I'm the love of his life but he won't marry me!
Q. My problem is this. My boyfriend, whom I live with, who says Im the love of his life, will not marry me. I decided to lay off him but the only way to do this is to emotionally disconnect from him so that I can deal. In my eyes, not wanting to marry ...
A. 22 September 2009: Talk to him about his views on marriage before you discard him! Lots of people just dont think marriage is that important these days, and I for one think that its unnecessary to adopt the labels of husband and wife, so long as both people in the ... (read in full...)
Will he get bored with me when he turns 18?
Q. Me and my boyfreind are getting on really well and have been together for 7 months. But hes a year older than me, and turning 18 soon. Im really worried he will get bored of me, want to go out all the time drinking, and possibly meet other girls at ...
A. 21 September 2009: It all depends on him really - does he actually seem like the sort of guy who would act like this?
Its not always the case; my boyfriend is 20 and I'm 17, and its never an issue. Just talk to him about it, but I'm guessing that as he's with you he's... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for leading him astray. Should I tell?
Q. i'm 14 nearly 15 and i've been talking to this guy i've known for about 6 months we get along really well and i like him and he's said that he really likes me the problem is that he's 20 and i've said to him i'm 17 the proiblem here is that i'm...
A. 20 September 2009: You really do have to tell him - if for no other reason than this: do you want to start off a relationship with a lie? it would be much worse for him to find out a few months into the relationship, and start to mistrust you and wonder what else you ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and want to marry a woman so I can have children. How do I go about this?
Q. hi,am a gay man.36 yrs old have not hraed sex with woman but am willing bcoz i have to.i want to live a normal life.i want children.but am sacerd to have sex,i dont no if i can get it up.am african and is really important i have children.and if i ...
A. 20 September 2009: There are many ways you could go about having a child, without holding some poor woman in a loveless marriage formed purely because you want kids. You'd also be depriving yourself of the chance to find love with a man.
I think the best idea woul... (read in full...)
I am pregnant, but my boyfriend isnt the father. Its his brother. Should I tell him?
Q. I'm 15 and im pregnant My boyfriend is not the father of my baby, it is his brothers, his brother knows about it and he too thinks it might be his. Should I tell him the truth or pretend that it is his?...
A. 15 September 2009: You should absolutely find out the truth and then tell him whats really going on.
You cant let him commit himself to a child that isnt his under false pretences that he is the biological father, and your child should have the right to know who thei... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 15 September 2009: Having unprotected sex without getting pregnant before does not mean you are in some way immune! From the sounds of it, its more than possible, its probable that you are pregnant.
If you turn out not to be pregnant this time, i strongly advise that... (read in full...)
Pregnant, cheated on b/f and now not sure who is the father
Q. Hi , im a pregnant teen and like most teen moms out there , i have many problems with my boyfriend. The main problem is , we dont know for sure if he's the father. I admit i cheated on him and i own up to what i did , but we both find it hard to ...
A. 14 September 2009: q1605, I've never heard such a narrowminded response to somebody asking for advice. Mindless stereotyping isnt going to help this girl, and I dont understand how you intend to justify your claims that teens today are less responsible that those "in ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, cheated on b/f and now not sure who is the father
Q. Hi , im a pregnant teen and like most teen moms out there , i have many problems with my boyfriend. The main problem is , we dont know for sure if he's the father. I admit i cheated on him and i own up to what i did , but we both find it hard to ...
A. 14 September 2009: It sounds like your relationship is already struggling, and is nowhere near strong enough to cope with the challenges which come with having a child; even if there werent the uncertainty surrounding its paternity. I would suggest ending the ... (read in full...)
I've never kissed anyone. Will I look like a fool when the time comes?
Q. Hey, I don't really know where to start but i'm 15, nearly 16 and I have never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone or anything. It's not that I don't want to it's just that nothing has happened for me. Yes I have been asked out but I have said no ...
A. 13 September 2009: The best thing to do is just not to worry about it and go with the flow :) I wanted my first kiss to be special so I waited until I found the right person, even though I thought this might mean I'd look like a total novice to him! I had my first... (read in full...)
She's bringing all kinds of men into my kids' lives.
Q. Hi can you help me? I split up with my partner 2007 we have 2 kids together, 4 and 3 years old. She's been dating and bringing all different sorts of men into my kids life; she can't stick to one man. I want to hear your advice and what negative ...
A. 11 September 2009: This could have an extremely detrimental effect on your children's social development; the attachments we form in early life set a kind of template which we tend to follow as we go. Unstable attachments (such as you describe - male figures always ... (read in full...)
Destined to be single and alone for the rest of my life
Q. I'm late 20's and never had a girlfriend and don't think I'll ever have one. When I was a child I was often called ugly by girls, this made me resent them, and I never so much as bothered try to talk to a female about going on a date. During my...
A. 3 September 2009: I don't find it that odd that you're 28 and havent had a relationship, and could deal with your past - i think you'd find many women who would sympathise, or have had the same experiences themselves!
You are definitely not destined to be sing... (read in full...)
Why are parents unable to stop underage dating and sex?
Q. Hi, I have been reading different questions on this site for a few weeks. I see that there are a lot of teen age dating and sex questions. Teen age, while being most enjoyable, is also the most risky and stupid time. It is the time when one ca...
A. 3 September 2009: As a sexually active teen i can only say I'm happy you arent my parent!
People say the teens arent the years to be discovering things like dating and sex, but if you don't experiment (sensibly) whilst young, how are you meant to develope skills in t... (read in full...)
Hopefully we'll get back together, how can we stop falling into the same trap again?
Q. Myself and my boyfriend of 2 years split up recently after he kicked me out of my home. He said after a week he had made a huge mistake, but he didnt want to go back to the way it was. After some talking we agreed that after some time to sort ...
A. 2 September 2009: Hmm well it is fairly common that people who behave in a partronizing manner do it without realising.. thats not a criticism of you, it is something that is fairly easy to do without even noticing! If that is the main issue then i suppose all you ... (read in full...)
Hopefully we'll get back together, how can we stop falling into the same trap again?
Q. Myself and my boyfriend of 2 years split up recently after he kicked me out of my home. He said after a week he had made a huge mistake, but he didnt want to go back to the way it was. After some talking we agreed that after some time to sort ...
A. 2 September 2009: In order to give you effective advice as to how to avoid falling into the same destructive patterns as before, it would be helpful to know what these are? What was it that led you to argue, what were the problems that caused him to kick you out? S... (read in full...)
Long Distance Relationship - Girlfriend acting weird
Q. I and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship since 3 years and 2 months. In the beginning, everything was so blossomy and absolutely superb. She didn’t have enough very good friends as such, and she always used to come to me, and discuss ...
A. 2 September 2009: I think most people change with the transition to university - it sounds as though for the first time, she has found herself with a comfortable and secure circle of friends where she lives, and therefore no longer relies on you for emotional ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of ending our relationship because of his lying about porn...what do you think? And how do I block websites like that?
Q. i have been having problems with my fiance , we moved last month and while i was moving his clothes i found a hidden porno in his sweatshirt.. i was more mad that it was hidden and he had told me when we got together he doesnt even like porn .. when ...
A. 31 August 2009: I understand why you think that he's breaching your trust, by not telling you that he is looking at these sors of materials, and you should talk to him about that.
But I'm afraid im going to play the role of a stupid woman telling you that it is o... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love with someone even though you're not in a relationship with them?
Q. is it possible to be in love with someone even though you"re not in a relationship with them?! ...
A. 29 August 2009: I dunno, i have always believed that love has a reciprocal nature. I think you can feel strongly for somebody, but that true love comes is something that exists mutually between two people. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking that my boyfriend shouldn't be hanging out with his ex, even if it is with his kids?
Q. Am I wrong that my boyfriend is spending time with his ex wife and sons? I think he should be doing things with his sons only not including his ex wife?????...
A. 28 August 2009: I think its important for his children to see their mother and father behaving civilly together, especially if they went through a paticularly bitter divorce. Its good for his kids to see a functional relationship between their parents, where they ... (read in full...)
Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?
Q. What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...
A. 26 August 2009: Sounds as though your girlfriend was under a lot of strain - honestly she probably did make the right decision for herself, right now. But I'd say see how things progress with a bit of time - if you really feel your marriage is unsalvageable and you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 20, is this ok?
Q. ok i am 15 going to be 16 in 2 weeks and i have been dating a guy who is 20 we have been together 4 2 months now is that ok ??? cause sometimes it doesn't feel right when we first met we didn't talk much but we liked each other a lot from the moment ...
A. 26 August 2009: As I got into a relationship with my boyfriend when he was 20 and i was 16, i feel fairly safe in saying that if it feels right, and you are certain he is the right man for you (and one who isnt looking to take advantage and then run off!) then ... (read in full...)
After b/f found out I'd been sexually abused, he no longer wanted to have sex
Q. soo, im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i are ready to have sex. the thing is when i was younger i was sexually abused. ive have years of therapy and ive come to terms with what happened to me. ive accepted it and im ok, and even with what ...
A. 26 August 2009: I can understand his reservations - he doesnt want to feel as though he'd be taking advantage of a vulnerable point for you, and pressuring you into something that you'd be uncomfortable with.
It sounds to me like all you need to do is be real... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to go off to uni when you're in a serious relationship?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months now. I'm 18 and he's 22, every things great. we love each other so much and i am so happy with him. Anyway the problem is, he's a plumber/electrician and still lives with his parent. Whereas i have ...
A. 25 August 2009: Don't worry, it isn't selfish, and if your relationship is as strong as it sounds you guys will figure out a way to make it work - at the moment i'm in the reverse situation; i am going into my A2 year of college at home and my boyfriend will be ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for trying to push my boyfriends "best friend" out of his life?
Q. I hate my boyfriends "best friend" this girl cam out of nowhere in his life. And I can't stand her. Today I got another friend of mine to send her some very hateful messages. And I am glad I did. Hopefully she will get out of his life now. Wh...
A. 23 August 2009: Yes, you are.
Its his life and he can socialise with whoever he wants.
Certainly if she bothered you that much for a good reason you should have spoken to him about it first rather than gone behind his back. For all you know he might have agreed t... (read in full...)
Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?
Q. What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...
A. 20 August 2009: Hi again OP; to clarify, i am the female anon poster from the 17th (finally decided to make an account to avoid confusion!) Thanks for replying to my post directly; im glad you found my post constructive rather than judgemental, as that was its ... (read in full...)
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