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writes:I am 45 and just divorced my husband whom we've been married for 22 years. Then I met this man 18 years older than me. He made me feel wanted. We've been together for 6 months now. But now I realise I am not in love with him. He told me he has fallen in love with me. I love being loved and enjoy his company. I am afraid of being alone. What should I do?
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I know this is easier for me to say than it is for you to do, but don't tie yourself to this man if you don't love him. Hold out for the real thing.
Figure out a way to be comfortable being alone in your own skin; self-confidence is sexy and you have a lot to do to learn who you are.
This man is wonderful to help you feel loved. I'm sure you want the best for him. But if you don't love him you are not good for him. Do both him and yourself a favor and break it off.
Good luck.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I think you should be straight with this new man you've been seeing. Tell him exactly what you've told us, that you enjoy his company and hope to continue to spend time with him, but you're not in love with him, and may never be. Will love develop later? Maybe. Maybe not. But pretending you're in love, because you hate to hurt his feelings, or because you're afraid of being alone is not reason enough to sustain you in the long term. You may find comfort in having this man as your companion and as long as he understands where your head and your heart is at, he should be able to handle the possibility that one day you may meet someone with whom you will feel those powerful attractions and love for. Good luck.
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