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I'm 22 years old and love giving advice. I would even consider it as my hobby as I go on this website pretty often. I have been in countless relationships throughout secondary school and calmed down after I left sixthform. Longest relationship being almost 3 years. I've also had my fair share of family problems, which I am open about if it helps someone out with theirs.
A quote I live my life by:
" Don't let today's disapointments ruin tomorrow's dreams"
Advice I'd give generally for relationships are:
- don't rush - you may not see the bigger picture
- compromise - you can't always please eachother
- don't other think everything - as overthinking can get you confused to what you really think and cause arguments
- try to be positive - trying to improve everything may lead to you forgetting what good you already have |
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If he really wanted to be with me, he just would be, right?
Q. I’m in a really confusing situation right now. I'm sorry this is so long, but in order to help you've got to really understand what's going on. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up in February. We started talking about going back out in March, but it ...
A. 16 August 2009: There's a book you need to read. It called 'He's just not that into you'. It makes a lot of sense and shall help you. Please read, i very much enjoyed it and it helped me. ( but what i'm basically am saying is, he is just not that into you( also i... (read in full...)
I want to get back into a relationship with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend...who's also my friend! How do I handle this?
Q. alright so heres the deal, theres this girl that ive been best friends with for about a year now and ive always had very strong feelings for her. i love this girl and i want to be with her more than anything else in the world. we started off as just ...
A. 16 August 2009: You have to let her decide. If she wants you, she'll dump him and go out with you. To not upset your best friend, i don't think you should tell him, he'll be jealous and won't understand. If she does dump him for you, give it time before you make ... (read in full...)
Do my feelings mean I'm not ready to date yet? How do I let this guy down gently without feeling bad?
Q. this guy who is about 3 or 2 years older than me asked me out on a date. he always calls me babe and he said he would be honored to take out someone as pretty as me. but the thing is iv never gone out on a date, i want to though but for some rea...
A. 16 August 2009: From the sounds of it, this boy won't be mad if you just simply tell him you don't like him. He's old enough to get other girls and might be after you as you're a simply target. I don't think this will always happen. As you say, you feel uncomfor... (read in full...)
We both think going down on each other is gross. What can we do?
Q. im dating a guy who was a virgin before i met him. we have basically done everything except oral on me. he tried oral on me once but didnt like it. he thinks its gross because of my natural scent. i told him there is nothing wrong but he insists its ...
A. 16 August 2009: You need to tell him to eat more of something that you like. Lets say you like apples, tell him to eat many apples, and eventually, his semen will taste like it. Yes, it is true. What boys eat does affect the taste of semen. With you, i don't kn... (read in full...)
I can't seem to bring myself out of my shell. Please help!
Q. Hi all, I've never dated before. I have asked out girls in the past (and got rejected obviously), and I've tried to work out what is wrong with me - the things that are making me undesirable - and I've pretty much got the jist of it. And what a l...
A. 16 August 2009: I believe that everything you do is correct. You have tried your best to be interesting and this is exactly what girls want. But however, i believe they do not know that. When you talk to girls, you need to listen, girls like boys who listen, start ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go out with someone you really like even though they might not be "the one"?
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm not particularly worried about that...but I'm just a little confused at the moment. I've always thought that people should go out to build a steady and loving relationship rat...
A. 14 August 2009: Yes, totally alright. You might found out that you eventually do fall in love with that person, you never know. It takes many years to fully and truely know someone. So yeah, go ahead! Have fun! But course, don't lead on people, don't say i love you ... (read in full...)
How do I take it further?
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year.. and we're both still to shy to really talk to each other.. we text, he calls me but the only time he really says something really sweet to me is when we text.. I want to kiss him so bad! I w...
A. 12 August 2009: Tell this boy how you feel. I'm sure he wants to kiss you as well. Try to find a right place and time to kiss him. If you have a romantic sceen away from everyone, stare into his eyes and smile. Move closer and try to kiss him. Maybe only start with ... (read in full...)
Will I ever feel love for anyone the way I love my teacher?
Q. i used to Love my school teacher, he was everything to me.I thought we were meant to be and i loved being with him he made me feel important and loved, i hated being away from him. Sometimes it would feel like he loved me to i knew it and sometimes ...
A. 12 August 2009: Pedofile or not, he is inappropriately touching you. Yes, i totally agree it is hard to fall in love with someone, but you have to wait.
Also, you have no idea what this teacher may be like in a relationship. Men are all interested in the same thin... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what to do about my family problems?
Q. I'm 15 years old and it feels like my family is falling apart. i have two older sisters - one is 18, one is 20, a younger sister who is 14 and a younger brother who is 9. my mum and dad are still together, but argue a lot. my mum spends most of her ...
A. 12 August 2009: I think you and your younger sister should have a private conversation with your Dad about how you feel.
Also, your older sisters are old enough to leave the house, maybe you should suggest/ask why haven't they left, this should solve the mone... (read in full...)
She's 13 and she wants me to have sex with her!!!
Q. Hi I'm 16 and my girlfriend has just turned 13 but she wants sex! What should I do? Is it ok to have sex with someone that age cos she has kept asking me almost every night for about 3 weeks....
A. 12 August 2009: No, it is not right for you both to have sex with each other. She is underage and you could be taken to court if you're found out. The law is there for a reason. I think she may want to have sex with you because she may feel peer pressed or just ... (read in full...)
My 15 year old Greek Tragedy
Q. I am 15 and i have fallen in love with my cousin. I went to France to visit family that i have never met. (i've never been overseas and i was going by myself) i stayed with my aunt. A and uncle J. and two cousins that i have met before because ...
A. 12 August 2009: It does sound like you really like him and that he really likes you. However, he is too old for you. Try to get to know him more over the months/years, so it shall give no reason for anyone to say that you bearly know each other. If you both like ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's brother just messing with me? Or does he like me?
Q. So, Ive been with this guy for about 2 years, we're not so good together In my opinion, tried to break It off numerous times, never worked cuz hes really over dramatic and does seriously everything to make me stay so I have pity on him. I met his ...
A. 12 August 2009: By the sounds of it he may be messing with you. He may be saying those horrible things to your bf because he wants you but none the less it is harsh. He shouldn't say those things as they can potentially hurt your self esteem. If you did go out with ... (read in full...)
I like them both..now what?
Q. okay so i have a boyfriend i have been dating for 8 months.. and i love him dearly whenever i am with him it is perfect, and people say they can tell we are in love. but i liked this one other guy a year or so ago, and now i sorta like him again and ...
A. 12 August 2009: Be with the guy that treats you right, who makes you feel good about yourself no matter what. The guy with the less faults. The one you can always turn to. The one who is your best friend and your boyfriend.
If you have seen the sex and the city... (read in full...)
I want to wait before having sex with my boyfriend, but he makes me feel bad about it...and there are other problems too...
Q. My bf is trying to pressure and manipulate me into having sex with him. I keep saying that I want to wait. Im not saying no, just not right now as I want to know him better and I think trust needs to be built, and that level of trust can only be ...
A. 12 August 2009: You have probably heard this from many people so far, but i think the more people tell you this, the better. You need to leave him. He does not love you and only wants sex from you. He only wants to satisfy his needs and not yours. By the sounds of ... (read in full...)
I don't know who I want!
Q. I had been with my boyfriend for over a year and i was pretty happy, although at times i felt so controlled by him like he didnt like me going out to parties and drinking or anything and he'd get really overprotective. At a friends party one night ...
A. 12 August 2009: Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Try to comprimise on who you see and how often to make you both happy. If he loves you, he needs to trust you.
If he continues to be overly protective, then yes dump him. But be prepared that he may chase you.
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Will I ever feel love for anyone the way I love my teacher?
Q. i used to Love my school teacher, he was everything to me.I thought we were meant to be and i loved being with him he made me feel important and loved, i hated being away from him. Sometimes it would feel like he loved me to i knew it and sometimes ...
A. 12 August 2009: If what you say is true, your teacher is a pedofile. These people you have to stay away from.
And the way he apparently makes you feel, someone else will make you feel the same way your teacher made you feel. There are mannyy, many boys in the worl... (read in full...)
Will we last when he moves away for school?
Q. we're in highschool..and in love. and honestly,after two years, i feel like our relationship has been structured perfectly. i'm just worried..because next year hes going off to Boston for prep school..however will be returning before college. w...
A. 12 August 2009: I think it can work out if you and him are commited enough. Try to see each other at every possible moment e.g. in the holidays. Ask your parents if he came say for few days or you at his.
This is also matters on how much you trust him. If i were... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this boy on Habbo and not sure if this is normal because I've never met him! What should I do?
Q. Q1. Hey, im 15 yr old female, i went on habbo few months back and i met this boy tht was just interested in talking to someone and we got chatting. I was bored and just felt like meeting new people and we've got to know eachother quite well and we w...
A. 11 August 2009: If i were you, i'd make him come and see you.... (read in full...)
I think I'm addicted to dating!
Q. after a certain period of time i get really depressed. and i know what makes it go away. if i have a girlfriend i never feel this way. i think its that i feel alone and un-loved but i cant ever keep a girlfriend very long. i think that i'm addicted ...
A. 11 August 2009: I don't think you are addicted to dating. I think that you get bored easily of girlfriends and the attention you get from them is never enough. Date someone who you really like for who they are and them liking you makes you happy. To be honest, at ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this boy on Habbo and not sure if this is normal because I've never met him! What should I do?
Q. Q1. Hey, im 15 yr old female, i went on habbo few months back and i met this boy tht was just interested in talking to someone and we got chatting. I was bored and just felt like meeting new people and we've got to know eachother quite well and we w...
A. 11 August 2009: Oh gosh, this sounds so like me. When you meet people on habbo it's fun, but after a while the excitment goes, people get bored, that's probably why he is not answering you one word answers.
Also, it is easy to like someone you met over the inte... (read in full...)
Why do I feel I need a boyfriend so much?
Q. I don't know the reason why, but i feel like i need a boyfriend, i really want one! People would say i'm desperate, or being peer preshured, but it's not like that, i really want somebody to be able to cuddle and kiss and just be there for me, i ...
A. 11 August 2009: Boys your age are immature. They don't know how to be in a relationship at your age, trust me, i have had many boyfriends and found out that they get better as they grow older. Wait a couple of years.
Also, the fact that you really want a boyf... (read in full...)
I think he likes me, can you confirm what I'm thinking?
Q. hi so there is a guy i really like he;s same age as me we've known eachother for years. i've known him since my younger days in primary school. anyways. i think he likes me when we talk we get really into depth of conversations he has tol...
A. 11 August 2009: Yes, these are all really good signs. He sounds like he really cares for you. I think you should try flirting with him and see what happens. Maybe take him out to say thanks for him taking care of you?... (read in full...)
I was falling for him and then he told me he had a girlfriend!
Q. 0k.. i Started out talking to somebody named M and we were really close we used to go over each other's house and he used to walk me home and stuff like that but he had a girl friend at the time and he didnt tell me UNTIL afterwards and i think that ...
A. 6 August 2009: Honestly, move on and find another boy worth your time. As you said yourself, he is not going to leave his girlfriend anytime soon. ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the older, flirty guy?
Q. I'm 15, and have been having a crush on this guy in his mid-20s, I think (no, he's not my teacher, we only met once) for about 2 months. We almost certainly won't meet again, but he was the most good-looking guy you could imagine, and seemingly ...
A. 6 August 2009: About your age, i went on holiday and met a really dreamy man just like you describe about yours. He was 19, and i was 14. We were constantly together for a week until he had to leave to go back home. I, like you, honestly thought i was in love. But ... (read in full...)
I need confidence to talk to girls!
Q. I have a problem which is that I can never seem to be able to start talking to a girl I like when I do not know her or when I see her in a shop or something. What do I do?? Also I need some tips on how to gain more confidence. Thanks in advan...
A. 5 August 2009: Gaining confidence...look after yourself. Wear clean clothes, exfoliate every day, go to the gym, wear perfume!! Girls your age love guys who smell nice!! Diesel is a good brand, or if you go more expensive then Hugo Boss? Compliment girls, e.g. the... (read in full...)
Two questions: How do I get rid of these spots? And how can I spice things up on his birthday?!
Q. I've got two questions. I'm going on holiday with my boyfriend next week and i have suddenly got load of spots on my chin. I never get spots normaly so its typical for them to come up now. I've tried everything from spot cream to face masks an...
A. 5 August 2009: Exfoliate every day, drink lots of water and eat your 5 a day. That's what i do and it works. Buy some lube or spread chocolate paste on eachother and feed strawberries from it to yourselves. Handcuffs? Maybe you should try covering his eyes up... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend because he was slating my mum... but now he says he'll change, I don't know what to do.
Q. i recenetly borke up with my boyfriend who i had been with for 2 1/2 years. he was my first everything and i also lost my verginity with him. i spilt up with him because he was talking about my mam in a horrible way(shes disabled) so i broke up with ...
A. 5 August 2009: I think this boy of yours should personally apologise to your mum. It was not right what he did but hopefully you're mum should see that he is trying and forgive him. If she doesn't forgive him, talk to her about it.... (read in full...)
Does her reminiscing mean she's interested again?
Q. Hi.........i broke up with my Ex well she Dumped me about a month ago after going out for Four months....and being best freinds for 4years before that. lately she has been acting weird.......she jus started asking me things like.......do i think a...
A. 5 August 2009: I think she is trying to find out if you still miss her or not. Take her out somewhere nice and see how things go.... (read in full...)
I like this guy but my friend's have dated him and would hate me if they found out! What should I do?
Q. I like this guy but to off my friends dated him and he likes one of my best friends and if they found out i like they would hate me like they did when they found we were talkn so i have to act like i dnt like him when i do like him what should i do?...
A. 5 August 2009: They don't sound like true friends. You're still young so try to make new friends. And remember, you cannot make everyone happy.... (read in full...)
We are in a difficult, troubled relationship and I need help?
Q. Okay i dont wanna say i know what love is; i think i know what love is. Ive been dating this guy for a while now and things are so messed up, and ive tried everything i can to make things better, and it sucks vecaue everything stays the same. so, ...
A. 5 August 2009: I think it sounds like he is trying to make you feel guilty all the time, when it wasn't you fault. So what if you had a fling, he stayed with his girlfriend for a very long time knowing that you like him. People do make mistakes, but he made too... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, and I love him so much, but I don't know if he means it?
Q. This guy says he loves me but I don't know if I believe him. We went out and then just out of nowhere he ended it cause he 'just found someone else' and after three months of us not talking he texted me out of the blue. We started talking and I have ...
A. 5 August 2009: From what you have written, it doesn't sound like he loves you truely as he left you in the first place. If i were you, i'd make him chase you to test exactly how much he likes you. E.g. Take longer to answer text messages, if he wants to meet up, ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: Thank you again for all your responses. They all really helped. I liked it how all of you were direct and honest. I really do wish i didn't find it a problem, and feel that from all your responses, it shall not be a problem for much longer. Thanks ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: So, are you all saying that he did lie?... (read in full...)
Am I bi? Should I just decide one or the other?
Q. Hi again. Ok, so these last few days have been a rollercoaster ride to say the least. I've now fallen out of love with a guy i've longed after for years, and i'm kinda happy about it! I've told a friend i'm a bit confused about my orientation, and ...
A. 28 July 2009: To find out if you're bi or gay, try getting intimate with a boy and see if you enjoy it or not. ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: Thank you for all your responses. I hear exactly what you are saying. You are all basically saying that i should just get over it. Maybe he should get over it the fact that he likes doing it. Maybe he should instead of using porn to help him, ask... (read in full...)
We were practically dating, and he told me he loved me. Now have those feelings just gone?
Q. I'm so heart broken. my best friend and I have always acted like we were dating. we practically were, we've just never ask each other out. he and I have been "together" since last september. I mean at first we both knew just never said our ...
A. 28 July 2009: By the sounds of it, he likes the idea of being with you. Maybe he has found someone else, or he has gotten embarrased about what he has been telling his friends. I think you should ask him, in person, how he feels about you. Tell him you're ... (read in full...)
How can I fulfill my boyfriend's fantasy for him? It's not really my thing!
Q. My partner told me the other day what his fantacy is. His been wanting to tell me for ages now, but couldn't find the guts to tell me.. He told me his fantacy is to role play.. that part I don't mind, but when he told me what he wants us to be is an...
A. 28 July 2009: Personally, i find it a bit disgusting. How can he find the sister and brother role play attractive? I think you should ask him what he wants out of this roleplay. Is it just pleasure, or something more? So you know exactly what would be going on in ... (read in full...)
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