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writes:I know this is going to be long but please help me with your inputs, advice , and kind words.Hello Everyone, I just broke up with my scorpio man. We have broken up before but made up right away. This time was really for real though because it was worse.What happened was a couple of days ago my boyfriend went out with his friends and called, texted me all night asking if I can pick him up from his friends house due to the fact that he did not want to drive because he was drunk. I said ofcourse and picked him up. He ended up coming back to my house where I took care of him like I always do. He was so drunk he wanted to have sex but he was just irritating me while we were having sex and it became annoying. The next morning we were fine and loving like usual just hung out all day and watched movies and layed in bed. When he went home to shower and chill home for a little I texted my best friend to tell her about his shannigans and how drunk he was lastnight and how I picked him up etc. I even sent her a picture of him that I took of him because his pants were ripped so bad and it was hilarious. Basically we were just having girl talk and I was just saying how he was being so stupid and an idiot and how I shouldnt have picked him up. Later on in the day I had a video on my phone that he wanted to send to himself. I tried but it didnt work so he demanded he try. When he tried he went to my messages just to see if it was going thru. I then got upset because I didn't want him to read my conversation with my friend because it was just there. I didnt want him to get mad that I sent her a picture or was telling her about him. I just snatched my phone and said give me. He got mad and asked me what I was hiding but before I knew it he got up and left. I was so upset because he didnt give me a chance to talk. He texted me asking me "what I was hiding" and I told him the exact truth. He then ignored me for the rest of the night.The next day he called me up in the afternoon, we went out to lunch and he was fine. I apologized to him saying that I didnt mean to hurt him and It was just personal girl talk. He said "im okay its fine"On monday he began to ignore me. Not calling me all day, to the point where he didnt speak to me at all. I made the move on monday to text him and he just seemed to brush me off as about only 2 texts were exchanged. The next day was the same, he called me briefly and said he had to go about 3 minutes into the convo. By the time wednesday rolled around I just felt angered and hurt that he would ignore me like that. He texted me Wednesday(coincidence) and said hey. I didnt text back because I was just stubborn and felt heartbroken by him once again because he has ignored me before. I thought by not texting him back he would think like okay let me make the move again and try hard.Anyways long story short he hasnt made contact with me for 2 weeks since. I got into an accident the other day and just like any other girl I just wanted to call him and let him know. I guess I just wanted him to be there for me. When I called, he kept ignoring because I was getting voicemail. I then texted him and told him thinking he would be like "omg where are you" but instead he replied back and said "i have a gf". As soon as I read that my heart had the biggest hole. Now in the past and he does this alot to his parents, he would say something and lie just to brush everyone off so you could leave him alone. I was hoping this was the case and he was just saying that to make me want to hate him and just leave him. On top of my nerves I made up a stupid lie and said " well I really didnt want you to see my phone because I was texting another guy". I lied about that because really it was the convo with my friend I wanted him not to see but I just said that to make him jealous sort of because he told me "he has a girlfriend. I wanted to make him mad. I couldnt sleep all night thinking we would end up on such bad terms. I know I probably shouldnt have said that but it is as almost he wanted me to say that so he can just have OUT considering he was ignoring me all week.I went to his work to talk to him. ( He has his own business/ car detailing shop) so I went early to see if he would be willing to talk since I didnt want to leave it on bad terms. He basically avoided me to the point where he saw me, he drove away. He was being a jerk. I couldnt believe this very man whom has been in a relationship with ne for 5 years would treat me like this. I just left...I was sad, emotional, angry, and HURT. I left.I spoke to his mom and met up with her at his house since his mother and I have been talking the whole week. She didnt mind me coming over. We had an intense conversation and she said she had also noticed a change in him especially while he is hanging out with this one friend of his. I just told her how hurt I was and how he is accusing me of talking to a guy.(really it was a lie at that very moment just to make him jealous just like how he did to me saying he has a girlfriend). He still insisted though that I did it. The whole 5 years weve been together I have been nothing but amazing to him. Even stayed with him while he went to the Navy and wrote him letters/emails everyday. Never spoke to any other guys and my phone book has the max 20 people in it...just his, my family and girl friends. He texted his mom saying how he saw my car outside the house and said I need to leave. HE began texting me saying LEAVE GOODBYE GOODBYE get out of my house, im done with you. It was so much for me to handle. I was so heartbroken.Not only have I dont so much for him but MY family has done so much for him as well. He continued texting me saying 1) Leave my house I cant deal with this bullshit.2) The other guy doesnt want you no more(meanwhile he has no idea what he is talking about because he doesnt want to talk to me so why is he assuming?3)Im not talking to u this is the last u wont be in my phone and if you, your dad, or mom come to the shop(his work) I will call the cops.That last text killed me there because all of the shit that we have done for him, he obviously doesnt care. MY parents even let him sleep under their roof and he was living at my house for a while. Guess he doesnt remember the important stuff.Anyways to end this I said we really should talk and he just lastly said "I dont just stop im getting pissed"Please Help I am very heartbroken and do not deserve this.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 August 2012):
 Well as I can see it you did something wrong too.
1. don't sent "funny drunk pictures" of you man to your friends, specially if you can't let your BF see that you did it. That is not cool.
2. the whole "I was texting a guy" ... neener neener is so childish, but he might have believed it.
Obviously you two don't work well together in a relationship, so you need to let it go - don't text, don't call. Pretend you have never met.
And next time you find yourself with a BF, learn from your mistakes.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (12 August 2012):
“I don’t deserve this.” You seem to excuse all of your silly behaviour: sending private information to your friend about him, then pretending to be texting another guy. Frankly, the conclusion that comes out of this is that two people who are as silly and childish as each other shouldn’t be together. It’s finished, cut contact with him and get the support you need from friends and family to deal with the emotions you are feeling and will feel as you accept that it’s over.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): I know your heartbroken, but he has made it perfectly clear that he does not want you contacting him, and if you continue contacting him he can have you up for harrassment. This man will not give you closure, he will not talk to you and he will not get back with you. The more you are doing, the more you are pushing him away and reinforcing why he should not be with you. I know your hurting and you don't want it left on bad terms, but sometimes you have to accept that it is the way it is. Going to his mother really didn't help the situation at all, if my ex did that I would be really angry, and I would want nothing to do with that person. I know it's hard, but you have to spend time with friends and family, make your own closure for this relationship and grieve the ending of this relationship. From this moment on leave this man alone, do not contact him or his family and move on with your life. At this point it is all you can do, respect the fact he does not want to talk to you. I know that you do not deserve to be treated this way, he also does not deserve to be continually contacted by someone he has told he does not want to be contacted from at all. It is over, leave him in the past and find someone who deserves your love when your ready to, but concentrate on yourself. Good Luck
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reader, oldbag +, writes (12 August 2012):
 HiIts over, you need to stay away,dont contact him or his family, give him space.He may come round eventually he may not.If you leave him be he's got time to sort his head and so have you.No more of the silly messages or arguments, you have both behaved like kids. You need to let go,vent at your girlfriends NOT his Mum.Your friends will help you get over him and your family too.I know you were together a long time and its going to be hard the next few weeks but you CAN do it.Keep busy, keep looking forward,not back.
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