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36-40,
*itty_kat84
writes:I met my husband when I was seventeen and married at 21. Now 28 with a child I am so unhappy! We argue a lot, over stupid and small things! I will admit I am bad tempered and may indicate things! Sex life gone down to a point I ask and be let down! :( I have been naughty the past 6 months and flirted or had one night stands if I find an attractive guy that likes me!) I've currently got two guys who keep texting me and we meet up, one a work colleague! I do think about leaving, getting a house through council and starting a fresh with my daughter, but I am afraid to break his heart! I know I have done wrong and don't need a third degree but he's currently in afghanistan, so do I say something before he comes home?!? Or do I stay with him knowing I have a house and money and my daughter has her parents together?! I do picture meeting someone new and I may get jealous of my husband meeting someone new as he's a good dad but I just don't have that love feeling anymore! What is wrong with me anyone had this before and what do you think I should do?! Our emails are currently short, sometimes snappy but his Facebook status break my heart when he declares love to me and daughter :'(
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (25 December 2012):
I think you should do what you promised him you'd do when you got married. Being away from someone for long periods of time is ALWAYS difficult and it really takes a lot of character to make the relationship survive, let alone thrive.In marriage you know the person you're with to the point that it's not always good (what their poop smells like, etc.). Outside of marriage everything is new and exciting, the flaws aren't out in the open, you're treated as something special again, etc. It's obvious why temptation is there. That's a normal part of many marriages and you have to be able to resist or you'll never have a successful marriage, with him or anybody, because there will always be something better in your eyes.If you love your daughter and you think your husband is a good man, then work on your relationship. You owe it to both of them, and yourself. Why wouldn't you choose to be happy with your husband and your daughter? You should definitely see a counselor, give your marriage the honest fight for it's survival that it deserves. The only time I don't believe that's true is if you never loved him or he was abusive or he has never loved you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): Your relationship is already over. If you stay with him then its only because you are using him for his fathering skills and security.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): Your not happy tell him your not happy. If he doesn't seem to care or makes not action to try and save the marriage, Divorce. Don't get with someone to quick, wait a few months to a year, only reason I say that is because of the child.
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