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writes:is this a bad way of thinking? if i want a baby i dont care what he [my boyfriend of six months] thinks if he wants to be around then he can if not then oh well? i can financially support a child on my own as well.. cuz the more i think about it alot of wealthier women who have wasted too much of their lives on their career just go to a sperm bank per say or have a surrogate mother..im just asking for advice here so can you guys give me your input? i have plenty of timw for child bc i work from home i own my own business sell things like pottery and little sculptures/wax ceramic and clay..i do quite well . thanks in advance..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009):
If there were any justice in our society for fathers, then a woman would be thrown into jail for years if it can be proven that she got pregnant intentionally against the father's will. This shit is not a joke.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Yes, thats a bad way to think. If your boyfriend doesnt want a child at the moment, he has the right not to have a child at the moment. That child would only be 50% yours, and he deserves to have a choice over something so huge as becoming a parent!
If you want a child so desperately that you don't care who the father is, leave your boyfriend and find a man who doesnt care that he doesnt know his baby. And make sure you actually can finance the child alone - its easy to say "oh sure, i do well enough that i can raise a kid" but the realities of it are more than you imagine. How is your business going to thrive if you're devoting all your time to a baby, as a single mother? Just a few things to think about. Good luck, I hope you think about this carefully and then make whatever choice is right for you. :)
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Its normal for many girls to think about having babies. There is often no ideal time to have one but having a baby when young is easier in some ways than later on in life. You are closer to your baby in age as it grows up. Certainly it would help to have the father around to help you but many girls manage on their own. Good luck whatever you decide to do :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Thinking about wanting a kid is perfectly normal for a woman. Having a financial support from your side is very important for the child and yourself. Here is one problem though that you might want to address: If you boyfriend does not want a baby, you may have difficulty making him 'cum inside you' to create a kid. Creating a child also alters the family state dramatically -- things are going to change. This may cause your boyfriend to leave, even forever. You do not want to raise a child without a husband/father and you may face a difficulty at finding a new husband after you already get a baby. I would suggest that you try your best to hold that thought of making a child and find yourself an older, more passionate husband that would support your desire for a child. Hope that helped.
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