Now that we're married I find he has habits I can't tolerate
Q. Hi everyone, I've been feeling so unsettled since I married two years ago. Didn't live together b4 and now some things annoy me terribly. He drinks every day. I didn't realise how anxious I'd be about this. He's the kind of guy who can't have a ...
A. 23 November 2013: If you've tried talking to him about it, and still had no luck, then it's time for a professional.
You may just be too different to be married, but it's best to try and work things out as best you can.
I'm curious: you knee he did these thi... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to feel insecure in regards to sex toys?
Q. Hi all! I had posted previously about me leaving an abusive relationship. He was very manipulative and plain awful to me. My ex couldnt make me orgasm,so we got a toy to try and help myself, and when he caught me using it he would flip on me...
A. 23 November 2013: I've always had a funny relationship with vibrators. On one hand, I like seeing the pleasure that they can give a woman. On the other hand when I hear the sounds women make it does make me slightly insecure as there are some things that a regular ... (read in full...)
How do I keep an older man interested?
Q. I really like this guy who is around 8 years older than me. Hes a great guy, has all the qualities I'm looking for but IDK how to keep his interest. I feel like he's losing interest even though he says hes not he's just been a little busy with work, ...
A. 23 November 2013: Exactly what SVC said. Aside from date ideas, you really should do this on your own. If he really does lose interest it may hurt, but it really is just an issue of compatibility.
For now just assume that he is busy so you don't feel insecure... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend had drinks with male friends at her place late at night. Is that acceptable?
Q. My ldgf was having some drinks with her female roomate and a couple of guys until 3 am at her place. is it acceptable? Here's the story: when we skyped she said she was going to bed and we were about to end our converstation when her phone rang and ...
A. 23 November 2013: It is ironic. I had a friend who was faithful to a girl who had trust issues. She used to pull evidence out of thin air that he had been cheating and give him hell for it.
He loved her, so he put up with it for awhile. But one time him and I we... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 22 November 2013: Hopefully everything works out okay. Taking it slow is DEFINITELY the best way to proceed. ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to comments about my weight?
Q. I think I might have over reacted. I was texting back and forwards with this guy I had not dated yet. Everything was going well until he made this comment ~i don't usually date girls like you, but you look decent~ when i asked him what did he mean ...
A. 21 November 2013: No, he was a dick and probably doing one of those things where he tries to make you feel bad so you'll crave his approval. Your analogy was perfect and he's just not very clever. ... (read in full...)
My instincts tell me he's not one for a FWB
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles I have recently started what is supposed to be a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy who's almost 20 years older than me. He's an incredibly attractive man and we've liked each other for a few weeks and we fin...
A. 21 November 2013: It sounds like you're right. He's probably kind of lonely and looking for companionship (not necessarily a relationship).
You can call it off and still be kind about it. Tell him that you think he's a great guy and you're very attracted to him, ... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend had drinks with male friends at her place late at night. Is that acceptable?
Q. My ldgf was having some drinks with her female roomate and a couple of guys until 3 am at her place. is it acceptable? Here's the story: when we skyped she said she was going to bed and we were about to end our converstation when her phone rang and ...
A. 21 November 2013: Is this a long distance relationship? That's kind of relevant.
I don't think she did anything wrong either. Although, the truth is, alcohol can loosen people up so you have to be careful if you want to remain committed and faithful.
But tha... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 21 November 2013: Well that explains everything. ... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 21 November 2013: Sorry, but your husband is cheating on you with a man. Period. The phone call seals it. You're going to have to tell him that you don't care if he denies it, you know the truth, and tell him you're not going to pretend you don't. Talk with him about ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: Your luck with women is too bad to be a coincidence... maybe a therapist can help you figure out what the problem is. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated but then chose me but I'm wondering if she should have
Q. Me and my gf of 3 years have been have a rocky couple of months. 1st of I suspected she was cheating on me and after checking her whatsapp message logs I found out she was seeing this guy and even having sex with him. The guy knows about us and she ...
A. 20 November 2013: While I believe most of what she says she thinks is true, one thing I know for a fact only from the little info you gave, is that you guys are not compatible.
Break up now or do it later; if you don't she's going to cheat again unless you can ... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 20 November 2013: What were their reactions? That should tell you all you need to know, never mind the actual situation.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied and cheated for over a year and got another woman pregnant. Should I dump him?
Q. Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year he was having sex with both ov us but I had no idea he was cheating neither did the other girl know about me. He told me cause I caught ...
A. 20 November 2013: He may love you but he made the decision, over and over, to do something he knew would hurt you. It wasn't an accident, he made a choice. Besides, he could have dumped the other girl- he didn't want to because he cared about her too. Do you think ... (read in full...)
Has any female been in a relationship and later found out that your boyfriend or husband was gay?
Q. Has any female been in a relationship and later found out that your boyfriend or husband was gay? How can you tell if he is? I have a suspicion that my almost ex husband may be gay and I'm just curious if anyone else has been in this situation. ...
A. 20 November 2013: My wife knew two guys who were gay (and cheated regularly) but we're married to women.
The thing they both had in common (aside from liking guys) is that their religion, and thus their friends and family, we're not tolerant of gays. This made bei... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 19 November 2013: I wouldn't tell him. Revealing your feelings when you're not sure that they are shared can scare the other person away.
You are probably better of hanging out with him in increasingly more date like situations. Feelings will either develop ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me I'd look better if I lost weight then regrets it and tells me I look fine! What's going on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're in a really happy relationship except for one thing. On occasion he has told me that I'd look better if I lost half a stone. He also tells me frequently (in a jokey way but I see a serious ...
A. 19 November 2013: What's going on in his head is pretty obvious: he has a "type" and you're not it by the strictest sense. That doesn't mean he's not attracted to you by any means.
It's just as if you watch a movie and the actor takes his shirt of and is perfectl... (read in full...)
Sex is the best ever but boyfriend is treating me badly! Do I leave or stay for the sex?
Q. Hello everyone. I am in a really hard situation and it is eating away at me emotionally. I am in a relationship with a guy who I care about very much. The relationship is 6 months old although I had known him for a year before that. He has s...
A. 19 November 2013: If someone's gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat. There's not very much that can be done about it. For now it doesn't sound like he's crossed any lines, so if I was you I'd just trust him until he gives you a GENUINE reason not to, and at that point ... (read in full...)
Worried and confused -- why would he want to be in contact with this ex?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice and honest opinions. How do you feel about ex's keeping in touch with each other? What's the reason they feel the need to stay in touch? My boyfriend of 6 months still keeps in touch with his ex who he was wit...
A. 19 November 2013: There's no need to repeat yourself, he already knows you don't like it.
You're just going to have to trust him (assuming he's always been trustworthy). If he cheats, leave him.
Or, you can leave him because you don't like them talking tog... (read in full...)
Slept with a married work colleague
Q. I have worked with this man for a year. We flirt all day everyday and for as long as I've known him iv been attracted to him, hes also attracted to me but hes married. On friday we had a work party and i stayed in his hotel room and we had sex. Ther ...
A. 18 November 2013: This is the same thing many a "homewrecker" has asked before you. Who knows? But he's probably not going to choose you, so be prepared for reality. ... (read in full...)
Am I being overly concerned -- he wanted to have sex without protection
Q. After waiting a fair amount of time, the guy I'm dating and I decided to have sex. I had needed to take it slow, and he had respected that, then last night we took things further. It got to the point where he was about to go inside me, but he tried ...
A. 18 November 2013: I think that the reality is that most people have sex without condoms when they know the other person. No, it doesn't make sense but it's common.
It doesn't take long to realize that condoms make sex a lot less enjoyable, and your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 18 November 2013: The fact that you dated her 30+ years ago then she dated someone else after DOESN'T CHANGE A THING! She still wasn't with you.
I'd even say that if she chested on you, after 31 years it doesn't matter! I was in diapers when this happened and I ha... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay away from trouble or settle down with a man who truly loves me?
Q. Have to ask myself why I am incapable of having a proper healthy relationship? Ever since I started dating about 3 years ago my whole relationship catalogue is a disaster (all my fault), so what is wrong with me? It started with a guy I dated for ...
A. 18 November 2013: These are things you need to talk about with a psychiatrist; it's beyond the power of advice. ... (read in full...)
Sister-in-law propositioned me, and I'm tempted ...
Q. Hi I have a dilemma, I don't get on with my sister in law, she is an obnoxious self centred person, a habitual liar, thief and cannot be trusted even slightly. I have tried in the past to give her the benefit of the doubt but have always had my ...
A. 18 November 2013: What auntyem said. ... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 18 November 2013: People have the right to secrets as long as they don't involve you, and this happened before you met so you should drop it. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my boyfriend that he didn't cheat?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend rarely goes out drinking but he was out on Saturday night with his (single) friend. I have trust issues and I can get a bit paranoid and jealous.i did the wrong thing and looked at his mobile phone call history.(we live...
A. 18 November 2013: This isn't irrefutable evidence by any stretch of the imagination, so I'd drop it. ... (read in full...)
We had a stupid argument and my ex broke up with me. I want her back!
Q. Hey there hope you all are doing good! I'll probably say random info but hopefully it helps you help me. Well I need a bit of help here. I've been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now well ex girlfriend cause she broke up with me today. We've ...
A. 17 November 2013: You're obviously not compatible. But if you want to try anyways, you have to give her space. If you bug her you'll ruin your chances. If you stop calling/texting/etc, she will get her space and she may end up missing you. Not to mention it'll help ... (read in full...)
How do I get through tomorrow knowing that I've lost her forever?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'm rather depressed at the moment. Tomorrow, I'll be watching the love of my life marry my best friend. When we were 15, my best friend and I met a girl who immediately friend-zoned both of us. I told him once that I liked her ...
A. 17 November 2013: Your a big boy, you'll be fine. At your age a person who was never anything but a friend isn't the love of your life, so don't convince yourself she is, you're just making it harder on yourself. If it's a mistake it's hers to make, so just be ... (read in full...)
I kind of resent lending my friend money and having to pay the interest
Q. One of my best friends has asked me to put plane tickets for her children to fly out to see her twice now-both times I have said yes, even though I don't really like it. The first time, the amount wasn't that high and I had the extra funds to p...
A. 17 November 2013: This isn't her fault, it's yours. You could have said that she needs to pay you back for interest, but you should have said you can't afford it.
There's a reason nobody else will lend her money! ... (read in full...)
Should I be more laid back no matter how immature his friends are?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is the sweetest guy and puts me first in his life in so many ways. I know he is the one for me. The only problem is We are 29 years old. Most of my friends have moved on in significant ways--married, ...
A. 15 November 2013: The worst mistake people make when they get into a relationship is abandon their friends. People are social creatures (Facebook doesn't count) and generally need the company of more than one person to be happy.
My dad has told me that one of h... (read in full...)
Sex is the best ever but boyfriend is treating me badly! Do I leave or stay for the sex?
Q. Hello everyone. I am in a really hard situation and it is eating away at me emotionally. I am in a relationship with a guy who I care about very much. The relationship is 6 months old although I had known him for a year before that. He has s...
A. 15 November 2013: Honestly, I read your question and I don't see where you give any evidence that he's treating you badly.
What I see is someone who puts their expectations on another person, then gets upset when they don't live up to them.
If you're going to ... (read in full...)
I have a second chance with my ex but its on harsh terms- should I go for it?
Q. Hey all Its day 4 post breakup here, i havent started 'no contact' we are still talking every night all night (i know this is not the way to go) Our split was down to distance..5 years in an LDR with neither of us willing to give up our jobs ...
A. 15 November 2013: A SIX HOUR COMMUTE IS A TERRIBLE IDEA!
Just terrible.
Great, you'll live near her but you'll never see her because you'll be working, driving, sleeping, and getting ready for work 25 hours a day.
If you really love her find a job clos... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to listen to me when I need to talk to him seriously?
Q. I am so unhappy with my long distance boyfriend of 3 years but every time I try to initiate a talk he starts shouting or tells me I'm a nag or puts the phone down on me. I can't even tell him I want to break up with him because if I manage to say ...
A. 15 November 2013: I now christen you a free woman. There, that was easy. Now stop answering this jerk's calls and find a local guy. ... (read in full...)
It's not what she lied about, it's that she lied
Q. ok, i've been getting a lot of good responses lately, so hopefully we can keep em going! ok, so my current problem is that my girlfriend, who we just started going out. one of the first things i asl her, is if she smokes, she told me no. now i do...
A. 15 November 2013: EVERYONE LIES.
So, if it's truly a matter of "its not what she lied about, it's that she lied", then you need to remember that fact.
Besides she lied about it, probably because she likes you.
You and I are different here, however,... (read in full...)
Am I unintentionally kind of leading him on?
Q. Am I unintentionally kind of leading him on? I've been seeing a man for about 5 months. He's very sweet and has a lot of qualities I love...but I'm not positive I'm "in love" sometimes I feel like I am, and I feel like if he were to say it, I wou...
A. 15 November 2013: It doesn't sound like you're leading him on at all. You've said you'll be monogamous, that's it. If you ever change your mind you're free to do so.
It seems safe to say that neither one of you are head over heels for the other yet, so you alre... (read in full...)
Husband seems to hate my family and culture
Q. Hi all. I'm in a interracial marriage for 5 years. My husband is Chinese. Ever since our 2 sons were born, I felt that my husband hates my family even more. I can feel his negative energy when I talked to my family specially my mom. He will mock my ...
A. 14 November 2013: He sounds like someone who doesn't deserve to married to you. There's nothing you can say to someone who's prejudiced that will make them change, not to mention he seems like a very negative person in more ways than that.
Why don't you cut your... (read in full...)
We've been tested but my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms and it worries me!
Q. Hi,I'm a 23yr old female n my boyfriend is 26,we decided to go for an HIV test before we can ingage in sex n the results came back negative,we've been having unprotected sex ever since because even when I suggest we use a condom he tells me he ...
A. 14 November 2013: It's your body, stand up for yourself. Condoms fit, they just suck, but he needs to deal with it. ... (read in full...)
I tagged him on fb and he didn't respond and now I don't know how to act
Q. i have a huge crush on a guy who is not in my class in college but he used to show signs of liking me too.even though we dont speak to each other we're frens on fb where he answers only when i speak first.a few days ago i tagged him and some of my ...
A. 14 November 2013: You take Facebook way to seriously. Also, if you are hoping for a relationship to develop, you'll probably need to talk with him in real life as Facebook won't do all the work for you.
Forget the Facebook tagging ever happened and make a plan to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a friend to mention your skin color?
Q. I invited two friends over...I am of a mixed background, roots-wise, one of them who doesn't know the people of my country, told me though cautiously gentle polite inonation and all whether that my people had darker skin than I do..I am not dark but ...
A. 14 November 2013: Well, I think it's a pointless question, but I wouldn't really be offended because racism has more to do with the feeling of superiority or inferiority than it does talking about skin color.
Maybe they like your skin tone and are simply curious?... (read in full...)
I'm a package deal beauty and brains. Guys should like me right?
Q. I am 14 and I'm single my parents say i have the package beauty and the brains I'm a straight A student is there something wrong with me? Guys should like me right?...
A. 14 November 2013: Is there something wrong with you? From the two sentences you wrote, I'd just say that you worry too much. At you age guys are very timid, and sometimes the more "desirable" you are, the more they avoid you because they think you wouldn't like them. ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating my friend's sister and treating her like gold!
Q. I dated a man for about six months last year. Things proceeded slowly (I was fine with that). I actually really liked him - I had sworn off dating after coming off a 14 year relationship. I liked him - and I truly feel like it was mutual. How...
A. 13 November 2013: Maybe she demanded it? Who knows? Facebook, however, is not an accurate guage of love or happiness, so stop putting to much faith in it.
Second, if he's happier with her, more in love with her, more romantic with her, etc, it only means they are... (read in full...)
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