Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 10 November 2009: Well done for doing the smart thing and getting rid of this guy, you'll thank yourself for it in the future!! :) Things will get easier, just surround yourself with your friends and family, the people who love you x... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to be less distant?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!! he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont...
A. 24 October 2009: Aw, ok well firstly I wouldnt panic about the girl being there - just think about your boyfriend, is he really the sort of guy who would cheat? Try to stay calm and if he's still behaving like this in a week or so, ask him about it, in as ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend just trying something new or was I right to react the way I did?
Q. im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. we had been fighting lately and just got back together last night. i went over his house last night and we worked it out. so we were just sitting there watching tv, him on the couch and me in the chair next to ...
A. 24 October 2009: No, he's not right. The fact your boyfriend was turned on by you crying while he was using you is pretty disturbing, in all honesty. If you hadnt made it clear that you didnt want to do it, then yes I can understand that he was just wanting to "try ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for doing what I am doing and hoping she gets caught?
Q. I still need Advice. Back in December of 2008 I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We have not had contact since 1993. I was browsing around on Facebook and found her. I thought that it would be nice to catch up on old times with her. ...
A. 23 October 2009: To be honest I'm not entirely sure what your question to us is - it looks like you've long since made up your mind about what you want to do in this situation. Did you just come here looking for people to tell you you're making the right decision?... (read in full...)
Married but toying with fantasy of affair with colleague
Q. Wife and Work Colleague Hello everybody. I'm new around here and I need some non judgemental advice from you. (I posted this last night but in the wrong place, I think). I've been married for 15 years and we have two children. Our sex life has nev...
A. 23 October 2009: I think you're being a bit idealistic by believing that you will get entirely non-judgemental responses. When alls said and done, your wife is at a low point, suffering with depression, and you are just about ready to break apart your home for a ... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to be less distant?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!! he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont...
A. 23 October 2009: Sounds like a good plan to me, i hope everything works out well for you guys, im sure it will with a bit of time! :) xx... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for doing what I am doing and hoping she gets caught?
Q. I still need Advice. Back in December of 2008 I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We have not had contact since 1993. I was browsing around on Facebook and found her. I thought that it would be nice to catch up on old times with her. ...
A. 22 October 2009: In total agreement with GrimmReality - that might not be what you want to hear, but really. This other man has invested 7 years of his life in her, and out of the blue you are taking everything away from him - expect no sympathy for what you are ... (read in full...)
I do not want to leave without him because long distance relationships don't work!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and living together for 3 of them. We have had many ups and downs. He has finished college and we have been talking about moving so that I may finish as well, we were talking about moving in ...
A. 22 October 2009: I'm in a long distance relationship and its working just fine - sure, its harder and you have to have a strong sense of independant ability, but in the long run i think its just making my relationship stronger, and it'll be so much sweeter when we ... (read in full...)
Need birth control and have no way to get it..HELP!
Q. I need help! I know I said im 18 but im realy 16 but I need help. I need birth control and I cant ask my mom or anyone for them?? I need advice! please help someway. My mom's outa the question ...
A. 22 October 2009: I just got mine free from my local GP when I was 16, didn't tell my parents - it doesnt say where you're from, but if you're from britain and really don't feel you can talk to your parents about them, just book an appointment and go yourself :)... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to be less distant?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!! he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont...
A. 22 October 2009: Aw, that is a tough one.. perhaps it is best to just leave him to it for a while then, if you trust that he'll come back to you once things are sorted out? At least he knows that you're there if he needs you. Alternatively you could try to ... (read in full...)
I will leave my husband as I have been living a lie, what is your advice?
Q. When I married my husband I was so in love. I trusted him but recently found out he had betrayed me by spending thousands and thousands of pounds not only on gambling but on other women. I found text messages from a girl, called Claire... and I ...
A. 22 October 2009: I am just going to offer complete support for what you're doing.
Keep going about it in this way, it sounds like you're being very intelligent - gather as much evidence as your solicitor thinks is necessary and then free yourself from this man.... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to be less distant?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!! he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont...
A. 22 October 2009: You said you've been together a long time so I assume you know each other well, can you think of anything thats going on in his life that might be stressing him out, or causing this distant behaviour? After so long you shouldnt be afraid of looking ... (read in full...)
Women seem to dislike nice guys!
Q. I asked this girl out i have like for a long time a month or so ago and she said no and said she didn't like me like that, and that we had been friends for to long and thought it may end up kind of awkward. Well she could tell it sort of aggravated, ...
A. 21 October 2009: To be honest I don't really like the way you seem proud of "calling her out for her own stupidity and making her feel kinda foolish as punishment". If you continue to make her feel stupid for every little thing, she'll either grow to resent you for ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt the third time?
Q. Oks o i had sex a couple times already. My problem is that on my first time the tip only went in. My second time only the tip but it really hurt and i got scared to put it all the way( i never had put it all the way). Ok so im going to do it my ...
A. 20 October 2009: You may think it sounds patronizing when people say you're too young for sex, but this is part of what then mean. It doesnt sound like your body is developed enough for sex if its hurting you this much, with only the tip. Give yourself some time and ... (read in full...)
What to expect with a threesome?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm planning on a having a threesome with two men this weekend. I'm really nervous and I don't know what to expect. What should I expect when I have this kind of threesome?...
A. 20 October 2009: Do not put yourself in this situation until you are completely certain that you know and are happy to experience what you are getting yourself into. It is more than likely that there will be no consideration for your needs and these two guys will ... (read in full...)
Long distance disaster...is he over me?
Q. ok, here is my story.... me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years now. we have grown up together since we were 15yrs old. we are eachothers 1st bf/gf...1st EVERYTHING! i am SO in love with this boy and i thought he would say the...
A. 20 October 2009: Aw, this is a horrible situation :( don't start to doubt your decision to move, it was the right one - you are giving yourself amazing opportunities by finishing your degree :)
As for your boyfriend being over you, I seriously doubt that he actu... (read in full...)
Is this how "Grown Up" relationships work?
Q. Hi :) i'm Trixie and im 16 (17 in a few days!!) Basically I have started this "relationship" with a really great guy who is 20. The thing is we have been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend for about... 5 weeks now, although were not going out. No...
A. 20 October 2009: I would completely disagree with sappygirl - it sounds like he's being very considerate, and if you're confused about anything just talk to him about it! :) i'm sure he probably wants a few things clarified aswell :) as for sappygirls fairly ... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 20 October 2009: There is a psychological explanation for why women struggle to leave abusive relationships - its called learned helplessness, and the idea is that even though you know the relationship is bad for you, it becomes all that you're used to so leaving it ... (read in full...)
Should I convert to Christianity for him?
Q. Hi dear cupid. I need help again. I broke up with my boyfriend for one week but now we get back together again.(we're long distantance) We broke up, because of his family. And I told him if he stop listen to his family and move on with me (just me ...
A. 19 October 2009: Absolutely not.
Faith is all about believing without proof - simply believing with the whole of your soul, something which relies on nobody else, and should be affected by nobody else. I personally am not religious, but I think that to simply chan... (read in full...)
Is he not interested in hooking up again?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice... I met this guy at a friend's wedding back in August and we got drunk, talked for hours, and hooked up. The next morning we had the usual 'if we're ever in each others cities, we should meet up' chat (we live in...
A. 18 October 2009: If you think this is the end of your correspondence anyway, providing he doesnt text back, I dont see why you shouldnt text him while you're in the city. What does it matter if you seem needy if you were never going to see him again anyway? If he ... (read in full...)
Could she be pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend and i had sex a little more than two weeks ago, she's not on any birth control, but i did use a condom. I pulled out with the condom still on, and i made sure the condom wasn't ripped or anything, and NO sperm even touched the vaginal ...
A. 18 October 2009: Doubtful, given that from the information you've told us it doesnt sound as though her cycle is always regular - wait another few days, and if she still hasnt started, get a test. But it sounds like you should be fine, and being worried/stressed ... (read in full...)
Am I being too close minded?
Q. Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...
A. 18 October 2009: I honestly can't understand how you've convinced yourself to put up with this trainwreck of a relationship for 4 years. I've heard the expression "love endures all", but I am not convinced that covers being emotionally abused by lying, cheating ... (read in full...)
I want a child of my own but everyone says not yet!
Q. Hey, i feel so strange, im in college at the moment, in my last year. me and my best mate are both in serious relationships, she always says how she would never have a baby at this age and she thinks its stupid, however, i would do anything to be ...
A. 18 October 2009: I think your boyfriend is looking at it wisely - you need to wait until you are certain you can provide your child with stability, both emotionally and financially. That means unless you were born into a great amount of wealth, you should wait until ... (read in full...)
I fancy him but it would be social suicide to go out with him!
Q. This guy at school really fancys me but theres one problem. Hes a geek. I think i might fancy him aswell but it would be social sucide going out with him! He's asked me out loads and i keep saying no. I know your just going to be like well if you ...
A. 18 October 2009: I know how difficult it is to go against the flow of social opinion, especially in the hugely intense social atmosphere in highschool. Celtic tiger is right, but shes wrong to judge you as a sheep - in high school everybody feels as though their ... (read in full...)
My mother is ruining my relationship...what can I do?
Q. ever since i remember, my mother was in charge of everything. i'm also the youngest one, so i know she's trying to protect me and doesnt want me to get hurt. but that's the problem. i'm 20 and i have a boyfriend for three years now. she knows him ...
A. 17 October 2009: Its a difficult situation. From your mothers perspective, your older siblings have long since moved on from her and she may feel that you're the last one she has left, so her natural instinct is to keep you close - your boyfriend is an obvious ... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 17 October 2009: Hi there :) Firstly I should probably say that I am not a person who believes we should strictly adhere to age of consent laws. The simple lack of consistency concerning the actual age of consent between countries makes me disbelieve in it as a sys... (read in full...)
What is the maximum age I can go for?
Q. Right i am 16 years old and a girl and i want to know what is the maximum age limit i can go for before people think its weird. Because i know this guy who is 22 nothing has happened but he is soooooo nice (: But i also had an emotional affair...
A. 14 October 2009: I dunno, I was with a 20 year old when I was 16 and we're still together, and don't find it weird at all. I think its more about personality than age, and don't worry about how other people will perceive it :) but remember, family and friends are ... (read in full...)
In love with my daughter in law...
Q. Ok here it goes...I find myself deeply in love with my daughter in law..I want to have sex so bad with her..Sometimes when my son invites me over,I tell him I can't today....They have 3 little girls..I hate to do something that will break them ...
A. 8 October 2009: Its a difficult situation you're in. Although I fully stand by that we cannot control who we love, I also firmly believe in self-restraint, and as I am not a believer in soulmates I don't believe she is the ONLY woman for you. Honestly the best ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from grinding?
Q. My boyfriend and I were naked and grinding each other's genitals. He was hard, but he didn't release. I was in my second day of menstruation that time. He also didn't even enter me (we're both virgins). What are the chances that I'm pregnant?...
A. 6 October 2009: You can get pregnant without penetration, but its very rare, especially as you say he didnt release and considering the point you are at in your cycle.
I would strongly suggest going on the contraceptive pill if you're thinking of taking your rela... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 6 October 2009: I can completely understand why this would be shock to you, as your boyfriend has maintained over the years of your relationship that he has never been tempted to look at porn.
But really, did it not occur to you that this is completely unre... (read in full...)
I want him so badly
Q. My best friend has a girlfriend but I sometimes feel that he's sick of her and he's flirting with me. Sometimes he tells me that he loves her alot, anyway I love him so much and I can't get over him. I don't know what i'm going do but all I know is ...
A. 5 October 2009: Me and my friend have both been in an incredibly similar situation (at different times) over one of our male friends, who has a girlfriend but is an incredibly flirty person.
Honestly, I can say from experience that the best thing to do is leav... (read in full...)
I think my fiance might be cheating on me
Q. I think my fience is cheating on me. we've been together 3 years. we havent seen much of each other,one day a week because of work commitments...but hes been strange,distant and doesnt want to kiss me anymore (apprently because my breath smells) (...
A. 4 October 2009: Honestly, you may be being a little paranoid - I think the deeper issue here is a lack of trust between you and your fiancee. Do you really think he's the sort to cheat? Because if so i'd really consider whether youre willing to commit to him for ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but I also feel shame
Q. i want to have a sex with my boyfriend,,and that be my first time...becouse im virgin..and i want it but im afraid...and also i shame my body...i dont know what i do????but i want that:)...
A. 3 October 2009: I think pretty much everyone is nervous their first time, its completely natural :)
You shouldnt feel ashamed of your body - your boyfriend is clearly attracted to you already :) Just try to forget about your fears and feel relaxed and comf... (read in full...)
Facebook is used for cheating?
Q. I get the feeling that facebook is used to cheat on each other. how u guys think?...
A. 3 October 2009: Maybe for a select few but by no means all!
I suppose it does make flirting easier, in that you don't have to venture off your couch to interact with someone.. But i personally use it to keep in contact with friends rather than any of that, and ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable that his decision doesn't show respect for me?
Q. My husband decided to be in the wedding of his "best friend" with out even discussing it with me. The issue is the best friend has a sister who has said horrible things about us. When I asked him about it he said he was going and that I can choose ...
A. 2 October 2009: I would understand if it were the sister's wedding, but as it isnt i'm inclined to say that you are being a little unreasonable. I know that I wouldnt want somebody (least of all a best friend!) to refuse to come to my wedding just because of ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, she's just 14 and I'm falling hard!
Q. Hey i just turned 16. i went to a party a few nights ago and met a very nice girl. very mature acting just being part of the crowd. little did i know she is only 13 and turning 14. she suprised everyone at the bonfire with her age, i mean nobody ...
A. 1 October 2009: It sounds to me like you're attracted much more to her personality than her body, and thats fantastic - in my opinion much better than if you went after some girl your age, only interested in sex rather than a relationship. I would say try to creat... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 1 October 2009: shortyc, I understand your need to vent your frustrations - everybody needs that sometimes, no matter what their situation. Unfortunately you picked the wrong venue; being an advice site, there is a strong sense of morality amongst the advice-g... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 29 September 2009: I don't think you can help who you love, and its pretty unfortunate that you met the man you love too late - after he'd committed himself to another women (although clearly not fully committed..). I'm a little bit confused about what you're actually... (read in full...)
Brother? or twin brother?
Q. I have a problem. About a month ago, after going out and drinking a little bit too much, I made out with this new guy in our grade (lets call him Van). Since then, he has been really sweet and cute and caring towards me, we've gotten to know each ...
A. 28 September 2009: Sounds to me like you are attracted to the idea of going out with Dan - for status, being with the cool attractive guy etc - but are getting what you really need in a relationship from Van. Thats sweetness, caring, security, conversation etc - not ... (read in full...)
I want to get married but marriage is out of the question for him
Q. I have been with the same man for almost seven years now. I am almost 24 and he is 27. i love him very much, but I feel I have given this relationship enough of my time. What I mean by that is that is I want to get married. He loves me very much, ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well if the idea of marriage is more important to you than he is then it sounds as though youve made your decision already. Its him you need to be convincing, not me, so all you can do is have a real conversation with him - but honestly if I were ... (read in full...)
I want to get married but marriage is out of the question for him
Q. I have been with the same man for almost seven years now. I am almost 24 and he is 27. i love him very much, but I feel I have given this relationship enough of my time. What I mean by that is that is I want to get married. He loves me very much, ...
A. 27 September 2009: I think you need to consider what it is about marriage which is so appealing to you, and then try to convey that to him. Personally I do think you're overreacting a bit; but that is only because of my belief that a strong and committed relation... (read in full...)
I'm married want to know if its ok to indulge in sex with someone else?
Q. i am a married for last 3 years, last year i met a guy who is single. intially it was a good friendship. he is 3 years younger to me. we used to talk a lot. gradually he started expressing his feeling and talking all about himself. one day i saw his ...
A. 26 September 2009: You say you don't want to cheat on your husband - well, you already have, and it sounds like emotionally as well as physically.
Unless your husband knows about your sexual relationship with this other man and is accepting and supportive of it (whi... (read in full...)
I'm the love of his life but he won't marry me!
Q. My problem is this. My boyfriend, whom I live with, who says Im the love of his life, will not marry me. I decided to lay off him but the only way to do this is to emotionally disconnect from him so that I can deal. In my eyes, not wanting to marry ...
A. 22 September 2009: Talk to him about his views on marriage before you discard him! Lots of people just dont think marriage is that important these days, and I for one think that its unnecessary to adopt the labels of husband and wife, so long as both people in the ... (read in full...)
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