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writes:My boyfriend of 3 years has moved back to his home country due to visa issues.Hopefully he will be back soon maybe 6 months. He has been gone since July 2009. We have been doing the whole long distance thing visits, phone calls, and emails, however, we desperately want to be with each other. I have just graduated from college and work part-time so, I don't have much money. However, he is financially stable and has offered to support me for the duration of about 3-6 months.(We think he will be back by then) I would like to work but, it is next to impossible for an American to do so without a specialized skill. Moving with him doesn't scare me. It's being financially dependent on someone that does. I have always worked and feel odd about not bringing in income. Plus, when we come back here I won't have a job. I do have a few months savings. I am torn. Should I just take the leap and do it? Or should we wait this whole thing out?
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reader, angela29 +, writes (15 March 2010):
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I am planning to work full time. I have been looking but not much has come up. My degree is in sociology and I plan to go back to graduate school soon. I just thought while I have this opportunity then, why not? My plan is to find a full-time job when I return. In addition, he was on a j1 visa and subject to the 2 year home rule plus, he has stayed the max. 7 years. He is currently working with a lawyer and he has a sponsor from an employer to get a waiver to change to an H1b. BTW, the country is Ireland.This was only suppose to be a temporary thing but is taking way longer than expected. Do you think the visa will go through? and, how long does it usually take for this whole process? Any info would be great. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): You graduated from college so you have a degree. That means getting a job, depending on the degree, shouldn't be too difficult. Hey, if he's willing to support you, why not?
You only have a part time job. Would it be that hard to get another part time job assuming this all goes south?
Worst case scenario. You go, break up, and you come back to america with no job. But you have a degree. Is it really that hard to find a part time job? That's where you are at now.
Best case scenario. You go, have a blast, experience something cool, and you come back with him and find a job.
One caution is, what if his visa doesn't come through. You will already be living over there. Will he expect you to stay?
If you need advice, I am a Federal Agent here in the United States. Was his Visa revoked? Suspended? Expired? And why? I deal with Immigration so maybe I can help...which country?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Take a risk. The more you wait, the more you will put it off. You just have to go for it and not look back. This is life. You only have one.
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