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I'm 22 years old and love giving advice. I would even consider it as my hobby as I go on this website pretty often. I have been in countless relationships throughout secondary school and calmed down after I left sixthform. Longest relationship being almost 3 years. I've also had my fair share of family problems, which I am open about if it helps someone out with theirs.
A quote I live my life by:
" Don't let today's disapointments ruin tomorrow's dreams"
Advice I'd give generally for relationships are:
- don't rush - you may not see the bigger picture
- compromise - you can't always please eachother
- don't other think everything - as overthinking can get you confused to what you really think and cause arguments
- try to be positive - trying to improve everything may lead to you forgetting what good you already have |
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Why does it still hurt after all this time?
Q. I feel as if i'm over my ex.. but sometimes I do still think of him and it really unsettles me, he has a new girlfriend now, I don't feel jealous, she seems perfectly nice, but I can't help feel hurt if I see pictures of them together. Me and his ...
A. 1 January 2010: Probably you miss being in a relationship as you were close to him, you feel the connection and want it.... (read in full...)
15 girl dating 20 guy.... parents is the issue.. help!
Q. Hi, I'm Ashley. My boyfriend is Jose. I'm 15. He is 20. I live in idaho. He lives in Texas. We have been dating for 11 months. We haven't met yet but that's all we talk about. We met over the internet so its kinda hard to say I KNOW him. But I feel ...
A. 1 January 2010: For your parents to trust him, they need to get to know him. He should meet your parents and so should you. Have you considered him moving closer to you?... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who doesn't care about you anymore?
Q. Sory if this is long. We went out for close to 8 months, which i guess generally is a short time, but fairly long compared to many teenage relationships. I really genuinely fell in love with her but she broke my heart. Despite saying she loved...
A. 1 January 2010: Try to ignore contact with her and go out with your friends more often. Start a new life without her! She doesn't seem worth your time.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's eagerness for a threesome?
Q. Am I overreacting when my boyfriend is overly enthused about a threesome? I mean, I brought it up, but I just wanted to see what he would say. Now its all he can talk about, and he wants it with my best friend who is prettier than me and has bigger ...
A. 31 December 2009: It's wrong of him to want a threesome with somebody you know as now you can see it brings emotional problems if it goes wrong. If you're still up for it, find someone who you don't know and shouldn't compare yourself to. Threesome is meant to be ... (read in full...)
Leaving for the army! Should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of about 3 months told me an hour ago that he was leaving for the army in a few hours i dont know what to do he also asked me to marry him but im scared that he will get hurt im 15 and hes 19 anyone know what i should do? ...
A. 31 December 2009: In my opinion, you would be getting married for the wrong reasons. Get married because you love eachother and want to spend the rest of your lives together. It's a very big commitment. Also, you cannot get engaged until you are 16 and married at 18 ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her that I know she's lying?
Q. Right, the names Darren, 16 years old. I really need your help! Please! Well me and my former partner broke up a few months ago, over trust issues between one another after a year and a half of being a couple - and there was other people in the sp...
A. 28 December 2009: I think you should go and talk to her about her not being honest to you. Ask her what's wrong. Say that you appreciate her telling the truth and that you have your reasons for not trusting her and that she should understand. ... (read in full...)
Fiance got appears to be suspicious email from girl. Should I call her?
Q. Ok this is the situation. On Christmas my fiance went to the bathroom upstairs and his phone beeped because he got a text message. I picked it up and saw that it was from some women but didnt think anything of it. But curiosity got me and I opened ...
A. 28 December 2009: I think that if you can, you should try and get in contact with her. However, she could lie. Alternatives, you could pretend you are over it and attend the salsa classes or even send a friend of yours who he doesn't know to go to them and report b... (read in full...)
Best friend has alienated me
Q. when i was at school i felt like i had friend, but now i have left because i needed a job, my once best friend has alienated me, and now i feel like i have no-one in my life, i feel so lonely, i have no idea what i have done to her, what can i do?...
A. 28 December 2009: I think that you should meet up with your best friend and have a chat to see what's going on. If that doesn't work out then i think you should try going out with your work collegues and make friends with them or through them.... (read in full...)
I think I'm right not meeting him
Q. Hi 6 months ago i broke up with a lady she went back to her ex boyfriend, they have since split up , she had been seeing him behind my back, i was with her only a couple of months , i had dated her before 3 years ago for 5 months and she did the ...
A. 28 December 2009: If you don't care for this ex of yours then don't bother meeting her ex or whatever he is. What's there to say to eachother? If you do meet him, whatever happens, it will make it harder for you to forget her as you might end up in a fight or even ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to commit?
Q. ok. there is this girl whom i fell in love with. We've been together these past months. Still she wont make a commitment. She told me that she was scared of being hurt. I told her that i wouldnt hurt her cuz i reaaly love her. She's still 16 years ...
A. 28 December 2009: Yes you should wait til she is ready. As that would give her time to realise in herself that you can be trusted. As she isn't replying to your texts, try to meet up with her. The issue about her friends, they are only trying to protect their fr... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl to have sex?
Q. how do i ask a girl if she wants to have sex with me??...
A. 26 December 2009: First of all, you are too young to have sex. Secondly, sex is something meaningful and special when in a relationship. Don't just follow your friends because they are doing it. Be the man and wait for the girl.... (read in full...)
Wait till school starts or just kiss him?
Q. My boyfriend and I started going out on the last day of school, which was a week ago, and we havn't seen eachother since then, but we are going to see eachother in a few days. I really like him, and I want to kiss him, but because we havn't done ...
A. 26 December 2009: If you really like him and you know that he really likes you then go for it. But don't plan it! X... (read in full...)
I broke contact with my best friend, and now I want to know how to get what I had with her, with my girlfriend!
Q. I broke off contact with my best friend because she and I were getting way too close. I used to really enjoy the catch-up emails we would send to each other filled with witty banter to one another. There was much to say since we didn't see each ...
A. 17 December 2009: Before i start of, it was good choice to break off contact with your friend.
For one thing, you don't want to ignore your girlfriend. I guess what you are asking is to make your relationship more exciting, Go out with your friends and family m... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a female friend likes you?
Q. me and her are always sitting next to each other in lectures and in seminars. she always playfully hits me, or teases me about something i do or wear and takes my stuff like my hat forcing me to try and get it back. when we were in class the other ...
A. 21 October 2009: You have to choose to take the risk or not unfortunately.... (read in full...)
I'm not that girly, but I want to become more girly.
Q. i'm 16 and in my second year of high school. ok so i'm not that girly, but i want to become more girly. i always wear a black shirt and blue skinny jeans. my shoes are black converse and i wear lots of black eyeliner and my hair is covering one of ...
A. 18 October 2009: 1.Stop wearing so much eye liner. Use only some on the bottom of your eye. 2. Wear Mascara - it will attract him to your eyes 3. Take your hair out of your eyes - Have a fringe that doesn't go lower than your forehead. Boys don't tend to focus ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a female friend likes you?
Q. me and her are always sitting next to each other in lectures and in seminars. she always playfully hits me, or teases me about something i do or wear and takes my stuff like my hat forcing me to try and get it back. when we were in class the other ...
A. 13 October 2009: From what you tell me, she does like you. So, get some confidence and ask her out for a meal.
I think you do feel like she does like you, but are wanting some reassurance! Just go for it! And if it backfires, just find me on this website and leav... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who likes small breasts?
Q. I have small breasts, and as it is known, *most* guys like big breasts better. Some like small, but I have yet to meet one of those! Most guys just settle for small chested women. Like Salma Hayek is hot because of her big boobs, but Kate Hudson is ...
A. 12 October 2009: Wow, what you wrote is amazing! You have taken all perspectives ect into account. This is pretty much what goes through every small breasted girl, which includes me! The only difference is that it doesn't bother me much.
I've read this to my boyfr... (read in full...)
Me and my g/f broke up, and now I don't feel anything when I masturbate
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up in may and we had a great sex life. Before I met her I always used to masturbate and had good orgasms and when I met my girl they turned to great! It took me a while to even touch myself again and now I do I don't feel ...
A. 5 October 2009: It's normal for you to be more worried about her when you are having sex. I do that with my boyfriend and i know that he does that with me.
I think that if it were possible, to get back with her. OR just find someone who gets you sexually happy as h... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I don't want to wait years to have a baby without it ruining our relationship?
Q. hi, it's me again lol this time i'm going through a little more than usual. like i said in a previous blog/article i had two miscarriages about a year ago, neither of them were planned pregnancies and they both really tore me up inside. i've tried ...
A. 5 October 2009: By the sounds of it, he hasn't made up his mind. If i were you, i would want until he was positive about wanting a child with you. What if you did have a child and he changed his mind then and left you? I think you should wait and make your ... (read in full...)
Should I just end it and focus on my career, or will I be giving up a nice guy?
Q. So I did something I thought I'd never do. I've met someone on an online gay dating site, I never thought I would but I did. I spoke to him online for a good month and a bit before i got the confidence to actually meet him, as ive never really don...
A. 5 October 2009: I think that you should just focus on your career. By the sounds of it, he is wasting your time. The fact that he needs to hide his phone etc when you are suspicious says that he defiantely has something to hide and knows you are almost in on it.
Y... (read in full...)
I'm so fickle! Should I not date this guy?
Q. I'm a 16 year old teen.I've been liking this guy from my eight grade..It was a crush then he was liking this other gal.. When i was in 10 he proposed me n we got into a relationship.Broke 5 months then on cuz i lied..My mistake i agree..But then he ...
A. 4 October 2009: You keep coming back to him because you are reminded of the good times and have a lot of hope for the relationship. However though, there are more bad times in your case.
From what you have said, you don't want to be in a relationship with him. For ... (read in full...)
Me and my g/f broke up, and now I don't feel anything when I masturbate
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up in may and we had a great sex life. Before I met her I always used to masturbate and had good orgasms and when I met my girl they turned to great! It took me a while to even touch myself again and now I do I don't feel ...
A. 4 October 2009: From what you are telling me, you still are in love with her as your body is telling you that it wants her do it. It would really help me if you told me who broke up with who.
Thanks! X... (read in full...)
Why am I attracting these losers at the pub?
Q. I go out to a local pub in town most friday nights to see a friend play in his band. I enjoy going, but for some reason, I seem to be atracting scum, players and old dudes. Am I giving these people that impression? I am not a slutty person at all! I ...
A. 3 October 2009: I agree with you - you are not trying to attract attention. They are most likely coming to you because you look innocent and sweet and they think they can get in with you. Just ignore them and don't seem interested.
Hope this helps X... (read in full...)
Should I trust him since it's only MySpace?
Q. im kind of worried about my boyfriend talking to this one girl over myspace. they have been friends before i met him through myspace. she lives in New york but the one thing that bothers me is that he posts comments on her pictures like "I love this ...
A. 3 October 2009: I don't think this is about trust. I think that you should tell him that it bothers you emotionally and you would like him to stop doing it. If he respects you, he will stop.
Hope this helps X... (read in full...)
Is he reconsidering the break up?
Q. Ok, so I really need some perspective on this! I was dating this amazing guy for almost a year, but then he suddenly broke up with me a week ago saying it was him not me, still wants to be friends, blah blah blah. I can't be friends, so when he ...
A. 3 October 2009: No, i don't think this is a sign of reconsiderating the the breakup. I think you're doing what i do - thinking too much. He asked for the work shirt because he needs to go to work and wear it, not because he wants to talk to you. The hug was prob... (read in full...)
I don't think my virginity meant anything to him
Q. i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...
A. 3 October 2009: If you saw me while i was reading this, my face was gob-smacked and i know everyone else's face would be the same. I cannot imagine how bad you must feel, but i think you did make the bad decision. But if you learn from it, it won't happen again. ... (read in full...)
Ladies: How long do you wait to have sex?
Q. ladies,how long do you wait before you have sex with a guy-I'm confused because if you make them wait a long time,they may cheat and if you don't they may use you-what to do ?!...
A. 27 September 2009: Like others have been saying - if they love you they won't cheat.
I also researched this for myself and found that the average couple waits 4 - 8 months to have sex.... (read in full...)
Is it just innocent flirting or does he really fancy me?
Q. Please help! As the advice you all give me, shall help me decide what to do! So i really need help! Sorry for making it so long. I just really need your help! Well, there's a boy! Of course.. And recently i had invited him to come play badmint...
A. 27 August 2009: Yesterday, the boy knew my results were today, and i told him how i thought i would do terrible. So he said if i do, that he shall take me out for a drink. That's a foward move, right? THANKS!... (read in full...)
Should I text him to see if he wants to meet anymore?
Q. yesterday i got asked out by a really cute guy,who is pretty shy and polite.i gave him my messenger ID,my phone number(he asked for them) and he gave me his phone number as well.last night he texted me and told me he's happy we got closer to each ...
A. 22 August 2009: You should text him something like this..
"Hey, are we still going to meet today? As my friend wants to make plans with me also and i don't know what to say to her. I haven't seen you in a while, and would like to meet up. "
Even if your friend h... (read in full...)
Men: Do you like clingy women?
Q. I've read a lot of advice from females, but i really want to know what males think. Apparently, males don't like clingy girlfriends. That true? What if the male was clingy, wouldn't he want a clingy girlfriend? What do you think about clingy girlf...
A. 22 August 2009: Thank you so much for all of your answers.
Much appreciated :) X
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This guy I've been talking to on msn has told me to choose between him or my boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. i have been talking to this guy for about 4years on msn and a really do like him like actually soo much but he lives soo far away and he wants us to be more than friends but i just cant see it working because of the distance and hes away on holiday ...
A. 20 August 2009: I don't think your long distance relationship shall work, but if you don't think the feeling is mutual with your boyfriend, then you shouldn't stay with him. Maybe you should continue being friends with this msn person til you are of age to meet. ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance of us getting back together?
Q. ok,, So i was 13 in the 8th grade, and it was almost the end of the school year... and i started to go out with this boy... and at first i wasnt too sure about the whole thing.. but as we started to hang out and talk,, and get to know each other, i...
A. 20 August 2009: It sounds like he wants you to try. High school is different from your previous school so everything is weird. But soon, you both shall settle down. Give it time. Stay together. Tell him that you want to try and ask him how he feels. This may not be ... (read in full...)
Seeing each other too much?
Q. I see my girlfriend almost everyday or every other day as she only lives a few roads away. We love seeing each other but im a little worried were seeing each other too much and that we're getting a bit bored. Is it possible that we're seeing eac...
A. 19 August 2009: Your relationship is just like mine. I see my boyfriend everyday even if he lives 15 mins away. I think that you do see each other a lot, but if you both love each other, than you both shouldn't get bored. How do you think the 50+ years marriages ... (read in full...)
Does this guy really like me?
Q. i met last week a really cute guy,but i'm not sure if he really likes me or is just playing me.here are some important things that happened since we met:he always stares at me for a really long time;he starts up conversations with me on very random ...
A. 19 August 2009: Yup! He defiantely does really like you.... (read in full...)
Is my fetish keeping me from intimacy?
Q. Alright I have a foot fetish and I would like to know if that's something women can appreciate I mean when I was in high school it seemed like I was some kind of freak and now I feel like like that's why I get turned down it seems like its a giant ...
A. 19 August 2009: Yes, i do think that some woman can appreciate this. My bf has a foot fetish and i don't mind. I'm just happy he gives me attention.... (read in full...)
I lied to him about my age and now he wants to visit me, what should I do?
Q. Okay, so, I was on a chat room one day, bored out of my mind, telling people I was 17 when I actually, I had just turned 14. Well, me and this guy (he was 17) got talking and exchanged emails. We got to know eachother and I guess he started liking ...
A. 19 August 2009: I think that you should tell him how old you are. Also, i think he is too old for you. Boys that age are thinking complete different things to girls your age. Plus, he may also be older than he says he is. Tell him to get a webcam first before ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend acting like this?
Q. Is it abuse if your bf tries to force you into sex through making you feel guilty? By saying things like 'if you loved me' or 'if you wanted to see me happy you would do it', 'if you cared about me' etc. Is it abuse if he doesnt respect you when...
A. 19 August 2009: He does this because he doesn't love you. He is one of those boys who only thinks about his penis. If i were you, i would leave him, he is not worth your time.... (read in full...)
A wonderful b/f, vs. first love recovered?
Q. Hi, so this is long, but I need help. April 2006. I met someone - I didn't know then that he would change my entire life. How could I have possibly known? It started out easily enough, that much was true. We just talked online at first. It was so...
A. 18 August 2009: If i was in this situation, i would go for Alex. Stephen wasn't there for you when you needed it and liked that there was two girls out there who liked him. Now that his relationship has ended, he is going after you, to get comfort. He is most ... (read in full...)
All of the sudden, he doesn't "want a girlfriend". What do I do?
Q. okay so my ex boyfriend and me still hangout and hookup..tonight i gave him head and i swollowed for the first time thinking that it would show him that i care!..WRONG..after i did that we talked about us and he said that he has to much going on for ...
A. 17 August 2009: I think you should read a book called 'He's just not that into you'. It better than the film as it has lots of different questions for you to read.... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can get from the doctor that would enhance my breasts?
Q. Im so sick of being depressed about the size of my breasts. Ive hated them for years as they are to small. And I promised my parents i'd hold back on surgery until I was 20. But even now I still hate looking at my self in the mirror I want clevage. ...
A. 17 August 2009: I've heard of tablets called Perfect C. They're expensive but apparently they work. You could try to find out more on the internet.... (read in full...)
If he really wanted to be with me, he just would be, right?
Q. I’m in a really confusing situation right now. I'm sorry this is so long, but in order to help you've got to really understand what's going on. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up in February. We started talking about going back out in March, but it ...
A. 16 August 2009: There's a book you need to read. It called 'He's just not that into you'. It makes a lot of sense and shall help you. Please read, i very much enjoyed it and it helped me. ( but what i'm basically am saying is, he is just not that into you( also i... (read in full...)
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