sights 5-6 days per week, but we only make love 2-3 times per week. Is this something I should be worried about?...
A. 4 November 2007: To me, two things are red flags about internet porn: (1) does he prefer it to you? If you walked up to him while he was online and said "hey let's get busy" would he turn off the computer? If yes, then don't worry about the porn. If no, then ... (read in full...)
Can you fall pregnant while on your period?
Q. Hey... I have a question, I'm having a halloween party this weekend and I've been with this guy for a while, I'm staying at his after the party but it's that time of the month, just wondering if it's messy if you have sex? Also I heard you can't ...
A. 3 November 2007: I found this site: http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/pregnantduringperiod.html
It lists the medical reasons why you can get pregnant during this time.... (read in full...)
My husband wakes me up every night at 2am... touching me! Why?
Q. This is sort of an odd thing, but here goes. Every night almost, I am waken up by my husband rubbing my citoris with his fingers. This usually happens at around 2-3 a.m. We have a 6 month old baby and I am 5 months pregnant. Well, he only gets ...
A. 2 November 2007: Yeah. That happens. Find out if he's awake when he does it. If so, ignoring it won't help. He'll just keep trying until your body reacts. If you don't want it, tell him no, you're tired, and he needs to respect that. Keep being more forceful ... (read in full...)
What is a good way to get someone you love come back?
Q. my boyfriend nd i have had sex but about 8 weeks ago he broke up with me because it wasnt working to well since we go to diffrant schools we werent seeing each other much and of course im mad but the real bad part is im pregnant he has a new ...
A. 2 November 2007: Sweetheart, you won't be able to get him back. He's already told you that, I'm so very sorry. You need to decide what to do about the baby knowing that he won't be there for you.
You don't want someone who doesn't want you anyway. You dese... (read in full...)
I have problems with his best friend! What can I do?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for six months and we are great. we've overcome so much and arguements are usually over little things. but his best friend is always priority and he switches days with me, to suit his best friend. sometimes i wonder ...
A. 1 November 2007: Tell him you would like to be a priority in his life. That you understand that he has a close relationship with his friend, and you don't want him to ditch that, but you do think that his priority should be to you rather than to his friend.
Then ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him. How can we avoid an arguement?
Q. I need some serious advise if anyone can please help. This is going to be long, so please be patient. My husband and I will be married for 3 years in January. We have known each other for nearly 7 years and have a daughter who just turned 5. We were ...
A. 1 November 2007: All men are NOT like this. If he wants you to be more "affectionate" you need to feel more cherished. No woman is able to get in the mood gladly when she's tired from working all day and then doing all the housework (especially if she resents it ... (read in full...)
What is the best contraception?
Q. hey people just wanted to know.. what is the best form of contraception?? because me n my gf have jus have sex for the first time (we were both virgins) we used a condom bt I dnt feel anything n im not enjoying the sex as much as her. I want to f...
A. 1 November 2007: I just looked this up for another question. It's a table with the rates of pregnancy for various birth-control methods: http://www.fda.gov/Fdac/features/1997/conceptbl.html If she's willing, the birth control pill is 99% effective.... (read in full...)
What he doesn't classify as cheating, I would! If this is his judgement, can I trust him? Any advice?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend two years now and he has just told me that several years ago, during a two week period when him and his (then) girlfriend did not speak following an argument (they had not officially split up), he ended up in a ...
A. 1 November 2007: Monica Lewensky and Bill Clinton never had sex. I'm pretty sure most of America thought he was cheating. Just saying.... (read in full...)
Why are you so sceptical about LD relationships working?
Q. This isnt a question really, Just an email for all of you. There are many people out there askign questions about relationships, where you are 60 miles apart and only see each other on weekends. Why are you all so sceptical about this wor...
A. 1 November 2007: I'm skeptical because I've been in one. 7 years apart followed by 2 years together. It didn't work. She was a lovely person, but we weren't compatible. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." This is because the other person is not around to pi... (read in full...)
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