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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I’m currently in relationship with my boyfriend and we’ve been together for 3 months. We meet up every weekend in the day. I am feeling insecure in the relationship and I am worried the spark has gone. I feel like the honeymoon period is over and the relationship seems boring. We were close before and now I feel we are distant.One weekend I was supposed to stay over at his but he asked if it would be ok to meet in the day instead as his niece wanted to spend time with him. She lives far way and is studying at university. I said to him I’ll see him the following weekend as he could spend time with his family. I asked to stay over the following weekend but he’s already made plans with his friend. Again he said he can see me in the day. I feel like I’m not that important to him anymore.Also we’re not texting and calling that much as his phone provider has disconnected his phone as he didn’t pay the bill. Before this happened, I went with him in his bank and he cancelled his direct debit in front of me and explained he didn’t have enough money to pay his bill. We’re still communicating through whatsapp message through wifi but not texting that much.I’ve asked him what he likes about me, he said I’m hot and I am decent. Then I asked him what qualities he likes about me. He said that he’s told me this stuff before. He said we enjoy spending time together and like our company. I feel he doesn’t get me as a person. He doesn’t seem to open up when it comes to discussing feelings and emotions.I have lost my virginity to him and I thought we’d be closer but nothing has changed in the relationship.When we were dating he’d take me nice places to eat. Now we just go to fast food outlets and he is broke. I thought the first three-6 months, the relationship is suppose to be exciting and fresh. I am suppose to be feeling happy. I just feel like we are drifting apart. I feel like he is not that into me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 January 2014):
Relationships are about real life, not the honeymoon period. If you feel this way, now, after just 3 months, then I don't think he's the right man for you.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 January 2014):
 I don't think it's the honeymoon that is over, he is just not able to maintain a expensive date and phone contract. You know he is broke, yet you still expect to be wined and dined?
It could be he is drifting away because he feels he can't afford to treat you the way he wants to.
It's a lot cheaper to entertain family (all he has to do is show up) whereas with a GF he wants to buy you the moon and he has no money.
Maybe he isn't for you.
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