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Do girls like crossdressers?
Q. This question is for the girls. How do you feel about a guy who likes to crossdress. Would you date a crossdresser? Would you be involved helping him achieve a feminine lifestyle and look?...
A. 14 April 2011: Mishmash, crossdressers are straight, they like women. Sigh.. just thought about it some more. Crossdressers are often very "strong men". In the UK we have a very famous topless model, Jordan. Her last husband was a crossdresser and... (read in full...)
Want to move on, date someone new but am afraid to ask someone out
Q. i'm 24 years old with a 3 week old baby in a shitty apartment writting on an peace of crap labtop. with no job and zero friends due to the fact i lost them all because i was so wrapped up with my ex. who by the way i still love but f*** off when i ...
A. 14 April 2011: Your ex is with someone new, so your feelings don't matter, he's unavailable.
You like this new guy. Hell girl, your not talking about marrying him, your talking about going on a date. It's not that big a deal, just invite him over and get roma... (read in full...)
Do girls like crossdressers?
Q. This question is for the girls. How do you feel about a guy who likes to crossdress. Would you date a crossdresser? Would you be involved helping him achieve a feminine lifestyle and look?...
A. 14 April 2011: mmmm.. Not too keen on it myself, I like strong men.. However, if I love a guy and that's what he needs, it's a small thing to keep him happy.
Relationships should be based on love and compromise. A happy man will make a woman smile, and if he's ... (read in full...)
Masturbation after sex life
Q. Does everybody keep masturbating after they have a healthy sex relationship?...
A. 14 April 2011: Questions with "everyone" or "all people" are generally wrong. The thing about the human animal is that it does many different things. Some humans have sex, some don't. Some humans live in snow, some live in the desert. Many people masturbat... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 13 April 2011: Opps...bedroom? More space, more comfortable, but more chance you'll get caught or leave evidence.
It's bad manners to use someone's bedroom without asking first.... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 13 April 2011: Damn... hahaha.. this is a popular question...
mmmm.... You have a very interesting husband. He is kind and respectful and thinks a lot about your well being.
mmmmm.... I think he wanted to be close to you, but then when he got too close he... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 11 April 2011: Bad day honey or something worse? We are here if you want to talk, but we can't reach you through the computer screen. I want you to call the Support people, they can hold your hand, fight the bad guys or even give you somewhere to live. It w... (read in full...)
Is it true that you're a slut if you have big labias?
Q. Im officially freeking out. Im in a LDR and ive been with my bf in real but we obv spend more time online together. Well i dont remember what happened but my bf turned round to me and was like im gonna make up somethin about u then and tell so...
A. 6 April 2011: Young boys say stupid things.. you can have sex with the whole world and it won't affect your labia. Next you'll start believing that all women are vampires because they bleed every month. Your young too... when you grow up a little you will ... (read in full...)
How do I just walk away from my wife?
Q. I'm separate from my wife sunday after 21 years she is 10 years youger than me and it happen when I lost my business and then the prob started we alwayys fighting over money and a monster and law I love her still and she is my whole world how do I ...
A. 6 April 2011: You love your wife, so whats the point of walking away, you'll miss her very much and it won't solve your problems. I thought the wedding vows say "for better or worse, in sickness or in health". I don't think they say, "run away because things a... (read in full...)
How Personal Bias and Gender Stereotypes can Influence Advice
Q. I write this article knowing full well it will not be received very well by some. I can only hope that this article will still be allowed due to the merits of the argument I am presenting. I have noticed on multiple occasions a prevalent double...
A. 23 February 2011: Yep, there is a big gender bias on this board and men seem to get the worst end. I try hard to give the same advice to both sexes, but I probably don't.
Worst is in man-man or woman-woman relationships. I managed to insult a gay man because ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of going with a male prostitute and have started to save up.
Q. Hello I am 25 and I have had two long term relationships lasting three years each. Neither of the men wanted to have sex with me. I recently started seeing a new man and he isn't putting the moves on my but like the last two is talking about ...
A. 20 February 2011: What the hell is wrong with going to a male prostitute???
They are impossible to find in the UK, they do not advertise and the prices and conditions they demand (hotel rooms, perks etc) make them very, very expensive.
The suggestion to go... (read in full...)
Could this be bad for our marriage?
Q. I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...
A. 15 February 2011: Yep, that's what we said... BE CAREFUL SEX CAN CAUSE LOVE.
Sigh.... Your a grown woman that's why many of us were unwilling to tell you that it sounded like a very bad idea, and maybe we should have.
Again, your a grown woman, you've made up y... (read in full...)
My gaming broad invited me & another lad on our 1ST date WTF?!?!
Q. Ok everybody now this is blowing me away so I need to know if this is normal or if I'm the nut job? Imma a gamin addict and Ive been gamin with a girl that I'll call A. Ok so me and A weve been gamin for a good 18 months. Nobody would ever figure we ...
A. 14 February 2011: (Grabs gamin dictionary)
Yo man, no prozzie, cool chick, ace bud, wires tangled is all.... (read in full...)
Are my standards too high to get a girlfriend?`
Q. Hello all, I'm a seventeen (Virgin) year old boy. I do want a girlfriend but I'm worried that my standards are too high. I don't believe in ANY sexual contact whatsoever, I wouldn't date a female if she had voluntarily given her virginity away o...
A. 14 February 2011: It's a numbers game... the average age to lose your virginity is 17 in the UK. That means some have sex younger and some have sex older. It's also probable that the majority of young girls have had some type of sexual experience, whether they ... (read in full...)
How do you treat someone who is suffering with depression?
Q. How do you treat someone who is suffering with depression? My lover wont see a doctor... but it has affected our relationship. I hardly see him now... he says he cant face anyone and that he's no company... this has been going on for months. What ...
A. 14 February 2011: If you can't cope and need to give up, then that's what you have to do. Your not able to deal with his sickness and nobody can blame you for walking away. You need to look after your own health and sanity.
Be gentle when you tell him. If you c... (read in full...)
Are my boyfriend and his sister a little too close?
Q. My boyfriend and his sister are really close. Too close actually... They touch each other more than he touches me! He jokes around by asking her to make out with him a lot. I know that they have been drunk together alone before. She is 15 we are 17. ...
A. 14 February 2011: I think your boyfriend is young and doesn't know how to give you the attention you want. I think you are feeling lonely and jealous and are making up strange stories in your head. Nothing you say sounds abnormal or strange to me, and I don't have ... (read in full...)
If I leave, I will bring shame to my family, and they will break all ties with me! What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 24-year old girl from Bordeaux. My family comes from Pakistan and we are quite a traditional family with close family ties. They do not allow me to meet my friends and my only occupation is staying at home and doing my house...
A. 14 February 2011: Drat001, Her parents are not gonna kill her or maim her.. please stop the nonsense with these stereotypes, they are not the French Taliban.You insult yourself and her, with these kind of extreme views. Yes it happens, about as often as a white ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of going with a male prostitute and have started to save up.
Q. Hello I am 25 and I have had two long term relationships lasting three years each. Neither of the men wanted to have sex with me. I recently started seeing a new man and he isn't putting the moves on my but like the last two is talking about ...
A. 14 February 2011: Ah British indian, yes the explains things... men think they have to marry you and are frightened they will be killed if they just screw you....
Have you told your guy plain and simple.. "hey Mr, I don't want to be a wife, I want to get screwed"... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of going with a male prostitute and have started to save up.
Q. Hello I am 25 and I have had two long term relationships lasting three years each. Neither of the men wanted to have sex with me. I recently started seeing a new man and he isn't putting the moves on my but like the last two is talking about ...
A. 14 February 2011: No point in paying for sex if your under 50 years old. Go to the nearest bar or nightclub in a sexy short dress, wear tons of make up, carry some condoms, and the men will screw you for free.. no payment needed.
You sure your British?... (read in full...)
Am I insane for having a crush on a dead celebrity, and why did the crush develop?
Q. About 2 years ago in sixth form, there was this girl that i liked. She was part of our group of friends. I slowly began to develop a crush on her and towards the end of sixth form, around january of our final year, i confessed my feelings for her. ...
A. 14 February 2011: You have depression, that's not being insane, but your head don't think straight. Thinking no one will ever love you, well that's part of the depression, that's the negative thinking kicking in. Your on medication, good.. but you need some counse... (read in full...)
How do you treat someone who is suffering with depression?
Q. How do you treat someone who is suffering with depression? My lover wont see a doctor... but it has affected our relationship. I hardly see him now... he says he cant face anyone and that he's no company... this has been going on for months. What ...
A. 14 February 2011: Find out everything you can about depression. Here are some websites to start. http://depression.about.com/cs/basicfacts/ht/Help_Depressed.htm http://depression.about.com/cs/basicfacts/a/howtohelp.htm http://www.healthyplace.com/de... (read in full...)
I'm not sure why my girlfriend won't swallow!
Q. My girlfriend won't swallow during oral sex, yet she has in previous relationships, in fact she said she used to like it. I'd really like her to do it to me. Why won't she? Can she really like it with past partners? Can I make it taste better?...
A. 14 February 2011: lol.. olderthandirt has a point.. A 69, you both doing oral sex on each other might solve the problem. Make sure you orgasm first, and if she won't swallow, then you stop and she doesn't orgasm...
Talk to her first though, she may have had bad ... (read in full...)
Does having a baby really hurt ?
Q. I heard having a baby really hurts . I'm excited about having my baby buy I'm scared too I'm afraid to push the baby out I don't enjoy pain very much and I'm also worried my boyfriend won't be there because he goes to work during the day and comes ...
A. 14 February 2011: Not sure about babies at home when it's your first and your so young. They can give extra pain relief at home and they have all the equipment if anything goes wrong.
I'm not a doctor, but I don't think they recommend home births in the UK for y... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my boyfriend didn't understand how much trouble I went to for him!
Q. am I stupid to be upset about this? So yesterday my boyfriend and I celebrated our Valentines day. I spent most of my paycheck to make it happen. As well as about 4 hours of my day preparing it. I made him a romantic Italian dinner. ...
A. 14 February 2011: Spending all your paycheck is dumb and irresponsible. A sensible woman doesn't waste money which might be needed for something else.
Your cooking a romantic meal, why cook so much, why cook enough to feed an army? It's a dinner for 2, not for ... (read in full...)
How can you compare an old person dying to the death of a child???
Q. Our child died, not long time ago. The grief is unbelievable. But we are trying to deal with it. What is really a big question to me, how come the extended family doesn't seem to understand our pain. And, my really big problem is, that they com...
A. 14 February 2011: I think your child has died and your very upset. I think you'd be angry and outraged at anything, it's a way of dealing with pain. The death of a child, the death of an old person, they are all the same, someone who was loved and alive is no ... (read in full...)
Do I have myself a friend with benefits?
Q. ok i met this girl at a bar who was an acquantinces.. and we made out that night and got her number.. the other week she wrote me a private msg on facebook saying that she doesnt want a relationship with me but she wrote saying 'we could have cra...
A. 13 February 2011: "crazy ass moments"..... "more than friends she's not interested"... looks like she wants a friend to party and go out with and have some laughs. Not sure about the sex bit, best to wait until she suggests it. Definitely no romantic relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure why my girlfriend won't swallow!
Q. My girlfriend won't swallow during oral sex, yet she has in previous relationships, in fact she said she used to like it. I'd really like her to do it to me. Why won't she? Can she really like it with past partners? Can I make it taste better?...
A. 13 February 2011: Swallowed and used to like it... Are you hygienic, have a quick wash before sex. Probably she doesn't like your taste.. Eat a good diet, cut out the alcohol and beer, lots of fruit and veg.. I think fruit is especially good, cause it tastes... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend stand up for me and correct his mom?
Q. My boyfriends mum called me trailer trash and that she thought so hard to get me excepted into his family because s have 2 children already. At one point his mum was ill and she assume's i stopped him seeing but he has not corrected her because he ...
A. 13 February 2011: You've just had a 3week old baby, your hormones and emotions are very sensitive at the moment. I wouldn't make any snap decisions like leaving your guy and trying to bring up 3 children up on your own because of a couple of arguments with his ... (read in full...)
How can we get past everything to actually listen to one another?
Q. I am having a lot of conflict with my husband. He is a popular sociable man with literally hundreds of friends whereas I am quiet and very insular with about 3 friends! We row all the time as he wants me to go to family unions and for lunches and ...
A. 13 February 2011: Sigh.... I do know how you feel.. I'm fairly shy and like staying at home with a good book. I hate being with strangers. My ex had a family who were very religious, and when we socialised, people were often very rude to me. (refusing to shake my ... (read in full...)
How can we get past everything to actually listen to one another?
Q. I am having a lot of conflict with my husband. He is a popular sociable man with literally hundreds of friends whereas I am quiet and very insular with about 3 friends! We row all the time as he wants me to go to family unions and for lunches and ...
A. 13 February 2011: "The massive cracks in the class divide seem to be kicking in..."
From what you say they seem to be mostly on your side.
"I don't feel comfortable out of my home and my social peers"
Your husband is a social friendly man, who marries an ex-m... (read in full...)
Bisexual, in a relationship but want to experiment more...
Q. Ok so I'm bisexual and I've known since I was young, around 12/13. I watch lesbian porn but to me that does not determine my sexuality or anybody else's for that matter. but what I do want to do is experiment more with other girls but I'm already in ...
A. 13 February 2011: i really love my boyfriend but things aren't perfect between "us, far from it. the reason i wanted an open relationship was to have my own space and a bit of freedom to kind of explore and experiment."
"the threesome would be with my ex girlfrie... (read in full...)
How do I tell my job that I need time off for my wedding?
Q. Hi...... so I'm getting married in about three months I just got hired at a new job and I don't know how to tell them that I will be needing time off for my wedding because of the 90 day probation ????...
A. 13 February 2011: "Boss, I'm getting married in 3 months. I need to take at least one day off for the service. I might be in late the next morning because I have to have all night sex to make the thing legal. Sorry about that. If you say no, I'm gonna have to ... (read in full...)
No matter what position, I cannot achieve orgasm through penetrative sex
Q. ok this is a little embarassing... I am 25 years old and should know all about this but.... I dont. I have never had an orgasm while having intercourse. I have been intimate with several men and tried every position possible and still no big "O"...
A. 13 February 2011: Ok.. you want more.. but a warning, Cindycares is right when she says maybe about a third of women will never have a orgasm through penetration. You love the guy and feel safe.. good You can orgasm through the clitorus... good Three techniques... (read in full...)
He watches porn first then comes to me. I feel cheated!
Q. My husband comes to me at night after seeing porn videos and images on internet, he is already aroused and when he starts touching me i feel he finds it hard to keep himself aroused. We do end up having sex somehow, but I feel cheated. He doesn't ...
A. 13 February 2011: Change the sex routine is best. Pornography is doing exactly what it should, it's arousing him, and he's turning to you for sex rather than masturbating alone, which is what most men do. Your upset and think your unattractive, but if you have sex, ... (read in full...)
I don't like him using pornography and he thinks I am controlling him
Q. i need some advice... i don't know if i have the right to be insecure about this subject or if i am just crazy,here is the situation. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now, we are living together and are very happy.i have just one...
A. 13 February 2011: Tiff, you have the right to feel anyway you want. Your feelings are not wrong. Pornography makes you feel insecure.
This happens to a lot of women. Some women feel that pornography is adultery, they hate the fact that their partner can be turne... (read in full...)
Hundreds of porn sites in one week on his computer!
Q. I posted earlier but cannot find where it went. I couldn't help myself, after seeing just a few porn websites on my boyfriends history, I searched through the rest of his history and there are literally hundreds of porn sites and google searches ...
A. 13 February 2011: Yes it's normal, I do the same when downloading anything. It's all about choice, he won't watch them all at once and some will be rubbish. He grabs all the possible choices that are available, and then will watch a few that grab his attention, ... (read in full...)
Help me understand his mind!!!
Q. Dear Cupids: I have been with my man for three years this March and we've been through more than most couples I know... I have always known about his hyper-testosterone and do my best to keep up with him and please him so he does not stray....
A. 13 February 2011: Had to look up hyper-testosterone, but it seems like a medical condition where this man is physically and mentally consumed by sex.
Several issues pop up in your post.
1. His hyper-testosterone is something you find difficult to cope with.
2... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a Nymphomaniac?
Q. I'm in a relationship for 2 years, but I'm starting to suspect my girlfriend is a nympho. What are all the signs I should look at to be sure? She has weird behaviours but I never caught her cheating. 1. She enjoys inviting men to her apart...
A. 12 February 2011: She's got men at her house, she calls you from a man's phone, she always want's to be alone...
I don't think this woman wants to be with you. She sending you enough clues to finish the relationship and break up.
Again, don't know if she's a ... (read in full...)
We started exploring kinks and now I'm feeling that things are out of hand
Q. So me and my girlfriend are fairly kinky and I know she likes BDSM (since a friend took her to an event last year) so I asked her if she'd like to go to a rope workshop in a couple of weeks.. This tipped over a few more dominoes than expected, s...
A. 12 February 2011: Letting her continue to talk to people on the web is a good compromise. Being invited to meet people for no sex is a goodd compromise.
Wanting to sleep alone and being to busy to see you, is a relationship in trouble.
Sigh.. time to talk aga... (read in full...)
He said he likes me, but doesn't want a girlfriend right now!
Q. hey cupids! im just a bit confused and dunno what to do about this guy i like so it all starts off with him telling me that he likes me / another girl and i also told him i liked him as well . it was really awkward and stuff until he started calli...
A. 10 February 2011: Sorry babes, I know your disappointed, but the aunts are right. This guy isn't trying hard enough to impress you and get you. When the right guy comes along, he won't be chatting to some other girl, he won't be able to do anything except stare at ... (read in full...)
We started exploring kinks and now I'm feeling that things are out of hand
Q. So me and my girlfriend are fairly kinky and I know she likes BDSM (since a friend took her to an event last year) so I asked her if she'd like to go to a rope workshop in a couple of weeks.. This tipped over a few more dominoes than expected, s...
A. 10 February 2011: These types of lifestyle can't work if both people don't feel happy. Tell her exactly what you told us, tell us you don't feel comfortable and it's freaking you out. There's nothing wrong with that. She however sounds very interested, so you'll ... (read in full...)
I drink a bottle of wine almost every day. Is this ok?
Q. To make this short and simple I drink a bottle of wine every day, well almost every day!!! is that to much. I dont start drinking in the morning, only at night when my son goes to bed, I contiue to carry on with my life through out the day. I get up ...
A. 10 February 2011: Yes it's bad. UK government guidelines advise 2-3 units every day (maximum) for a woman. A bottle of wine is 14. If you carry on this way, you will damage your liver.
Why are you drinking so much. Seven bottles of wine a week is damaging... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 9 February 2011: "i cant handle this crap i cant leave him because he will hurt me" (original post)
Hi Fayy,
Congratulations on your new life. You've been very brave to put your own happiness and safety first. I can imagine how scared and frightened y... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a Nymphomaniac?
Q. I'm in a relationship for 2 years, but I'm starting to suspect my girlfriend is a nympho. What are all the signs I should look at to be sure? She has weird behaviours but I never caught her cheating. 1. She enjoys inviting men to her apart...
A. 9 February 2011: Don't know about nymphomaniac. A woman like that would wear you out, because she'd never get out of bed.
What you mention is strange behaviour for a woman in love. You don't need no other evidence, what you have said is enough.
You nee... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 4 February 2011: Two of my friends left abusive men.... they were scared but they had no choice. The men were trying to kill them at the time and strangers broke down the door and rescued them.
Don't wait until your nearly dead, by then it might be too late.
... (read in full...)
Abusive partner...
Q. I asked for advise on my partner of 12 months not long ago all the advise was great i wanted to take it but now its a whole different ball ground.... ok i dont want advise telling me to leave him because i cant.... My partner asked me when he lost ...
A. 3 February 2011: We can't help you. Your partner attacks you, throws you out on the street, and wants you to be his dog, and you allow him.
He won't change, shy should he. No matter what he says or does to you, you will keep loving him, have sex with him and ... (read in full...)
Could this be bad for our marriage?
Q. I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...
A. 16 June 2010: Don't spend too much time with this young guy.. Remember you love your husband for a reason, and it's more than just sex and a dick...
Your husband sounds like a great man.. remember him and your marriage come first. Protect your heart, it's not... (read in full...)
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