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writes:i've been with my boyfriend for six months and we are great. we've overcome so much and arguements are usually over little things. but his best friend is always priority and he switches days with me, to suit his best friend. sometimes i wonder if he'd have a better love life with him than me.it's really starting to get to me, but i just don't know what to do. he'll leave me when his best friend isn't busy and he'll pick me up when his best friends at work.what am i supposed to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): im going through the same thing with my girlfriend, she puts her "bestfriend" first before me. i think my girlfriend listens to her and doesnt care to hurt me. anything to make a friend happy. im on a break with my girlfriend with other issues im having with her. she wanted this. shes put me through hell and i dont know if i should stay or go. She shouldnt have to choose between a friend and person that loves her so much. there something wrong there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Have a chat with him and let him know that you should be his number one in his life and not his friend. Tell him you are not at all pleased with the situation. If that was me i would give it another six months after letting him know how i feel then i would be off. Sorry, but my main saying is: Life is too short. stop wasting another minute and talk to him.
take care
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reader, Miss C +, writes (2 November 2007):
 It sounds like you're being treated as last resort all the time to his best friend. If he makes plans with you then he should stick to them and not change them so that days are left convenient for him and his best friend. They have probably been friends for a long time and are very close nit by the sounds of it but this is in no way an excuse for neglecting your feelings and putting you last on his list of priorities. You need to talk with him about how he is making you feel because he may not realise the effect this is having on you. As Asexy said however, he may be unwilling to change his ways and in this case you must leave him and find someone who is more considerate to how you feel. Good luck! Miss C xx
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Tell him you would like to be a priority in his life. That you understand that he has a close relationship with his friend, and you don't want him to ditch that, but you do think that his priority should be to you rather than to his friend.
Then be quiet and listen to what he says. If he defends what he's doing, leave him. Things aren't going to change, and you'll always be second fiddle. You deserve better.
Good luck.
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