I'd like to get back together with him -- could he be still thinking about it?
Q. My ex and I broke up mutually (but I initiated it) 2 months ago. We were having incompatibility issues but my time apart from him has made me miss him terribly. I got back in touch with him recently and he's been quite brief with his replies. I ...
A. 5 November 2013: Be patient, speculation won't change anything.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been Facebook stalking his exes
Q. my boyfriend is so loving and affectionate and happy, he always says he just wants me to be happy too and we have good physical attraction. We laugh a lot and have fun and spend most of our free time together as we live together (his choice). I...
A. 5 November 2013: I've looked up my exes on FB and it's just out of curiosity, not a desire to be with them. The truth is that they were friends, people that were important in your life at some point. And people look up friends on FB, so it seems similar to me.
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My husband expects me to work full time and perform all of the household chores
Q. My husband gets angry at me for stupid things. He wants me to be the traditional 50's wife, to cook, to clean, to do laundry and all that. I'm okay with most of that to a point; I would be more than willing to do it every day if I didn't work. My ...
A. 5 November 2013: First things first, make sure you don't get pregnant! Then, write down everything you feel and what he does that makes you feel that way. Then give him the note and say you'd like to talk about it with no anger and no judgmental words.
Then ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend ignored me at her party and she's been in contact with an old guy friend
Q. me and my girlfriend have had a few problems lately but we spoke about them yesturday and sorted things out however i keep thinking that I might have made a bad desicion in not breaking up with her. she had a party on halloween and i got very d...
A. 5 November 2013: It's nobody's job to take care of you when you're drunk. Some people are very embarrassed by their partner being sloppy drunk, others aren't.
I know that if my wife and I were in your shoes it'd be the same way because she had relatives who abus... (read in full...)
How or what should I do to make gym time fun for the both of us?
Q. When my boyfriend and I met I was heavy set I have since loss about 10lbs he is constantly trying to get me to workout with him I am not comfortable working out with him. He gets really mean in the gym and it makes me feel unpretty. How or what ...
A. 5 November 2013: Work out seperately. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for a former addict to still smoke pot once in a while?
Q. My boyfriend has a heavy past of drug use. He started at age 16 with pot and it quickly escalated into pretty much every type of drugs and a 4 year addiction to heroin in his 20s. He's 32 now and I've only known him clean. The only thing he still ...
A. 5 November 2013: Everyone is different. For some it's not a good idea, but I know many people that were addicted to hard drugs and swore them off with no intention or desire to go back.
Marijuana is not a gateway drug, that's misleading bs fed to people to scare... (read in full...)
People tell me I should get to know him but something about him makes me uneasy
Q. Why do I feel strange round this older man? There is a man I have recently met (few weeks) and everyone seems to love him he is charming, a great speaker, and in his 40s but for some reason I just don't feel comfortable around him, I hate it when I ...
A. 4 November 2013: Why in the world would you feel the need to get to know someone who makes you uncomfortable?
Maybe (in fact probably) you are being over sensitive, but unless you're in counseling for it there's no reason to make yourself uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
He has made me so angry! How can I make myself calm down?
Q. I am so angry and don't know were to begin with this....I will explain as best I can so please be patient... my boyfriend has an ex wife and two kids of 15 and 17. I am finding it hard to trust him lately as he keeps going out for hours and I get ...
A. 4 November 2013: He didn't do anything wrong. He was being himself and you just put up with it for too long. Some women would have been able to handle the terms of the relationship that he could give them, you obviously couldn't. Instead of sticking around with him ... (read in full...)
How can anyone up and leave their kids?
Q. Why would a man or a woman walk away from their kids? I am a little upset right now. I am settled in a relationship and happy. I have two wonderful kids from a pervious relationship. My ex texted me before and said that he can't stand me, ...
A. 4 November 2013: Either you were a nightmare to deal with and are oblivious, or he's just a selfish person who thinks that his well being is more important than those who he helped bring into this world. ... (read in full...)
How do I find a good time to talk to my mother about first time sex?
Q. First, there is a seven year age difference between me and my significant other. I don't care about that, but getting info out of the way. Second, we've been dating for 3 months now. I am 18, he is 25. Things have heated up within this past month,...
A. 4 November 2013: As you're an adult, I don't understand why you should have to tell your mom you're going to be having sex. Anything she needs to say to you should have already been said by now. "Hey mom, the boyfriend and I are going to finally do it!" "Have ... (read in full...)
I feel so inferior when I hear the word "porn"
Q. I have a fear of porn, whenever I hear the word I immediately think of better looking women who are good at sex and it makes feel small. I've always had problems, my first boyfriend was a porn addict ever since then I always had it in mind that ...
A. 4 November 2013: Don't compare yourself to port, there's no point. The guys you are with are almost certainly not, so why should you?
Porn actresses are a living blow up doll, that's it. I don't find the majority of them to be attractive and I CERTAINLY don't wa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't able to cum by vaginal sex. Why?
Q. My bf is very sexually aggressive and likes to dominate and humiliate me sexually and that's okay with me. The thing that bothers me though is that he only ejaculates if I stimulate him orally for over 30 minutes or if we do anal. Why that? He is ...
A. 4 November 2013: He probably just has fetishes. I bet if you were to find his porn history it'd be full of rough blow jobs and anal. ... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to date?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 4 November 2013: There are plenty of boring, wierd girlfriends to be had.
However, I'd suggest spending less time on the computer and playing games. It's not a a healthy alternative to real life, and there are plenty of things to do that can help you grow as ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble accepting her story about this "friend"
Q. Hi. I have a situation where I need an objective opinion before I act with too much haste and ruin everything. I have been with my fiancée for a little over two years now and I thought everything was going great up until about a week ago. S...
A. 4 November 2013: Well she's definitely full of shit and she's definitely hiding something. I can only guess what it is, but it really doesn't matter do you really want to risk your future on a liar? Not only a liar but one that thinks that you should be okay with ... (read in full...)
Why Do I Constantly Want To Have Sex! Please Help
Q. To make a long story short. Im 19 years of age and im in college and i know it's natural for males to sometimes glance at a females ass and such, i do that sometimes when i see these college junior girls. I get boners in awkward times. like when...
A. 3 November 2013: It'll be more controllable when you get a little older. For now, use it to your advantage and find someone to release that energy with. ... (read in full...)
Was there veritas in his vino?
Q. Okay so this isn't a really major one but last night I went to a nightclub with my mates, then one of the guys who I've know for about a year (we don't really text or anything) well he's jut got a job which will mean he is living abroad for sixth ...
A. 3 November 2013: I'm guessing a little of everything. Mostly the alcohol, I'd guess. But does it matter if he's leaving? ... (read in full...)
How can I remain strong once my lying cheating ex begins his apologetic stage?
Q. Hello and thanks I just broke up with my bf yesterday and I'm feeling saddened that it had to come to this. We were together on and off for 3 yrs. We had issues yrs ago when I caught him cheating with two different women online one woman was hi...
A. 3 November 2013: Its a lot easier to simply block him and go no contact. No Facebook,Twitter, nothing.... (read in full...)
I sleep with him and he ignores me. Am I just a one night stand?
Q. So, a few weeks ago I was meeting up with this guy a few times a week. We met at a Bridal Fair so you can imagine my excitement at finally meeting a nice guy. Anyway, we met up to see movies at the cinema, grab food, etc. Then on one occasion we ...
A. 3 November 2013: Since you didn't have sex it doesn't really qualify as a one night stand. If all he wanted was sex he probably would have asked you out again to try and sleep with you.
If you can't figure out what you did wrong then you probably didn't do anyth... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 3 November 2013: Of course it's normal! Do you think you both have a medical condition or something? Sexus sweatitus... There, now go see a doctor before you get dehydrated. ... (read in full...)
My ldr has a more intimate relationship with his ex
Q. My boyfriend and I recently became long distance as I had to move to another city. He would call me daily but only to tell me his itinerary of the day. There are no emotions, nothing romantic, its very repetitive and predictable. We are good when we ...
A. 3 November 2013: Saying "not to sound vain" before saying something vain doesn't make it not vain.
There is so much more to intimacy than how pretty you are, fyi. It's entirely possible that he connected with her on that level despite her physical imperfec... (read in full...)
How can girls be good enough to have sex with but not good enough to date?
Q. There is this guy and I really really like him and he talks to me all the time and is really sweet to me and also he's so good looking. I have known him for a very long time but we hadnt talked for over a year then he finally started talking to me ...
A. 3 November 2013: If he had to put in some effort to get you to sleep with him he probably would, but because he doesn't have to he doesn't. That's kind of the way it goes.
Guys aren't very picky when sex is involved. For a relationship you need to be more pic... (read in full...)
How can I get my dear bunny girlfriend back?
Q. Six weeks ago, I met a beautiful young woman online who I ended up falling head over heels in love with. She was affectionate, caring, beautiful, we got on fantastically, the sex was amazing, and she seemed to be into me just as much as I was into ...
A. 3 November 2013: Deleting you was the nail in the coffin of this relationship. Next time don't be so "sloppy". Fix your age, that's just lying and you know it. ... (read in full...)
All I want is a cuddle but if I ask it'll start another fight
Q. I just feel confused at the moment, distant and not sure what it is i'm thinking. I haven't seen my girlfriend for about three weeks now and everyday it just feels like she hates me at times. She has a lot of Uni work on at the moment so i can ...
A. 2 November 2013: Read what you wrote and ask yourself if anyone could recommend anything but dumping this insensitive b word.
Why, why, why would you stay with someone who makes you miserable? Does that make any sense? What would you say to a loved one if they ... (read in full...)
My friend expects me to do sexual things that I am not ready to do!
Q. Okay so my guy friend talks about having oral sex with me and he wants me to squirt on him and I am nervous because I don't want to have sex with him if we are not married. We went out only one time and with my ex- boyfriends they never put that ...
A. 1 November 2013: Okay, this is an unusual question because of the age thing. Anyways, if you want to wait, wait. Don't let a guy who is only wanting sex convince you that "its okay, I'll marry you, but for now squirt all over me."
You are definitely, without ... (read in full...)
My friends girlfriend is cheating on him... Do I tell him?
Q. This is a bit of a strange one. And to some it might sound bad on my part. I want to try to set the scene so everyone has a better understanding. A few years ago my next door neighbour moved in with his girlfriend. We both stay in semi detach...
A. 1 November 2013: My instinct says tell him, as I'd want to know. But he has his own instincts and when someone is having a second relationship on the side there are usually signs. If he chooses to ignore them that's between them. ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move? If I do, where do I start?
Q. Hey guys, so I've been out of action from a dating scene for awhile (about a year and a half) and I've developed a fancy for one of my workmates. We get along really well, conversation flows easily, hes funny witty- everything I like in a guy. We ...
A. 1 November 2013: This is a big question to answer as I don't know you or him. An easy place to start would be eating lunch together (alone) or getting coffee. It's harmless, but can give you a better idea of where their head is at, not to mention it can help ... (read in full...)
I don't need to be flattered all the time, but the occasional compliment would be nice
Q. Why does he almost never compliment me? The guy I'm dating rarely ever compliments me. He'll say things like "Hey beautiful" or occasionally say something like I have a nice smile, etc..but it's very rare. It came up one time that I tried to figur...
A. 1 November 2013: You're not reading into it too much at all. The problem is that you're with a guy who is the way he is and you're going to have to accept it or you'll never be happy.
Don't take his lack of compliments personally, either, because it'd be the same... (read in full...)
Boyfriend told me that another girl is flirting with him?
Q. Some background info: I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I have had a bad past with boyfriends and have been abused and cheated on so it was very hard for me to trust my current boyfriend at first but he understands and he has earned my ...
A. 1 November 2013: I second SVC's response.
Either trust him or don't. But don't say you trust him and treat him like he's lying to you.
Remember this: jealousy, snooping, etc will not prevent cheating, it'll only weaken your relationship and make your insecu... (read in full...)
Why did this gal ask me for sex on our first date?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site for serious relationships, which I am seeking. After some brief emails and a phone chat we made a dinner date. We met at a nice resturant and spent a nice hour talking about ourselves, nothing sexual. When we left, I ...
A. 1 November 2013: If you're looking for a relationship I'd steer clear. As much as we'd all like to believe it was our irresistible charm that lead to this, it's less likely than her just being horny and "easy" (I don't like that word but don't know what else to ... (read in full...)
Thin or curvy?
Q. I am in my late 20 s and have a 5 year old son. I was very thin when I got married 112 lb with 5.4 height. I was always getting attention from guys, though was called skinny sometimes. Now after divorce and my pregnancy I gained 25 lb. I am not o...
A. 1 November 2013: My wife is about 5'2" 110 pounds, and I think she looks great. She's got a few extra pounds around her stomach from having two kids, but it doesn't bother me.
If I had to choose, I'd prefer curvy. Not necessarily big boobs, but some meat is a tur... (read in full...)
He cannot take any criticism but dishes it out very well.. How do I make him see this without fighting about it? I am tired!
Q. I have been with my husband for seven years I work(taxes) four months outside the home and the rest of the year I am a stay at home mom. I like this schedule because my kids are young teens and I am here for them when they are home and I al...
A. 1 November 2013: There's nothing you can say that will change this behavior, unfortunately.
My wife is similar and it's very frustrating, but I've kind of just had to learn to adapt. The problem is that it's usually you or I that has to adapt because we're ca... (read in full...)
Why are these girls at college being so mean?
Q. Hi there, I'm looking for some advice regarding girls I am at college with we are all between 24-26. But I have came on crying the last few weeks. I am a single mum my daughters father was abusive to me and I found support through the church as I ...
A. 1 November 2013: I think they don't sound very tolerant, and you sound like you're too sensitive. It's a bad combination for a friendship, so I would stop worrying about them and seek new friends. ... (read in full...)
An Angry Boyfriend? What to do with him when he is like this?
Q. I feel like lately things have escalated way out of control. So the other day he and I decided to see each other for a couple of hours before he starts work. While I was waiting for him to arrive, we spoke on the phone and got into a small disagr...
A. 1 November 2013: While you seem nice, you would have driven me nuts as well.
First of all, if he asks you what's wrong, just tell him for God's sake! It's very passive aggressive to ignore someone when they want to know what's wrong, and it makes solving problems... (read in full...)
He needs time to think about it? What can I do? I am left wondering and waiting if he's planning to break up with me.
Q. I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wante...
A. 1 November 2013: If you said something truly hurtful I'd say it's over for now as a week is a decent amount of time.
Either way I'd carry on as if you're broken up because it'll help you get over him as well as give him the space he needs. ... (read in full...)
My gf has a friend, and apparently they like each other. How should I react?
Q. my gf and I are in a long distance relationship for a year and a half now. We love each other and so far we have been very happy together. she met a guy in university who has been talking to her and messaging her on fb. he has been asking her to h...
A. 1 November 2013: I agree, your analysis of the situation is spot on. If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat. It's best to let her carry on.
However, I'd have an important conversation with her.
You need to tell her that you trust her to be faithful, ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?
Q. I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded ...
A. 1 November 2013: You're a grown woman, it's your choice. ... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?
Q. I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an ...
A. 1 November 2013: I agree with the small penis comparison. I don't really know why fat is such a forbidden word, but one day my wife and I were joking around and she joked that I had a small penis, and holy shit that hurt, even if I know it's not true. Since size and ... (read in full...)
My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail
Q. Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work ...
A. 31 October 2013: Ignore it and don't open anything else he sends you. ... (read in full...)
No experience with players. How do you know if a guy is one?
Q. I need advice on dating. So, I haven't gone on dates for over 12 years. My ex-fiance and I were together 11 years and we did not even dated we were collage buddies. We have been separated for over a year now. I recently signed up for online ...
A. 31 October 2013: Players have the gift of gab; not like talking about interesting things, but like making you feel special, desirable, horny, etc, all with his words.
Often their actions don't match their words either. ... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 31 October 2013: If there was a "cure" for being dumped, it would probably be going no contact. It may or may not work, but at least if it doesn't work you're going to be on your way to getting over them.
I wouldn't try visiting him at work or bringing him flow... (read in full...)
After 5 years he tells me he never loved me and was just using me for sex
Q. after 5yrs the guy i was seeing told me he had meet someone else. Now discover that he never loved me and he only kept seeing me for sex. I feel so used and cheap. Im finding it hard to deal with as i loved this guy. how do i move on? jo ...
A. 31 October 2013: Don't believe anything he says. Sometimes people just want to hurt other people... don't ask me why.
The way you know this is because even if he was using you for 5 years, if he had half a heart he wouldn't tell you. Which means he is just bei... (read in full...)
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