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... Send *ennisstar88 a private message | | | *ennisstar88's profile:Who I am? A 28yr old Army wife. My DH serves, I serve and sacrifice as well. Went to college in my early 20s, economy caught up with me in 08 and dropped out for a bit. I however returned and am down the path to finishing a bachelor's degree. I have also beat my long, 3 year battle with infertility and am expecting a baby this December! Its been a long, pot hole filled road but I am finally where I want to be.
What qualifies me to help you? Vast dating experience, especially in the LDR department, even an international on with an Aussie, broke hearts, had mine broken, been engaged once before, I know what a real friend is, seen the ugly side of divorce coming from a recently broken home myself, even went as far as to tip the odds to my side and use men only to toss them aside like yesterday's garbage like they do women, I know what it's like to almost give up hope on finding the perfect man when he's really only a few boyfriends away, and I'm starting to learn the ropes of married life. I also know a vast deal about the female and male reproductive system, and all about the mental struggles with infertility. On a side note, I'm the one who gives you tough love, I'm not on here to sugarcoat it or to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to give it to you straight up, wouldn't you rather the truth?
-TOP 5 QUESTIONS I CAN'T STAND-
#1. Does this mean my teacher likes me?
Just because they're nice to you, offer extra help, and put a little gold star on your A+ paper doesn't mean they are in love with you.
#2. Could I be pregnant?
Have you not heard of a pregnancy test? Get off this website, and go to your local drugstore.
#3. I'm 14 and I want a baby?
Really? Me too! Oh wait I'm 28 and married. You're how old again?
#4. My husband loves porn more than me!
Maybe if you didn't let yourself go into the frumpy woman you have turned into then he wouldn't have to look at porn now would he? I recommend you get your rear to the salon for highlights, manicure, pedicure, tanning, toss the baggy tees and sweat pants for a wardrobe that fits, and a little makeup goes a long way. It's called basic woman maintenance in order to keep your man's eyes on you.
#5. Will we get back together, how can I get him to love me again?
Unfortunately, my crystal ball is broke at the moment and I just gave away the last of my love potion No. 9. Sorry.
MY GENERAL RULES OF THUMB (this should be common sense)
-No means no.
-Girls can ask out ask guys, this is a new generation.
-Unless you know sign language or are telepathic, you're going to have to talk to him/her.
-My "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy as is follows: Do not by any means volunteer your own sexual history, or ask your date/partner/wife/girlfriend their magic number (how many people they've slept with). If you find yourself being prompted to answer this question, politely tell them that's none of their business.
-Your past doesn't define who you are today. We grow, mature, age, and change as time passes.
-If you have to even ask random strangers on this website if you should have sex, then you're not ready for it.
-FWBs, fuck buddies, no strings attached, whatever you want to call it..is not a relationship don't get the 2 confused. In this case, sex=sex, not love.
-No trust=no relationship.
-It is normal for your husband/boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex, do you not have male friends?
-LDRs can work, however they're not for everyone. You've got to have trust, communication, be faithful, and a lot of hobbies to keep yourself occupied. If you have trust issues, a case of being needy, clingy, problems staying faithful and are in a LDR don't be surprised when it doesn't work. I told you so.
- An ex is an ex for a reason. If you guys couldn't hack it as a couple the first 2 times what makes you think the third time is a charm?
-Going on a "break" is a nice way of breaking up.
-If you have sex with a man and he hasn't called you, or responded to your texts in weeks sorry to say but he was just after a piece of ass.
- Now unless he's getting blown up in Afghanistan, an on call ER doctor, or lying dead in a coffin then he's got no excuse for his poor or lack there of communication.
-You have a 12% chance of your married boyfriend leaving his wife and children.
-A man who is going through a divorce is still legally married. He's about to have an ex wife and you're wanting to get into a relationship with him? That's called a rebound.
-If you're a minor who's just found out she's pregnant, do me and everyone else on this site a favor..Tell your parents.
-Just because some one stares at you, it doesn't mean they like you. They could be staring at that booger hanging out of your nose.
-If you have a lump/bump/cyst/rash that looks green, has oozing puss, and itches like hell, but kinda looks like a STD then you had better consult your doctor. They went through 6 years of schooling and have a license to practice medicine, I think they would know better than random virtual strangers.
-Don't mix business with pleasure. Why? Because if you date your co-worker and in the event things turn sour then you're still stuck facing them 9-5, Mon-Fri. Awkward.
-No matter how hard you try, you can't change a person..they have to make that transformation themselves.
-When your boyfriend/girlfriend says they want space that doesn't mean you do the opposite and bombard them with calls/texts.
-As far as ultimatums go, don't try to make your boyfriend choose between you, his female friends, or weed. You won't like the results.
-If you're 13-17, I'm sorry but you haven't a clue what love really is. You have minimal dating experience confined to the high school dating pool which are nothing but horny boys. Their facial hair doesn't make them a man. It's only till you get out into the real world, a vast dating pool is when you learn the definition of love. So, go on thinking you and 13 year old Tommy will go on to get married, have 3 kids, and a two story house with a white picket fence. I don't expect you to listen, I'm 28 and married, what do I know? There's a reason why everyone says it won't last..because it doesn't.
-The average penis size erect is 6 inches, 4.85 inches. Women like average to even a little below average. We're not going to bust out a tape measure and measure it to make sure it's up to our standards. We just want to have sex, so enough complaining about your size let's get down and dirty.
- The legal age of consent in the U.S. is 16-18 varying oer state, in Britain it's 16. I think it's safe to say most parts of the world (unless you live in a tribe with their own form of government) the legal age to consent to sex is 16. So yes, all you minors below the age of consent are committing a crime when you engage in sexual activity. The age is set that high for a reason, you are not above the law. |
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2nd date--showing some skin ok?
Q. Is showing a bit of flesh during a date (number 2) acceptable...m just talking about a bit of my back . . .i dun wanna come across as too desperate or something...
A. 6 March 2011: I think showing off your back is absolutely classy with a little sex appeal. Men love it when you wear open back tops, or cut outs. Go for it, it's not inappropriate at all.
Showing off your back is the new cleavage! ... (read in full...)
How can I fix my uneven skin?
Q. Hi peeps!! Basically I have uneven skin. Is there anyway to even it?? I'm black but light skinned so it stands out ALOT. Lemons don't seem to work. Is there anything else? Thanks x...
A. 5 March 2011: On your face or your whole epidermis?
Everyone has uneven skin tones on their face, it's often corrected with make-up. If necessary bronzer.
The only suggestion I have was when I worked at a tanning salon, I had a few black(light) cus... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me, now what?
Q. My boyfriend is telling me he has practically cheated on me, and he told me the reason he was telling me because he didn't want me to get upset by hearing it from someone else but i wish he had never told me. When i see him i just can't get mad, so ...
A. 4 March 2011: All of your posts are about your boyfriend, he's been an ongoing issue.
Your friend flirts with him, he allows it. There's rumors surrounding your relationship, drama with Facebook that he was messaging some girl, and now he's cheated. What's n... (read in full...)
I fancy my boyfriends best mate!
Q. I have a boyfriend and I used to be in love with him, now not so much, I have fallen for his best mate ! But he has a girlfriend , they only got together a few days ago , things seem to be going great for them , but not for me and my boyfriend . He ...
A. 4 March 2011: glad it worked out for you.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to say he does not want to hangout with his girlfriend cause he wants "me time"? I would think its okay but I guess I just wanted to question it just to make sure I feel okay about him not wanting to spend time today.Well ...
A. 4 March 2011: Absolutely, it's perfectly healthy for couples to have their "me" time. It's not good for the relationship to be spending every waking minute together.
Boyfriends/girlfriend request this when they feel that have been spending too much time, to... (read in full...)
What nicknames do girls give to their vaginas?
Q. hiya. im 17 F. i know its a bit silly but my girl friends and i were talking about what nicknames we call our vaginas and we wanted to know more names. we came up with pussy, fluffy and gina. can you help? ...
A. 4 March 2011: -Hot Pocket
-Pikachu (Heard that one on Chelsea Handler)
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My bf is angry at me because I took drugs as part of my religious ceremony!!
Q. Okay basically me and my boyfriend have been together about 8 months. its a long distance relationship. he is 20 and i am 16. we are both different religions. in my religion about once a year on a festival they make a special drink which contains ...
A. 3 March 2011: I'm confused OP, some take the Bhang for it's intended purpose and others drink it to get high?
Another question is I see your flag is UK, is that where you are currently residing? Cannabis is actually illegal there and I couldn't find any clau... (read in full...)
My bf is angry at me because I took drugs as part of my religious ceremony!!
Q. Okay basically me and my boyfriend have been together about 8 months. its a long distance relationship. he is 20 and i am 16. we are both different religions. in my religion about once a year on a festival they make a special drink which contains ...
A. 3 March 2011: Are you Hindu? They have a drink called Bhang that contains cannabis leaves, milk, spices, and flowers.
It sounds like you belong to some cult. Please enlighten us on your religion. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going to prom with someone else!
Q. Hey guys, I am sort of in a dilemma. I am in highschool and I have a girlfriend of about 6 months. We both really like each other, talk everyday, and just generally feel really relaxed and comfortable around each other. But now, as the time for prom ...
A. 3 March 2011: Have you not read any of the advice given??... (read in full...)
Should we keep seeing the therapist?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and recently began having some serious problems in our relationship. We began seeing a couple's therapist two weeks ago. My problem is our therapist. Not only did she tell me that it's my fault ...
A. 2 March 2011: Goodness, whatever happened to what is said in the office stays in the office? I suppose your insurance (if they even pay for it) only covers those therapists.
Just curious, he wouldn't happen to be military and the therapist your seeing is an on... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 2 March 2011: Actually you can sit at the bar and order a soda or water, you just can't be served alcohol. Unfortunately guys are really forward at clubs/bars when they've obviously been drinking(some creepy sober ones too) and come up to grind on your behind. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going to prom with someone else!
Q. Hey guys, I am sort of in a dilemma. I am in highschool and I have a girlfriend of about 6 months. We both really like each other, talk everyday, and just generally feel really relaxed and comfortable around each other. But now, as the time for prom ...
A. 2 March 2011: Well if she tells her parents she can't go to the prom with this family friend then she's going to have a valid explanation. Why lie about you? I'm not saying you have to go over for dinner and meet them. It's just that they need to be aware that ... (read in full...)
Have I blown it and should I give up on him?
Q. Hello, A boy in my school - who I like - has been texting me recently.. It started with my friend texting him on my phone saying "Get in my bed" or something like that. When he texted me back, i explained that it wasnt actually me. After this, he...
A. 2 March 2011: This boy is using you for nothing but his sexual pleasure. DO NOT send him a photo of yourself and don't sext him anymore. You were absolutely right to tell him to piss off! Good for you. Now proceed to move on.... (read in full...)
I fancy my boyfriends best mate!
Q. I have a boyfriend and I used to be in love with him, now not so much, I have fallen for his best mate ! But he has a girlfriend , they only got together a few days ago , things seem to be going great for them , but not for me and my boyfriend . He ...
A. 2 March 2011: Well if you tired to make a pass at his best mate then I'm sure he'd dump you. But that would get some people definitely mad at you. Or you could try ignoring him..and when you see him act like a bitch. If NONE of that works...
Like I said, yo... (read in full...)
Should I meet my husband's ex
Q. My husband and I have been together for 15yrs and married for 5yrs. We have 2 kids, 3 and 1. My husband also has 2 daughters from his previous marriage, aged 27 and 22 who live with their mother and usually spend Sundays with us. I have a really ...
A. 2 March 2011: Is your step daughter trying to get you killed??? I would NOT go and meet your husband's crazy ex wife! Besides, his ex wife has nothing to do with you and your stepdaughter's relationship. That woman doesn't need to be a part of your life.
For w... (read in full...)
Should we keep seeing the therapist?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and recently began having some serious problems in our relationship. We began seeing a couple's therapist two weeks ago. My problem is our therapist. Not only did she tell me that it's my fault ...
A. 2 March 2011: Here's an option: Why don't you find a different therapist? ... (read in full...)
The myth of "best friends" of the opposite sex
Q. OK, I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this (assuming anyone read this) but from my experience and observation I believe that a heterosexual man and woman who claim to be "best friends" without any romantic feelings...is a myth. Almost al...
A. 2 March 2011: I actually disagree with most, but I'm the one who has a male best friend..I'm even married! No, I'm not a tomboy either.
1.) I can honestly say neither one of us have looked at each other in the romantic light.
2.) We're actually pretty ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to take the plan b twice within 2 days?
Q. Ok my boyfriend and I had sex for the firts time with out any protection, no condom and I am not in any birth control pill, I was my firts time and he didn't come inside me, I was so freak out because I defenately didn't want to end pregnant so I ...
A. 2 March 2011: How often can I use Plan B One-Step™?
Plan B One-Step™ should only be used in emergencies, but there is no medical reason why you can't use it more than once. Don't be afraid to use Plan B One-Step™ when you need to, but remember that it should n... (read in full...)
I gave him my phone number but couldn't get his!
Q. I met this man a few weeks ago when i was out with my friends and he was out with his friends. At the end of the night, he wanted us to have each others numbers, but one of the other guys who was there, had a go at him ( he thought i didn't like ...
A. 2 March 2011: Why don't you ever have your phone with you? You would think since you didn't have it with you that one time when he asked for your number, that it would never leave your side.
I think that you're getting WAY too nervous about this guy, to the p... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 2 March 2011: Take break and go get a drink from the bar. Or go freshen up in the bathroom. I thought girls night meant no guys..Generally, the girls you go out clubbing, drinking, dancing with shouldn't be ditching you to the point where you're dancing s... (read in full...)
I fancy my boyfriends best mate!
Q. I have a boyfriend and I used to be in love with him, now not so much, I have fallen for his best mate ! But he has a girlfriend , they only got together a few days ago , things seem to be going great for them , but not for me and my boyfriend . He ...
A. 1 March 2011: I doubt that everyone, especially your own family, will HATE you if you dumped him. Hate is a strong word.
Mmm. You could completely ignore him and act like a b!tch to him, or act extremely clingy and possessive. Tell him he can't hang out with... (read in full...)
Will a guy ever find me attractive?
Q. Will I ever find a guy that likes me? I'm 14 (15 in a few months), and no guy has ever shown any romantic interest in me. Only one of my friends has had a boyfriend, but all of them have either been asked out or has had someone obviously crushing...
A. 1 March 2011: Unfortunately we're not tarot card readers, psychics, or gypsies, so we cannot look into the future and tell you if you will ever get a boyfriend or not.
You're 14, dear. Guys your age just got out of the "girls have cooties" stage.
I didn... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 1 March 2011: One more thing, what's wrong with dancing with your girl friends? ... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 1 March 2011: Bumping 'n' grinding isn't cheating but it's not exactly being 100% faithful.
Grinding is basically dry humping, but in public.
Of course your single girl friends think it's fine. No guy in their right mind would be ok with their girlfriend... (read in full...)
Am I just his second choice?
Q. I reconnected with an old boyfriend I dated 25 years ago. When we reconnected at the time, he was dating someone from another country. He ended it when we started dating. We have been living together for 6 months now and I have been raising his 3 ...
A. 1 March 2011: Who is her?
It's necessary information.... (read in full...)
I fancy my boyfriends best mate!
Q. I have a boyfriend and I used to be in love with him, now not so much, I have fallen for his best mate ! But he has a girlfriend , they only got together a few days ago , things seem to be going great for them , but not for me and my boyfriend . He ...
A. 1 March 2011: I'm sorry I'm having trouble comprehending this..You broke up and now you're back together. How did that happen? Did he dump you then change his mind and you accepted him back? Why does he have to dump you? Why can't you dump him and be done with... (read in full...)
He stood me up because he fell asleep! What should I do?
Q. This guy that i've been crushing on recently wanted to catch up with me for coffee. He said he would call me around noon and we'd decide on a place... I got ready and waited and waited...he didn't pick up my call and i got a message after 4 ...
A. 1 March 2011: The issue with this update is that you had to text him that you were a bit hurt, no reply, then the next day he even admits he's an ass but continues to be vague and tell you he'll come by sometime soon. He doesn't commit to a day, or make definite ... (read in full...)
If a guy won't wait does it automatically mean he wants to use you?
Q. ok,so there is this guy-ive known him about 3 months but we didnt see each other for a few weeks and now weve started seeing each other again I tried telling him I want to wait a few weeks for things to get back to normal before we have sex but he ...
A. 1 March 2011: No it doesn't. You've already had sex with him before, so of course he's expecting it again. He will also continue bugging you for it until you cave.
If you don't want to be his girlfriend or a FWBs, which is what he is wanting(yes, that is still... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay.
Q. I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay. Which wouldn't be a problem, I just don't understand how my boyfriend doesn't see it. Anytime I say something about it to my boyfriend he gets really defensive and says his friend isn't. I just find it ...
A. 1 March 2011: Who cares?
What's the real problem? That he won't come out? What do you want your boyfriend to do about it?
Or that maybe you're afraid he might zone in on your boyfriend?
Yeah, your boyfriend's friend sounds like he might have some sugar... (read in full...)
Does he like me enough for a second date?
Q. So I've liked this guy for a while now and he knows this too. And all my friends says he liked me and he even has told me he does however I just have a feeling that he doesn't like me as much as I do to him, which is a problem. So he asked me out ...
A. 1 March 2011: Well the train isn't the only means of public transportation.
I see why you stayed though. You missed the train, you were tired, and the guy you like is asking you to stay. I commend you for holding your ground in no sex, messing around etc. Som... (read in full...)
If a guy won't wait does it automatically mean he wants to use you?
Q. ok,so there is this guy-ive known him about 3 months but we didnt see each other for a few weeks and now weve started seeing each other again I tried telling him I want to wait a few weeks for things to get back to normal before we have sex but he ...
A. 1 March 2011: Yes.
Any man who pushes you for sex, doesn't respect you, much less want a relationship. If he genuinely liked you, he would respect your decision to wait.
He wants one thing only, sex.... (read in full...)
Help! Should I tell him I love him???
Q. Hi help me guys. There is this guy we've been dating 4 almost 2 months and we like each other now im falling in love which is a good thing. So i just want to know that should i tell him that i love him or must i wait for him to say that as he has ...
A. 1 March 2011: He has never told another woman that he loves her?
Throughout all my relationships (even my husband), I always waited for the guy to say those 3 words first. Just because I was a little afraid to say them first, and I also didn't want to come acr... (read in full...)
Does he like me enough for a second date?
Q. So I've liked this guy for a while now and he knows this too. And all my friends says he liked me and he even has told me he does however I just have a feeling that he doesn't like me as much as I do to him, which is a problem. So he asked me out ...
A. 1 March 2011: Why did you stay the night, how come you didn't go home? Did you propose the idea, or did he insist you stay? And no fooling around happened whatsoever?
Really, you shouldn't be spending the night at his house on the first date. Unless, you are ... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is messing around on her. Should I interfer?
Q. Hi, I'm Pink. I'm 18 and I have a boyfriend. My problem is not about my boyfriend, though. It's about his close friend Ralph, whom he also shares an apartment with. Ralph is 17, loves to talk, and, to hear my boyfriend say it, has a complica...
A. 1 March 2011: "She also opened up about Ralph's unloyalty to her in the past."
Apparently he's still continuing to be unfaithful to her. Just because he's a father now, doesn't mean he's going to change his cheating ways. If she hasn't left him before for chea... (read in full...)
He stood me up because he fell asleep! What should I do?
Q. This guy that i've been crushing on recently wanted to catch up with me for coffee. He said he would call me around noon and we'd decide on a place... I got ready and waited and waited...he didn't pick up my call and i got a message after 4 ...
A. 1 March 2011: What does he do for a living? Unless he works the graveyard shift and this is his first day off in a while, then what a piss poor excuse he gave you.
What can you do? Move on, you know this guy's not interested. His actions confirm that.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going to prom with someone else!
Q. Hey guys, I am sort of in a dilemma. I am in highschool and I have a girlfriend of about 6 months. We both really like each other, talk everyday, and just generally feel really relaxed and comfortable around each other. But now, as the time for prom ...
A. 28 February 2011: You're 22-25 and still in high school??
6 months and her parents don't even know you exist? It's about time she told them.
I see no problem in your girlfriend going to a family of the friend's prom..it's a tradition in their family, and if y... (read in full...)
Which guy wants me for me?
Q. I have been infatuated with this guy for about 6 months now.. i asked him out twice in the time i liked him, and even though i knew it was wrong, i used to sext (sex text) him, but recently, i moved on, though i still love him. I now fancy another ...
A. 28 February 2011: What did the first guy say when you asked him out twice? If he shot you down twice then why do you want to still talk to him? It's evident that all he wants to do is use you for sexting.
How old are these guys by the way?
Both are interested i... (read in full...)
Should I just end things? I don't like feeling like a fool!
Q. Once again i have boyfriend problems. We made up after our break and he is still ignoring me, we are in a LDR and he just doesn't ever want to text or ring me and it really gets me down. The other weekend I was meant to go down to visit him at his ...
A. 28 February 2011: If these are ongoing problems, then yes. He's not holding up his end of the communication in a LDR(which is entirely necessary in order for this relationship to function), he apparently went out with ex on the weekend you were supposed to visit, and ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about my friends or not?
Q. Okay, so there's this boy, I always talk about him to friends and it seems there taking note of his name and adding him on Facebook. They know that I really like him as a boyfriend, but they're talking to him all the time, and because of this I feel ...
A. 28 February 2011: First off have you ever talked to this boy?
The one you should have a word with is your friends, all your crush is doing is harmlessly talking to your friends. Doesn't mean he likes them in a serious type of way. The boy can talk to whomever... (read in full...)
My 13 year old son is making out with his girlfriend? Should I allow this?
Q. my 13 year old son has a girlfriend the same aged as him. They always hold hands, Kiss all the time, And slap/squeeze/grab each other on the bum. Should i allow this? I think its fine because they aint going far. ...
A. 27 February 2011: You just answered your own question..you think it's fine, as long as they keep it at that and nothing more.
Perhaps, it's time for you or his father to have the birds and the bees talk. Also, throw in the legal age of consent is 16 talk. ... (read in full...)
I am so beautiful. Are my friends all just jealous of me?
Q. I am so beautiful. I have a really nice body and i have double D's. Flirting comes naturally to me. I can honestly say that a lot of people like me and just want to be me. I'm really popular and i have a lot of experience. All my close friends are ...
A. 27 February 2011: Oh my.
Do you have sex with a lot of guys? That's why they would call you easy.
(No offense)If all your friends are telling you that you dress like a skank, then it's probably true. There's a big difference between flaunting it with taste an... (read in full...)
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