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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, he has a sister who is my age who I really dislike due to many things she did to me in the past.She seemed to be jealous of my relationship with her brother (things such as making fun of me at school, making up rumors, filming his brother and I doing stuff without us knowing it and showing it to several people, etc). This was over two years ago but the grudge remains.She started dating a guy about a year and a half ago and started being nicer to me and our relationship wasn't that bad any more. Her boyfriend started a model agency and they both asked me to do a job which required me to stand for six hours without rest under the sun for twenty consecutive days to promote a supermarket opening. I took the job because I needed the money badly and also because I thought it would be a way to gain her trust. Her boyfriend told me he would be keeping a 10% cut of the money and I accepted. The job was hard, and I thought the pay was too low for what I was doing and I talked to my co-workers (who weren't from his agency) and I discovered that he was taking more than 40% from my pay. This other guy, who also got the job through him, and I thought this was unfair and we protested and managed to get the money we deserved.Due to this, my boyfriend's sister insulted me and punched me in front of my boyfriend (he didn't do anything) and I later on logged into Facebook to find her and her boyfriend making fun of me publicly and talking about what had happened. This was about a year ago. I was then 17 and my boyfriend was 20 (I think this is important to add)I moved to another city due to my mom getting a new job. I still resent my boyfriend for not doing anything and because he still has a great relationship with his sister. I know I cannot ask him to cut ties with her and I wouldn't do it. But I just saw some pictures of my boyfriend, his sister and her sister's boyfriend all hanging out laughing, etc. I knew he liked his sister but didn't think he liked this guy as well.Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I feel betrayed. I know I would NEVER even talk to someone who had hurt my boyfriend either physically or emotionally.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 I'm reading the story of a "relationship" which has oh-so-much dysfunction in it ... betrayal, lack of support, theft .... I can't begin to imagine why you'd want to stay in such a "relationship" with this guy.... since it seems to include his nasty sister (from who he doesn't seem to shield you) and his lying, theiving friend....
Certainly, you can find a much better "boyfriend" and a better circle of friends.... IF you don't (find) then any/all blame shifts to YOU, for CHOOSING to live in this goofy arrangement...
Good luck....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 March 2013):
 I'm not sure why you think that your ages were important to add... can you explain it to me?
You are entitled to your feelings... they are feelings after all...and personal.
To be honest if my partner saw his sister hit me or heard her insult me, I doubt he would stand by and allow it.
And if her boyfriend, lied to me, ripped me off and used me... he'd defend me and not permit it.
If you know you can't ask him to cut ties why would it be so upsetting to see them together?
IF you are in and LDR with this guy it may be time to break it off and move on.
You know you would not have contact with a person who hurt your partner don't you want the same respect from your partner?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 Of course it's not wrong to feel mad at him, your feelings are your feelings. It's just that it's been a year now and you are still feeding the feelings of anger. Did you speak to your boyfriend about this at all? Have you asked for an apology for their treatment of you? If not, why not?
She is his sister and will be his sister for the rest of their lives. If you cannot tolerate him spending time with his sister and her boyfriend, I'm afraid that you are the one who will have to leave.
It sounds as though you are now in a long distance relationship anyway? You are tracking your boyfriend's relationship with his sister through Facebook?
I think the trust is gone, you are long distance and he is happy to spend time with his sister and her boyfriend… maybe the writing is on the wall and the relationship has run its course.
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