Why do men never buy me presents?
Q. I want to know why men do not feel that I deserve presents. I am in a relationship now with someone who (admittedly is in a lot of debt) and he just doesn't get me any gifts. For my birthday he got me a couple of books he picked out whilst in a ...
A. 11 June 2010: I think he makes a lot of fair points - paying his childs maintenance is more important than buying presents.
I understand why it would hurt that he was willing to buy his ex things and not you, but I gather from what youve said that that isnt beca... (read in full...)
Does age matter in a fwb relationship?
Q. Last Summer, I pulled a 25 year old chick at a music festival. It was my first sex for about a year and apparently, she enjoyed it too. I'm only 19 and I think the age difference made it even hotter. Since then, I've been a sorta 'booty call' for...
A. 11 June 2010: I dont really see why it would become an issue, if neither of you are planning to commit. Don't worry about the lack of experience - if she keeps calling you, you're clearly getting it right! Just enjoy it and don't overthink it, I'd say. Good luck ... (read in full...)
One way or the other I'm going to hurt someone, and I'll be hurt too!
Q. please help, i come from a very religious family. we are christians and my family follow the faith to the letter. recently they found out that my best friend is a lesbian through the gossips in our village. they were disgusted. they told me ...
A. 11 June 2010: I would strongly encourage you to tell your parents the truth. If they have a problem with it, then it is THEIR problem, and if they love you they will have to find a way overcome it. I have never understood how the christian concept of (agape) love ... (read in full...)
Why do men never buy me presents?
Q. I want to know why men do not feel that I deserve presents. I am in a relationship now with someone who (admittedly is in a lot of debt) and he just doesn't get me any gifts. For my birthday he got me a couple of books he picked out whilst in a ...
A. 11 June 2010: Do you get him gifts?
If he's in a lot of debt I completely understand why he'd hold back on buying random presents.. especially if he has gotten into that debt by buying expensive things for his exgirlfriend; he probably does not plan on maki... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 11 June 2010: As far as I can tell, this debate between you and your wife has been going on for a long time now, but there has never been deep enough communication to establish exactly why. Since you have no evidence that there has been some significant event in ... (read in full...)
"Over you" songs?
Q. hi! I went through a rough break up, my ex traded me for another woman..and of course I was heart broken and all. A friend who has a major in psychology told me I should listen to music to help me heal. Music normally reflects our feelings and put...
A. 4 June 2010: Gravity - Sara Bareilles... (read in full...)
Why did this girl ignore me when I tried to ask her out?
Q. There's a very shy girl in school and she knows I like her and up until a few hours ago I thought she liked me. She had all the textbook signs of a shy girl with a crush on me and she never showed any signs of disinterest. So I thought I'd ask her ...
A. 3 June 2010: She could just have been having a bad day. Plus if she's shy and slightly insecure she may well have convinced herself that you couldnt like her, so feel embarassed for dropping her books and things and try to rush off...
Basically I wouldn't give... (read in full...)
Are women dating guys for money? To look good?
Q. hey ! im just wondering are women all the same ? heres my story ive dated this girl for about a year . im not the richest person don't make the best wages . the ex was a big spender loved to eat out fancy places , designer clothes , bags, ...
A. 3 June 2010: No, that isn't all women. My boyfriend and I split the cost of whatever we do together, and are both working, aswell as being in education. Sometimes he buys me things, sometimes I buy him things - everything evens out eventually.
You're just goin... (read in full...)
He cheated and then almost killed himself! Do I give him another chance?
Q. hello. i need help.... MY boyfriend of 8 months has been cheating on me with his ex.. on day i was hanging out at home when his ex girlfriend came to my house and told meh everything. ill tell u the convorsation " Yeah. hes been h...
A. 2 June 2010: Let him go.
First of all, he was with her "only for sex"? How does that justify him cheating of you? Who cares if he wasnt planning to leave you for her; he was sneaking around behind your back and clearly thinks its justifiable. Which it isnt.
Se... (read in full...)
My boyrfriend has addictions to drugs and harming people and animals
Q. Hey guys, I have a problem that I'm coping with and I would appreciate it if you could help! Recently I hooked up with a boy from my team sport. He's fifteen, I'm sixteen, despite the age on my account. Anyway, I'm really into him and he's extremel...
A. 1 June 2010: Harming animals is one of the most obvious signs of psychopathy, and I am not trying to scare you but if you look at the profile of any serial killer, harming animals is one of the earliest visible behaviours of abnormality. The fact he actually ... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 30 May 2010: I think you should tell John.
I completely understand you not wanting to hurt him by forcing him to face this, but isnt that what got you into this mess in the first place? From what Ive read, it seems you only really married him because you felt... (read in full...)
Help!!! Are these rumours true???
Q. On Friday night I was out celebrating with friends as we've just left college. I'm a lightweight compared to them as I don't drink often, and had close to nothing to eat that day. Now I can't remember much from the night, but stories have got back...
A. 30 May 2010: Do not start accusing him of rape over rumours you have heard. The best way for you to determine what happened is speak directly to him about it, to find out what actually happened - i imagine that the people who are passing on this information to ... (read in full...)
Wife having affairs with my consent, is this wrong?
Q. Why do l get turned on by other men sleeping with my wife? It is now a regular thing for her to have 2 or 3 men who she is seeing . She loves me and we have been married 22 yrs , but wants to have her lovers and me . Is that Wrong ?...
A. 30 May 2010: If you're both happy with the arrangement, then I don't see a problem. It might not be conventional, but it doesn't matter what other people are doing in their marriages - stick with what makes yours work. ]
However if at any point either of you ... (read in full...)
Aprehensive about moving with my boyfriend..and now starting to consider getting back with first love who is still keen..
Q. Hi,I have been in a long distance relationship for the past two years plus but recently my ex-boyfriend has gotten back in contact with me and told me he has feelings for me and he knows I have a bf but he asked me think about getting back with him. ...
A. 30 May 2010: Moving across the country to live with your boyfriend is a massive step; I completely understand why you would be apprehensive! I think its likely youve wound yourself up about your ex's contact with you because he represents familiarity, which is ... (read in full...)
I really want to leave him... but what about my kids?
Q. I have married for 7 years with a 3 year old kid. My husband is a good father but not a good husband. Since the kid was born, we seldom have sex. The last time we had sex was more than a year ago. I confronted him last week. He said he treated ...
A. 30 May 2010: Please leave, you deserve to find a partner who loves you, and you arent doing your kids any favours by raising them in a loveless household! How do you think the atmosphere in the home will be after a few years of building disappointment and ... (read in full...)
Where are the good men????
Q. I've been dating a man for over two years. We went into this relationship saying that we didn't want anything serious but over time I have fallen in love with him and care a lot about him. I expressed my feelings to him a few weeks ago only to have ...
A. 26 May 2010: I think the problem here is that you explicitly stated that you didnt want anything serious... so clearly your u-turn when telling him that you did was not something he was prepared for, and apparently not something he feels inclined to consider.
I... (read in full...)
My mother and sister are fuming because I didn't let them use my facebook account to look at photos
Q. My mother and sister are mad at me because they wanted to use my facebook profile to look at photos of my friends and family. Now they’re not talking to me. I didn’t let her because it’s my account and those people chose to share those thin...
A. 26 May 2010: Why don't you just log on yourself and show her the photos while you're there? Then you're not letting her onto your private account (which youre right, deserves to stay private), but she gets to see the photos of her family that theyve put up. ... (read in full...)
Need help on how to win him back, what can I do?
Q. [Mod note to poster: TURN OFF YOUR CAPS LOCK. All caps is considered to be shouting and is difficult to read] Hi everyone. I love psychology and i want answers based upon men psychology. I used to have a ex bf who was obsessed with me and thou...
A. 22 May 2010: All of those "male psychology" things you seem to have been trying (ignore them, reverse the situation etc) are a load of rubbish. If you really like him, stop playing all these mind games. Naturally people are going to lose interest if they feel ... (read in full...)
My past is haunting me.....
Q. i have recently been remembering things that had happened to me. it all came flooding back. at the ages 6-8 someone sexually molested me. i dont know who did this to me, but i know it did happen. i can clearly remember what whoever it was did to me, ...
A. 18 May 2010: Don't feel that what happened to you isnt bad just because someone, somewhere has had worse. You have every right to feel how you want to feel about this, and I completely understand you feeling terribly uncomfortable and unhappy right now.
I thin... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 18 May 2010: Hi, this one is tricky. I tend to go with whatever my own heart and head are telling me, but will take what my friends/family are saying into account. Sometimes when we feel like we like someone, we become blind to their flaws and ways they could ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in a time warp. Is anything ever going to change?
Q. Every time someone tries to help me, I throw it back in their face because I am disappointed with everything that's happened to me in the past. The worst years of my life was from the ages of 14 to 19. The years 1994 to 1998 were bloody terrible....
A. 15 May 2010: Hi, having read your followups I have one question before I try to offer you some advice - what exactly do you mean by your psychologist "judging" you on that period of your life? In regard to what the other aunts have said, I would agree that this ... (read in full...)
Did we both cheat and do two wrongs make a right?
Q. I have been married for almost 7 years, About 5 years ago I caught him on a porn site doing his business in front of the computer and it really made me mad. He never takes blame for aanything. He told me since the sex was not often enough he got i...
A. 15 May 2010: I would agree with rambini. Porn involves no actual interaction with another human being, so unless a person is replacing intimacy with their partner with porn I personally don't see it as a betrayal. Whereas actually sleeping with another person is ... (read in full...)
My wife is afraid to swallow. What can I do to help her get rid of this little fear?
Q. I have a great relationship with my wife and we love each other very much. She and I give each other oral sex. The thing is that I have asked her if she will swalow and she has said yes but she just can't bring herself to do it. What can I do ...
A. 15 May 2010: I think Tishas solution is definitely the fairest.... (read in full...)
Are there any ways to get rid of excess skin after losing weight?
Q. I'm 5' feet tall, I recently lost weight ( and continue to do so in a healthy way) I went from 170 to 150 in four months, eating healthy food and going to gym, since January of this year. I am wondering if I will need surgery to remove any fat ...
A. 14 May 2010: It sounds like youre losing weight at a sensible rate, and are young so your skin is still pretty elastic, so you shouldnt have too much of a problem with excess skin, i don't think! :)... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 14 May 2010: Carrot2000 is completely right, pay attention to her.... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 13 May 2010: Hi, thanks for the response. Trust me, cheating on her will hurt her far more than a conversation will. I don't see how you don't get that.
Stop trying to guess what her sexual past might be, and what her views on sex are. If you're married to her,... (read in full...)
Am I still covered by the morning after pill that I took in the morning?
Q. I took the aftermorning pill yesturday and had unprotected sex again on the night time, will that pill still cover me or will i have to go for another one?...
A. 12 May 2010: You shouldnt be using the morning after pill as regular contraception - it is meant for emergency use, as it can have an extremely negative effect on your hormonal system. What you should do is start using condoms/the contraceptive pill, or some ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and seeing a 15 year old girl, is this wrong?
Q. I'm so confused right now, I've been hanging out with this girl for the last few weeks and we got on really well, then we admitted we have feelings for eachother and so I asked her to be my girlfriend yesterday, she said yes which I was overjoyed ...
A. 12 May 2010: So long as you're not pressuring her into anything sexual and her parents are fine with it, I'd say just let yourself enjoy it. My boyfriend was 20 and I was 16 when we started our relationship - we never felt the age gap. Some people do, some ... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 12 May 2010: Or, y'know, what Q said.... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 12 May 2010: I feel like it shouldnt have to be explained why cheating in this situation is a terrible idea...
Your wife is clearly still uncomfortable with herself and sex on some level - needing the lights dimmed and a specific routine is evidence for this... (read in full...)
My teacher won't mark my work!! What should I do?
Q. I did all my work. I went to hand it in and my teacher opened the door she said no. She then shut the door in my face. What am I gonna do?? if she doesnt mark it I've failed:(2 years in college(not university):( I dont know what I have done...
A. 11 May 2010: Take it to a different member of staff in her department, or a senior member of staff. Explain that you have completed your work, and show it to them - then your teacher can't claim you missed the deadline. Don't get emotional or accusing. Tell them ... (read in full...)
I had a dream my bf cheated on me!
Q. I had a dream my boyfriend cheated on me.? He had sex with some girl in a closet, then some where else too but he wouldn't confess that. Then he was telling me all of this like he didn't care, like this was nothing. I woke up with my heart poundin...
A. 11 May 2010: Honestly I wouldnt overthink it, unless you are consciously unhappy with/insecure in your relationship. Sure, some dreams have meaning, but a lot are just random connections your mind makes in your sleep. If your boyfriend is giving you no reason to ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a relationship but still wants to kiss and all that
Q. Well I sorta have a problem.... I really like this guy. And he says he is attracted to Me just does not want a relation ship right now. But he wants to act the same way he has been. Like kissin and all that with Me.... Idk what I should do.? Keep ...
A. 7 May 2010: If I were you I'd cut him off. At the moment he's getting all the benefits of a relationship without actually having to put in the work to maintain it - basically, (and I don't mean to be harsh, just honest) he's stringing you along because he likes ... (read in full...)
Should I hound my husband or just see if he will follow through on what he promised?
Q. My husband's intimacy issues and sexual hang-ups stem from his addiction to adult pornography websites. He has not been able to transcend his addictions to having a normal sex life with me. This is actually been going on for the past 12 years ...
A. 7 May 2010: rider1, I dont think the fem anon was trying to imply it was all your fault, more that you should follow a supportive approach - don't hound your husband or consider throwing away your marriage just yet, at least he is showing good signs of ... (read in full...)
A much older married man says he loves me as well as his wife, how can this be?
Q. hi, i m a 25 yrs old acrective girl,my problem is that i m in love with a married man he is 43 yrs old.he has one child 14 yrs old.and his marrige is also love marrige.he loves her too much,but he saying he loves me too much also how can its ...
A. 30 March 2010: He doesnt love you, he loves having sex with a younger woman - I imagine he feels like the sexiest man on earth, getting it from both you and his wife without any trouble.
That may seem blunt, but thats whats happening, and its up to you to be stro... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my husband or my lover?
Q. I'm married but start loving to anish my boyfriend.My husband also love me but i never like his attitude and arguments ? I can't divorced with my husband because our family not permitted this they try to solve the problem between me and my husband ...
A. 29 March 2010: Your husband doesnt deserve to be lied to and cheated on.
You claim there isnt a problem in your marriage, but surely all this doubt and deception is a fairly big problem?
One of them has to leave the picture before you can pursue a proper r... (read in full...)
Love... maybe???
Q. He makes me smile, laugh, and love my life even when I'm down. He is different than the others I've dated. My only concern is if I'm too young to be in love with him. To start off I'm 17 and he is 20. I knew even before we started dating it was ...
A. 19 March 2010: Might be too young to call him "the one" - I personally don't believe in soul mates so can't comment on that one! But you're not too young to be in love. I was 16 when I met my 20 year old, and can confidently tell you I was, and am still, in love ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt either of them...
Q. Ok, so im a 15 year old girl and i have a problem. i like 2 guys. the first one is so sweet and funny. i wont say love... but the strongest feelings i've ever had for a boy are for him.. its not just a little crush. Boy number 2 is amazing. alth...
A. 19 March 2010: That is a tough one.. Its horrible having feelings for someone you know you cant have, and kudos to you for respecting your friend and not trying to break up their relationship :)
As for boy number 2, you said you do have genuine feelings for him,... (read in full...)
4 months into his marriage and he started dating me... how do you see my future?
Q. He asked me out and i said no for a whole year because i thought he wasnt serious. Then he got married but didnt stop, i thought my feelings would disappear but they havent. 4 months into his marriage we started dating and i have never been ...
A. 19 March 2010: Honestly I see a lot of unnecessary drama in your future. Why would you constantly turn him down for an entire year, only to start something with him when he becomes unavailable?? You are asking for trouble.
If he does not divorce his wife, stop... (read in full...)
Is 7 months too long to wait to have sex?
Q. I've been going out with a girl for 7 months now and we havent had sex. Is this normal because it seems every other couple around us is. And it makes be almost frustrated that we aren't, and wonder whether im in a strong relationship, i dont know ...
A. 19 March 2010: If your girlfriend is around the same age you are, 7 months is not a particularly long time to wait. If she's a virgin shes likely to want her first time to happen when she feels everythings right.
Don't compare your relationship to others - you ... (read in full...)
I believe she's the one but I'm scared
Q. So first i'd like to thank everyone for viewing my question it means a lot that your willing to help people you don't know with no strings attached =). Ok so I met this girl in 6th grade at a lunch table when we just started talking about chicken ...
A. 17 March 2010: I don't think theres much of a question here, i know its scary to think about taking that step from friendship to relationship because there is so much of the unknown attached, but it sounds like you and your girl have something really special ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to say no to being her daughter's godmother because my friend has never bought my son anything?
Q. my bestfriend and I been friends for over 10 years good bad happy and sad. I had a beautiful baby boy in 2006 and of course she is the nanny. My son is 4 years old and she hasn't did anything for him haven't brought nothing ! I can only recall her ...
A. 17 March 2010: I'm confused, why do you think she should buy things for your son? You're his mother... I'm sure she doesnt mean she wants you to be the godmother so you can provide her child with anything material, just love and security.... (read in full...)
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