Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 10 October 2013: What she's saying, and it's a good point, is that he wants to see you naked because he likes what he sees. Had he preferred the light off or clothes on that'd be something to be concerned about.
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I feel like I don't have any control over what happens to me.
Q. I want a job so badly and I have had no luck finding one so far, and it's breaking my heart. It breaks my heart that I want so badly to have a better life, and I know I deserve good things, but I feel like no matter how hard I try, I don't have ...
A. 10 October 2013: Maybe you need to hire a job coach or whatever they're called. Borrow money if you have to.
There's obviously a problem, but the problem isn't you as a person. Maybe your resume sucks, who knows? McDonald's isn't going to want to hire you unless y... (read in full...)
The idea of living with my boyfriend makes me feel panicky and trapped!
Q. Hi I'm looking for some impartial advice because I'm really confused and not sure if there is something wrong with me or my relationship. Basically, I'm 28, have been with my boyfriend for over 3.5 years and I love him a lot. However I don't ...
A. 10 October 2013: Well, I've always got excited by the idea when it was brought up by the right person. When the wrong person asked I probably looked at her like she was crazy.
Maybe you need to evaluate your relationship. See what you guys can do to improve ... (read in full...)
I want to date but never get asked!
Q. It seems like many people fall in love the very first time they meet. From what I know, a lot of guys approach girls they don't know and ask them out. I have this one friend who's like a master at attracting guys. She would talk about how she and ...
A. 10 October 2013: Despite what you think, most guys are too nervous to approach a girl they don't know and ask her out. You are just noticing it more.
If you go to a club that'd help, but the guy would probably be looking for a drunk one night stand. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm loved by my boyfriend and he always puts his mom first!
Q. My boyfriend and I have more issues than I can count. We are in our late 20s, been together 3+ yrs, and live together. Issue #1, he is a mamas boy. Whatever mom wants, he does. He goes above and beyond son duties. He gives her just as much, if not ...
A. 10 October 2013: What is there to save? Why are you holding on to and trying to fix a relationship that makes you miserable?
It's one thing if there is an issue you're trying to fix. In this case, there is absolutely nothing you could say or do that would ca... (read in full...)
Help I have pushed him away
Q. Help I am ruining my relationship! Okay my boyfriend is sweet and caring. All he thought about was me. Wanted to spend time with me. Always texting me. Holding me tight in bed. Was so good. But I became a nag constant. Always horrible. Never ...
A. 9 October 2013: Why don't you do as he asked and give it time? The "happy, cute texts" are forced and he knows that. Show him you changed by not nagging him for answers, not crying about it just to get a reaction from him, etc.
Everything you're doing would dr... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he won't accept me because of herpes
Q. I have herpes type 2. I get one bump, and thats it. Every now and again. Anyway, Im planning on going on a date with a man ive been talking to for 6 months, in a week. I know we are headed in a serious direction. He has a messed up past, being an ex ...
A. 9 October 2013: Herpes is very common, and prior to drug companies deciding to market it as a virus that you should be embarrassed by, it was just considered a normal, no big deal thing.
So, maybe you should figure out a good way to tell him ahead of time and... (read in full...)
First boyfriend and first time in love... but he changed and stopped courting me after we had sex. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys! I'd like to ask for an advice. I am turning 29 and have my first bf. He's my co worker. After a week of being bf and gf, we had sex. He was the same man I wrote last september. I felt cheap when I gave myself to him. I only go with the flow ...
A. 9 October 2013: It may be tempting to go out with him again, but he'll only do the same thing to you. It's just that you hurt his ego by dumping him so he wants to prove that he could get you back. Don't fall for it... You'll be right back where you started. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 9 October 2013: And he feels like you're trying to hide. ... (read in full...)
My ex now works in my workplace, I want to ask her on a date to see if things can click again!
Q. Around 2 and a half months ago I broke up with my girlfriend. To be more precise she broke up with me. We dated for around 4 months and it was a good relationship; she would tell me during it that she loved me and I told her the same back. It w...
A. 8 October 2013: You might be in for a rude awakening... She broke up with you for a reason, specifically because you cared more about her than she cared about you (aka moved to fast). Combine that with the probability that you embarrassed yourself when she broke up ... (read in full...)
Cyber sex gone wrong!!
Q. dear users recently i made the stupid mistake of delving into the cyber sex cam world on skype. i had been talking to this girl for a while and it kind of got to what youd call online friends with benefits we ended up camming, and im sure yo...
A. 8 October 2013: If you've made it so she can't see your friends list on Facebook then you probably have nothing to worry about. Most likely she's just a crazy b-word. It may end up on the Internet, but unless you have some identifying tattoos or something nobody ... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.
Q. I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...
A. 8 October 2013: So, what are you going to do? If you're not happy then leave, especially if you don't think you ever could be happy.... (read in full...)
I've went into a major depression after seeing my ex
Q. I ran into my ex for the first time in 2 months. I haven't contacted her, nor have I text her or check her FB. I saw her at a festival; and she came over to me. I gave her a hug and asked her about work, then I walked away. The fact that I saw ...
A. 8 October 2013: I'd stop wondering if she and you have a future or if she still likes you, thinks about you, etc. Also, you need to realize that the end of your relationship was brought on by a lack of compatibility, not because there is something wrong with you. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I no longer have sex because he's taking of things himself!
Q. Okay I've never had a problem like this. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 10 months. We used to have sex all the time and it used to be great! But now we hardley ever have sex. And when we do its kind of boring. He jacks off more then we ...
A. 8 October 2013: Sounds like he's addicted to porn, why don't you talk to him about it? Make sure he understands that this is very important to you and he needs to find a solution if you're to be happy with him. ... (read in full...)
I'm a teen mom stuck in a horrible relationship and I think I could be pregnant again just 10 months after the first baby!
Q. So basically I'm gonna try to make this short . I had a baby 10 months ago, I was 17 . The father of the baby he seemed to change (started being responsible, save money for our life together..etc) Now, everythings messed up again he's slightly...
A. 8 October 2013: If you're Breast feeding, wearing condoms and took a pregnancy test and it came up negative, then the odds are you're not pregnant. Breast feeding is a natural birth control. It also makes your period unreliable.
This is what I recommend. I'm sure... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I only want to be with an uncircumcised man?
Q. I know that this is a pretty touchy subject for some people, so I'm hoping that my question doesn't upset anyone. I'm 23 and I have had sex with one person--my ex-boyfriend, who I dated for a year and broke up with a few months ago. Our sex lif...
A. 8 October 2013: Everyone has their preferences, but I have to say, would it really cause you to dump a great guy? I don't know about the sexual pros and cons, but I'm sure there are uncircumcised guys who would leave you unsatisfied in bed.
By the way I live in ... (read in full...)
Has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on?
Q. has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on? kinda like "if its meant to be it will be" type thing? my ex jumped into another relationship only a couple months after he walked away from our relationship. we were very seriou...
A. 8 October 2013: ANYTHING can happen. That doesn't mean you should wait for it. He left you, most likely, because he thought you were incompatible, it didn't have anything to do with the grass being greener since he started dating her two months later.
He ma... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.
Q. I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...
A. 8 October 2013: I don't really understand your story, but it's irrelevant to my advice.
You don't have to dump her yet, you need to give her an ultimatum: either knock it off or your gone. The next time she yells about you spending time with your kids or talki... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them?
Q. Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them? Am I stupid for this? I am HIV-. Thanks in advance....
A. 8 October 2013: Let's just say that if my wife found out she had HIV I wouldn't divorce her. But had she told me early on in our relationship I wouldn't have dated her.
The honest truth is that there is a million women out there (actually 3.5 billion). Why woul... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to be someone's friend in the hopes it will lead to something more?
Q. I met someone really cool on Saturday. I belong to a sci fi enthusiasts group on a activities website. We went to see Gravity on Saturday. It was only my second meetup with them and I had noticed one of the women there. We ended up sitting next to ...
A. 8 October 2013: You're asking if offering to loan her a book is too pushy? I'm going to take a guess and say that you don't date a lot. The reason I say that is because if you think that might be too pushy, what would you say asking a girl out on a date is? Rape? ... (read in full...)
Should I bring up it up he was searching for strip clubs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months. About 5 months ago, we nearly broke up because he wanted to move to another city. He went over there for a couple of weeks before deciding he didn't want to live without me, so he moved ...
A. 7 October 2013: I don't see the point. You admit that things were different then (if they weren't then it may be worth bringing up). It would only create an argument. ... (read in full...)
I really love this guy and want to spend the rest of my life with him but he left me
Q. Hi All, Please help me out.I am so hurt. Me and my guy friend were dating for 6 months. I fell for him.He was seriously unto me and happy with me and all stuffs happened between us.He let a female friend between us and woud never stop texting ...
A. 7 October 2013: What you're describing doesn't seem like true love to me, I'm guessing that you're hurt more because of the breakup and abortion than losing this guy.
Getting dumped can hurt you in many ways, and it can make you feel like you'd do anything... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 7 October 2013: Uhhhh, because guys like boobs. ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship get past the cheating? How can we work through it?
Q. Please dont lecture me. I know I've done wrong. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years, Im 24, he's 26. We've had a rocky time in the beginning but have been good for the last few years. Until I drunkenly slept with someone behind his back,...
A. 7 October 2013: Sure, it can survive, but it'll take awhile to stabilize, and he made it much more difficult with his decision to tell everybody.
You guys need to figure out what led you to do this or it may happen again. There's always a reason, in your cas... (read in full...)
Deletes all his texts from girls. Is he hiding something or am I crossing the line?
Q. My boyfriend deletes all the texts from other girls. Well he knows that I am jealous and I have confronted him for flirting with his colleague and knows that I sometimes go through his phone. (Please don't judge). Now he deletes all the texts with ...
A. 7 October 2013: It's impossible to say, but I'd guess he doesn't want an argument so he deletes them. How can you ask not to be judged when it's likely that you are creating the problem you're asking for advice about?
Stop treating him like he's guilty and he m... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm losing attachment to him. He breaks promises. So what next?
Q. I really do love and care for my boyfriend. However, I'm beginning to question his... Dedication. He is quite lazy when it comes to building our relationship. I'm always wanting to hang out and talk (he lives about 2 hrs away)... He'd rather s...
A. 7 October 2013: This is a classic example of two people who are not compatible with each other. Most people would try and force it because they're in love, but what good is love without happiness?
My advice is to tell him that you love him but you're just not... (read in full...)
Should I keep working at the relationship or has it run its course?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend, since I was 16. Im now 24. Hes 2 years older. We've had our ups and downs like everyone else but generally get on well and have a good relationship. But for the last six months I feel different. Im under a lot of stress ...
A. 6 October 2013: I think that stress is horrible for relationships... horrible. The few times my marriage has had serious problems was when outside events were causing a lot of stress. Otherwise it's great.
So if I was you I'd wait a little bit, you may end up m... (read in full...)
Do Couples Have to sleep in the same bed?
Q. My boyfriend always complains about the dogs waking him up in the bed (to late to untrain them now) and I always complain about my boyfriend snoring. The real question is there any true importance to a couple sleeping in the same bed or even in t...
A. 6 October 2013: Of course you can retrain dogs and your boyfriend can get one of those snoring mouthpieces, they work perfectly.
You can sleep wherever you want, but if you don't sleep together your intimacy will surely suffer. ... (read in full...)
Need ideas on birthday present for boyfriend of 2 months.
Q. Hey! So I'd like some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and it's his 21st birthday next month and I don't know what to get him. We haven't been together long so I wasn't going to make a deal and get him something ridiculo...
A. 6 October 2013: If he's a decent guy, it really is the thought that counts, so the cookie is a good idea in that department. I don't think a movie ticket would be any different than giving him 20$, but tickets to a play would make a different date night for the two ... (read in full...)
I am bringing bad luck to my boyfriends.
Q. Hello, I have a strange problem and I really hope I can find any answer for it or somebody who is having the same. So, everytime I fall in love and have a relation with some boy, he starts to have so much bad luck (for example lost work, broken lap...
A. 6 October 2013: "Shit happens."
Ever heard that saying? Well, it's very true. Let's see, depending on how I frame it, here is some of the supposedly bad luck (aka "life") my wife of 6 years and I have caused each other since we married:
We both lost our jo... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's behavior a reflection of his love for me or does it speak more about his impulsiveness or lack of responsibility?
Q. I want to tell you the story of my relationship/love affair and am hoping that someone could give me their thoughts on the situation. I have been in a long distance relationship with a man for about 3 months. Our relationship started off as s...
A. 6 October 2013: My guess is that he was in a relationship that should have died long ago but they didn't want to admit it because if the child. When he met you it gave him the motivation he needed to face the reality of their relationship.
Although I'm sure tha... (read in full...)
Tiny boobs and a wierd vagina
Q. Hi please help! One of my labia minora is stretched, saggy and gross! Is there anything I can do and if not is it weird Also my breasts have been stuck at a 32a for a year now what does this mean? (My mother is a c aunty is a d as is cousin does t...
A. 5 October 2013: Do you really believe that out of everyone, you're the only one who has a uneven vagina? Of course not. It's very common. I would recommend a tumblr website, but you're too young. You also have plenty of time to grow, so don't worry. Even if your ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you have sex with a woman on her period?
Q. What are your opinions on period sex? Especially guys... Would you have sex with a woman on her period? Would you do this only if you were in a relationship with her and care about or love her? Or would you do it with a random woman if you wa...
A. 5 October 2013: I think it has nothing to do with a connection to anything, the guy just wants sex and isn't turned off by a little blood. ... (read in full...)
Why so bitter, when he cheated on me?
Q. Hello guys. Could use your guidance please. Me and my ex split up about 3 months ago (he cheated on me). I still love him, but know the split was the right thing to do. I am upset about the split, but I do not hate him for it, nor am I angry a...
A. 4 October 2013: @Starlights:
Communication is essential, but it doesn't always solve issues. Some problems are fundamental and just can't be talked through. ... (read in full...)
He's in jail now. When he gets out do I tell him I was a prostitute and other things about my past?
Q. So I'm talking to a man, who is currently in prison for a charge he caught at 17, for burglary. He gets out in 12 days, and I plan on spending time with him. We write all the time and I have met him. My problem is, he wants to know me, like rea...
A. 4 October 2013: Make sure you have been tested for STDs, you owe him that, but nothing else. He can fall for who you are, not what you've been through. Don't lie, but don't bring it up either. As your relationship progresses you can choose whether or not you tell ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is demanding more in their friendship than I can accept
Q. Okay everyone im having problems with my boyfriends girl best friend. A week or 2 ago he hugged her and I told him he needed to chose between me or her. He chose me they stopped having out and barley talked unless it was about their phone bill cause ...
A. 4 October 2013: I agree that your insecurity might be as much to blame here as his friendship, but I don't think you should dump him.
You should tell him that you're giving him one last chance. With her recent outburst you don't want them to have any more con... (read in full...)
I feel like he's never there for me when I need him
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my current bf for 3 years, this is my first long term relationship. I love him to bits, i dont mind doing his share of work at home. I thought i found my ideal partner with him, he is sweet, very funny, very confident Bu...
A. 4 October 2013: Unfortunately, after talking with someone multiple times with no success in getting them to change, you have to make a choice: do you leave them and try to find someone who you're more compatible with, or do you accept their flaws and stay, without ... (read in full...)
Why so bitter, when he cheated on me?
Q. Hello guys. Could use your guidance please. Me and my ex split up about 3 months ago (he cheated on me). I still love him, but know the split was the right thing to do. I am upset about the split, but I do not hate him for it, nor am I angry a...
A. 4 October 2013: Because he has the emotional maturity of a baby, that's why. ... (read in full...)
Is this video a gift he'd like?
Q. ok. so I'm planning to do this sexy elegant video for my boyfriend of me in lingerie, undressing and stuff. I'm in that field of doing videos all the time and have all the equipment to do something quite stunning and very professional. So my q...
A. 4 October 2013: I would like it if it became a little bit pornographic, otherwise I'd prefer pictures or the real thing.
Either way I'm sure he'll appreciate it. You could start it and pretend you were gonna watch a regular movie. Then pounce on him. ... (read in full...)
In love with my late husband's brother - is it wrong?
Q. Hi! This is going to be long, so please be patient! I'm a widow. My husband died suddenly four years ago leaving me with three children, then aged six, three and one. I was devastated and it took me a long time to come to terms with his death. H...
A. 4 October 2013: It's perfectly natural... In fact it's a human tradition dating back to the beginning. And it only makes sense; you loved your husband and his brother probably shares many of the features you liked about him.
Your husband would probably be happy... (read in full...)
We aren't really together nor broken up.. Need advice please!!
Q. My boyfriend (of 3 years) and I just... broke up?? I'll explain why that's questionable. We didn't live together but spent weekends together and a couple days during the week when our work schedules allowed. We had a serious relationship where we'd ...
A. 4 October 2013: Why don't you guys go to couple's therapy? It can be great for people and there are subsidized options available if you can't afford it.
If he still wants you than this should be a no brainer. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend for his personality but the FWB for the way he makes me feel attractive!
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend threatened to leave because of several issues, im not sure what to do, i dont want to upset anyone. I was building a relationship with a guy for a little while and then he said that he cheated several times in previou...
A. 4 October 2013: You did cheat. And when you cheat, but want to stop and are finding it difficult, you have to fix the problem that caused the cheating.
In your case it's insecurity. Work on that and you'll not be as tempted to stray. In your case I think yo... (read in full...)
First boyfriend and first time in love... but he changed and stopped courting me after we had sex. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys! I'd like to ask for an advice. I am turning 29 and have my first bf. He's my co worker. After a week of being bf and gf, we had sex. He was the same man I wrote last september. I felt cheap when I gave myself to him. I only go with the flow ...
A. 2 October 2013: It sounds like he wanted to sleep with you and said all the right things to make it happen.
All you can do is learn from your lesson; next time don't get overly excited and sleep with a guy right away. If you do you're setting the tone of the r... (read in full...)
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