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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend always tells me hes not going to pressure me into doing anything I dont wanna do. I know this is wrong in so many ways but I read his texts and some of his stuff on facebook and his friends ask some things like 'did ya 'f**' yet?' and 'what night are you gunna try to do something?' And his friend texted him and said 'whats up' and my boyfriend said 'chillin with my girl wbu?' and he said 'bored as hell. so what night are you gunna try to do something?'(but i didnt see it, all i saw was his reply) and my boy said idk. But he lied and said the his friend said 'do you wanna hang out later'And he doesnt pressure me to do anything. Its just those conversations that get to me. You can critcize me alllll you want, cause I know its wrong beyond belief.. But I just need your opinion on what I should do about these conversations....?
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reader, veronika  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 They're teenagers; for a lot of them sex and losing virginity is a Big Deal (girls and guys alike).
They could be jealous, who knows. Do any of them have girlfriends to have sex with? They may just want to know the details because they're sexually frustrated themselves. Or they are just nosy jerks.
Just be glad none of them are your boyfriend. Boys who get so caught up in "scoring" and telling everybody about it are usually 'players' and not that trustworthy. Your boyfriend sounds genuine.
Tell your boyfriend how much it annoys you, and maybe ask him to speak to them and tell them to back off.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (6 March 2010):
At least now you know that whatever you do will be posted on facebook and bragged about. This is how guy talk so you can't stop them. Just ignore it and keep watch.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Franky dear you should be offended by his friends asking such questions, and so should he. That's just rude! I agree with Cary Grant - let that guy even cop a little feel and EVERYONE WILL KNOW! Is this what you want?
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 In addition to that very good other answer, this should be another reason for you to not do anything even if he does try something. Whatever happens won't stay between you and him, it will be broadcast all over. So unless you want everyone to know all your intimate details ...
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reader, engbreakfast  +, writes (6 March 2010):
boys, boys, they are all the same. his friends are probably just so bored that they have nothing to talk about and so they decide to talk about your love life so they can get some juicy stuff out of it. really, just ignore them! laugh it off :D guys are like that and will forever be like that. I think your boyfriend seems like a really nice guy but all guys want one thing, ultimately, so don't be offended. if he doesn't pressure you to do anything, then there's nothing to worry about!
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