Can guys look past this hair I have?
Q. I have a strange question. I am a girl and have hair in irregular sopts on my body (lower back, butt, and stomach). Ive went to the doctor and she said that there is no was to get rid of all of it. Im taking birth controll hoping that will help with ...
A. 18 October 2013: Not everybody is the same. I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't bother some people, but that shouldn't concern you, because those people obviously aren't meant for you. Just as some guys prefer brown hair, they may not like a redhead. No biggie, find ... (read in full...)
I feel like she's trying to come between us
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship (2hrs drive away) not that far but I can't see him as much as I wanted. I am pretty certain that one of his female colleague whom I also know, likes him. We use to work together, even when I was ...
A. 18 October 2013: Your bf is most likely upset because he's not doing anything that most people would consider cheating, and you're acting like he is.
However, just because he has no intention of cheating doesn't mean it couldn't happen. When you spend a lot of t... (read in full...)
I´d like to have an oppinion on this guilt manipulation that I am sure about.Thanks.
Q. 10 years of marriage and I always though my husband was the most amazing,wonderful, caring, and fair person on the face of this planet. I see know how blind I was,but in a way I was happy. For 4 years now I am dealing with depression because I lost ...
A. 18 October 2013: I think you made a huge mistake... You weren't "blind" when you thought he was the most amazing man in the world, he really was. You were blinded by your depression and by this other guy. Your husband dealt with 4 years of depression. Trust me, ... (read in full...)
He choses making music over making out with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have had this talk previously; basically it comes down to his obsession with music. He has an obsessive hobby with making beats and music and it used to be much worse. He actually dropped out of school because he was so mentally ...
A. 18 October 2013: Well, you pretty much figured it out already. You can't talk him into changing, so you kind of need to figure out whether you'll stay and put up with it or leave.
I'd give him one last chance to change. Maybe he's not fully aware of how much thi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't approve of male roommate
Q. I found a perfect apartment that has the perfect location , amazing price, and what seems like a great roommate from Craigslist. Only problem, my boyfriend absolutely hates the idea that I want to move in with a guy who I barely knew. I understand ...
A. 17 October 2013: Give me a break; its definitely inappropriate to live with another guy if you're in a relationship. This should be a no-brainer.
If you were single that's one thing, but you obviously aren't.
Do you think that you're so trustworthy that... (read in full...)
I wouldn't sign the pre-nuptual agreement, so now he wants a post-nup
Q. Husband wanted us to sign prenuptials(stating that in the event of a divorce, everyone will walk away with what they had prior to the marriage.) before we got married 2 year ago. I refused though he vehemently asked for it. Well, he has requested ...
A. 17 October 2013: I think pre/post nuptials are totally okay even though they really seem to piss people off. I wouldn't ask someone to sign one, but that's because I don't have a lot to lose.
This guy probably worked hard for what he has and it wouldn't be fair ... (read in full...)
Is this really an issue for counselling?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend of 2 years has been wanting to go to counseling for awhile, but I don't think its necessary. He is just mad because I haven't looked for a job in the last month. I take 4 classes 2 days a week at a community college so I ...
A. 16 October 2013: I'm not saying either of you is right or wrong, but it seems like you're both disregarding each other's feelings. I can tell you from experience that when you start doing that it's only a matter of time before the relationship fails.
If a counse... (read in full...)
My widower partner on chat rooms to women - this is ultimate betrayal and cheating
Q. hi, I am a female and i have been with my male partner for 6 yesrs. he was widowed in may 2006 and I met him on match.com in September 06. he has been hard work due to his three steps forward two steps back routine and he just has periods when he ...
A. 16 October 2013: That really sucks, but he's right; he can do whatever he wants. You can either accept it or leave. Obviously, you chose leaving, as would I.
Sometimes love isn't enough to make things work and you have to leave. There's no point being with som... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair with my married colleague?
Q. I recently ended up kissing a women I work with after a night out. It shouldn't be a problem, only she is married. We have always had great chemistry and she has made no secret of her liking me--I guess you could say she is a cougar or whatever. She ...
A. 16 October 2013: I'm sure that if you don't someone else will, but I still wouldn't do it if I was you. There's plenty of ways that the shit could hit the fan... In my opinion it's not worth the sex. ... (read in full...)
How can I ignore an ex boyfriend that I work with?
Q. How can i ignore an ex boyfriend!!! We only dated for a few months, but i cant get him out of my head. I found out he was cheating on me and he was texting alot of other girls too, so i dumped him. But he keeps contacting me all the time for 'one...
A. 16 October 2013: Block his number, tell him you don't want to date (or whatever) anymore, then literally ignore him. ... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who is 9 years younger than me? I'm 28 and he's 19
Q. Im 28 years old and newly single, i'd rather stay single for a while to be honest but someones interested in me. The problem.is hes only 19 that is way too young for me but my friend doean't think so. I dont feel comfortable about that age gap but ...
A. 16 October 2013: How about instead of letting a random stranger decide for you, you go out with him a few times and see what happens. Everyone is different, and age doesn't give you a foolproof idea of what someone is like. ... (read in full...)
Why do people let facebook ruin their relationship?
Q. I have a question about Facebook, and that is why do so many people let it run their relationships? I'm not just talking about significant others, either. They let it affect their relationships with family as well. I know my family has, at least. A ...
A. 16 October 2013: Sounds like some drama queens. Facebook is similar to driving in that it can make you more of a jerk or more aggressive, not to mention more easily offended because you are judging someone strictly by their words. You're not seeing their facial ... (read in full...)
He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?
Q. ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...
A. 15 October 2013: I don't think a lot of psychologists hang out here. But, either way, you two are obviously not a match. I believe he sought out this little relationship because of the neglect he perceives in your own relationship. Maybe he feels like this isn't ... (read in full...)
Why does my fiancée get irritated with me about small things?
Q. Hello everyone I am about to be married in a month. My fiance is a very loving and caring girl who is very dedicated in love. That being said, I am noticing a sense of irritation in her in certain situations, irritation that has taken me a lot b...
A. 15 October 2013: You're describing my wife. A lifetime of strict parenting can't be undone by a few conversations. Even therapy may not work because she probably doesn't think she's the problem, you are.
You're going to have to make a choice. Do you love her enou... (read in full...)
Men, porn and lies… feeling let down right now!
Q. Recently I found out my boyfriend still had a collection of porn and naked celeb photos - he told me he had deleted any porn and only looked at my pics. He is a good guy so I feel so sad he has lied to me. Why would he do that? He said doesn't need ...
A. 15 October 2013: Aside from telling you he wouldn't look at porn, I'm sure everything he said is true. Watching porn doesn't mean he needs anyone else or doesn't love you. ... (read in full...)
If you tell your lover what you need and they don't even make an effort to hear you is it time to leave?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is not demonstrative about his feelings for me. I like getting the occasional text or phone call, especially when I am ill or he knows I am having a tough time. I have tried calmly telling him how I feel. That intimacy to...
A. 15 October 2013: Assuming you've said everything you can to get him to change and he either refuses to listen or refuses to change, then it is time to make a decision.
You can stay and accept things for the way they are without complaining or you can leave hi... (read in full...)
He says he has "proof" even when he doesn't. Need help, fast!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We're in our early-mid 30's. Every once in awhile he will accuse me of cheating and claiming he has "proof" when I know he doesn't. This morning at 7am he text me and asked me who the hell I was texting. I ...
A. 15 October 2013: I second that this is probably a mental health issue. ... (read in full...)
She's the only friend I've got but she's cheating and I don't like how shes changing!
Q. Hello everyone, i don´t have many friends and yet the few I have, they have moved abroad for better work, to study etc...So now I´ve got only one friend I can hang out, we´ve known each other for very long time and I can say we were best friends... ...
A. 15 October 2013: A bad friend is not a friend at all. If I was you I'd simply tell her that you don't think the two of you have much in common anymore and get out and meet new friends.
Too many people try hanging on to old friends and don't make new ones, who coul... (read in full...)
Love this girl to bits but the moaning just gets me down.
Q. Hi there, My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years now, we've been engaged for about a year. My question here is: Is it me causing all these problems or something else? Our relationship had a rocky start but after that we were pre...
A. 15 October 2013: There's two problems here:
You're in a LDR, and the girl you're in it with is a b***c. Sorry, but it's true.
Sometimes you love someone that's just not a good fit for you, and this is definitely one of those cases. If you could move to th... (read in full...)
Do men really think about sex every 7 seconds?
Q. Hey ladies, just have a question... I have heard so many times that men think about sex every 7 seconds. Is this an exaggeration? Also, a second question I have is, I think about sex all the time even though I don't get much pleasure out of ...
A. 15 October 2013: Maybe while they're having sex.
Otherwise no.
When I was 20 it was a lot more frequent than now, so you're totally normal. ... (read in full...)
Will we get stared at or ridiculed? We are a biracial couple
Q. Hello. My name is Jeff, and I have a question that may come off as odd. I've met this beautiful white woman, and she told me she would like to go out on a date with me. As I am black, I have always wondered how it would be like to date a white wom...
A. 15 October 2013: Maybe if you live in Alabama or Mississippi.
I've been in a number of mixed relationships and never had a problem. But then again I don't care about the opinions of ignorant people. ... (read in full...)
I need some guidance about my husband's behaviour. I feel I can't trust him anymore.
Q. I've been married for 14 years and my husband started behaving different with me since 2 years. First of all he has many woman friends, and he is always on the phone, skype, and FB with them. Last year a female friend of him thanked me on my FB page ...
A. 14 October 2013: You told him it's either you or his female friends. Unfortunately he didn't chose you, yet you stayed with him, essentially giving him permission to continue doing whatever he wants.
So if you really want him to stop, you're going to have to ... (read in full...)
Was my ex emotionally abusive to me?
Q. Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship? At first my ex was very loving and the perfect gentleman. After a little while he stopped having sex with me, stopped giving me physical affection and began completely ignoring me, even when I was in t...
A. 14 October 2013: I've never really experienced low self esteem, but it seems like something that is incredibly common in women for some unfortunate reason.
You should try going to therapy. I don't know how they do it in England, but in the US there are options ... (read in full...)
Why do men like to check out porn and naked celebrities?
Q. Hi everyone, Recently for some reason I have become a little insecure :( I am an attractive young woman...slim so little reason to you could say but like alot of women seem to be uncomfortable with my fiance looking at stuff on the internet. It...
A. 14 October 2013: Because its just about the cheapest and quickest way to stimulate your brain's pleasure center.
That's it. It has nothing to do with you. ... (read in full...)
Was my ex emotionally abusive to me?
Q. Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship? At first my ex was very loving and the perfect gentleman. After a little while he stopped having sex with me, stopped giving me physical affection and began completely ignoring me, even when I was in t...
A. 14 October 2013: Abusive? I'm not sure about that. But he definitely sounds like one of the most selfish people I've ever heard of.
In the future I hope this experience helps you to recognize when you and the person you're with are completely incompat... (read in full...)
I feel like there's competition and I'll never be good enough for my boyfriend.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a mutual friend who is really slim, pretty and fun. I've known her all my life and my boyfriend met her through high school. Last week I was in an awful mood and all I wanted was for him to come and see me so I text him...
A. 14 October 2013: Looks are subjective... It's difficult to say you're nowhere near as pretty as her, because you could just be a different type of pretty. Or your self esteem is low and you don't have an accurate idea of what you really look like.
In the end, bei... (read in full...)
How can I make him like me the way I like him?
Q. I've known my neighbour for slightly over a year and I like him a lot. He has all the qualities of a good boyfriend and eventually husband. He put me in the friend zone long ago and tells me about other girls he likes etc. When other people see us ...
A. 13 October 2013: I don't know how to answer your question as well as 'intrigued3000' did, but I want to advise you against getting ahead of yourself here. You seem to have convinced yourself that he'll make an excellent husband, but that's only something you can ... (read in full...)
If I cheated does that mean I don't love my g/f?
Q. If I've cheated on my girlfriend with the same girl, 4 times now. Does this mean I don't love her? Im so confused. Ive been with my girlfriend for 8 months. Yet met a girl in May, became really good friends really quick. There was chemistry be...
A. 12 October 2013: You're going to get a lot of people telling you it means you don't love her, but those people speak through ignorance. You can love someone and cheat, it's not related.
What it really means is that you're selfish and you don't care about your gir... (read in full...)
I didn't like how I was few years younger and I am afraid this girl is going to learn about the loser weird me that I was.
Q. hey there i am 17. i am from india and i am studying in college. well as i said in previous question i was a loser and a weird guy in school. Now i have changed in looks but i have become really shy guy. There is a girl from my school she comes in ...
A. 12 October 2013: Worry about things you can control, and this is not one of those things.
Besides, people don't really care who you were, they care about who you are now.... Many people reinvent themselves, some do it multiple times. In fact, I could embarras... (read in full...)
I denied a guy orgasm and now I feel bad. What should I Do?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl with an intense foot fetish. I am aroused by other girl's feet, but I'm not a lesbian, as in I still enjoy sex with males. I also get extremely turned on when someone licks the soles of my feet. So recently I was out with ...
A. 12 October 2013: Deal with it. ... (read in full...)
I don't like it and insinutated he should find a new 'soul mate'
Q. My boyfriend lately has been saying he wants to get more serious, I'm his soulmate etc. We've been together a year and a half. The other night we were really drunk and he entered me from behind. It really hurt and I hated it. But I always told him ...
A. 12 October 2013: Your boyfriend is quite a character; I don't think I've heard a more ridiculous comment about soul mates in my life.
I've been with a couple of women who said they'd never do anal and I shouldn't even ask. When they were horny and on their pe... (read in full...)
Him keeping his ex as a friend bothers me!
Q. How can I stop worrying and stop being upset about my boyfriend's friendship with his ex girlfriend? Even though they had a bad break up and things got pretty ugly with them (she cheated on him a lot and they fought a lot) they both decided to ...
A. 12 October 2013: You won't be able to convince him to agree not to be friends with her. Assuming that he honestly has no feelings for her and zero desire to be with her, he gets upset because you're implying that he'll cheat, and you kind of are. After all, if you ... (read in full...)
I want THAT commitment!
Q. I have been with my BF for almost 4 years. It was a bit of a whirl wind to star with.he was my first BF my first everything. We fell in love very quickly and I moved into his parents Home, that was another other side of the country after only 8 ...
A. 12 October 2013: I don't really understand what you're asking... It seems like you want advice that will lead to the two of you getting married, but without having to talk with him about it.
If that's the case my advice is to be patient. Marriage may create a... (read in full...)
I worry that my girlfriend misses other women!
Q. Hi. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now and we live together and have a daughter. Thing is, she's bisexual. I often find myself worrying she misses other women. I've tried asking her and talking but she just says no and won't talk. ...
A. 11 October 2013: Why don't you worry that she misses other guys? ... (read in full...)
What are people's opinions are on changing your mind about the way someone looks?
Q. I was wondering what people's opinions are on changing your mind about the way someone looks? A few months ago, I found out that my boyfriend told his friend last year that his ex was better looking than me and I wasn't all that great. I'm not ...
A. 11 October 2013: If you took a bunch of pictures of people's faces and showed them to someone and asked how attractive are these people on a scale of 1-10, you'd get much different answers than if you sat them down with each person for a date and then asked him.
... (read in full...)
She's not so keen on intimacy anymore - whats wrong, me, her or the other guy?
Q. I dont know what to do, my girlfriend dosent like me touching her anymore, she wont have sex as often, only once a weekend - when she does its like iv been begging and its a chore for her, we used to have it every night, the excusses are: 1: i...
A. 11 October 2013: Well, the relationship doesn't seem worth saving in my opinion.
But since you're the one to decide that, I'll answer your question. She gave you all the information you need to know in order to fix this situation: she's bored.
It happens wh... (read in full...)
My LDR is never there for me
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with a guy. We have been together for 1 year. He loves me, I know that. But whenever I need him, he is never there for me. If am disturbed at night, he prefers to sleep because he doesn't feel like spoiling his ...
A. 11 October 2013: He's never there for you anyways it's an LDR. Dump him and go meet someone that can literally and figuratively be there for you.
Trust me, it's a lot better in person. You're just wasting your time trying to make a guy behave in a way he's not... (read in full...)
We broke up because of facebook! Who's right?
Q. So a few days ago my girlfriend randomly starts acting cold and won't tell me what's wrong initially. She then spills the beans and tells me that she saw me on Facebook liking photos and statuses of girls that she knows I used to talk to. We ...
A. 10 October 2013: Neither of you and both of you. You have the right to like girls on Facebook, you even have the right to sleep with them if you're open about it. And she has the right to tell you that she finds your behavior unacceptable and leave you.
Who's... (read in full...)
I'm an unhappily married man with two small children and I'm wondering if anyone has any experience staying with someone they don't love for their kids sake?
Q. hi everyone. im an unhappily married man with two small children.im wondering if anyone has any experience staying with someone they don't love for their kids sake? my wife has a short temper and can stay angry for weeks about things without e...
A. 10 October 2013: First about the kids: I honestly believe that divorce is easier when kids are younger, specifically under 5. It's not easy, but they just kind of roll with the punches while bigger kids take it personally and are often extremely upset by divorce. My ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 10 October 2013: What she's saying, and it's a good point, is that he wants to see you naked because he likes what he sees. Had he preferred the light off or clothes on that'd be something to be concerned about.
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I feel like I don't have any control over what happens to me.
Q. I want a job so badly and I have had no luck finding one so far, and it's breaking my heart. It breaks my heart that I want so badly to have a better life, and I know I deserve good things, but I feel like no matter how hard I try, I don't have ...
A. 10 October 2013: Maybe you need to hire a job coach or whatever they're called. Borrow money if you have to.
There's obviously a problem, but the problem isn't you as a person. Maybe your resume sucks, who knows? McDonald's isn't going to want to hire you unless y... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 9 October 2013: And he feels like you're trying to hide. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 7 October 2013: Uhhhh, because guys like boobs. ... (read in full...)
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