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Advice on Dating For Guys
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24 May 2011: I would like to share advice when dating. I am a life coach and most of my clients always want me to help them in this area. Opening Conversation: Women dont like feeling like they are being hit on. And will reject you if they feel like the...
How to build a relationship
No replies yet... 24 May 2011: Truth is that its just not a natural phenomena for two humans to have what we call a relationship. So that means its down to management and people skills. Most people don’t possess these skills. They let their emotions drive their decisions an...
A relationship is like building a house!!!
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28 May 2008: Truth is that its just not a natural phenomena for two humans to have what we call a relationship. So that means its down to management and people skills. Most people don’t possess these skills. They let their emotions drive their decisions a...
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How can I make him listen to me?
Q. hi..i have been in a relationship for five years now, since college..i am still continuing my studies, while he had just graduated and is currently working in the medical field..i love my partner very very much..he says that he loves me too..he ...
A. 24 May 2011: It wont be a quick solution but I have the same problem. im just like you in the respect i am passive and let things go. i didnt put my foot down in the first place and now i am i get into alot of arguements but i am slowly winning back my power in ... (read in full...)
How can I make him listen to me?
Q. hi..i have been in a relationship for five years now, since college..i am still continuing my studies, while he had just graduated and is currently working in the medical field..i love my partner very very much..he says that he loves me too..he ...
A. 13 May 2011: he has the common personality train that exists in only child men, mothers boys.
you would need to be a psycologist to change that.
dont give your opinion on his purchases. just push your opinion strongly on your own purchases. repli... (read in full...)
Don't know what she means, please help me!!!
Q. Please help me! I just don't know what she means now or she really doesn't want this relationship anymore? Really sorry for the long post but i'm really out now and don't know how to explain it... Thanks so much if u can help me! The questions ...
A. 13 May 2011: theres nothing much you can do here apart from do as she asks. it seems as if she is politely sparing your feelings. theres another hidden reason there.
solution. you need to starve her of your attention. set her free. dont talk or contact ... (read in full...)
City girl falling for a country boy, does he like me too?
Q. I just need some clarity without judgment, please! I've known this guy for about five years and over the last couple of years, we've been hanging out a lot. NOT dating; just hanging out and being great friends. Now, I've always been into British ...
A. 13 May 2011: Take a risk, Pull the trigger.
go for it
sounds like he likes you to me... (read in full...)
I like him, she likes him, how can we settle this?
Q. I've secretly like this boy about a year, just a little crush, but I never told anyone. So recently I've liked him alot, we've met up in town and we text alot, and I started to properly like him. But, he has a girlfriend, so I wasnt being flir...
A. 13 May 2011: you have to think logicly.. if your friend wins him over and he dumps his gf for her. they will spend loads of time together and your going to be dumped. and same if you go out with him. dont stand back because you will be dumped yourself. ... (read in full...)
She hugs me a lot, does she like me?
Q. i like this girl in my class. I've seen her looking at me across the room and she's been hugging me more, i have no idea if she likes me for real or if she's just being friendly. Also i can't stop thinking about her, whatever i do i'm always ...
A. 13 May 2011: Take a look at her ex boyfriends. if there bad lads then you need to take a different approach to the one about. however if she tends to go out with nicer, more emotionally in touch guys then take the approach above. complimenting girls is a ... (read in full...)
My close friend is friends with girls who bullied me!
Q. I have a friend who I don't see very often but we're close and can talk about anything. She went on a school trip abroad with these girls who used to bully me at school and still talk about me behind my back. The only problem is is everyone thin...
A. 13 May 2011: Dont worry to much about this. its natrual. School is a popularity contest! kids go with the crowd. bullies tend to be the most popular kids. any chance a not so popular kid can increase thier profile they will. unless your a popular girl theres ... (read in full...)
The choice between self-respect and love.....
Q. i need help in making a decision, i dont know whether me and my boyfriend should be apart, my family have come between us. my brother accusing my boyfriend of sleeping with his wife, which is absolutely ridiculous, as he doesnt even know what she ...
A. 13 May 2011: you need to call it a day if this will never stop.
can you really put up with this your whole life
will it stop?... (read in full...)
Is it his fault or my fault that I don't trust him?
Q. im having a boy friend.loving him from past 3 years.he shouts at me of course i even do,but wen i shout he cant tolerate..he stares at girls talk wid tem in the nights but he gets angry even if i talk to a boy casually.he used to go near one girls ...
A. 29 October 2010: his fault. if you have expressed that it hurts you when he spends time with other girls then he should respect that. if he keeps on doing it then your trust will not build up for him.... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am "the one"?
Q. Hello people, I came here because I need a few answers. I'm confused and I really don't know what to do/think... So we've been a couple for 14 months now and so far we have a great relationship. We're both virgins, but recently we started to ex...
A. 29 October 2010: If you want to have sex with him. then have it! its no big deal. its making love. as long as he makes it special with candles and sets the mood right it will make you fall more in love with each other. but the best time to do it is as a reward to ... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me and stare at other girls? I cant take much more of this but he keeps begging for a second chance....
Q. Why would my boyfriend do that? am really hurt:(? my boyfriend claims he loves me very much but i dont feel his love..he doesn't make me feel special, he doesn't give me the attention i need.. me on the other hand gives him all the love and a...
A. 29 October 2010: Im wondering if you are my girlfriend lol. I am the guy in this situation. everything you have described is me except I dont look at other girls so much. I cant explain how he feels but i can explain how I feel in response to that. I love my ... (read in full...)
Sex is not like it normally is, what could be wrong with him?
Q. my partner has not been having sex like a normal, random guys on the street he does complains of emptiness in him, tiredness. What kind of drug can be prescribe for us, or solutions....
A. 29 October 2010: the general rule is that if a person is behaving a certain way in a relationship it is often you who is responsible and your actions. ask your self this: does another person have to work to get my attention and affection or do I give everything to ... (read in full...)
How do I get past my insecurities about my appearance?
Q. Pretty much all my life i've been insecure about my appearance. I'm 5'7 126 pounds with auburn hair and hazel eyes. People have told me i'm attractive sometimes even "stunning". I just can't see it myself, i hate having my photo taken or looking at ...
A. 29 October 2010: Try hypnotherapy. councellors usually fail with any psycological help. Go to inspiring, spiritual and non-conventional thinking people. they tend to offer the best help. The downside is that it is a cost too you but by the time you have been through ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't get hard enough to have sex
Q. i need help when im with my boyfriend he cant get hard enough to make love to me weve been together off and on for 5 years now and we havent been able to make propper love making please hel ...
A. 12 July 2009: See a doctor See a hypnotherapist if its psychological If if none of the above works. Viagra will last resort....Anal stimulation... (read in full...)
What makes a guy suddenly want a break from sex?
Q. I just want to know from guys, but not just mainly... What would actually make a guy decide that they suddenly wanna take a break from sex? I'm just wondering....
A. 12 July 2009: So many things. Look out for clues about how he acts. Think about all the possible reaction and call his bluff to gauge a reaction. If he is messing about with other girls you want to know sooner than later. However this may not be the case.... It ... (read in full...)
I cannot forgive myself for my past mistakes
Q. theres something wrong with me. i cant ever seem to feel good about myself. recently i heard my ex got married and i was very upset by this news-so much so ive been in tears o and off the last 3 months-i know im sad at the same time ive just...
A. 12 July 2009: You sound like you just need someone who knows what their talking about to spend a few hours fixing you. You're in a depression spiral and you just feel like everyday that goes by is making you sink further. Somewhere along the line you just need to ... (read in full...)
She only sees me as a friend but I really, really like her
Q. Well, I've liked this girl for a few months now and we've become good friends. She's always acted awkwardly around me in person but she's always talkative and social when I text her or we talk on msn. Recently I told her my feelings and she said ...
A. 12 July 2009: I feel your pain mate. Its a tricky one I have been in the situation myself. Its a skill you learn to control your feelings for people and change them. Its probably the most difficult skill and some people argue you cant help who you fall for. I ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my boyfriend betraying my trust?
Q. First off. I love my boyfriend and I will not break up with him so please do not encourage me to do so, your efforts would be in vain. Throughout our relationship , alcohol has never been an option. He would never let me drink and he made me s...
A. 12 July 2009: You mentioned at the beginning that you don't want people to recommend you split up with your boyfriend, however you have just described someone so hypocritical he deserves it.However I shall take a different attitude on this. In His mind your hi... (read in full...)
Is it because of excessively watching porn videos that I have difficulty in maintaining an erection?
Q. who thinks that the porn industry wrecks men's sex lives? who thinks porn and to much sexual images causes damage in erections? the reason im asking this question is because for many years i used to masterbate to porn ( 11 years to be exact) b...
A. 21 June 2008: Our bodies are constructed perfectly to be able to do what is nessesary in life. an erection is controlled by the olfactory in the brain. an emotion creats a chemical which causes you to feel aroused called dopamine , seratonin and endopinephrine. ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with a suicidal girl?
Q. How do i break up with a girl i've been dating for 10 months when she has a past history of being suicidal and says she couldn't live without me. also she lost her virginity to me to make things that much harder. no matter what i want to stay ...
A. 3 June 2008: You seem very stuck there lol. No matter what you do or say she will do what she feels. and you can never predict a suicidal girls feelings. in her head she has an idea of what she would do if she lost you. she hasnt got many ideas depending on how ... (read in full...)
I am always initiating contact, but I want to persue this relationship to a higher level. how do I do this?
Q. Hi. I have a good guy friend whom I know for almost 7 years. We lost contact in between, as he was studying overseas. in the past 2 years, we got back in touch. We have a good time meeting each time he returns from overseas. I feel that we ha...
A. 1 June 2008: You have very good foundations to proceed to the next level. when you express to your friend that your feelings are stronger then you will both magically veer off into something on a higher level. so all you really want to say is that your feelings ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that this will ruin our friendship!!
Q. theres this boy. and he is totally amazing. hes deffinitley my bestest guy friend. i can talk to him about anything and everything and i love it. i love him sooo much and he loves me to. we both know how we feel abouht eachother but im afraid that ...
A. 1 June 2008: You have 2 main choices. You can either be mrs nice and let it happen for thier happyness and just deal with the sufering.
or
Get in there and tell him that you dont want him doing going out with your friend.... then he will say why. and you... (read in full...)
I'm going out of my mind. Why is he so afraid?
Q. I'm going out of my mind!!! He wants me, he soesn't want me, he wants me, then he doesn't...Why is he so SCARED!!! First he was afraid of getting close to me because of some screwed up relationships in the past, then he took a chance. Then he ...
A. 1 June 2008: Do something mindblowing. Symbolize to him that your here to say. plan something special that proves what you would say. for example buy something that has something connecting you like a pendant necklace with your photos for example. then have the ... (read in full...)
Do dreams mean anything?
Q. I know there are people out there who spend their whole lies to analyze dreams and do it for a living, but i wanna know from your own experiences, do dreams (in regards to relationships) mean anything... I'm asking cause just last night i had a dr...
A. 1 June 2008: When your dreaming your subconcious is very active. your subconcious hold every single memory of every single object, word, person, thing that has come into your zone of eye sight. every smell that you have experienced. every emotion and feeling ... (read in full...)
I feel really shy to ask him or even give hints that I'm in love with him!
Q. i have been in love with my step cousin for ages now but i dont know how he feels about me. i feel really shy to ask him or even give hints. everytime i see, which isnt really often i love him even more. what can i do so i dont make myself look ...
A. 1 June 2008: awwwwwwwww how cute. Next time you see him. just act normal as you usualy do. and when you go, give him a sweet kiss on the cheek and turn around and go. he will follow that up by text or msn later and there you go... you broken the ice!!!!... (read in full...)
I just cant get hold of him I just keep crying waiting to hear from him!
Q. Hey guys im in need of some help!! friday nite after not hearing anything from my boyfriend i decided to text him and we got into a bit of an arguement! i havent spoken to him since then he said his battery is dead and his phone is off!!! ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you deserved some reasurance. at the moment he might be enjoying the fact your in suspense. Within the next week it could be make or break! lets be sensible here. he hasnt disapeered forever!! he is still obtainable it just depends how far ... (read in full...)
I just cant get hold of him I just keep crying waiting to hear from him!
Q. Hey guys im in need of some help!! friday nite after not hearing anything from my boyfriend i decided to text him and we got into a bit of an arguement! i havent spoken to him since then he said his battery is dead and his phone is off!!! ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you deserved some reasurance. at the moment he might be enjoying the fact your in suspense. Within the next week it could be make or break! lets be sensible here. he hasnt disapeered forever!! he is still obtainable it just depends how far ... (read in full...)
Unrequited Love with an American Girl!
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old male from England. My Best Friend has a wide family. His Dad left for an American Girl and they ran away together to America to live happily ever after. Well, he has a Sister (she's not even his Sister, they just treat...
A. 1 June 2008: Ok thats still fine but how can you measure friendship??????? you cant really find a way. if you do find a way you will just be justifying that you are friends.
friendship is a word. you cant see friendship its not something that exists.
howe... (read in full...)
Unrequited Love with an American Girl!
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old male from England. My Best Friend has a wide family. His Dad left for an American Girl and they ran away together to America to live happily ever after. Well, he has a Sister (she's not even his Sister, they just treat...
A. 1 June 2008: You have these thoughts in your head about what you want but you keep teeling yourself they will never happen. You may think there is only one reality and that is this earth but you will be wrong. everyones brain is a version of thier own reality. ... (read in full...)
Is there prejudice against bisexuals?
Q. If it is okay to be bisexual then why do bisexual people have to hide it? Why do our parents scream at us about it?...
A. 1 June 2008: There is prejudice against. Inbreds, black people, asians, americans, british, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, prearranged marrige, people with piercings, goths, disabled people, cheaters, sex before marrige, criminals.
there is a lot of prejudic... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling so lovesick?
Q. I'm having a crush with this girl for over 3 years now, but 4 months ago I learned she moved on by dating another guy for 5 months already. So I tried to forget about her, but everything I did at this point kept reminding me of her. I can hardly ...
A. 1 June 2008: Yes. go and find someone who knows hypnotism. when your in trance your love sick can just be erased instantly or maybe a few sessions. but if not then you should just ride it out!... (read in full...)
Will guys see me as a slut now?
Q. I was wondering if i was a slut. Its been on my mind for a while now. I am 15 and I am not in a relationship but lost my virginity recently. He wasn't my bf, but i really like him and don't regret it. Well anyway I did most things with him (bj, ...
A. 30 May 2008: some will some wont. the one that will you dont want anyway, the ones that do are probably maturer people. girls will think your a slut when there jealous of the fact that your maturing faster than them. please just go out there and do what the hell ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a 15 year old to go out with a 30 year old?
Q. i just wanted some advice really im 15 and going out with a 30year old is it illegal?? ...
A. 30 May 2008: Dont worry about laws and governments. the 30 year old should know better but it might not be so taboo in your country. if it feels right then go with it!... (read in full...)
What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex and think it's fine to not respect her boundaries??
Q. What makes a guy try to pressure a girl into sex? What makes a guy not listen to a girl when she says 'no'? What makes him think its ok to not respect her boundaires? And what makes a guy so controlling? I know those are all general questions, but ...
A. 30 May 2008: With any other animal men are geneticly programmed to have sex with as many girls as possible. its been the instinct for millions of years now. since the past few hundred to a thousand years we have introduced marrige and the moral that you must ... (read in full...)
We are going to soon discuss our differences face to face, how can I tell him I am ready for more in spite of my young age?
Q. my bf and i have hit a really rough patch he is talkin about breakin up as i think the age diff between us is gettin to him (am 16 and he is turnin 22) i really dont want it to be the end but he keeps talkin about how he doesnt want to rush things ...
A. 30 May 2008: Remember it could be a smokescreen. it could be the nice excuse that only you should hear to let you down gently. or it could be a cry out for you to realise your too clingy and back off a bit and give some space. or it could be the truth. you need ... (read in full...)
Can a boy really change for a girl? Stop smoking, drinking, doing drugs etc?
Q. Can a boy really change for a girl? not look wise, but habbit wise, such as stop smoking, drinking and doing drugs and start trying to get a good education? i met a boy who i have known for 3 weeks, we are both 15 and he has told me he loves me a...
A. 30 May 2008: He is going to have sex with you and use you. FACT. your going to get treated like shit and your going to be let down by him. i say this because i can make assumptions on people based on what things the say and do, because im a psycologist and i ... (read in full...)
We are expecting our first child but she did not want to stay together for the sake of the baby as she no longer loves me, I cannot imagine being intimate with another woman...
Q. I split with my girlfriend 2 months ago, we are expecting our first child, she did not want to stay together for the sake of the baby as she no loger loves me. I feel very lonley very isolated, every night i dream of my ex and i wake up upset beca...
A. 30 May 2008: I actually feel the same pain when i read that. I think everyone will tell you to sit and talk to someone about it and hopefully somebody might reassure you and make you feel better but what i can suggest is this.... im assuming that there still is ... (read in full...)
Why does he act like that? I need advice.
Q. Ok.. So I've known my "bf" for a long time. We used to date about 2 years ago, stopped talking. And now we started dating again. We have been dating for about 2 months now. He is nice and everything. But he has a problem. He doesn't call me much...
A. 29 May 2008: The thing about relationships is that you always have an expectation of what the other person should act like. if they dont then you get paranoid. this will eventualy be the death of your relationship. stop worrying. when your together make it fun ... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign, or is he having doubts?
Q. I met a new guy about a month ago, and we just hooked up for the first time last weekend. Ever since then he has talked to me everyday by phone, and a few times a week we'll hang out. Just the other day in front of his friends, he wasn't afraid to ...
A. 29 May 2008: ok please promise me you will completly eradicate all hopes of a relationship with this guy because you have known him a month now and yes at some point soon a relationship will still come of it but you still need good foundations to build upon. ... (read in full...)
Is she rejecting me? She said our friendship was more valuable than a relationship!
Q. My dreams are finally coming true, I finally got the girl I like to talk to me! We are so close, to each other, but she said this "Our friendship is more valuable then a relationship, I like u but id rather be ur friend" is she rejecting me? What ...
A. 29 May 2008: Hi. this could all date back to when you first met her and the first impressions you subliminaly gave off. yes you get talking and you get led on to believe your liked and then get shot down at the end because you slipped into the very annoying ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep going for the wrong kind of guys?
Q. Why do i keep going for the wrong kind of guys? I know I am young, but this trend is starting to worry me. The first serious relationship, he turned out to be violent and broke my nose and slashed my arm with a knife. The second serious relations...
A. 29 May 2008: Now this is a very very very big subject and im not going to sit here and tell you to wait for some guy to magically appear and pass that off as advice. So here is some instruction to build your own relationships that last. Alot of girls search for ... (read in full...)
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