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writes:I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the Christmas holidays are coming shes been acting weird. we have one more year left of school before we are free and shes been acting like she wont be able to make it through and ive been saying that she needs to bare with me for the last year and shes been saying that she doesnt know if she can and stuff like that even though she says that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and so do i, although i know some of u might say that we are too young to be thinking of that now but watevs. We've been talking about our future together but now shes being weird and i dont know wat to do. ive been trying to talk to her and help her see that we can get through together if we work at it but it doesnt seem to be working because shes replying with these "mmk"s and "mhm"s which seem sarcastic and when i ask if they are she says she doesnt know..:Scan anyone tell me what i can do to fix this?
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reader, rose the relationship solver  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 ask her if it what she reli wants or both of you just try and calm down on the future business and get ur life sorted out 1st not meening to sound harsh but i did exactli what u 2 r doin and i ended up engaged and a kid at 17...u dont want that surely not yet :S get college and stuff out the way 1st since u onli been togetther 4 months, give it a chance...good luck
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reader, lammy +, writes (20 November 2009):
lammy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not the one who's insisting on talking about our future though:S we both do it?
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (20 November 2009):
darl, you havent got long left till you finish school and planning the rest of your lives together is going to be a bit stressfull if....your not going to the same college or you live no where near each other or she may be moving, sit her down and talk to her if not then talk to her mum or dad they might get something out of her ok good luck .
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reader, Accountable +, writes (20 November 2009):
 Stop pressuring her by insisting on talking about your future. I'm your age and if my boyfriend started putting those sorts of expectations on me it would scare me a bit, even though i know i dont want the relationship to end anytime soon. Mapping out your whole lives together is scary and unnecessary; things rarely, if ever, go to plan and you'll just make her feel like shes being trapped.If i were you, I'd back off a bit - let her know that you love her but stop making her feel like she has commit her whole life to you.
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