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She says her married boyfriend will get jealous if we have sex.

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Question - (9 March 2018) 9 Answers - (Newest, 12 March 2018)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I met this girl, after speaking for weeks, we met for casual sex. It was great and she seemed to be enjoying it. We were probably busy for 2-3 hours. She even asked me to whip her, first time for me but she enjoyed it. She was good and was eager to please. Anyway afterwards she is still making effort but says we cannot have sex because her bf is jealous. Her bf is a married guy having an affair. How can that guy have control when we are both single. She must of told him, he got jealous and told her she can’t sleep, unless she is lying. It’s bugging me, I’m trying to distance myself from her but she talks again and than I’m thinking there’s a chance when there isn’t, what is going on?

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A female reader, louiselistens United Kingdom +, writes (12 March 2018):

Hi anonymous writer,

It would seem to me that you are just looking for a bit of casual fun with a willing, single woman. There is nothing wrong with that, but it is important to make sure that you are both on the same page, are free to do it and want the same things.

If this woman is attached in a sense, even if she is just the bit on the side for this married guy and choosing to settle for that, then its time to move on from her and find a woman who is single and does want to have fun with you.

There are plenty of sexy and single women out in the world and lots of ways to meet them (even ones who like sex that's pretty wild).

Best wishes


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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (11 March 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntShe's using you to make him jealous. Is this all you think yo are worth?

Cut contact, block her and find yourself someone who is interested in you and you alone. She is only interested in her married bloke.


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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (11 March 2018):

She wants to be friends with benefits. She'll call you when she needs you.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (10 March 2018):

There are 3.5 billion women on this planet. Thirty three million are in the UK I’m sure plenty of them are single. Why would you waste anymore time and effort on one that would: sleep with a married man and then worry about him being jealous of her being with another man? Do you really need that kind of unnecessary drama in your life?

Don’t give this woman another thought and spend your time on one of those 33 million women who is single.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (10 March 2018):

Anonymous 123 agony auntWhat are your expectations from her? You obviously and hopefully don't think of her as a long-term partner, do you? If sex is all that you're looking for then you can find other women who are unattached and will be willing to sleep with you. Why are you fixated on someone who's having an affair with a married man and is basically just trashy?

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (10 March 2018):

Fatherly Advice agony auntoh and one other thing. If she will cheat to be with you she will cheat on you. there is no prize to win here.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (10 March 2018):

Fatherly Advice agony auntSTD testing right away, and feel to expose to the married mans family. Especially if you test positive.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 March 2018):

Honeypie agony auntMove on, OP

Find someone who is REALLY single. If she has a "BF" on the side and a FWB with you... YOU DO know that you are "sharing" right? Any STD's he has... you might get too....

Wish her well and find someone who wants to be with you exclusively.

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A male reader, wiseoldman United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2018):

You're being played. This is classic manipulative behaviour. It seems she's having her cake and eating it too- some people would rather be lusted after than loved- usually the psychological province of men but certainly some women indulge in that frame of mind.

If you think the type of sex she's offering is unique, visit any of the clubs you can find on Fetlife, londonfetishscene, or a local 'munch' (get on the net and do some research.) I lived in the UK for 30 years and the scene there is quite intense- the emotional repression so common to that 'Scepter'd Isle' can burst out in the most extraordinary ways. Meanwhile relax, get a grip, tear yourself free (you owe her no explanation apart from a polite 'goodbye given her treatment of you) and have fun.

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