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I told my husband about my affair and now I know he will never be with me again

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Question - (28 May 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 May 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

So I told my separated husband the truth about the affair I was having during the split. I believe that it help but I know I lost him for good. There is a pregnancy involved that happen from the affair.i dont know exactly how I feel about my husband but unsure of my lover. I do feel like I just thrown my life away. Im hurt crying and I have form some depression. I dont leave the house only for work and to take the daughter I have with my husband to school. I dont know what to do. Part of me wants to fight for my husband but I done hurt him to much. I think I mainly got this deep in cuz he left me. Any advise will help.....

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A male reader, a-g55 United Kingdom +, writes (28 May 2011):

a-g55 agony auntI would advise that you just sit back and dont make any contact with him. he will come back if he wants. nothing you can do to try and fight for him will make a difference. now you must wait to be forgiven.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (28 May 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntYou need to pull yourself together, if not for the sake of yourself well then for your daughter and your unborn child. I understand that you must be going through a hard time at the moment. Your husband left you and you fell straight in to the arms of another man. You need to realise you were not the one having an affair your husband left you, therefore you shouldnt feel like you done anything wrong.

I see now that you probably did make a mistake of falling in to the arms of your lover, but you were hurt and vulnerable. If you are unsure of your feelings for your lover well then I think the best thing to do for both of you is to finish it and tell him you are just not ready for a relationship. You need time to clear your head and get your life back in order.

When it comes to your husband well then you need to get to the bottom of why he left you, there is obviously some reason. So maybe it would be a good idea for the both of you to meet up and talk to each other openly tell each other how you feel and see where it goes from there. Also if you believe you are suffering from depression well then I suggest that you go to your local doctor and ask for some help. Good Luck.

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