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I'm 22 years old and love giving advice. I would even consider it as my hobby as I go on this website pretty often. I have been in countless relationships throughout secondary school and calmed down after I left sixthform. Longest relationship being almost 3 years. I've also had my fair share of family problems, which I am open about if it helps someone out with theirs.
A quote I live my life by:
" Don't let today's disapointments ruin tomorrow's dreams"
Advice I'd give generally for relationships are:
- don't rush - you may not see the bigger picture
- compromise - you can't always please eachother
- don't other think everything - as overthinking can get you confused to what you really think and cause arguments
- try to be positive - trying to improve everything may lead to you forgetting what good you already have |
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Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: when you're in a relationship, anything sexual/intimate with someone else is cheating. your reason doesn't make sense. you need to understand what being in a relationship is before you get into one. a good relationship only involves 2 people, ... (read in full...)
How do guys see needy girls? If a girl is very needy will it not matter to a guy if he TRULY loves?
Q. I'm really confused. Two days ago, my LDR ex bf broke up with me. Deep down I know it's mainly because I was being too needy and pushed him too far. I always cry during our skype, complaining he didn't spend enough time online with me, I was e...
A. 5 September 2012: it depends on the person to be honest. some people like the other half being clingy, some don't. I suggest you ask how often they would like to see you/ can see you as they may be a busy person. ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 22 June 2012: I suggest you seriously have a sit down with your wife. ask her why she doesn't like you complimenting her often. tell her that you want her to feel confident about herself and that you don't understand why she shoves the compliments away. you two ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 20 June 2012: you should talk to your wife about how you're feeling sad and come to a compromise. try to make it sound positive so you don't hurt her feelings by saying something like "I love you and find you very attractive, and wish I could show you by making ... (read in full...)
Has any of your ladies ever been a single mother with no family help at all?
Q. Hey. I'm gonna be 32 in a few months and I've just found out I am pregnant. As soon as I told my bf about it he just walked away. I have no family as my mum died a few years ago and my dad in an evil man and we're not on speaking terms. I have very ...
A. 25 May 2012: My mum had me when she was 20 and was on her own, with a rubbish job and living with family. She wasn't getting anywhere so she moved to England, learnt the language, studied and work while raising me and she did it well. You're in a much better ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to eat healthy and lose weight?
Q. Hello guys. I need some advice on talking to my girlfriend about her weight. I will first start off by saying i DO lover her and i will NOT leave her over this because she is just too special to me. I do however, think that she is not eating healthy ...
A. 23 May 2012: I suggest that you both work out together for example cycling or running and help motivate the other :)... (read in full...)
Does personality matter?
Q. If a guy is just average looking or even a little ugly (not like hideous ugly), but they have what you consider to be a really funny personality, you get along with them really well, you love to talk to them for hours, they have a cute personality, ...
A. 13 May 2012: I would say it depends on the person. Some people are shallow and selfish so may just go for looks. Others may love your personality and find you good looking even though others disagree. Just because you're not the cliche good looking person, ... (read in full...)
I'm not asking for much, just for the dog to be on the floor and for my boyfriend to give me a bit more attention than he gives the dog!
Q. I love my boyfriend to bits, but I feel like he doesnt appreciate me. Now we are both students and are very broke have no money, he has a part time job so gets a bit more than me. He drops me off to my house one day and I ask if he would like to ...
A. 5 May 2012: Wow, he obviously doesn't care about you. I suggest not letting him treat you like this and getting a new boyfriend that respects you. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forgot my birthday?
Q. I waited to see if he would remember, and when he didnt I sent him a text at the end of the day saying the days date. I was expecting him to say sorry and then try to make it up to me in some way. Instead, he sent me a message which was comp...
A. 8 March 2012: it seems like he's not connecting with you and has too much on his mind. talk to him and ask what is on his mind, communication is the key. if that goes badly, then i suggest you should reconsider your relationship as it doesn't seem like he has ... (read in full...)
Is beauty a blessing or a curse?
Q. Do extremely attractive people have a more difficult time maintaining a relationship? With all their options and the multitudes drooling over them does it make it more difficult for beautiful people to stay in a relationship....
A. 21 December 2011: in my opinion, good looks only attract people. good looks are just a bonus. and to be honest, a good personality is also a bonus. I know many good looking people who are very boring and I also know ugly people who have the best personalities. there ... (read in full...)
What does this mean in male language?
Q. I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean ...
A. 28 September 2011: Thank you again for all your replies. I won't contact him! It will be very tempting though! I so hope he will contact me in the future when he's ready though....*sigh* 3... (read in full...)
What does this mean in male language?
Q. I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean ...
A. 26 September 2011: Thank you for your honest, yet painful :/, responses :) The thing is im scared he'll forget me, so i want to contact him after a week or something with just a casual text. Do you think this is a good idea? Or do you think that if he liked me enough, ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and look 10!
Q. How do I make myself look older? I am 20 and I look like I am 10. I don't think I could find a guy looking like a kid. ...
A. 31 December 2010: http://www.ehow.com/how_4499165_use-makeup-look-older.html that link tells you how to apply makeup. basically, wear makeup e.g. eye liner! mascara, and a bit of lipgloss would make you look older. bronzer helps too. the clothes you wear al... (read in full...)
I met the love of my life, my soulmate...but he cheated on me with his ex!
Q. I just found out a month ago that the love of my life was cheating on me with his ex girlfriend at the beginning of our relationship. I have NEVER IN MY WHOLE LIFE met anyone like him. It was like we instantly had a connection and we could already ...
A. 15 December 2010: i believe love has no boundaries. i think you both need time off but also allow him to prove that he is sorry, and you should forgive him. Make him work for you and make him properly realise what he has done and could miss out on( not just the sex). ... (read in full...)
I don't understand men at all!!!
Q. Well, basically I don't understand men at all, whatsoever at the minute, so I have come here in desperate need for some advice. I met a boy not long ago, he took my number, but never passed on his. Today, he text me saying... "I miss you short...
A. 13 October 2010: i'd be less suspicious if he texted you that weekend.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with my friend?
Q. A college friend of mine has been acting a bit weird lately. Whenever I or our friends come to hang out, he tends to go off on his own. We usually hang out quite a bit, but now he just seems like he's avoiding me and our friends. I had a feeling ...
A. 5 October 2010: a friend of mine likes to wonder off in parties. he says it's just something he does as he likes to be alone and think. he's reserved. this could be the same reason for you friend. it could also be that there is something bothering him. simply ask ... (read in full...)
Too tight for first time?
Q. A few months ago my ex boyfriend fingered me, and it felt really good. But afterwards he told me that maybe I should lose my virginity to someone else as he thought I was "too tight." For various reasons we decided to break up and now I'm with...
A. 5 October 2010: i don't help children have sex which you should understand where i'm coming from. to be honest, you should have given more information in your question because all i'm left with are assumptions. so next time you ask a question, ask it properly, that ... (read in full...)
Too tight for first time?
Q. A few months ago my ex boyfriend fingered me, and it felt really good. But afterwards he told me that maybe I should lose my virginity to someone else as he thought I was "too tight." For various reasons we decided to break up and now I'm with...
A. 4 October 2010: You are underaged. the law is there for a reason. you can only have sex from the age of 16, that goes for both you and your boyfriend. purpose of sex is to show love and to make a family and by the sounds of it you don't want to do neither of those. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my past? I'm afraid of what she might think!
Q. I am 39 years old. I was raised in a house filled with deceit. Which is why I am writing today. I met a wonderful woman and have been together for 4 months. I believe in complete openness between lovers to help ensure the best compatibility. I have ...
A. 4 October 2010: the truth always comes out. try to find the right time to tell her. i think that you should tell it to her gently and tell her that you don't want to have a relationship built on secrets. she should understand that it is also becasue you are older ... (read in full...)
I said harsh things that led to our breakup
Q. I orginally posted a question, but for some reason the moderator(s) rejected it for being inappropriate, which does not make sense to me as I have seen so many similar questions being posted. Anyway, I will repost this without a lot of details, and ...
A. 30 September 2010: Oh dear, it sounds that you are slowly getting depressed :( By the sounds of it, i've been in the situation before. My love of my life and i broke up because i was extremely stressed from work, was having a nightmare at home and hence i was slow... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 30 September 2010: i hope that you at least take on board what your family say. they are older and their main priority is to look out for you when you don't see the bigger picture.... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 30 September 2010: i think what you are doing is very immature. i think that you just love the fact that there's an older guy whose's interested in you.
i think that you are just following your emotions as he makes you feel good.
when i was 17, i had a two 22 year ... (read in full...)
I feel so used and so jealous!
Q. I feel like i really hate myself. Im in a really dark place. Basically, Im 27 years old and single mum to 5 month old baby. I dont know whether its cos I spend quite a bit of time alone and have a lot of time to think about things and Ive j...
A. 27 September 2010: i think that you should hire a nanny to take care of your baby/ask the babies father to take care of the child and go out with your girly mates and party somewhere not in your town. dress up and try to have a lot of fun! i also suggest you getting ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend pushing me away?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now.I wouldn't say that it is true love yet.He is very down to earth and understanding material.At the beginning we were very sexually active,in fact i met him through a 'one night stand'.I'm not denying ...
A. 27 September 2010: cheating on him is not the best or even a good idea. and if you cheat on him, you will look desperate as you can't handle not having sex with your boyfriend so you go looking somewhere else.
in my opinion, i think that he is not used to serious rela... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 26 September 2010: keep us updated to what he replies back to you after you told him you real age!... (read in full...)
After we kissed I realised he is 29, what do I do if he knows I'm 16?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and I need some help! I met a guy at a ball for fund - raising and we began to chat, without finding out his age we continued talking and we ended up kissing. Since then, we kept in touch and it was only when I looked him up on ...
A. 26 September 2010: Either in about a weeks time, text him saying that a boy asked you out and you can't see him anymore.
Or, just text him the truth about your age.
Do it in real life if you're brave enough.
And to stop liking him, try to see/date other guys. Don'... (read in full...)
How can my friend forget his ex girlfriend?
Q. Hello. I have a male friend called 'james' who happens to be one of those people who clings onto his ex's. At the moment, he is finding it hard to forget his last ex. Today he told me that it has been 6 months since she broke up with him. It pains...
A. 14 September 2010: Thank you for your response.
What you say does sound very logical.
Do you still it is possible even when it was over a year ago since 'james' and i had a thing??... (read in full...)
I jumped to conclusions, broke up with him and now he won't talk to me
Q. This boy and I have been seeing eachother off and on all summer. The other day I had 3 girls tell me that he was cheating on me. One of the girls like brought up her brother like he was interested in me or something. I'm not interested in him. ...
A. 12 September 2010: Not for the same reasons, but i have been in this situation before. Luckily, i got back together with him. I asked him if we ever do break up again, what can i do to make him come back to me, and he said to keep trying, to keep showing him that i ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how did you form your first ideas about love and romance?
Q. Question for young women out there (under 30 ideally) I would love to know where and how did you first form your ideas about love and romance? Did you read books, see movies or get your ideas from your parents or friends? How did you expect y...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm 18 :)
My body image and insecurities come from how media perceive how women should look like, how good looking women look in magazines and women around me.
Other women may get insecurities from bad relationships with men e.g. them being be... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my muslim boyfriend ?
Q. How can i break up with my muslim boyfriend ? so, i have finally decided to end things and forever with him. the only problem is that my parents don't know about the 7 months relationship and if they knew they won't forgive me. so i'm afraid tha...
A. 8 September 2010: I would try to make him break up with you. Try to be as boring as possible etc.... (read in full...)
How do I know if I have had an orgasm?
Q. Hey, im a 16 year old girl and i have been dating this guy for like 3 years and we have recently started getting intimate, how do i know if i have had an orgasim is there some signs i should look for?...
A. 23 August 2010: I that you should read this. There are many responses:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-does-a-orgasm-feel-like.html... (read in full...)
I'm 16, I like a girl 3 years younger than me.
Q. What you are about to read was quite quickly written so please try to make sense of what i wrote lol. So here is my position, i recently moved to a new area and i started volunteering at a Vet Clinic and Humane Society because i love animals bec...
A. 23 August 2010: Just read your update and i dated someone 2 years older when i was 14. It was good but the only problem was communication. Make sure that it's good between both of you, that she isn't afraid to speak her mind.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, I like a girl 3 years younger than me.
Q. What you are about to read was quite quickly written so please try to make sense of what i wrote lol. So here is my position, i recently moved to a new area and i started volunteering at a Vet Clinic and Humane Society because i love animals bec...
A. 23 August 2010: I think that you should be in her life more. Go and watch her perform. Maybe you could join her? I think that you should wait til she's older. 3 years at her age is a big difference. She cannot have sex while you can. Wait til she is more mature.... (read in full...)
Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?
Q. Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...
A. 22 August 2010: i like watching my boyfriend masterbate in front of me. It's a turn on because i know he is feeling that good because of me :)... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be so upset when he is only going away for a few days on a business trip?
Q. I want to know if I am going crazy or what??? My bf and I have been dating for a year now and we are so in love with each other we are always together, well 99% of the time. I have never been so happy with anyone in my life I left during last spring ...
A. 17 August 2010: The way you are feeling is normal. However, if your feelings control you then that would be wrong. You both need space to grow.... (read in full...)
Summer romances, which do I choose?
Q. I have recently gone on vacation and met this amazing guy. We started out as friends but, by the end we started to really like one another and we even shared a goodbye kiss. Sadly, we live hours away from each other but, we still keep in touch now ...
A. 17 August 2010: It would be selfish of your good friend if it bothered her that you two dated, as he likes you not her.
In my opinion, summer loves don't last. Especially when they live far away.
I think that you should try to keep your holiday guy as a friend f... (read in full...)
Can I trust my boyfriend again after what he did to me?
Q. I know this is long but please read it. I really need advice because I am confused about keeping this relationship going or not. I will try to make this as short as possible. First of all I would like to say that even though I am about to write a...
A. 17 August 2010: From reading what you wrote, it seems that he is trying to earn your trust back. I think that you should go with the flow of things and see where it takes you.
The more you bug him about texting those other girls, the more he will keep from you as h... (read in full...)
We broke up, but now he wants me back!
Q. My ex and I broke up a little while ago and he has asked me out a couple of times since but I don't want to go through all the mess all over again. We broke up becuz we argued all the time. My friends don't really like him and say I can do much ...
A. 16 August 2010: I have been in your exact situation. My ex and i always argued. We were like a married couple. I gave my ex a chance and we've never been so happy. Things can get better over time. That break from eachother did us good. I think you should give it ... (read in full...)
Is 20 too young to have a baby?
Q. im thinking about having a baby at twenty...too early in life?...
A. 16 August 2010: To add on from the first response...
My mother had me at 20. She sometimes talks to me about what she choosed to miss out and stuff.
I think that 20 is too young. You should live your life longer. Experience the world and grow more yourself... (read in full...)
I don't want to be remembered as shy! Help!
Q. please help freshman year i've moved to a new house new school and a new location.when school began i didnt know much people so i was always with the closest friend that i met.i met a friend that was a grade higher then me and the whole school yea...
A. 16 August 2010: Good luck!! :)... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he cheated on me! Is he just selfish?
Q. Is it fair to say that a guy that has been keeping secrets from his fiancee (including that he cheated on her 4 years into their relationship) is being extremely selfish? Is someone who believes that it is "OK" to keep secrets from the person he is ...
A. 13 August 2010: I consider lying to someone is like taking away their right to know.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be remembered as shy! Help!
Q. please help freshman year i've moved to a new house new school and a new location.when school began i didnt know much people so i was always with the closest friend that i met.i met a friend that was a grade higher then me and the whole school yea...
A. 11 August 2010: You said that you're not much of a party girl, well i think that if you change this, you'll be who you want to be. I think that you should try to find out if your older friends are friends with people in your year. Maybe you could ask them to host a ... (read in full...)
After we kissed I realised he is 29, what do I do if he knows I'm 16?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and I need some help! I met a guy at a ball for fund - raising and we began to chat, without finding out his age we continued talking and we ended up kissing. Since then, we kept in touch and it was only when I looked him up on ...
A. 1 January 2010: I think it's best to stop talking to him. Imagine what your parents shall think! And your friends and his friends! The loss is greater than the gain.
And yes it would be perveted. If he does ask you out, ask yourself why can't he get a girl his age.... (read in full...)
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