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writes: I'm confused about what to do with a certain friend of mine. When her life isn't going well, when she's sad or lonely and she needs a friend she'll call me or e-mail me asking to hang out, but when everything is going well for her she completely forgets about me or calls just to brag about what is going on with her life. But now usually if everything is going well, I just don't hear from her. I e-mail and call her, and she won't reply or will replay later on. Should I make attempts to just be polite and social if she does contact me, or am I being used and should I just drop her? Reply to this Question
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 Drop her. She sounds like the kind of self-centered person who values herself far more than she values your friendship - you are useful to make her feel popular when she doesnt have anyone else to talk to, but when things are going fine in her life she doesnt need you for anything, therefore cant be bothered with you. And you deserve better than that. I had a friend like that and after a while i just had to cut contact - if not for any other reason than i found her constant coming to me when there was drama in her life and she needed help, and then not bothering with me when things were good, exhausting to deal with. It also ate at my self-esteem in periods where she ignored me, and I decided it just was not worth the hassle anymore. No regrets. Good luck :)
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