My ex is dating my friend's sister and treating her like gold!
Q. I dated a man for about six months last year. Things proceeded slowly (I was fine with that). I actually really liked him - I had sworn off dating after coming off a 14 year relationship. I liked him - and I truly feel like it was mutual. How...
A. 13 November 2013: Maybe she demanded it? Who knows? Facebook, however, is not an accurate guage of love or happiness, so stop putting to much faith in it.
Second, if he's happier with her, more in love with her, more romantic with her, etc, it only means they are... (read in full...)
New to oral and looking for some tips
Q. Hi guys, need some advice…I feel a bit of a soppy fish at the moment….I have recently started dating this woman, we have slept together a few times and shes more experienced than me but I find it difficult to 'go down on her'. I'm not really sure ...
A. 13 November 2013: I'd offer tips but you kind of have to figure it out yourself. Think of it as a learning process. Ask her how she wants you to do it. Have her point or even use her own finger.
I've found that what works wonders on one woman can annoy the next... (read in full...)
Could someone give me a little pep talk or something about how I am not a bad person for cutting her out of my life?
Q. Am I a bad person for cutting off an ex who wants to remain friends? My ex of 7 years (we mutually broke up 3 years ago) won't stop contacting me out of the eventhough I am now married and she is engaged. What is really confusing is that she was emot...
A. 13 November 2013: You should never feel guilty for cutting contact with people that make you feel crappy when you talk to them. What would be the point of maintaining those relationships?
You don't owe her anything and her happiness is not your responsi... (read in full...)
How do I break it to her? I want to end this nearly 10 year relationship.
Q. Hi, I'd like to know how to end a long term (nearly 10 year) relationship? I'm 27 and have been in the same relationship since 18. Initially it was long distance and we saw each other every weekend or other weekend but I inherited a house close to...
A. 13 November 2013: It's not really your place to figure that out, it's going to be her call, so don't worry about it.
My advice is this: be aware that it's probably going to hurt her a lot and she's going to take it personally. Try to help her realize that there's ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt he ignored me!
Q. Hi OK so i just don't know what to do in this situation and who's right and wrong really. :/ I was seeing my boyfriend for 5 months. We started off lovely, then after about a month he backed off and said he wanted to take it slow. I respec...
A. 12 November 2013: You were trying to force him to be something that he's not. It's your right, but it didn't work very well. You can call it controlling or not, that's unimportant.
What this comes down to is compatibility, which you guys certainly were not. Don... (read in full...)
Should I tell a new boyfriend about my fake teeth?
Q. Ok here goes, when I was younger I got best by my bf at the time and he messed my teeth up really bad. It was to the point where they couldn't be fixed so I had to get dentures. Don't get me wrong I love my dentures and ppl that doesn't know me ...
A. 12 November 2013: Btw, sorry if this is offensive, but I actually knew a guy who's wife had an illness in her 20's that caused teeth loss and she had to get dentures too. He said that he actually loved them because when they were intimate it was amazing when she took ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a new boyfriend about my fake teeth?
Q. Ok here goes, when I was younger I got best by my bf at the time and he messed my teeth up really bad. It was to the point where they couldn't be fixed so I had to get dentures. Don't get me wrong I love my dentures and ppl that doesn't know me ...
A. 12 November 2013: Just because you don't want to tell everything about yourself to someone doesn't mean you are dishonest. Tell him when you feel comfortable. ... (read in full...)
She freaked out a little when I said she was my everything!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a real pickle with the girl I love. We have been together for about 6months now and slowly but surely she has become the centre of my happiness. When ever I'm with her I feel electric and alive. I have had a couple of long term ...
A. 12 November 2013: Well, you can't force a relationship to happen, and if things are meant to be then these little incidents are irrelevant; you get over them and continue being together. But if this puts you at the brink of breaking up it means there are other ... (read in full...)
She freaked out a little when I said she was my everything!
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a real pickle with the girl I love. We have been together for about 6months now and slowly but surely she has become the centre of my happiness. When ever I'm with her I feel electric and alive. I have had a couple of long term ...
A. 12 November 2013: I'm not sure you guys are "meant to be". Also, in the future you need to be very selective with the cheesy things you tell women. Some love it and need it, others go running for the hills.
For now you should just allow her to set the pace of ... (read in full...)
I'm getting suspicious -- should I approach this collegue of his?
Q. hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for years but it has been a rocky road for one reason and another. He has called me by his colleagues name a couple of times recently. The last time was this weekend, I felt very suspicious this time for...
A. 12 November 2013: Approach her? Is she cheating on you?
The one who's being inappropriate is the one with a commitment to you. ... (read in full...)
Haven't been feeling the need to be in a relationship -- is it because of ageing?
Q. Dear Cupid, It's been a while since I fell in love or had that feeling of desire to be with someone. I think it's probably I am in a new enviorement as I moved to a new country. but I miss that feeling of love, attraction, chemistry, and a...
A. 11 November 2013: I went through a stage around your age where I felt the same. I didn't really think I wanted to put in the effort to make a relationship work, and I didn't want a fwb relationship either, so I persisted off of the occasional hook up. I occasionally ... (read in full...)
I really want to post our relationship on FB, but he's not so keen
Q. (very long story) I was dating this guy a few months back, at the start of the year, we dated on and off throughout the year we kept breaking up for different reasons, girls being the main one.. We got back together about a month ago, I broke up ...
A. 11 November 2013: When you update your relationship on Facebook and make it official do they give you a certificate? One you could hang on the wall to really make it official.
Worry about how your boyfriend treats you, not his social media privacy preferen... (read in full...)
Anyone else take this long to get pregnant?
Q. Hi Folks, Thank you for replies in advance. I am a 30 year old woman, I have been with my partner for 8 years and 7 or those 8 we have being trying for a baby. Every month is a disappointment, both of us have got tested and apparently health...
A. 11 November 2013: It took me a few days the first time, the second took a little longer because my wife was breastfeeding, but it was still only months. I have friends who got people pregnant who they only slept with once.
So, 7 years is waaay too long, there is... (read in full...)
Caught him looking at porn after he said he would never do it again!
Q. Caught my husband months ago lurking into porn videos. Said would never do again. Swore promised. Said was stupidness curiosity and wrong but did it. Doesn't mean anything just says computer wass there one click lead into many videos. I believed ...
A. 11 November 2013: I think fatherly advice's advice is great.
A large % of men watch porn, some just hide it better than others. If you leave him you're going to leave a "great guy" for doing something that comes natural to him, just to find out that the next guy... (read in full...)
So far everything's been on her terms
Q. I met a girl a few months ago, she is really lovely and funny and when we meet up we have such a good time together. Problem is she is rubbish at getting in contact, so the oonly time we properly talk is when we arrange to meet. Anyway things were ...
A. 11 November 2013: Why don't you give her another chance? One incident isn't necessarily an indication of the way things will always be. Just take things slowly, otherwise you risk getting hurt if she does have another incident. ... (read in full...)
He has become so self-centered that I'm crying every night!
Q. My current situation is that I live with my boyfriend and my son from my previous relationship. He is great with my son and we get along really well the only thing that is bothering me is that he seems to think time with my son and me is our time ...
A. 11 November 2013: You can't fault him for having a life, he's not doing anything wrong.
And, janniepeg is spot on with the porn thing. If it was a deal breaker you would have dumped him. It's probably very difficult to find a guy who doesn't watch porn, and, unf... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a liar, bad mouths me but would not let me go.
Q. My girlfriend is nothing but a liar and i resent her for it. I recently noticed she had made our relationship status on Facebook hidden, to which i asked her why and for whose benefit, she became agressive with me because she knows she got ca...
A. 10 November 2013: She's nuts. That's all you need to understand. Wait, that's not everything: the only reason you're with her is because you're too insecure to leave.
You just need to accept the fact that you're with a horrible person and that she's never going to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault?
Q. My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault? My boyfriend has Bipolar Disorder. He drinks a lot sometimes, and this annoys me, whether he is being annoying when he is drunk or not. Sometimes, he is hyper and happy when he is drunk...
A. 10 November 2013: The only thing you could have done to deserve it would be to physically attack him.
Now though, you seem "aware" enough to realize he shouldn't have hit you. So what are you going to do with that information? As they say, "fool me once, shame on... (read in full...)
How do you feel about the woman proposing to the man?
Q. This question is for everyone: How do you feel about the woman proposing to the man?...
A. 9 November 2013: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Step one: meet the right guy.
Step two: drop hints.
Step three: talk about it directly.
Step four: wait.
If he doesn't propose after that don't bother asking. ... (read in full...)
Plumpy fat or tall with muscles?
Q. Girls/ladies i have a question for you! Please what does a lady prefer? A guy that is plumpy/fat or a tall guy that got muscles/workout? O.p I fall into later option...
A. 9 November 2013: Why did you come here to ask a rhetorical question?
Obviously women go nuts for fat guys and are grossed out by muscles. ... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 9 November 2013: Cheating and flirting aren't necessarily related to happiness and love. ... (read in full...)
Is 6 guys alot for a girl to sleep with?
Q. I need some advise, please be honest and tell me what you think and what you would do in this situation. I recently found out my fiancé of almost 6 years had been with 6 guys before me( she was my first- she's 3 years older than me I was 22 when we ...
A. 9 November 2013: 6 is probably on the low end. FYI don't even bother asking that question, the other person will lie as often as not, and what good is the info anyways? Get an STD test either way. ... (read in full...)
Her reasons seem a bit odd to me -- anyone else every decide a guy was just too good?
Q. Has anyone had to make a decision like this? I was dating someone a while ago, but it ended after two months. Since then we stay in touch as friends as she said I was important to her. In the meantime we both date other people although the per...
A. 9 November 2013: It's funny that you ask this question because there have actually been studies that indicate most people don't want a partner that's too attractive because of the exact reasons you stated.
They prefer, subconsciously at least, to have "flings"... (read in full...)
Is it ok if I want to know everything about my girlfriend? Before proposing?
Q. Im planning to propose to my girlfriend soon, is it ok in wanting to know everything about her and her past? she is the one i want to spend yhe rest if my life. however i suspect theres something shady she doesnt want to talk about and im afraid if ...
A. 9 November 2013: Some people hide things, even small things, because of reasons that don't make a lot of sense to other people.
I don't know how you plan on finding out whatever it is you want to know, but forcing her to confess her secrets seems like an asshole ... (read in full...)
How do you tell a man with a temper that things need to change or else it's best we divorce?
Q. I love my husband, but I don't like him. We've had a rocky relationship of 5 years, married for 2.The first 2 years we fought all the time, and his temper was out of control but in the next year, we worked hard to work out the issues in our ...
A. 9 November 2013: The only thing I would recommend would be that when he's not at all in a bad mood tell him, and don't say "change or else", that creates problems of its own.
Tell him that you don't want either of you to be in an unhappy marriage so you absolute... (read in full...)
I explain to him he's jealous and clingy but hes not getting it!!
Q. I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too much He crys all the time over small things And when We argue and someone apologizes he continue...
A. 9 November 2013: Uhhhh, dump him? Why are you putting up with someone who has so many issues when there are 3.5 billion guys out there? ... (read in full...)
Due to my past experience with acne, I am worried that my boyfriend is trying to tell me something. What do you all think?
Q. I am someone who went through a severe bout of acne when I was younger. I have been left with scars (no acne now) and have been seeing a dermatologist regularly to get filler and laser to deal with it. Its better, but I do still have scars. Anyh...
A. 9 November 2013: I think it's more likely that he doesn't think about, or is aware of, the fact that you had acne problems. It's also likely that you are over sensitive on the issue, so you're creating a problem that doesn't exist. ... (read in full...)
Are there people who just don't like texting?
Q. Silly question but do some people just not like texting? I was/am seeing this boy. have been since end of july. When I see him hes lovely! We get on great, he shows me a lot of attention and clearly likes me and enjoys spending time with me. I'...
A. 8 November 2013: Literally every single person in the world loves texting.
Despite this he may be busy or preoccupied when you text so maybe he doesn't want to start a conversation. ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my cousin?
Q. should i have sex with my cousin hes 4 years older than me im 17 hes 21 nearly 22.Me and my cousin have been having a special connection for years a couple of years back we kissed and i touched his penis we both remember that night till this ...
A. 8 November 2013: Of course you'd remember touching your cousin's penis.
Look; I fall into the category that two adults can do whatever they want as long as it's consensual and not hurting anyone else.
In this case you're not an adult and you'd most likel... (read in full...)
Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? And what do they prefer-natural or make-up?
Q. I was wondering what your opinion is on this question. Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? Because I think I am attractive but when I look at myself in the mirror I don't like my stomach,(have a few inch...
A. 7 November 2013: Guys are certainly capable of lying, but the important thing to remember is that the flaws that you dwell on are likely not even registering when he looks at you.
When you look in the mirror you're seeing flab, dry hair, etc. When he looks at... (read in full...)
Why do abusive men cheat?
Q. I just got out of an abusive relationship. Not only was he physically and verbally abusive but now I found out that he had been cheating on me our entire relationship. He always had accused me of cheating and now I know why because he was the one ...
A. 7 November 2013: I agree, why do you care? Are you hoping to find yourself a faithful abusive guy?
There's a ton of reasons why people cheat, and it almost always has little to do with the person they're cheating on. ... (read in full...)
Can't deal with my husband's anger and negativity, but leaving him means leaving the U.S.
Q. I am marriaged to an American for more then 12 years now. I went to USA to work and study with a scholarship in Arts. We met through a friend from my Master´s Degree University. He is an Artist too,but from another University,but doesnt have a Mast...
A. 7 November 2013: As you seem to be finding out, life in the US isn't anything special and in some ways it's inferior so many people's home country, even though it's romanticized.
Yes, you can sometimes earn more money, but you can also easily spend every dime of ... (read in full...)
I've been a little obsessive about looking at my ex's facebook and pictures, I know it hurts my girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, So I broke it off with my controlling ex girlfriend over three years ago, we were together for about a year and a half and she had a young son from a previous relationship. She didn't treat me well and while I sort of hate her, it's more tha...
A. 6 November 2013: Get over her in a way that doesn't hurt someone you love. A marriage is about compromise and in this case you have a good reason to compromise for the sake of the relationship.
Although I wouldn't encourage her jealousy since you're not being un... (read in full...)
Disastrous haircut! How do I deal with it?
Q. I know this may seem the silliest of issues and I feel very stupid asking for help over such trivial matter. So, I've had my hair cut super super super short yesterday. I thought I'd look good but... I don't!!! I look awful!!! Even my colleagues and ...
A. 6 November 2013: Same thing happened to my wife. She even had women start hitting on her because they figured she must be a lesbian.
Within a few days it settled and was manageable. It'll be awhile before it's an ideal length but it's fine now. ... (read in full...)
Confused by this man dipping in and out of my life, saying he's not ready for a GF. I like him. What do I do?
Q. Please I need help. I am mature going to school, and working at the same time living my life like any individual do but I can't figure out what is happening to me. I met a guy about a month a go and everything was perfect in the beginning, he was c...
A. 6 November 2013: This is way too much drama for a month long relationship. Move on. Next time, don't even bother dating a smoker. I'm like you, I can't stand it and wouldn't want them to get sick if we were to have a long term relationship. But most smokers have a ... (read in full...)
Advise on friends with benefits, please. I have no one to talk to about this.
Q. So if you read my previous post some months ago a guy I am very interested in gave me his number, I texted him went out a few times and within a week of going out we became physical. But now am totally heart broken because after our first time tog...
A. 6 November 2013: People watch too much TV: there are no fwb rules except you should be friends (not more) that are sleeping together. That's it.
You're obviously setting yourself up to get hurt. I'd end it if I were you, but since I know you won't, just stop loo... (read in full...)
I need help accepting separate nights out. Please help!
Q. I need help. I seriously dislike when my boyfriend goes to bars or clubs without me. It's not logical, per se. For example, tonight I went for two drinks with a friend I hadn't seen in 3 years. But that was 7pm and I'm home at 11pm. I also told him...
A. 6 November 2013: "This friend is single and bad news." Are you dating the friend? So why do you need to worry about him? Do you trust your boyfriend? If so, then you should be able to not worry that something bad is going to happen when he's not around you.
Also,... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend being friends with this cheater?
Q. My boyfriend is friends with a girl who cheats on her boyfriend with a lot of guys. (she even admits it) I'm not trying to judge her but I feel uncomfortable with her being friends with my boyfriend. I've met her and have been around her. She ...
A. 6 November 2013: If you trust your boyfriend you have nothing to worry about. If he violates your trust you have a good reason to find a better boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with friends with a very different cultural and religious values?
Q. hello, i am in a serious trouble with myself. how do you deal with friends with a very different cultural/religion values between them? i am having a difficult time with it.. i spend time with them (off course they are my friends, so we go for movi...
A. 6 November 2013: I've never found it to be a problem, but that's probably because I don't care for judgemental people so I don't have these kinds of conflicts. ... (read in full...)
Why does society think that asexuals are either gay or have "broken" DNA?
Q. Good evening everyone. As a young woman, I am intelligent enough to understand that there are different people in this world who do not feel the same as the majority. Some people have no desire for intimacy or romantic relationships. It seems ...
A. 5 November 2013: Look, most people are just ignorant, there's not much you can do about that.
But, in a way you are "broken" but so are a ton of other people in many different ways. The good thing about you is that you're not hurting anyone and you're perfectl... (read in full...)
I'd like to get back together with him -- could he be still thinking about it?
Q. My ex and I broke up mutually (but I initiated it) 2 months ago. We were having incompatibility issues but my time apart from him has made me miss him terribly. I got back in touch with him recently and he's been quite brief with his replies. I ...
A. 5 November 2013: Be patient, speculation won't change anything.... (read in full...)
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