I am so horribly confused - I cannot bear to see him hurting so badly.
Q. Ralph and I were married in 2001 - then divorced in 2004 because he moved in with his ex-wife and daughter. Early 2005, he moved back in with me. We lived together as man and wife in all ways except the bedroom. We slept in different rooms and ...
A. 16 May 2008: I agree with eyeswideopen. Don't let him use you as an emotional pillar. Suggest professional help (I think this may be more than you can handle on your own). If you know one of his friends maybe talk to them and warn them out, so they can step in ... (read in full...)
He told me the all the other girls he's had sex with, even with out a condom, never got pregnant
Q. Ok...so i'm 15 and my boyfriend is 14, we've known each other and been with each other for a long time...and my boyfriend isn't a virgin. He says he lost it when he was young and has had sex with other girls ever sence...but he wants to have sex ...
A. 13 May 2008: Sweetheart,
You are far too young in the head to be contemplating this.
You actually thought you were not a virgin because your sister was raped in the same bed????
Go and speak to an adult. If your sister got in so much trouble for getting preg... (read in full...)
Why are westeners so prejudice, ignorant Bible lovers?
Q. I grew up in one of the biggest cities in North America. I’ve accepted baseball and McDonalds, but what I can't accept are there BS " morals ". Whenever it comes to love, sex or any other issue people turn to the book of lies, distortion and gene...
A. 13 May 2008: You sir are a fool.
Have you by any chance had sex with a member of your family? Is that what you are bleating about it becuase it's against the law??
All cultures have religion and all cultures have their own version of a bible.
It tel... (read in full...)
I am madly in love with a married colleague and I want him for me at any cost!
Q. I am married. It was love marriage. Recently i started working in an insurance company and there i met a guy named Rajan. He very warm, friendly and funny guy and i attracted towards him and fell in love with him. I'm madly in love with him ...
A. 13 May 2008: Very sad. Your husband deserves better.
Thats all I have to say...Its not like you acutally asked a question, your mind is already made up.... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse!
Q. My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse. He says according to Darwins theory he is just an alpha male and i should be glad to be with him, and he will continue to sleep with as many women as he can. I do love him but i find his ...
A. 13 May 2008: One word.......DIVORCE!
Or, you can sleep with other men and when he gets upset just say " I am an alpha female, I need to make sure I have the alpha man" hee hee hee My guess is he won't take to that too well!... (read in full...)
Why is it that I don't really make a lot of friends/
Q. I have always been considered as a loner(and that is why my named myself as the lone wolf).I hardly have any friends and I have been in two relationships during high school. Those girls were pregnant by their other boyfriends and for what? To ...
A. 13 May 2008: Hey,
YOu sound very alone and sad. May I suggest a few things? Whilst it is good to be selective in the type of company you keep......
You said -" I selectively pick who wants to be my friend"
Friends don't selectively pick and choose, friends ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she denied my feelings. She insists we stay friends!
Q. Hello, I am a female in love with another female. The woman I am in love with has denyed she feels the same way. However I am convinced she does feel the same way, but because she is married and because of other circumstances she is not admitting it ...
A. 13 May 2008: Ok, I don't think she is romantically interested in you. I know that is not what you want to hear but I think you should at the very least entertain the idea.
Lets look at things this way,
1)You email her back within a few hours of her emailing... (read in full...)
I loved her even though she was extremely cold and unresponsive! How can I get over this break up?
Q. I'll cant promise I'll keep this short. I promise I wont ramble, however. Me and my long-distance girlfriend had been having problems making time to see eachother. She was also extremely cold, and completely a-sexual. She cited saving sexual ac...
A. 13 May 2008: Hi buddy,
Ouch, I really really feel for you. This woman sounds awufl!. You seem like such a nice person..I see a wonderful, kind, beautiful woman in your future.
Just a few thoughts, when she would tell you that she was out clubing with friends... (read in full...)
Confused and madly in love with someone I'm not sure of
Q. There's a girl that I've liked for a number of years now and recently we were at a party where people where talking about things and one of them upset her and caused her to run away, I went to find her and when I did she was outside crying, I sat ...
A. 13 May 2008: I hate to say it but this lady seems to have made herself very clear. She wants to be left alone. Do not contact her again.
I don't mean to sound harsh but this smells of desperation to me, women like men do not respond well to it.
You sound li... (read in full...)
Help! I need somebody!- Do you think he's sending signals or not???
Q. (this is a combination of several of my replies to other users before I had my own account....now it's a question) I've known my english teacher for 2 years, last year when we would talk in passing and then this year when he was finally my teach...
A. 13 May 2008: Tough one but I have to say no he isnt. The book may well have been just one he likes most as innocent as that.
He is your family friend so he may be pushing you harder to do better in school, maybe he see's that you have potential to do some... (read in full...)
Confused, and wondering about my commitment to him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 19 year old female who has been in a serious relationship for almost 2 years now. Give our age difference (he's 30), he's been one of the most wonderful guys i've ever dated. But starting at the beiginning of this year, I sta...
A. 13 May 2008: YOur young, This is the time that you are supposed to be out dating and having loads of fun...I don't think I even remember being 19, it was just a huge blur of parties, dates and friends! ha ha
I was living with my older BF at 19, after we brok... (read in full...)
I am so horribly confused - I cannot bear to see him hurting so badly.
Q. Ralph and I were married in 2001 - then divorced in 2004 because he moved in with his ex-wife and daughter. Early 2005, he moved back in with me. We lived together as man and wife in all ways except the bedroom. We slept in different rooms and ...
A. 13 May 2008: Well if Ralph has hurt you time and time again you can be sure that he will continue to do so. I know its hard to let someone go after a huge history,. He has had a long long time to make things right with you. I say leave Ralph and try to make ... (read in full...)
We have sex every week, secretly, and I'm falling for him, but I don't want to.
Q. I have a boyfriend but he's not with me. He only comes home once a year, and so me and friend had this moment of romance, but we're done having relationship...we make sex every week, in a secretly way... can you help me what should i do? I'm begi...
A. 7 May 2008: your boyfriend coems home once a year? Maybe its time to get a new boyfriend? If your cheating you should respect your partner enough to tell him and to leave him.
Then figure out what it is you want.... (read in full...)
He says he can't handle my past, and he doesn't wanna lose me. He says I have to help him overcome this. My question is, how?
Q. Hello, I've been posting about my boyfriend not being able to cope with my past. Recently, he had broken up with me, today we got back together. Please, help me help him. When I went to talk with him today, at first, he didn't wanna see me. H...
A. 7 May 2008: Hello....
I think your boyfriend sounds very insecure and childish to be honest. My biggest concern is this
"He knows I'm great, but he says I have to earn his trust. He says he can't handle my past, but that he doesn't wanna lose me. That I h... (read in full...)
The woman manager at my husband's work is being rude to me. Is there a real problem?
Q. I called my husband's cell phone at a time when I knew he was on break to tell him a friend wanted to come over tonight and ask him what time he was getting off work. The manager of his shop where he works answered (a female) and she said "Bra...
A. 7 May 2008: Calm yourself down, you take things too personally. toughen up a little. Sometimes we have to deal with rude people its part of life. No I don't think you should have your husband look for a new job. Just ignore her or be ultra polite to her next ... (read in full...)
Why do so many teenage girls have a thing for their male teachers?
Q. Why do so many teenage girls on this site have a thing for their male teachers? There are so many posts from teenage girls who say they are in love with their male teachers. Some of these teachers are 20 or more years older than these girls, so it ...
A. 6 May 2008: I have noticed it tends to be young ladies from the UK who are in love with their teachers more than anywhere else.. I have no idea why. As long as it stays a school girl crush I don't really see the harm. It's when the stalking kicks in that it ... (read in full...)
I can tell he cares about me but theres one problem his ex might be expecting his baby!
Q. I have been talking to this boy going on 9 months now. I really like him alot cause he treat me like a girl should be treated. I can tell he cares about me but theres one problem. His ex girlfriend is 5 months pregnant and at first she dont know if ...
A. 6 May 2008: Although you really like him, ask yourself do you really need all the drama at such a young age?
Put yourself in her situation, she is having his baby (very possibly).
My advice is to leave it for now, wait and see the paternity of the child an... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 6 May 2008: Aunts please calm yourselves!
I know that abuse its a horrid topic and a difficult one to read also.
This lady did not come here to be questioned, preached at or bible bashed (thats for bible club!! LOL)
She came to us for help and advice. May ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I really don't like him like that?
Q. There is this guy that has liked me since forever. I think like in freshman year and I graduated in 07.. So its been a while. I never really liked him but I kinda do. Its like I'm not physically attracted to him, but am to his personality. Well now ...
A. 24 April 2008: Be honest with him and don't lead him on, If you do that then you may have a chance of being friends! he may however be a tad upset if he thinks you are starting something and he has loved you for so long.
Try to be gentle!!
Good luck... (read in full...)
I met this man who has a live in girlfriend. I really like him, but should I run?
Q. ok ppl here it goes, im getting divorced, i met a man, i really like him, he lives with a girl, not married no kids for 5 years says he is unhappy, i have not had sex with him. He wants to be with me and says it will take a while to leave her that ...
A. 24 April 2008: You can be strong and you will, It makes me wonder.... If he makes her out to be awful to you then in a few years if things went bad between you two what would he say about you?
Nope I say leave this one well alone until he leaves the girl... (read in full...)
Ladies, do you like your man's genitalia...shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible??
Q. Shaved, trimmed, or manly as possible? Wondering if girls prefer a guys pubs to be shaved, trimmed or all together hairy, personally I always assumed shaving it all off was the gently thing to do for a chick. That and doing so makes your penis...
A. 24 April 2008: Its just polite to make sure you are groomed! ... (read in full...)
This is a cry for help from the Love Triangle!
Q. Help!The following is one part confession, one part cry for help. I need all the replys I can get. 5 yrs ago my boyfriend of 6 yrs,we'll call him NM, and I broke up. I was so upset because he left me in a really cruel way by staying out all ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hello.
Get a fresh start, cut away all the dead wood, You will manage without the money. Don't use it as an excuse to let yourself contact this man.
it sounds to me that you have changed your life many times for these men for very little in retur... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me but he won't ask me out! Should I let him go?
Q. there is this guy i like for almost nine years. and he knows i love him. he always gets red when he sees me or smiles at me... hes aways joking around with me all the time. sometimes he say i love you but doesn't ask me out should i let him ...
A. 24 April 2008: Whats stopping you from asking him out?... (read in full...)
He seems to have gone religion-crazy, being old-fashioned and rude. Help and advice, please!
Q. what am I suppose to do with my husband? He is so caught up in his religion. He think that whatever he say about the bible is correct and my knowledge is wrong. Well, I do know something about the bible and I do know how to read and understand ...
A. 24 April 2008: How old is your husband? What church is he part of? Could it be he feels he is missing somehting in his life and is trying to fill the void? he sounds somewhat selfish and needs a good smack!!
maybe take him to a preist for councelling!!!
Good ... (read in full...)
I met this man who has a live in girlfriend. I really like him, but should I run?
Q. ok ppl here it goes, im getting divorced, i met a man, i really like him, he lives with a girl, not married no kids for 5 years says he is unhappy, i have not had sex with him. He wants to be with me and says it will take a while to leave her that ...
A. 24 April 2008: Run for the hills!! How woulod you feel if you were his GF? Read this site there are thousands of women who have been in this situation and it hasn't really turned out well for them.... Wait until you know for sure that he has left his other h... (read in full...)
This is a cry for help from the Love Triangle!
Q. Help!The following is one part confession, one part cry for help. I need all the replys I can get. 5 yrs ago my boyfriend of 6 yrs,we'll call him NM, and I broke up. I was so upset because he left me in a really cruel way by staying out all ...
A. 24 April 2008: oooh dear, that is one complicated situation!! Your right you know what to do. Leave them both and start a new life for yourself, one where you can focus on you. It seems to me you have done nothing but put yourself second and change your life for ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated after being married for 30years
Q. been married for 20 years.had very wonderful sex life i never ever thought this could happen to me. we are not young.i m 52 and she is 48.we have three kids 18 yr. 16 and 12. she has been a house wife all her life.last year she told me that she...
A. 24 April 2008: Your not over the hill yet my friend!! 52 is not that old. I have no doubt you would find someone around the same age as you to spend the rest of your life with who would be faithful! Jeez i can thik of around 10 women I know already! LOL
H... (read in full...)
My wife cheated after being married for 30years
Q. been married for 20 years.had very wonderful sex life i never ever thought this could happen to me. we are not young.i m 52 and she is 48.we have three kids 18 yr. 16 and 12. she has been a house wife all her life.last year she told me that she...
A. 24 April 2008: Your not over the hill yet my friend!! 52 is not that old. I have no doubt you would find someone around the same age as you to spend the rest of your life with who would be faithful! Jeez i can thik of around 1... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances is a slap justifiable during an argument between spouses?
Q. Is it alright that a husband slaps his wife in the face during an argument? If so, under what circumstances is it justfiable?...
A. 24 April 2008: The question was "Is it alright that a husband slaps his wife in the face during an argument? If so, under what circumstances is it justfiable".
I was not answering the worlds problems just this one......and the simple answer is under no circumst... (read in full...)
Weight issues...I'm feeling a lack of confidence and need some advice.
Q. Hello Why is it when girls, like me finally think they look ok guys put us down. I had and am still recovering from an eating disorder, i didn't tell anyone as i felt ashamed. I did things to try and make myself feel better about myself, like hav...
A. 24 April 2008: Darling, EVERY woman has a weight issue at some stage in her life. I am having one as I type this! LOL, The trick is to be thankful you are healthy. Did you know most men actually prefer someone with a bit of meat on their bones? I used to think ... (read in full...)
We're expecting our first child and he's texting his ex to ask for naked picture "for fun" !
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years, we're expecting our first child! I have started to have some serious trust issues with him, it's driving me mad and it's all started with an ex of his i caught him texting her loads of ...
A. 24 April 2008: No good can come from this. Re evaluate your realationship and ask yourself is this the type of man you want looking after you? If he is asking for naked pics then chances are its not far off the next step. its a hard pill to swallow but you will be ... (read in full...)
How do I move on with my life?
Q. How do you forget about someone and get on with your life?? I was having an affair with a married man for 4 months and it has now ended as we've both decided to make it work with our current partners (he has 3 children). We have both told our ...
A. 24 April 2008: Tough one....I agree with the others. It will be hard and well done on stopping the affair. I think with time you will heal, I am worried that your husaband may not. You say that you want things to work and yet you feel empty inside? I think you may ... (read in full...)
Don't know what to do about my husband - we sleep in different rooms and he isn't attracted to me anymore.
Q. Hi, This is the first time I have written to one of these sites so here it goes. I am a 37 year old mother of 2 young children and I am at a loss. My husband of 6 years in July(known him for 9)lost his job a month ago and hasn't found another one or ...
A. 24 April 2008: Has he actually said he is not attracted to you anymore? Maybe he is feeling guilty because he can't provide for his family? Try not to have hatred it takes up too much energy and time. IF you don't love him anymore then I think the best thing to do ... (read in full...)
Once we came close to having sex, he backed off . Does he have a commitment phobia?
Q. I am wondering if my ex bf had "commitment phobia". He broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Yet one of the first things he said to me when meeting me was "I really want to be in a relationship. I am so over random hooks ups, ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi,
I agree with Collaroy, Maybe he thought he was ready and then after a bit of time he realised that he wasn't. Let him go and stop worrying about him, You will find the right man for you. It just takes time. Spend more time on yourself and your... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances is a slap justifiable during an argument between spouses?
Q. Is it alright that a husband slaps his wife in the face during an argument? If so, under what circumstances is it justfiable?...
A. 23 April 2008: wow this terrifies me, maybe in Malaysia it's ok for a husband to slap his wife if she "pushes his limits" but it's not ok in Australia, US, UK or any other civilised country! Back to the problem........ NEVER EVER is it ok to hit a person.... (read in full...)
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