First boyfriend and first time in love... but he changed and stopped courting me after we had sex. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys! I'd like to ask for an advice. I am turning 29 and have my first bf. He's my co worker. After a week of being bf and gf, we had sex. He was the same man I wrote last september. I felt cheap when I gave myself to him. I only go with the flow ...
A. 9 October 2013: It may be tempting to go out with him again, but he'll only do the same thing to you. It's just that you hurt his ego by dumping him so he wants to prove that he could get you back. Don't fall for it... You'll be right back where you started. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend for his personality but the FWB for the way he makes me feel attractive!
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend threatened to leave because of several issues, im not sure what to do, i dont want to upset anyone. I was building a relationship with a guy for a little while and then he said that he cheated several times in previou...
A. 4 October 2013: You did cheat. And when you cheat, but want to stop and are finding it difficult, you have to fix the problem that caused the cheating.
In your case it's insecurity. Work on that and you'll not be as tempted to stray. In your case I think yo... (read in full...)
How can I regain my body confidence and make my husband find me sexy again after giving birth?
Q. I've been with my husband for 5 years and we have a 13 week old daughter together. I have a real big problem with sex since I've had my daughter I feel disgusting and so ugly! I've lost the baby weight but my stomach looks gross saggy, ...
A. 4 October 2013: I meant to say that your husband not finding you attractive while you were pregnant is normal. And I think "common" is a more appropriate word. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her, but I can tell she's skittish about it. What should I do?
Q. I’ve recently fallen for a beautiful woman. Every single bit my type with all of my strengths and flaws. I asked her for her number today and she gave it to me. When I tried to make plans she was hesitant and we never ended up making a solid ...
A. 4 October 2013: How about you start by slowing things down a ton. There is no possible way that you love her. You're going to scare her if you act like you talk. ... (read in full...)
No love after dirty talk?
Q. I feel I have to explain this first part for the story to make sense. Growing up, I was very sheltered from anything sex. Never spoken about, if someone as much as kissed on tv, it was turned and the my mom would go "eww that's disgusting, why ...
A. 4 October 2013: Maybe he knows that you're a bit uneasy with it so he doesn't want to make things awkward. I'm sure he loved it. For me, sex is quite a bit more enjoyable when my wife or I are talking dirty. This morning we had sex and I said something to her that ... (read in full...)
Does the feeling of love change as you get older?
Q. hi :) this is kinda aimed at people in there mid 20's. im nearly 22, i have been in a few long relationships. been single for a while now. does love feel different as you get older? i have dated a few guys but it doesnt seem the same as intense as ...
A. 4 October 2013: Well, when you're young, you experience lust and infatuation more than actual love. But I'm sure it has much more to do with the fact that you haven't met the right guy.
I have experienced intense love a number of times and it felt roughly ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me - is this worth fixing?
Q. Hi there, I'm in need of help. I started dating this man in sept. 2011 and we dated a year and got engaged October. 2012, moved in with him, things have been going great, was thinking i found a good man, then surprise I got into his email cause ...
A. 4 October 2013: END IT IMMEDIATELY!
I know it's hard, but not only did he cheat for a long time, he's a repeat offender, and, to top it off, he somehow blamed you for finding out about it. This guy is a total narcissist. Run or accept the fact that this will hap... (read in full...)
How can I confront my mother-in-law without hurting her feelings?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years now with 3 beautiful children, he is the only son and he's 34 years old. His mom is 54 years old and she still treats him like he's 15 and she's still trying to control him and make decisions for ...
A. 4 October 2013: This might help you, this lady writes a great advice column:
http://m.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-firmly-but-gently-set-boundaries-with-in-laws-who-smother/2013/09/30/15d16bd2-23fa-11e3-b3e9-d97fb087acd6_story.html... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that he's a cheater, or just leave their relationship alone?
Q. what would you do if you had a friend who married someone twice her age, got pregnant, had the baby, got married to the guy, got pregnant two months after the baby was born, and see that the guy has liked a page on his facebook called add me adult ...
A. 4 October 2013: Just because there are ads for cheaters doesn't mean he's cheating. He is probably looking at porn, but that's none of your business and he's obviously not hiding it from anyone, including her. Might I remind you that you too were looking at ads for ... (read in full...)
How can I regain my body confidence and make my husband find me sexy again after giving birth?
Q. I've been with my husband for 5 years and we have a 13 week old daughter together. I have a real big problem with sex since I've had my daughter I feel disgusting and so ugly! I've lost the baby weight but my stomach looks gross saggy, ...
A. 4 October 2013: All men are different, but I've had two relationships with 'milfs'; my wife and an ex gf. Both were obviously mothers, their breasts not as full, and they had stretch marks (not too much) and slightly flabby tummies.
But I didn't find them one... (read in full...)
My potential partner is showing poor judgement with a popular bank scam!
Q. I'm lesbian and there's this lady I'm talking to, nothing serious n we r not dating. It's been a month now. Today she did something really stupid which got me now questioning her intelligence, I always questioned it which is why I wanted to develop ...
A. 3 October 2013: Why don't you show her reliable evidence that this is a very common scam. Show her what to look for and show her that what's happening fits perfectly with that.
Also, don't be too harsh on her. This isn't only about intelligence, this is a well k... (read in full...)
Getting frustrated at the way he's treating me
Q. Dear Cupid I work in same office as of my bf of 3 years. Lately he was vey busy at work, lots of work load as he was trying for promotion. As he was busy at work, he stopped even being civil to me, its like i dont even exist for him. Its bee...
A. 3 October 2013: You don't mention whether or not you've talked with him about this... That's pretty important information. ... (read in full...)
Do condoms stay put?
Q. Can anyone help? I'm newly involved with a guy and I'm sure that sex is on the cards very soon. However it has been a while for me and I'm a little worried about the condom staying put while we're at it! I don't want to ruin the moment and look ...
A. 2 October 2013: Usually they do, but shit happens. I've had a number of them break on me though. ... (read in full...)
Why are my single male friends so much more bitter than my single female friends?
Q. I find it bizarre. All my male friends seem to be so bleak about their dating lives. I don't really understand why they are like this. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men disp...
A. 2 October 2013: In my opinion, they're not in the same boat at all. Men and women are not the same despite what we like to pretend. ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 2 October 2013: Why are you asking a rhetorical question? How many people do you expect to say "yes, she sounds great!"?
If you're asking because you know someone who has taken a woman like this back and you don't understand why, let's just say that the guy has ... (read in full...)
First boyfriend and first time in love... but he changed and stopped courting me after we had sex. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys! I'd like to ask for an advice. I am turning 29 and have my first bf. He's my co worker. After a week of being bf and gf, we had sex. He was the same man I wrote last september. I felt cheap when I gave myself to him. I only go with the flow ...
A. 2 October 2013: It sounds like he wanted to sleep with you and said all the right things to make it happen.
All you can do is learn from your lesson; next time don't get overly excited and sleep with a guy right away. If you do you're setting the tone of the r... (read in full...)
My selfish husband doesn't turn me on
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 3 years together for 5 and we have a 3 month old baby together. I'm finding I'm just into my hubby as sexually anymore I still find him very attractive but when we get down to sex it's so boring! I don't ge...
A. 2 October 2013: Have you clearly and non judgmentally stated this to him? ... (read in full...)
Married man got caught. Would he lie to me about this?
Q. Are there any reasons why a married man would lie to his mistress about getting caught by his wife? NO judgements please........ He was caught over the weekend and told me they were having a major fight and that he would get in touch with me. I d...
A. 2 October 2013: Of course he could be lying, but he could be telling the truth as well. Lying would make it easier to explain to you than simply saying he doesn't want to see you any more.
Maybe he fears that if he says that you'll tell his wife, so he figures ... (read in full...)
He is controlling but I love him
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year and i do love him but i feel like he is trying to control me he hates it when i talk to other boys (which are just friends) he hates it when i dont go where he goes he always wants to do what he want...
A. 2 October 2013: He controls you because he is insecure and afraid of losing you. He'd never admit that it's about fear, but that's what it comes down to. What that means is that YOU have all the power, not him.
As long as you don't fear for your safety (if you ... (read in full...)
I told him I liked him. He said nothing
Q. I told this guy that I had a crush on him. Before I was about to tell him I think he sensed what I was about to say. After I told him he just asked me how long I liked him and I said I don't know. I could not think straight my head was all over the ...
A. 2 October 2013: Act like nothing happened; no big deal because nothing did.
In the future it may not be the best idea to "confess your feelings" as people put it. I think it can scare the other person... It puts pressure on them to feel the same way. If you had ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have such serious conversations?
Q. I have posted once before, and I found the replies very helpful. I'd like to know if it's normal for my boyfriend and I to have serious talks about the future, such as marriage? We've been together for just over a month, but the conversations don't ...
A. 1 October 2013: Sure, it's normal, but I'd say it falls into the same category as talking about winning the lottery. It's fun, but the odds of you two getting married are about one in a million.
Talking about marriage after dating a month is a sign of immaturi... (read in full...)
How late is too late to start dating in the modern world?
Q. How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, never had sex, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due to many combi...
A. 30 September 2013: Of course it's not too late. Get out there, stop making excuses and take control of your life! I can't tell you how much nice it can be to experience love; it certainly beats being lonely. ... (read in full...)
Is this just a lack or courage or a sign I shouldn't end it?
Q. I'm struggling to let go of a bad relationship and need to know whether what I am feeling is normal? We've been together for over 4 years and I love him a lot, but we've had lots of problems in that time, mainly to do with the fact I've never ...
A. 30 September 2013: I think that the reason that the divorce rate is so high is because people underestimate the importance of compatibility. Love is obviously very important, but what good is love without happiness.
Now, your rational for wanting to break up with ... (read in full...)
Need some advice regarding healthy food options to help with weight loss.
Q. Hi there, I wrote up last week about wanting to loose a stone quickly. Thanks for your advice I totally get where your all coming from. I just wondered if you could give me some advice on a controlled diet as, as usual people say eat salads but I ...
A. 30 September 2013: Man, if you really want to get healthy, you are going to have to get used to eating waaaaay different things than you are now.
Healthy is not the same as low calorie. Rocks have very few calories, but they aren't good for you.
Fruits aren't... (read in full...)
Need some advice regarding healthy food options to help with weight loss.
Q. Hi there, I wrote up last week about wanting to loose a stone quickly. Thanks for your advice I totally get where your all coming from. I just wondered if you could give me some advice on a controlled diet as, as usual people say eat salads but I ...
A. 30 September 2013: Man, if you really want to get healthy, you are going to have to get used to eating waaaaay different things than you are now.
Healthy is not the same as low calorie. Rocks have very few calories, but they aren't good for you.
Fruits aren't... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me?
Q. I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me. We met a few years ago, we fell in love, he disappeared we moved on. 5 years later we met up again, and feeli...
A. 30 September 2013: Who knows why he is the way he is, but the bottom line is that it's pretty certain that you'll never be treated the way you want to be treated. No matter what his "true" feelings are, this is what you can expect from him.
Btw, if you think yo... (read in full...)
I just want to tell him I have a crush on him!
Q. Hey guys, so i've had a crush on this guy at school (im also a guy and i am gay) but the problem is i've never had an actual conversation with him. Im also pretty sure hes straight even though he hasn't had a girlfriend. My problem is that im sure ...
A. 30 September 2013: Everybody has crushes on people in high school and lives with it. I used to have huge crushes on a couple of girls, but didn't have the courage to speak to them.
I think it's pointless to tell a straight guy who you don't even know, that you have... (read in full...)
I hacked her facebook from her phone and found she's talking to a guy!
Q. Hello am I 27 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We've been having some problems lately. I looked on her phone which I know I shouldn't have done but I went to her Facebook account and looked at her messages and ...
A. 30 September 2013: I disagree with Jannipeg, I'm faithfully married and every once in awhile someone comes along whom I miss. I'd never tell a guy I'd miss him though. Women, I might.
There's nothing in the message that is a sign of cheating. Although if your rel... (read in full...)
Why does he say he feels no connection ?
Q. My Bf of 1 year says he feels no connection to me. he says he is not my BF. yet we go out, have sex. We started out wrong with sex. He had a cheating GF that lived with him and since then several years of not dating. Now me.. and he says no c...
A. 29 September 2013: It sounds to me like you may need some therapy to figure out why you're head over heels for a guy who doesn't give a shit about you.
If you leave him you may find that he comes after you and realizes he cares about you, but you will more likely f... (read in full...)
What's the difference between "real sex" and soft, vanilla-porn?
Q. I have yet to be in a relationship or, as pathetic as it is to admit, have sex (mostly because - and it's not a low self-esteem thing - I'm unattractive; women aren't interested in me, never have and it seems like never will; I get it, and I'm okay ...
A. 28 September 2013: I think the big difference is that most porn is made by men for men.
So first of all, the guy should have a huge dick, second, all he has to do is pound her and she'll go crazy and squirt everywhere.
In real life pleasuring a woman requires a... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 28 September 2013: What happened is that he liked you, but probably couldn't actually wait for that long to sleep with you. So while he was waiting he was with other people to pass the time so to speak. He probably didn't feel too bad about it because your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to move my child away from the father who has little to do with him?
Q. Should I move for the man I'm falling for? I think I'm falling in love with a man I've reconnected with online after many years not seeing each other. It wouldn't be anytime soon, but I wonder if I could/would move to be with him. The prob...
A. 27 September 2013: It sounds like you could be reconnecting with your child's father for all you know. You can't uproot your child and move them away from their father simply based on the nice things some guy tells you.
Don't worry about their dad's feelings... (read in full...)
Does it sound like it's time to end the relationship?
Q. I'm in a confused situation right now. I feel like things with me and my boyfriend are never going to change. We live together but he works a lot so we only see each other during that day. He texts constantly! From when he wakes up till he goes to ...
A. 27 September 2013: No, it sounds like the perfect relationship to me (sarcasm).
The bottom line is that if you aren't happy and you talk to the person you're with and they don't care, it's time to accept things the way they are or leave. Those are the only two choi... (read in full...)
Do you just let your ex become a stranger?
Q. My ex isnt willing to see me with someone new and i dont want to see his either so we defriended each other on facebook (FYI: It was a bad breakup) We are in different countries so we will never ever see each other again. Do you guys just let your ...
A. 27 September 2013: At this point, especially with them being so far away what'd the point in hanging on? It's usually easier to just say goodbye. In an ideal world we'd all be friends with our exes and just eliminate the romantic feelings from the equation. But in ... (read in full...)
The night we met she went out had sex with her ex afterwards!
Q. Advice needed please! I met this girl a couple of months ago on a night out with friends, we hit it off straight away, swapped numbers and had a really good time that night. We started dating soon after and are going steady now. Everything h...
A. 27 September 2013: On the first night you met you had zero commitment with her. You guys weren't even dating. So her sleeping with him was okay and had nothing to do with you, and is also not even remotely an accurate indicator of whether or not she'll end up cheated. ... (read in full...)
How can I be happier being a stay at home wife?
Q. How can I be happier being a stay at home wife? I feel stuck. I am a stay-at-home wife (not mom). About 50% of my time is spent at home working on a project I've been developing for several years and hoping it will come to fruition. The re...
A. 27 September 2013: You should start with ACTUAL communication, not sarcasm.
Being a stay at home anything is boring, there's no two ways about it. There's not much you can do to make it better. A couple of suggestions would be to watch less tv and read more boo... (read in full...)
How can I be happier being a stay at home wife?
Q. How can I be happier being a stay at home wife? I feel stuck. I am a stay-at-home wife (not mom). About 50% of my time is spent at home working on a project I've been developing for several years and hoping it will come to fruition. The re...
A. 27 September 2013: You should start with ACTUAL communication, not sarcasm.
Being a stay at home anything is boring, there's no two ways about it. There's not much you can do to make it better. A couple of suggestions would be to watch less tv and read more boo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become obsessed over his penis size and its ruining our sex lives!
Q. My partner has a real issue with the size of his penis to the point of obsession. I'm not innocent in this but I feel helpless as to how to sort it out, move on and heal our relationship if possible. We've been together 7 years and he's always ...
A. 27 September 2013: You've probably said all you can say, so I'm going to suggest a few things to say in case you missed something. I'd even suggest writing him a note so your thoughts and words can be clear and without frustration.
Tell him that you have always l... (read in full...)
How do I respond to this friend who seems to be upset that I've become a happy stay at home mom?
Q. I recently moved overseas with my husband. We hav a baby and i amcrrently a stay at home mom. Iv known this friend since childhood .we went to the same school and she was also my bridesmaid. We were not best friends but we were good friends and she ...
A. 27 September 2013: How to handle what? A mean bitch? Avoid her and don't take a word she said personally, because she is, after all, a bitch. ... (read in full...)
A conversation about a friend led to resentment of my wife's different treatment of me and her ex lovers.
Q. aqwsasThe other night at supper I was telling my wife of 32 years about a young lady at work. This woman was telling a story about a friend of hers who worked three jobs and when he came home from work his wife turned their three kids over to him ...
A. 27 September 2013: Sometimes it takes trying something to realize you don't like it, so don't twist this into her being disgusted by you; it was the other guy who was disgusting. ... (read in full...)
I lost the love of my life and don't know what to do!
Q. Hey Everyone, Where do I begin? I want to try to be as honest as I can so I'm trying to be fair to both the girl I love and myself. It's been almost a year since I lost the love of my life. And yet I simply can not move on. I have tried e...
A. 25 September 2013: You only love her because you got rejected and it's a big blow to your self esteem... Because if you really loved her you would have treated her better.
You need more time and you need to realize that if she was truly the love of your life you... (read in full...)
Is there any chance a handsome guy could like a fat girl?
Q. Hello Dear Aunts and Uncles So, this is gonna be a silly question but i hope you could answer anyway... Well, there is this guy i met that i really like. We are in the same group of friends (i am new to the group). The thing is i don't know if...
A. 25 September 2013: There is no one type, so the only way to know is to put yourself out there and face a possible rejection. A rejection is something everyone, fat or not, has to risk. He certainly seems to like you as a friend, so I'm sure he would be grateful if he ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he feels no connection ?
Q. My Bf of 1 year says he feels no connection to me. he says he is not my BF. yet we go out, have sex. We started out wrong with sex. He had a cheating GF that lived with him and since then several years of not dating. Now me.. and he says no c...
A. 16 September 2013: Because you're not compatible with each other. Stop delaying the inevitable and leave. ... (read in full...)
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