Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 3 January 2008: Hey anon. Just a couple of things.
Get into counseling. If he won't go, go without him. You can't continue to bury so much of who you are to go along with his lack of drive. But the two of you are on a disconnect right now -- the only way to c... (read in full...)
Why are you so sceptical about LD relationships working?
Q. This isnt a question really, Just an email for all of you. There are many people out there askign questions about relationships, where you are 60 miles apart and only see each other on weekends. Why are you all so sceptical about this wor...
A. 1 November 2007: I'm skeptical because I've been in one. 7 years apart followed by 2 years together. It didn't work. She was a lovely person, but we weren't compatible. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." This is because the other person is not around to pi... (read in full...)
He said he really cared for me but didn't want to break up my relationship. Now I'm single but he doesn't know! Is he interested?
Q. Last Dec I met a guy from my past(we never dated just casual kissing)and the attraction we had when we were teenagers is still there. We used to go to the same place on hols and it is there Ive met him again after 5 years. Its always been the ...
A. 1 November 2007: He may be cutting himself off because he thinks you have a boyfriend; why would he keep flirting with someone who's unavailable? I think now is the time to be honest with him and see what happens next.... (read in full...)
She told me if I keep telling her that she's cheating on me that she will. She wants me to move with her instead. Why am I insecure?
Q. Hi my name is Paul. Im 23 years old and I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for 3 years.She just moved back to T in july. Lately I have been having these insercurity problems, I think she is cheating on me all the time when she is ...
A. 1 November 2007: She's exasperated because you don't trust her. You need to work on your trust issues. What makes you think she's not trustworthy?... (read in full...)
Can we have sex without contraception?
Q. can if i didnt 'cum' inside my gf would it be ok not to use contraception?...
A. 1 November 2007: This link has the "pregnancy rates" for various birth control "methods": http://www.fda.gov/Fdac/features/1997/conceptbl.html Withdrawal has a 19% pregnancy rate. So basically, you have a 1 in 5 chance of getting her pregnant every time you h... (read in full...)
Should I push to leave my current job just in case the angry wife decides to tell my employer or my husband, about my affair with hers?
Q. I had an affair with a guy at work for almost 2 years. We ended it abruptly because his wife found out. I also bring my son to the daycare at work, and I have an important position with the company. I started looking for another job anyway, but ...
A. 1 November 2007: Depends on how long it's been, and what the wife thinks his temptation to be with you is. If it's been a while and she hasn't said anything, chances are she won't. But if she thinks (right or wrong) that his interest in you might renew, then she ... (read in full...)
Reading body language - does he like me? I already told him I like him more than a friend!
Q. If a guy does these things: - folds his arms, often/contantly - is very quiet/shy suddenly when around you - laughs nervously - won't look me in the eye/avoids eye contact - looks uncomfortable - smiles slightly to himself, and looks downwards ...
A. 1 November 2007: It could mean either of those things. If you want him to get that you're interested, make it very easy for him to be with you. Smile at him a lot. Listen when he talks. Laugh at his jokes. Look him in the eyes. Stand in his personal space. ... (read in full...)
We've been together for a short time and he wants a threesome for his b-day! Should we do this?
Q. I have a BF that wants a threesome for his birthday we have been together only a short time is this a good idea...
A. 1 November 2007: How do you feel about it? If it bugs you, then don't even consider it. After it's all over, you have to be able to live with yourself (not to mention still look at him) and if it's going to bug you, it's a really bad idea. If it sounds sexy to y... (read in full...)
How to snog
Q. dear cupid i have this girl freind and we both want to snog but i have never done it before and i want to do it right so i dont make a fool of my self please help me ...
A. 1 November 2007: Take it slow, be gentle. Don't open your mouth too far or go too deep. Start with lots of little kisses. Once you're both better at it, and things get going, it will just come naturally. Be sure to be open to talking about it. If she feels ... (read in full...)
I don't want to dump her because I love her
Q. I have been dating my gf for about 2 years and i really love her and never even thought about looking at another girl. However this year at school, there is a girl who has come up, she is about a year younger than me. And i really think she is prett...
A. 1 November 2007: "A bird in the hand..." Seriously, you don't want to be the guy who cheats on his girlfriend. And since you love your girlfriend, you should avoid the new girl. Here's the thing: what you're experiencing with the new girl is infatuation. Yo... (read in full...)
Are some of us meant to be alone.
Q. Are some of us just meant to be alone for the whole of our lives? I'm 20 now and whenever I start to feel attracted to a girl, they are either not interested or want to stay as friends. The saying goes that the right women will come along one day....
A. 1 November 2007: This is going to sound like strange advice, but read all the way through. Stop trying to find someone. Seriously. What you need to do is to work on your self-confidence. Become comfortable in your own skin. Whenever I was desperate for a ... (read in full...)
I live with my in laws, and I feel suffocated in my marriage! My husband is not willing to change this as his mother would feel "deserted."
Q. ive been married 6 months, i live with my in laws this is something my husband is not willing to change any time soon. He is afraid that his mother will feel deserted if we leave the parental house and even bought a bigger house so we would al...
A. 31 October 2007: Drag his ass into counseling. When a professional tells him that there are other ways to support his parents other than by taking it out on you, then he'll believe it.
Even the Bible says that he's supposed to leave his parents and be only wit... (read in full...)
Braces will make me feel worse about my appearance. I feel ugly, what can I do?
Q. I am a 15 and i regard myself as ugly, i have only ever had one proper boyfriend and i am about to get braces. I know i shouldnt be talking like this but i do have really low self esteem. No one has ever told me i am pretty or beautiful and lets ...
A. 31 October 2007: I wore braces for 4 years. THEY ARE SO WORTH IT!!! Focus on how wonderful your smile is going to be when you're done.
As for how you feel now, there isn't a person your age (and I mean even the beautiful ones) who doesn't feel EXACTLY the way ... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my fiancee!
Q. I'm having a big issue in my life. I got engaged at the beginning of 2006 with my fiancée who's been with me since 2004. I'm 28 and she is 23. Initially in 2006 when we got engaged things went great..it was refreshing for our relationship…it ...
A. 31 October 2007: You're putting your energy into this new woman, so no wonder your fiancee says there's no passion.
You're infatuated. It's always exciting. Once you burn through that (which you ALWAYS will, infatuation by nature can't last) you may not have the... (read in full...)
If she shaves before going out, does that mean anything?
Q. ok following up here with my last question..thanks for the feedback!! I talked to my GF and she still claims nothing happened other than virtual sex and I guess I believe her. I feel a bit of a panzy for not being tougher on this issue but I guess ...
A. 31 October 2007: Have you been with her long enough to see whether she shaves for her period every month? If so, and she doesn't, she's lying. Find someone new.... (read in full...)
What other 'little things' can I do to be romantic?
Q. Hello Im the first to admit Im terrible at being romantic, but I try. My girlfriend says I need to be more romantic, but I dont get what she is asking for. I take her flowers now and then, chocolates, leave little notes etc. We stay in o...
A. 31 October 2007: This looks like it has some good ideas:
http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/romanticthingstodo.html
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Friends jealousy is tearing apart our relationship
Q. My boss introduced me to his friend back in May. In June we became serios. My boss and my boyfriend live across the street from each other and have known each other for ten years. Boss is known as Uncle B and his wife is known as Aunt T to my ...
A. 30 October 2007: You let your boyfriend see that you feel betrayed by calmly telling you so. You need to tell him that if you're important to him, he needs to have your back.
But you need to do some things to compromise. Talking about your boss out of school w... (read in full...)
Did I have to dump this guy to make him interested in me?
Q. Question for men.. do men realise they really like someone after they get dumped?? May sound like a silly question but I had to break up with someone i really like because he wasnt sure about whether he wanted a relationship, just wondering if men w...
A. 30 October 2007: All men are different. And many people of both genders don't realize what they have until it's gone.
If you have to break up with him to get him to notice you, then he's beneath your notice. You shouldn't have to go to such lengths. Move on ... (read in full...)
She says I need to open up more, my mum says its a modern thing, who's right?
Q. I've had a woman say she NEEDS me to open up more. She says its a need not a want. And needs intimate details, to exchange with her friends.She's had a couple of failed relationships. I'm a bit unsure about this, so asked my MUM. She said i'm a so...
A. 30 October 2007: Depends. Who do you want to be with at the end of the night? This woman ... or your Mum?
In the end, if a woman is telling you what SHE needs, believe her. Or she'll find someone who can give it to her.... (read in full...)
I know he fancies me, but he wont do anything, help!
Q. ok um this is my first time asking a question so plz excuse me if somethings wrong, ok i have never givin oral sex before, with the exception of kissing i have done nothing close, and anyway there is this guy who i really like and is always giving ...
A. 30 October 2007: Do you want sex or a relationship? Cause whether he wants a relationship can not be found in whether he looks at your low-cut shirt or short skirt. He's a guy. He's going to look.
If he's really shy and you want to let him know it's safe to ... (read in full...)
We work together and talk all the time, but I just can't get round to asking her out, help me!
Q. There is this new girl who has started in the office, she's a really nice person both asthetically and personality wise. I talk to her on msn about random things for at least a good hour every day. I've discovered that i fancy her a little on both ...
A. 30 October 2007: Ask her to lunch. It's a nice noncommittal, office kinda thing to do. When you're there, you're going to have to make some kind of non-office kinda move (or you're stuck in the "colleague" mold). Be ready to tell her you'd like to be more, and be ... (read in full...)
I'm going away with my classmate, he fancies me, and me him, but he has a girlfriend, what do I do!
Q. I have recently started at college and i am really loving it. In one of my classes their is a lad, i have always found him attractive but he has a gf so i never went through with anything. He always compliments me on how good looking i am (wh...
A. 30 October 2007: Look at how he treats his current gf: dissing her behind her back, looking to the next conquest before he's done with her. Now imagine that you're the gf -- because this is how he treats women. If he cheats with you he will cheat ON you. Don't ... (read in full...)
I've suffered a traumatic experience, now I've put on weight, how can I get myself back on track?
Q. hiya, I'm 17 and 6 months ago i was raped. I started eating loads and i have gained so much weight i use to be a size 10-12 and now im a 16-18. I hate my body so much and i have lost all my confidence, i was woundering if anyone can give me any advi...
A. 30 October 2007: Weight Watchers. Seriously. I lost 40 pounds, and they've helped me keep it off. ... (read in full...)
They're all calling me fat but I know I'm not. How can I get this through to them?
Q. My mother is constantly calling me fat, and her and her friends have a nickname for me 'fatso'. Im 140lbs and 5'7'', and her constant putting down of my weight and bodyshape is really annoying me. When she was my age she had a very kate moss ...
A. 30 October 2007: Do NOT let your mother's issues become your own. At your height/weight you are beautifully proportioned. I'm so glad that you know this!
You might tell your mother that you don't find the Hollywood stick figures attractive. Tell her that you... (read in full...)
What size do boys like
Q. do boys like size 6s or 4s? (English sizes) or do they prefer 10s and 12s? maybe 8s? Skinny or curvy? Wat is sexier? ...
A. 24 October 2007: Different guys prefer different sizes.... (read in full...)
Her past bothers me.
Q. Well this is my problem, i guess its stupid but i hope not. I know my girlfriend for about a year, were dating 7 months now, we get along very well no problems at all, only thing that is bothering me is her past. we're both 17 and the problem is s...
A. 24 October 2007: If you can't get over her past you have no future. Take a deep breath and concentrate on the things about her that make you love her. She isn't with those guys; she's with you. She CHOOSES you. So you win, and they lose. Look at it that way.... (read in full...)
Why do I urinate every 10 minutes?
Q. can anyone tell me why i keep urinating every 10 minutes...
A. 24 October 2007: If you're not drinking a lot of water, you should see a doctor. You could have a bladder infection. See this site for more information:
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/introduction-10949-108.html... (read in full...)
I think he gave me the ring just to "trap" me, make me feel better about having sex before marriage. He used to say if I didn't continue sleeping with him he wasn't going to "set a date." Should I stay?
Q. I want to know if my ex-fiance proposed for the right reasons. We are broken up now (I broke up with him), but I still need some resolve. Anyway, after 2 months of dating last year he proposed. When we first starting dating I told him I was waiting ...
A. 24 October 2007: I think you're splitting hairs. I know it looks like we're attacking him. And as a loyal person you're coming to his defense. That's admirable. But the person you have described isn't someone you want in your life.
He was using guilt to manip... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I'm a virgin?
Q. I'm a little scared, i'm pretty young (17) and theres this older woman (31) and we have been together for 14 weeks were not even thinking about having sex yet its all making out and touching... the problem is i lied i said i wasn't a virgin and i am ...
A. 24 October 2007: You should tell her you're a virgin. Lies are never good for relationships.
However, I'm really concerned about the age difference, more than anything else. You should wait until you're older, when the age difference won't mean as much. If you'... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to get hurt, what should I do?
Q. i really fancy this guy and i know he fancies me too i asked him and he said that he does but is scared of me hurting him and doesnt want to lose me as a friend through it all because he cares about me to much what do i do?i want to go out with this ...
A. 24 October 2007: It sounds like he's trying to work his way up to talk to you. Make it easier. Look him in the eyes and LISTEN when he talks. Laugh at his jokes. Smile at him a lot and do what you can to make him feel really comfortable.
If he still won't as... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on halloween?
Q. Theres this girl my best friend since like 2006.... we always hang out together talk on msn. We both have boyfriends (we go threw them very fast) She's very pretty, I've grown so close to her. We always call each other sisters. The point is i ...
A. 24 October 2007: What do you think will happen if you make a move? If you think there's a possibility that it will ruin the friendship, then TALK to her first. ... (read in full...)
I fantasize about having sex with my mother
Q. I have asked this question before but am still curious as what to do. I am now 17, my mum is 43. 6 years ago, i was living with my mum, i was in the need of the drink, so went into the kitchen to get one, only my mum was in the way on the worktop ...
A. 24 October 2007: Try to focus on girls your own age. You should be able to redirect your fantasies that way. Maybe once you see another girl "in the flesh" you'll be able to redirect what excites you.
If not, I recommend talking to a trained therapist. This fa... (read in full...)
I think he gave me the ring just to "trap" me, make me feel better about having sex before marriage. He used to say if I didn't continue sleeping with him he wasn't going to "set a date." Should I stay?
Q. I want to know if my ex-fiance proposed for the right reasons. We are broken up now (I broke up with him), but I still need some resolve. Anyway, after 2 months of dating last year he proposed. When we first starting dating I told him I was waiting ...
A. 24 October 2007: Let's see, he (1) was "demanding and emotionally abusive" (2) used guilt to get you to do things you didn't want to (3) pressured you to smoke and drink (4) didn't want to get married unless you had sex. Hmmm...
This guy is a loser. You've d... (read in full...)
Attracted to another member of the staff, who acts friendly, maybe too friendly? Do I follow my instincts?
Q. I started a new job 2 weeks ago, I found I was instantly attracted to another member of staff, he's been very friendly, just a really nice person. Within the week he began touching me slightly on my shoulder and back when we were talking. Asking ...
A. 24 October 2007: Well, it's never a good idea to date someone you work with. If the relationship doesn't go well, then what happens to your job? So I guess that wait and see is your best bet.... (read in full...)
If a pregnant lady has sex with another male other than her baby's father will it affect the baby?
Q. if a pregnant lady have sex with another male other than her baby's father will it affect the baby...
A. 24 October 2007: Only if it splits up the marriage or transmits an STD.... (read in full...)
Does he love me? Has he cheated?
Q. Hi I have been with my fiance 4 years and we have a son up until my son was born our relationship was troubled. My fiance used to go out clubbing and never come home he would say he stayed with friends. I found texts off his ex and found out they ...
A. 24 October 2007: See a lawyer. Make sure that his paternity and his responsibility to take care of the child are in a legal document.
Marriage is more than a quaint institution. It's a legal protection for any children that come of it. If he's not ready fo... (read in full...)
Do I take a step back, or be persistent?
Q. I have met a girl who for the best part of a year was just eye contact across a pub, after some Dutch courage we ended up having a date in which I cooked for her, we had a great time and stayed up until the early hours of the morning and she was ...
A. 24 October 2007: I think taking a step back is a good idea. Let her define things for a short while.
I have a problem with something she said: "she said that we can still go on dates and sleep with each other without the commitment, as long as we was not slee... (read in full...)
Two different words who are forced to meet but can't
Q. hey.i am a christian girl,who has everything she wishes for ...that is a lie ,i love a muslim guy(love him more than i ever loved anyone)he is my boyfreind but people just want me to leave him (i have 19 boys chasing after me sendin me cards they r ...
A. 24 October 2007: Assuming that your religion is important to both of you, and that you'll both want to pass that religion on to any children you may have, I'm afraid that you two probably won't make it. I'm very sorry.
If one of you can give up your religion... (read in full...)
I've recently gone through a brea-up. We are still friends, but now I like somebody else. Should I tell him, or just wait it out?
Q. Hi everyone, I have just recently gone through a breakup but now I have feelings for another guy. We are good friends and this poses a problem. He may like me but I think he may be afraid of what he is feeling also because he's my friend. Do you h...
A. 23 October 2007: "Pronoun Trouble" -- Daffy Duck
I'm having a hard time with who the feelings are for. Are you worried that the ex would have a problem with you moving on? Or are you good friends with the new guy, and so afraid of damaging the friendship if you p... (read in full...)
Together 2 years... but we don't appear to have a Sex life. How can I fix this problem?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over two years and everythings great except our sex life. I am 21 sooo i am old enough to have sex and have in the past with my ex-boyfriend, but with my current boyfriend, i just can't get to that point with him to ...
A. 19 October 2007: It sounds like you're remembering the pain from his size when you did try. So try this: for now, not for ever, sex itself (him inside you) is off the table. The two of you should touch each other and take pleasure in that, until you both know ... (read in full...)
Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 18 October 2007: I think this would be a mistake. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face. The two of you need dialog, and lots of it. If you start down this road, rather than start trying to work on coming to a negotiated agreed-to compromise about your sex ... (read in full...)
I keep masturbating, and that means I keep sinning. How BAD of a sin is Masturbation?
Q. Hi im ak, im 13 years old and last year i started masturbating...Its something i started to do 1 day its a long story...I LOVE God with all my heart and Masturbation is normal but its also a sin when not married..I keep repeating this sin, i ask ...
A. 17 October 2007: Fade878, I was going based on the article I quoted from a reputable Christian site (URL below). It said there was nothing that quoted masturbation as such. The sin was lusting after a woman who was not your wife. ... (read in full...)
I keep masturbating, and that means I keep sinning. How BAD of a sin is Masturbation?
Q. Hi im ak, im 13 years old and last year i started masturbating...Its something i started to do 1 day its a long story...I LOVE God with all my heart and Masturbation is normal but its also a sin when not married..I keep repeating this sin, i ask ...
A. 16 October 2007: Masturbation as such isn't actually mentioned in the bible at all.
There's a good article about it: http://www.new-life.net/mastrbte.htm (scroll down past the warnings to non-Christians, to the section titled: "FOUR IMPORTANT TRUTHS FROM THE... (read in full...)
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