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female
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anonymous
writes:Hello there.I'm a British woman who's 37 and been wed for 6 years now.Only just found out my husband has been in an affair with an NHS nurse who works at our local hospital, the affair went on for the past 3 years, began at Christmas the year before.It started when my dad went into hospital for a leg injury and then carried on from there.I feel embarrassed and angry about it.The nurse was in her 20s when it started.I'm a mum to a 12-year-old as well; a 12-year-old daughter.Now my husband wants to get together with this nurse and move in with her in her flat. He even wants to take our daughter.The thing is, he can't accept I don't want that.I've since found out that he and the nurse swapped nudes, used a secret Gmail, which husband unfortunately left the password on the computer.I'm going to divorce him, but would this ever see a divorce court?I think when he's broke as a result of divorce, he'll regret this affair big time.Sure, she's a nurse, but now it's making me worry about seeing her in hospital; I've not been in a hospital for ages due to COVID regulations.I'm angry with my husband for going off with this woman who's now about 26-27.I really don't know how to cope and am stress-eating to deal with things.I've also learnt that this NHS nurse has an OnlyFans which is directed strictly at a female audience, but the NHS nurse admitted on social media she's not even into women, just men and the OnlyFans is strictly for the money, and there's a photo of her and my husband with something about couplegoals listed on Facebook.I actually paid for the OnlyFans subscription to view the content; it was quite raunchy with her in leather, BDSM gear with whips, posing in bikinis etc.Yes, viewing for research, and it really was true here. I felt embarrassed to have done so but got the pics downloaded from OnlyFans.I've heard I could report this to the NHS, but won't it be a long stressful process requiring me to present evidence etc. and disciplinary hearings?As things stand, we're still living together now but arguing constantly, he's counting down the days until he can move in with the nurse in her flat.I suspect when he's in a poky tower-block flat he'll regret moving out of our nice Home Counties house.The nurse is in London, we're in the Home Counties.Before you discredit me or say "Oh, it's a troll or too unbelievable", well, stranger things have happened, haven't they?I really don't know where else to discuss this online, and the whole situation gives me the jitters.Yes, it's a simple woman-with-married-man affair but my daughter is my concern here.I was already losing faith in the NHS due to politics and COVID and now this has happened.I just need someone to lean on. Not feeling well here."K8" (pseudonym for privacy)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2022): Get a lawyer. What other choice is there? Start divorce proceedings, he's probably already seeing one. I must admit, this smells like an episode from a soap opera, or a tale from a romance novel.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (8 June 2022):
If you're genuinely not a troll, make an account and PM me. I can tell you about the NMC process, what might be involved and where you can get additional support from etc etc.(I know a lot about it.)
This post is very Trollyesque so I will only go through things with you if you confirm you are a genuine poster by PMing me and answering a couple of questions. I don't want to ask them here to preserve the privacy of both of us. And I'm NOT writing a long spiel for Trolly.
As for your marriage.... Your husband can't just take your daughter to be parented by someone else without your consent. That is child abduction. So seek legal advice NOW. Why do you think your case WOULDN'T go to court?
I'll look forward to hearing from you.... (but somehow I don't think I will)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2022): The nurse was treating his father - therefore she can behave anyway she wants with your husband who was - to her - just a human who happened to be there. It may be different with a patient, but he was not a patient.
Of course your husband finds her exciting. Lots of men think it's great to get with a nurse, especially a broadminded, raunchy one. Eventually that wears off when she forgets to iron his shirt or she is too exhausted from another very long shift at the hospital and he has to do it himself.
Send her a box of chocolates and thank her for helping you to see what your husband is really like, and that you are better off without him. Better to find that out now than in five years time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2022): Oh yes, stranger things have happened.Strange stuff does happen all the time. For instance, just yesterday June 7th, there was another lady who posted your very same story ( naughty nurse, bikini pics, husband wants to take kid to live with the nurse yada yada yada )- only she lived in Connecticut and the nurse in New York , and they had a 8 y.o. son ,not a 12 y.o. daughter.
How strange is that, eh ? How many are the possibilities that the same thing is being reported to the same Agony Aunts in the same day , just from two different countries.....
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