He is 17 I'm 13 and I really like him A LOT !!
Q. Their is this 17 year old boy im 13 who is in my form because he is my mentor.. I really like him a lot, he looks at me and smiles and looks away and sometimes stares at me and when i notice, he looks away, then looks back when im not looking....
A. 22 June 2010: Glad things worked out for you :) x... (read in full...)
She won't accept that I love her
Q. My girlfriend keeps saying I don't love her. Its getting annoying, because I keep telling her that I do, but she just responds with "nope". What can I say to prove that I love her so she will stop. I love her very much, and I wish she knew I did!...
A. 28 November 2009: Has she had a bad relationship in the past that would cause her to be doubtful of guys? If so, all you can do is be loving and patient; she will believe you in time. Otherwise, I understand how that would be hugely frustrating - have you let her ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but wants a threesome with my friend and I
Q. I like this guy and he likes me back. but he is 17 and im 15 so we cant date. we still hang out and go to his car and you know the rest of the story. lately he wants to do somthing with both my bestfriend and i,so i said yes beacuse i thought ...
A. 28 November 2009: He very clearly isnt a really nice guy. He is playing you, his girlfriend and his ex-girlfriend so he can get sex. You are all being used. Also, you say you can't date because he's 17 and you're 15 - yet you think its ok to have sex with him? Whats ... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for my boyfriend change after an FFM threesome?
Q. So I was WONDERING, if my boyfriend and I end up having a threesome, with another woman, whats the likely it'll bring us closer? Or I wont feel the same about him?...
A. 28 November 2009: Personally, I would hate it.. I feel I am enough for my guy, and if he wanted somebody else there as well i'd feel horribly inadequate. Seeing him enjoying another woman would destroy me. Fortunately my guy doesn't have any desire for a threesome, ... (read in full...)
Sex in the car didn't feel right to him...what's going on?
Q. ok, so heres alittle backround..i have been with him for two years, and we had sex for the first time a year and a half ago. We have never had problems with it, and it has never interfered with our relationship. However, we have done it in ...
A. 28 November 2009: Maybe he just didnt want his car to get all messy.. my boyfriend is pretty protective of his.... (read in full...)
Not being able to talk to anyone is killing me!
Q. Hello, ok i was out at my local pub last night from 9.30 to 1.30 and did not talk to anyone! I said hello to couple to couple of people but did not actually speak to anyone, yes there was music playing but come on i have been going to this pu...
A. 28 November 2009: Hi, I'm almost afraid to offer advice given your followups! But from what I understand of social anxiety disorder, it can have a cognitive cause, is that correct? You recognise that your processes of thinking when it concerns social situations are ... (read in full...)
I only found out his secret fetish after we were married and I can't handle it!
Q. I've been with my husband for ten years, married for 2, just after the I do's I found out his secret fetish and now I don't feel the same way about him. I was so in love but I started finding porn mag's and toys but what's strange about this is ...
A. 28 November 2009: If you love him, you should accept it. That doesnt mean being a part of it, necessarily, but I'm sure his fetish doesnt define him as a person; he is still the man you loved. Maybe tell him youre not entirely comfortable with it, but don't expect ... (read in full...)
I drank, I kissed too many, now they call me a slag
Q. im so confused, im a girl of 16, i went out with a friend last night and had a bit too much to drink, i ended up kissing my ex's best friend and one of his friends,infront of each other, then my ex's friend kissed my best friend straight after. Then ...
A. 28 November 2009: If you're not the sort of person to repeat this, don't worry about it. The teenage attention span isnt a long one - this will blow over, and people will forget, so long as you don't go out every weekend doing the same thing and making yourself a ... (read in full...)
My virgin girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. What do I do now?
Q. I have a girlfriend and she is a virgin and i want 2 hav sex with her but she refused.so i don't know what 2 do....
A. 28 November 2009: Well if you love her you'll have to wait for her to comfortable with the idea of sex. You can't force her into it, and if you respected her you wouldn't want to anyway. Just be affectionate with her, don't resent her - its her choice. Be patient. ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and he wants to have sex with me even although he has a girlfriend. Am I being played?
Q. I am fourteen years old and last year I had this "thing" with this guy. He has had a girlfriend for the past six months but now he wants to have sex with me. I really do want to have sex with him and have him be my first but I don't know because he ...
A. 28 November 2009: Well, it would probably hurt quite a lot on the night, and he doesnt sound like the kind of guy who'd be bothered about trying to make it easier for you. Then it'd hurt a whole lot more the next day, when he didn't want anything to do with you and ... (read in full...)
To stalk the girls at his school, or to be miserable?
Q. so... here's my story. i like this guy. i'v known him since i was 6. we were best friends. and he lives more than 90 miles away. in 6th grade i went out with him a few times. and for the past two years i've been sad, depressed, and obsessed ove...
A. 27 November 2009: Why would you stalk the girls at his school? You dont have to be miserable in silence either. You have history with this guy, presumably you can talk to him? Let him know how you feel, and ask him whether he feels the same way. I know its a scary ... (read in full...)
Why are bigger breasts better?
Q. I know this has been asked a million times, but why are big breasts better? Honestly give me the reasons of why they're superior to small breasts when it comes to SEXUAL PLEASURE. Nothing to do with not having back aches, or that big breasts produce ...
A. 27 November 2009: Did you look at the second page of that article? Clearly breast size doesn't matter that much, its just a pretence around their friends, because people do tend to conform. Also there were plenty of men in the comments section saying they loved small ... (read in full...)
Should I be social with her if she does contact me, or am I being used?
Q. I'm confused about what to do with a certain friend of mine. When her life isn't going well, when she's sad or lonely and she needs a friend she'll call me or e-mail me asking to hang out, but when everything is going well for her she completely ...
A. 27 November 2009: Drop her. She sounds like the kind of self-centered person who values herself far more than she values your friendship - you are useful to make her feel popular when she doesnt have anyone else to talk to, but when things are going fine in her life ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to end relationship and pregnancy..help!
Q. I'm so hurt I think its time to end my relationship and not continue my pregnancy. Yesterday was my birthday my co-workers bought me flowers and took me to lunch. My boyfriend did nothing for me. When I got to his house from work he had already ...
A. 27 November 2009: He sounds toxic, get rid of that burden in your life as soon as possible. You deserve better than somebody who loves alcohol more than they love you (seems he's demonstrated that by refusing to get help).
I would urge you to reconsider having an a... (read in full...)
Is she thinking of someone else or can I just not satisfy her?
Q. After a nice day with my girfriend we where making out, I try to go down on her then she said don't do it if you don't want to, I said don't say anything and she said it again, so I'm thinking I don't satisfy her or her mind is on someone else. What ...
A. 27 November 2009: How long have you been together? She might just not feel comfortable with that. Or she could be insecure about it - whether you really enjoy doing that, or are just doing it because you feel obligated to. I don't think her mind is on anything else, ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that we don't talk on the phone?
Q. iv just started dating this guy and hes my first ever boyfriend and kiss we text all the time and whenever we see each other at school we talk but we don't talk on the phone at first i thought that there was no problem with that but most...
A. 27 November 2009: I don't think theres anything wrong with that - Ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we've spoken on the phone twice, and only in urgent situations. We're just not phone people; don't panic about this. :) x... (read in full...)
I cant find anyone my own age! Help!
Q. I'm not sure what I should do, she's 17 n i'm 22. Is that too much of a difference? So instead look what Ive done, I found a girl who's 31 :/ Is that too much of a difference?...
A. 27 November 2009: I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 21 - I would forget about our age difference if it wasnt for him being almost out of university! It just depends on her mental age (and yours) - whether she's mature enough to handle a relationship with somebody who is ... (read in full...)
My naked neighbour!
Q. I live next door to a young woman who walks around naked in her house. She is very fit and has every reason to be proud of her body, I guess, but she keeps the windows open for the whole neighborhood to see her. This has upset me a lot especially ...
A. 26 November 2009: I agree with tux.. if you weren't worrying about this woman, I imagine you'd just be worrying about another. The issue here isnt your neighbours habit, but your broken trust. She has every right to dress how she wants (or not dress at all, as the ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bestfriend her boyfriend is cheating on her?
Q. hey! i have this best friend of mine at school and she has a boyfriend whom she's been with for 4 years or so... he's also at the same school. her boyfriend comes to the same tuition place at me [we go there for extra classes] and there he flirts ...
A. 26 November 2009: I feel for you, its a very tough situation that you're in. You're right, if you tell her theres a chance she'll "shoot the messenger" - just get angry with you. But I imagine that would only be initial shock, and in the longrun she would see that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he has developed feelings for my best friend, after he performed oral sex on her!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for the better part of 5 years. I recently finished school and he asked me to move in with him so I agreed. It has been 5 months and were both under the impression we were heading toward marriage. For ...
A. 26 November 2009: I have read your post and your followup, and Im still not sure why you're willing to forgive one and not the other. Sure, she could have told him to stop, but he could have decided to stop himself, or not even start it - after all, he's the one who ... (read in full...)
Weve been together for 5 months, we have never gone farther than making out. is this normal?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and i am completely crazy about him. however, even though weve been together for 5 months, we have never gone farther than making out. is this normal? he is 18 and i am 16. i am his first girl ...
A. 26 November 2009: I think you should consider yourself lucky to have found such a considerate and respectful guy! :) Clearly he is just trying to go at your pace, he doesnt want to rush you into anything you're not ready for (especially in light of your previous ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my privacy or give into my friend's threat?
Q. Hello there, I'm 16 years old and have maintained solid friendships with the 5 people in my group for at least a year or two. To keep this short, I have things going on in my life which I feel are best kept to myself as I believe they wouldn'...
A. 26 November 2009: To be honest I think you're being a little unfair on your friends.. Obviously its ok for people to have boundaries, but it sounds like you're putting up so many that they feel they don't really know who you even are. They probably feel like they're ... (read in full...)
After having an affair with a married man for 18 years he has finally left his wife, but now he is seeing another younger woman!
Q. i have been having an affair with a married man for 18 years. he and his wife of 28 years have just filed for a divorce. i didn't encouage him in fact i told him to rethink and try an make up with his spouse. he sais that its too late and that its ...
A. 26 November 2009: He cheated on his wife with you, why wouldnt he cheat on you? Honestly, what did you expect? All you can do now is rid yourself of him and try to find yourself an honest man - that will involve you developing into an honest woman, mind.. Work on ... (read in full...)
He's got a girlfriend but wants to sleep with me!
Q. hey im 17 and there this guy on my college course that i thought like me but it turns out he got a girlfriend, but he keeps asking if i want to sleep with him, i mean i wanted too.. but now i know he got a girlfriend i dont know what to do pls ...
A. 26 November 2009: Well he clearly just wants to use you for sex, so I dont really see why you're even considering it. Tell him he has a girlfriend for that, and you're not just going to be a toy for him. He's just shown himself to lack any decency/character, I'd stay ... (read in full...)
He is 17 I'm 13 and I really like him A LOT !!
Q. Their is this 17 year old boy im 13 who is in my form because he is my mentor.. I really like him a lot, he looks at me and smiles and looks away and sometimes stares at me and when i notice, he looks away, then looks back when im not looking....
A. 25 November 2009: Hi, I don't want you to feel as though I'm being harsh, but I think in this situation you're seeing what you want to see.. it seems a lot like you're reading into little things he does way too much, and assuming he has feelings for you based on your ... (read in full...)
Why do women sleep with married men?
Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...
A. 23 November 2009: Katyayni, as you seemed to be responding to my post directly I guess I'll reply? To me it really is irrelevant that he was not married - I personally have no desire to get married, I really don't think a committed relationship needs the piece of ... (read in full...)
Have any other men divorced their wives to be with their sister in law?
Q. have men divoced their wives to marry their wife's sister? does this happen or am i the only one that is conteplating this?...
A. 22 November 2009: You're not the only one, but other people contemplating it as well doesnt make it right. Why have you started to consider this?... (read in full...)
Why do women sleep with married men?
Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...
A. 22 November 2009: The posts from Katyayni and the recent female anon had me thinking for quite a while.. firstly i would disagree with the apparently all-encompassing idea here that the woman gets all the blame while the man gets out unscathed. Personally I find the ... (read in full...)
Courtney? Or Emma?
Q. Alright, so here's the dealio: I've got two options. I've got the girl I'm dating now, "Courtney". Now it's all find and dandy and we've almost been dating 3 monthes. Also I took her v-card, and we used the "L" word. But it's just recently come ...
A. 22 November 2009: I personally feel that Courtney deserves somebody who wants and loves her unconditionally - and that means somebody who isnt just going to think about leaving as soon as somebody more attractive becomes available. I feel sorry for her, because it ... (read in full...)
I'd dump my boyfriend if another guy asked me out... so am I using him till then?
Q. So i have this boyfriend and hes amazing. And i absolutely love him! But theres this guy who i go to school with (I dont go to the same school as my boyfriend)(we'll call the guy from school guy Number 2), and hes one of those guys who flirts ...
A. 22 November 2009: Would you feel happy in your relationship if you knew your boyfriend was pining after another girl? Chances are you wouldnt. Stop stringing him along; leave him so he can try to find a girl who'll actually appreciate him, and you can pursue this guy ... (read in full...)
I'd dump my boyfriend if another guy asked me out... so am I using him till then?
Q. So i have this boyfriend and hes amazing. And i absolutely love him! But theres this guy who i go to school with (I dont go to the same school as my boyfriend)(we'll call the guy from school guy Number 2), and hes one of those guys who flirts ...
A. 22 November 2009: Would you feel happy in your relationship if you knew your boyfriend was pining after another girl? Chances are you wouldnt. Stop stringing him along; leave him so he can try to find a girl who'll actually appreciate him, and you can pursue this guy ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my marriage without hurting him?
Q. So I have been married going on 2 years and lately i have not felt anything for my husband, I do not want to be sexually active and I take any chance of being away from him take so extra shifts at work what ever it takes. My husband says that he ...
A. 21 November 2009: Do you have any idea why you've suddenly lost any feeling for your husband? Have you made any attempt at working things out, or are you just desperate for escape?
I think once you've evaluated why you aren't feeling the same way as he is anym... (read in full...)
In love with my crush, but he may soon marry. Should I tell him, or let it go?
Q. Ok .. so 5 years ago i had a crush on this guy which now turns out to be love. However, he doesn't know that. I cannot tell him because then the word will spread and that would ruin my reputation. He might get married soon! What should I do? Shall i ...
A. 21 November 2009: I'm not sure how you've decided that its progressed from a crush to love? Have you had any contact with this guy which suggests your feelings are at all reciprocated?
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but if theres no indication that he feels anyt... (read in full...)
I have had unprotected sex for 5 months and not fallen pg, does this mean I cant have kids or something?
Q. im 17 years old i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, hes 23 years old, ever since we got together we havent used protection once, i dont have to worry about STD's because we have been tested and we are both okay. the thing is i dont want ...
A. 21 November 2009: Have you gotten yourself onto some sort of contraception now? You really should get your boyfriend to wear the condom aswell - just in case you miss a pill (if thats the form youve chosen), and no form of contraception is 100% effective anyway so ... (read in full...)
I want a baby and I don't care what my bf thinks! Is this bad to think this way?
Q. is this a bad way of thinking? if i want a baby i dont care what he [my boyfriend of six months] thinks if he wants to be around then he can if not then oh well? i can financially support a child on my own as well.. cuz the more i think about it...
A. 21 November 2009: Yes, thats a bad way to think. If your boyfriend doesnt want a child at the moment, he has the right not to have a child at the moment. That child would only be 50% yours, and he deserves to have a choice over something so huge as becoming a ... (read in full...)
Why is she freaking out about this?
Q. There's this guy that I've been best friends with since like 3rd grade. We are so close cuz my brother and him are best friends and me and his sister are best friends. Anyways recently he's been really like touchy and he's one of the hottest most ...
A. 21 November 2009: Obviously its just weird for her, the idea of her family dating her friend.. different people have different opinions on this, and it does make some uncomfortable. It might be that shes feeling threatened, like you two will get so close that she'll ... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 21 November 2009: First of all, the girlfriend. Complete agreement, she has absolutely no right to have any part in your childs life until she and your ex are married and she becomes a stepmother, rather than some rebound girl from your relationship.
As for the fath... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend is away I get used to feeling 'single'. Does this mean I don't love him?
Q. Alright so my boyfriend and I have been together 11 months and 2 weeks. We have a sort of long distance relationship, but when he comes home he lives next door to me. But, ever since our relationship started after awhile i get over him being aw...
A. 21 November 2009: Hi, im in kind of a similar sitation to yours - my boyfriend goes to university so is away for long periods at a time, but then comes home and is only about half an hour away. I completely understand the feeling of being "single" while theyre away - ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on this girl but she's already got a boyfriend, what I do??
Q. Hi guys, I have a crush on this girl and we are quite close friends, she is 15 and i am 14, we've been going to places together etc. for a while now, but, i want to go out with her, although she already has a bf. What should i do? Ride it o...
A. 20 November 2009: Being quite a devious person is, i will warn you, not an attractive quality. If your friend is happy with her boyfriend and you really care about her, why would you want to split them up? There will be other girls - the option you're missing is to ... (read in full...)
I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!
Q. Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...
A. 20 November 2009: Well what started as a "strictly sex thing" has turned into a parenthood thing, and you cant turn your back on that child, regardless of whether you two get into a relationship or not. Personally I wouldnt be at all surprised if she and her husband ... (read in full...)
I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!
Q. Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...
A. 20 November 2009: Why two men are falling over themselves for this woman I do not understand.. firstly while her husband is going through god knows what in iraq she sleeps with his best friend, and is then willing to lie about the father of her child because thats ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is worried about our future
Q. I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the ...
A. 20 November 2009: Stop pressuring her by insisting on talking about your future. I'm your age and if my boyfriend started putting those sorts of expectations on me it would scare me a bit, even though i know i dont want the relationship to end anytime soon. Mapping ... (read in full...)
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