A
female
age
26-29,
*Ash0
writes:My friend proposed me last week on friendship day. I'm 16 and he is 18. I accepted his proposal and we started dating. We know each other from 2-3 months. We had never met or talked before. I never showed him my pic before. I'm suffering from marfans syndrome because of it I'm tall and not so beautiful. I told him about my problem that I'm suffering from. He said that he still loves me and will never leave me. He asked me to show my pic yesterday. I showed him my pic. After showing my pic he said that you are not good looking but I still love you. He also said that he is crying over his luck because God makes some girls beautiful at heart but ugly at faces. I was hurt when he said that he is feeling unlucky to have me in his life. I asked him to breakup if he is feeling so unlucky to have me in his life, but he said that he don't want to end this relationship and he loves me. I think if you love someone you don't want that person to change and you love that person for who they are but he wants me to change. I'm all confused about this guy and depressed because whenever I think about how I look I think that I will never get boyfriend in future. Should I give this guy a chance and stay in this online relationship or should I break up?
View related questions:
depressed Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I think blocking him is the best idea... you can heal more quickly if he's not around poking "the wound"
A
female
reader, 0Ash0 +, writes (13 August 2012):
0Ash0 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have blocked him. It will just hurt me each time we will talk, its better to block him and move on.
...............................
A
female
reader, 0Ash0 +, writes (13 August 2012):
0Ash0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks every one for answering. I broke up with him but he is constantly messaging me saying sorry for what he said. He is begging for the second chance. He said that he can't live without me and really loves me. Should I still be just friends with him?
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
Honey you have never met in real life. this is not a real relationship it's make believe...
you can't love someone you have not met much less not seen.
He's honest with you that your insides are beautiful but your outside surprised him...
you are young and need to turn off the computer and get out and meet folks in real life.
Marfan's syndrome is not that bad... many folks have had it and done wonderful things with their life...
When you meet the right man he will think you beautiful inside and out.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): You have never actually met him, never spoken to him and yet you accepted a marriage proposal! He has inferred that you are ugly (which I am certain you are not) and is being very, very rude.Read your question back to yourself and imagine one of your friends was asking you it. A no brainer really..get rid of him and find someone who is in the real world.Good luck .
...............................
A
male
reader, grymsoul +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Break up, break up, break up, break up. I don't care what he says or how much he says he loves you. There is NOTHING that can be salvaged out of this situation.I'll be the first to say that my LD ex was not the prettiest girl I've ever dated but she reached into my heart deeper than any other girl had. She was beautiful in my eyes and I didn't care what anyone else thought. I did propose to her and wanted to be with forever. Not once did I ever thought of saying such cruel words to her. It's ok to think she isn't very physically attractive but to actually go so far as to say you're ugly and god must be cruel to him because he's down on his luck?? LEAVE HIM ALONE. This guy does not love you.My ex wasn't a model but I did find things about her that I absolutely fell in love with. I didn't for a second regret meeting her because I felt no one else could understand me the same way she did. We had fights and we said a lot of mean things but not once did she ever call me cross-eyed and not once did I ever say that people think she's ugly and I could do better. THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS. Knowing when a line should never be crossed. Knowing when your words can cut so deep it will leave a permanent wound. We would never dream of hurting eachother so horribly. LEAVE THIS GUY I BEG YOU. He doesn't love you and you shouldn't stick around for the abuse. After words like that, everything is downhill from there on out. It doesn't matter what your condition is. If he truly loved you he would not have deliberately hurt you so. He would be more sensitive to your feelings. I have no idea what his sick mind must be up to to utter such words but he did and you should take them as a huge red flag. Get out before your heart suffers anymore abuse.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): Assuming he is 18 and assuming he is genuine he is going far too far with his crush. But I think he also lack maturity and is too young to be proposing marriage to a 16 year old girl.Your own studies should take priority over an online romance. I would suggest you cool this relationship. talking about marriage when you hardly know each other is very premature.And I think it was truly nasty to call you ugly. There is no need to be impatient to marry when you are only 16. There is far more time to develop your studies and plan your future life. Jumping straight into a romantic relationship before you have even experienced life, earning a living, saving some money for the future is a recipe for disaster.You are not less if you do not have a partner yet. Many teenage relationships fold after short periods of time. Focus on developing your studies and on moving towards learning more to the point where you have some qualifications and then start earning your own income will give you a surer footing for your life ahead.Even teenage marriages fail. Where would you be if he left your at 19 to go with another girl, leaving you with your education suffering or incomplete because you preferred to marry to young, to the detriment of your future advancement in life.Even if he is upset you should be putting your future first. He is too impatient to be proposing marriage so early.Online relationships are not all they are claimed to be. Often one party lies and tricks the person. Often unforseen bad situations evetuate when the people finally meet. I think you have to be firm and not feel one bit of guilt by telling him that he is moving too fast and is too impatient. I would be uncomfortable about any guy who has done what he has done.Online relationships are to be treated with extreme caution.
...............................
A
male
reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Are you saying you accepted a marriage proposal from someone you've never met? It takes a long time to get to know someone and you can only do that face-to-face. Chatting online or emailing is just not the same.
...............................
|
