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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating over a year and 3 months and I don't get blow jobs anymore. I give everything to her but I don't get anything in return. I floss, I brush my teeth, I shave (both areas), and I am a good boyfriend. (flowers every month, never really talk to any other girls, she comes first, ect.) Anyway, at first she'd give me some but then it stopped. It effects me more emotionally than physically. I've really been wanting one. When I asked her about it she says "idk" when I say "I really want one... can I have one soon?" she replies "Idk." It really sucks. I Love her. I'm 100% sure that she is not cheating on me since we spend every day together. Any ideas?
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reader, VocalsAndRhythmGuitarist  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 I don't want to make you feel hopeless, but girls are like that, if they don't want to do something, there's nothing you can do to make them change their minds. Take it from me, I'm somewhat in the same situation. My girlfriend just hates the sticky feeling of the pre-cum, and that is enough to make her hate giving oral sex to me. It really bothered me emotionally too at first, rather than physically, because I don't really need it in order to feel sexually satisfied, but it does hurt emotionally that your girlfriend, the woman you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, feels grossed out by something you have no control over, something that is not a body waste, like poop or urine is. Also, it's not like it's a huge load, like when you ejaculate.
I suggest you just accept it, or if you don't want to go through your whole life without oral sex, just talk to her about it, if she definitely won't do it again, then break up with her, if it's really that important to you, because if it is, then you might get angry with her later on when she says no to giving you head and ruin the relationship, and hurting her feelings too. I think you should tell her that it hurts your feelings that she doesn't give you what you wish she'd give.
Ultimately, I agree with Madalo 1 on the fact that girls like oral too, so if you're not doing it, then start by doing that, if she still won't give you back what you want, then talk to her about it, and make sure it's outside the bedroom.
Best of luck to you mate!
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Talk to her about it and ask why. The worst thing you can do is keep pressuring her. It is not her fault if she does not feel like it, there must be something else going on.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (2 May 2010):
Do u go down on her as well?Offer to lick her as well coz if she's the only one who goes down on you then she'll be really put off.
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