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I'm 22 years old and love giving advice. I would even consider it as my hobby as I go on this website pretty often. I have been in countless relationships throughout secondary school and calmed down after I left sixthform. Longest relationship being almost 3 years. I've also had my fair share of family problems, which I am open about if it helps someone out with theirs.
A quote I live my life by:
" Don't let today's disapointments ruin tomorrow's dreams"
Advice I'd give generally for relationships are:
- don't rush - you may not see the bigger picture
- compromise - you can't always please eachother
- don't other think everything - as overthinking can get you confused to what you really think and cause arguments
- try to be positive - trying to improve everything may lead to you forgetting what good you already have |
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After we kissed I realised he is 29, what do I do if he knows I'm 16?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and I need some help! I met a guy at a ball for fund - raising and we began to chat, without finding out his age we continued talking and we ended up kissing. Since then, we kept in touch and it was only when I looked him up on ...
A. 26 September 2010: Either in about a weeks time, text him saying that a boy asked you out and you can't see him anymore.
Or, just text him the truth about your age.
Do it in real life if you're brave enough.
And to stop liking him, try to see/date other guys. Don'... (read in full...)
I don't want to be remembered as shy! Help!
Q. please help freshman year i've moved to a new house new school and a new location.when school began i didnt know much people so i was always with the closest friend that i met.i met a friend that was a grade higher then me and the whole school yea...
A. 16 August 2010: Good luck!! :)... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he cheated on me! Is he just selfish?
Q. Is it fair to say that a guy that has been keeping secrets from his fiancee (including that he cheated on her 4 years into their relationship) is being extremely selfish? Is someone who believes that it is "OK" to keep secrets from the person he is ...
A. 13 August 2010: I consider lying to someone is like taking away their right to know.... (read in full...)
How did you meet your partner?
Q. I am only 13, and never has had a boyfriend. But I would like to ask everyone, how did you meet your significent other? Where were you? How old were you? Was it love at 1st sight? Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you. :]...
A. 11 August 2010: I know that at your age, you're under peer pressure to date boys. I think that you should find someone you like to date instead of dating someone because you want a boyfriend, as this is a very selfish reason.
I've had many relationship that last... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing?
Q. ok i met a guy online. we were talking on the phone.. he used to flirt a lot.. and we used to talk about wat we want to do etc.. i want to be in a r/ship so i was second guessing his moves by then.. then i saw him comment on some girl's fb page.. ...
A. 11 August 2010: I think that you found a reasonable explanation and should give this guy another go.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be remembered as shy! Help!
Q. please help freshman year i've moved to a new house new school and a new location.when school began i didnt know much people so i was always with the closest friend that i met.i met a friend that was a grade higher then me and the whole school yea...
A. 11 August 2010: You said that you're not much of a party girl, well i think that if you change this, you'll be who you want to be. I think that you should try to find out if your older friends are friends with people in your year. Maybe you could ask them to host a ... (read in full...)
Involved with married man whose wife says he's cheating both of us.
Q. I was involved with a Married man who had been seperated from his wife for 14 months when I had meet him. We were together for 8 months up until last night.He told me he loved me and I was the first woman he had fallen in love with on his own terms, ...
A. 11 August 2010: I don't think that's wrong at all. The wife needs to know his true colours.... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking to her even although there's an age gap?
Q. On a recent holiday I saw this girl who I thought looked nice, she soon then spoke to me shortly after I saw her. We got on really well and I arranged to meet her the following day. My initial thoughts of her age lead me to believe she was about 17 ...
A. 8 August 2010: I think you should take it slow with her and wait til she is 16 for anything official.... (read in full...)
In a bind between three guys.
Q. Okay, i'm in a bind between these three guys. The first one, my boyfriend, used to be perfect for me. He was sweet, funny, and he loved me. This summer he went 4 hours away from me to go visit his grandpa, it was fine until about a month ago. He ...
A. 6 August 2010: Your ex is your ex for a reason. And the fact that you feel he is being quite foward about his feelings towards you even when he has a girl friend is not good. He might be acting the same with other girls, but you won't know as he lives far away. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have practically no conversation!
Q. [OP original title] I'm 20, my boyfriend is 23 so we are not kids and we've been together 4 months. But ever since we started dating I feel like I struggle to find things to talk to him about. I'm quite a quiet person but I do try ask him stuff or t...
A. 6 August 2010: I think you should tell him poliety how you feel and see how that goes. Maybe you two should do interesting things together that would allow future converstation e.g. theme parks, going to the cinema etc.
If you feel you tried your hardest then it w... (read in full...)
I'm afraid she won't want me back after I broke her heart all those years ago
Q. I was very much in love with a girl when I was in school. We dated during our last year of school together. We moved in together after graduation and went to the community college. unfortunately reality struck very hard. I got very sick. I ...
A. 6 August 2010: I don't think you should tell her how you feel as it will seem like you are taking her at her vulnerable stage. Give it a bit of time. But i do think you should be there for her and meet up. Get the sparks flowing again!..slowly! :P... (read in full...)
How do I tell him what I like?
Q. .... I would like some advise on how to tell my boyfriend what I like, I do like fingering but sometimes he moves to fast I want to try and show him that if he goes slower for me is can be a lots better, and I know for him to it can be. I... like am ...
A. 6 August 2010: Either you tell him or show him. You can't do it any other way.... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to cheat with him. Go for it?
Q. I had a long conversation with my boyfriend and suprisingly for once in 11 years he was understanding (or maybe he was pretending lol ). He is doing lots of efforts .Im affraid that it's too little too late.That is how I feel , I love my kids , I...
A. 6 August 2010: I think you shouldn't cheat. For once your boyfriend is trying to reach out to you. Let him. Ask him to do the things that would make you happy. You don't need this other man.... (read in full...)
I am really struggling abd about to give up... please need someones help!!
Q. I am having a few issues with my partner, he is not very affectionate, he doesn’t just come up and cuddle me, he doesn’t just come up and give me a kiss.. I am always the one that needs to go up to him, he has told me he is shy and he has said this ...
A. 6 August 2010: It is very hard to change someone entirely, but what you are asking of him isn't much. He is a lazy person and won't do anything for you. Personally, i would leave him as you would only cause you more grief.... (read in full...)
To Friend or Not to Friend?
Q. I met my wife in 1997 through her then current busband; he and I worked together. He ended up cheating on her with about 30 women and then he went sorta crazy. She ended up divorcing him. Four years later, she and I married after dating for a ...
A. 6 August 2010: I think that sending him an email telling him nicely why you don't want to accept him is a good idea. But would it make him have angry actions towards you and your wife? Maybe you should just ignore him compeletely and if he ever somehow asks you ... (read in full...)
How do I change things back to the way they were?
Q. So i have been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 months now and everything was. Recently she went on this holiday for 8 weeks and when she came back it just felt weird between us. Before she left we were getting really close but now i just feel she ...
A. 6 August 2010: You should do the same things you did before e.g. if you two watched film together in your rooms, then do that. If you're brave enough, ask her is there is anything she would like you to do for her.... (read in full...)
Does he think I'm dirty or something?
Q. I realized this a while ago, but now I'd like someone's input on it. So fast forward, my sex buddy does oral sex or atleast did. When I met him he did and he even offered but it never happened. It was actually my first and I was a little shy. After ...
A. 6 August 2010: Just some men don't like doing it. It's just the same thing like some people like marmite, some people don't. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get to know what sex is like?
Q. dear cupid. i will never know what sex is like because i've no chance of ever getting a girlfriend there is something about me that puts them off i can't tell you what it is because i don't know not one woman will tell me when i ask them. anyway ...
A. 6 August 2010: The only adive i can give you from what you told me is that you should take really good care of yourself. Follow fashion more so that you look good. Buy nice aftershave so that you smell nice. Style your hair etc. Make sure you are nice, but not too ... (read in full...)
This other boy makes me happier than my boyfriend does
Q. Well, I have a boyfriend. He is 17 I am 15. I went to my friends grandma's house with her and some of my other friends. I met a boy there. He is pretty good friend with the three girls I went there with. He is 19 turning twenty next week. Well, I ...
A. 6 August 2010: I think that this older boy wants to get in your pants. I have many male friends in the army and they ALL like to have little games. For example, who can sleep with the most women.
You like this guy because he is saying nice stuff to you, but is h... (read in full...)
We fight every single day!
Q. My boyf and i has been together for 1year and 4 months now.. We've been quarrelling everyday since then.. I don't know what had happen to him.. He's staying at my house now bcus he has some family problems.. As he has some bad habits which is ...
A. 6 August 2010: He doesn't respect you. If i were you, i would give him an ultimatum. Stop what he is doing or you leave him.... (read in full...)
I invaded my boyfriend's privacy and now I feel paranoid
Q. This is so confusing. I've been with my boyfriend now for 7 months, and he is wonderful. I'm 23, he's 31 but that bares no relevance to us as a couple, apart from when the past gets brought up. My last boyfriend I was with for 4 years, and it w...
A. 6 August 2010: You can't believe him now because your relationship now sounds too good to be true. You should treat this new relationship this person as a brand new start. You need to be able to control yourself from going onto his facebook. He isn't your ex. Keep ... (read in full...)
Cheating Consequences
Q. Is being honest about the fact that you've cheated on someone, and facing the full consequences, the only way to make sure that one is never tempted to cheat again? I've heard some people say that the "guilt" is enough to make someone more loyal and ...
A. 6 August 2010: I believe that cheating occurs when the person is not satisfied or is just a selfish person who acts on their emotions.
People do find it easier to see the faults of everything than to see all the good things, which leads some to cheating. Howe... (read in full...)
Opinions on what constitutes cheating?
Q. My boyfriend has a close female friend who he used to like. I'm wondering what are people's opinions on what would be classified as cheating( apart from kissing and having sex)? Thank you...
A. 7 July 2010: Him and i were together for 10 months, broke up at the beginning of this year and then got back together about a month ago. He started talking more to that girl in the time we broke up. Plus they kissed once from what he told me.... (read in full...)
Opinions on what constitutes cheating?
Q. My boyfriend has a close female friend who he used to like. I'm wondering what are people's opinions on what would be classified as cheating( apart from kissing and having sex)? Thank you...
A. 6 July 2010: Thank you for your reponses. :)
To add on from the first replier...what if they're excuse for not wanting to do something with them in front of me would be because it would make them feel uncomfortable even if it's just him telling her he miss... (read in full...)
Ladies, here's something for you. I want your opinions on this?
Q. Is it true that you girls will never forget or always feel something for the guy that you "never got"? The one that you knew you loved but he never asked you to be in a relationship. Do you still think about him even after you're in a new ...
A. 9 January 2010: I've had that feeling before but i moved on. I gave up waiting for something that wasn't going to happen :)... (read in full...)
Our song is his and his ex's song too...what does this mean!?
Q. Please help even if this is a silly question! I don't know what to think. I've just found out the mine and my boyfriend's song was his and his ex's song! What does that say about him? Should i worry that everyone time we listen to it he is thinking...
A. 5 January 2010: The song is Champagne Supernova by Oasis. To be honest, when i think about it, all the songs we share he shared with his ex.
Thank you for all your comments!! :)... (read in full...)
Our song is his and his ex's song too...what does this mean!?
Q. Please help even if this is a silly question! I don't know what to think. I've just found out the mine and my boyfriend's song was his and his ex's song! What does that say about him? Should i worry that everyone time we listen to it he is thinking...
A. 4 January 2010: Well, it a song about love. Does that change things?... (read in full...)
Has my player of a boyfriend actually changed?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now. I am in my last year at school and I have been with this boy before a few times. He used to be the ultimate player, liar and cheat all in one and I was really hurt. I have bee...
A. 4 January 2010: Players are people who tend to want everything as soon as possible and have it all easy for them and get bored. To help you believe that he has changed you need more time of being with him as that will give you reassurance that he won't cheat and if ... (read in full...)
Did her past experience sour her?
Q. This is probably a common question but it's got me very confused. There's a girl who I've known for about three months now in the institution I'm learning at; we're on the same course and work on the same table so I see her every day outside of h...
A. 4 January 2010: Well then, she definately needs time to make up her mind! And you need to help convince her that she won't and hasn't done anything wrong e.g. talking about how much of a great time you had just snuggling together... (read in full...)
Did her past experience sour her?
Q. This is probably a common question but it's got me very confused. There's a girl who I've known for about three months now in the institution I'm learning at; we're on the same course and work on the same table so I see her every day outside of h...
A. 3 January 2010: It's hard to say if she is blaming herself for everything. But as she said " I'm worried that I'll do something to ruin our friendship.." does say she did blame herself for what happened with that boy.
Has she shown obvious liking back to you? If y... (read in full...)
Should I throw in the towel with him?
Q. Ive had a crush on this guy ryan since freshmen year(Im a junior now)at the end of freshmen year my x bff who knew I liked him went out w/him, they broke up that summer. Be4 I got my chance to show him how i feel he starts dating a girl named ...
A. 3 January 2010: I think that if you like him enough, let him be happy. By all means continue to talk to him, but don't steal him away from someone as that's being selfish about your own feelings. Use your time with him to bond in hope that he may naturally realise ... (read in full...)
More questions than answers...
Q. Over vacation I've been thinking about me and my best friend who I have known for 2 years. I really think our friendship can last through anything. A couple of months ago I told him that I liked him and he still stuck around. sure he hasn't asked me ...
A. 3 January 2010: In my opinion, at your age, a two year gap is a big difference when they are younger than you. I would go as far as saying " does he know how to be in a relationship?" as boys are very immature.
It's not wrong to expect something back from him beca... (read in full...)
Long relationship cheating man
Q. i just posted this question but i don't think i gave enough information. i am in a relationship of 8 years with my fiance and we have 2 kids..I recently found out he was messing around with a couple females on his job. i was pregnant with our second ...
A. 3 January 2010: I think that both of you need to agree to having a new start and forgetting the past. Maybe you two should try couple counselling?... (read in full...)
Did her past experience sour her?
Q. This is probably a common question but it's got me very confused. There's a girl who I've known for about three months now in the institution I'm learning at; we're on the same course and work on the same table so I see her every day outside of h...
A. 3 January 2010: It could imply she has insecurities or it could imply that she cheated. She said it happened too recently, which says that she doesn't want anything serious at the moment as she is afraid of the incident happening again too soon. Get to know her and ... (read in full...)
I need to change for my relationship
Q. I feel like i've gone through this with my boyfriend a dozen times,we've broken up because of trust issues mostly from me. We want to be together but find it hard to stay together happily. First off we went out for 1 year and broke up for 2 months ...
A. 3 January 2010: I think what you need to understand that he was with the girl when you were broken up, so he didn't cheat on you. Give your boyfriend a chance to prove himself. Try to relax yourself and be positive. Only use things against him if he actually did ... (read in full...)
Something feels wrong but if I dump him I'll never get him back
Q. hi, my name's bea and im in a mess! I liked my boyfriend for a very long time before we went out, and about a year ago, i told him how much i liked him; he liked me too. he wanted to take things further than friends, and although i really did like...
A. 3 January 2010: The fact that he talks about sex a lot bothers me. I think that he may be only after sex. If you can find out what happened with this girl and him would really help! If she left him, then it would definately mean that he is after sex, but if he left ... (read in full...)
Teenager worrying about sex for the first time
Q. ok. i'm a 14 year old girl and ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. He's already had sex with his ex partner so it seems like he's expecting it from me. I want to but im freaked out because im a virgin and i don't know what he expects a girl ...
A. 2 January 2010: You may think that you are ready, but you are not. You aren't old enough to understand what kind of decision you are making here. If you have sex with him, you would be giving a part of you to him. Everyone remembers their first love, do you want to ... (read in full...)
He said he'd make me have sex with him
Q. ok so me and my bf had been going good since 8-7-09 and i know alot of people will say well your not in love but we were. Then last night came and i got 15 text messages saying so very mean and uncomfortable things about me and him having sex. Well ...
A. 1 January 2010: I totally agree with CG. He is the type of boy who isn't worth your time.... (read in full...)
After we kissed I realised he is 29, what do I do if he knows I'm 16?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and I need some help! I met a guy at a ball for fund - raising and we began to chat, without finding out his age we continued talking and we ended up kissing. Since then, we kept in touch and it was only when I looked him up on ...
A. 1 January 2010: I think it's best to stop talking to him. Imagine what your parents shall think! And your friends and his friends! The loss is greater than the gain.
And yes it would be perveted. If he does ask you out, ask yourself why can't he get a girl his age.... (read in full...)
He's a bad boy and I'm falling for him! I need your help.
Q. Heyaa, I really need your help. There is this boy.. and he was new at my school about 2 months ago. My friend and I welcomed him and showed him around. Then we found out he smoked, has lost his virginity and watches porn but we stilled laughed at ...
A. 1 January 2010: I think to stop yourself falling for him, you need to keep reminding yourself of all his negatives and try to put yourself off him. Keep him as a friend but only as a friend. Try to occupy your time with other friends aswell. Try to find another boy ... (read in full...)
He is annoying me lately, but I still care about him, any advice?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now and he really is annoying me lately. I don't want to break up with him becuse I still care about him. So I really could use some advice as what to do. [Moderator's note: In what ways is he anno...
A. 1 January 2010: I think that you should tell your boyfriend how you feel. Try to be gentle with him as you don't want to make him feel like he has done something wrong as them he will become scared. I had the same little problems with my boyfriend aswell, and i ... (read in full...)
My gut's telling me something's wrong, is he cheating on me?
Q. So I was at my boyfriends [c] last night for New Years, and he had 1 friend over [d]. To me C was acting kind of funny, he was more .... affectionate, he seemed to want more love. D has always cheated on his girlfriends, I'm afraid thats a bad ...
A. 1 January 2010: Try to find evidence if he is cheating on you or not. E.G. take a look at his inbox in his mobile when he isn't looking.... (read in full...)
Why does it still hurt after all this time?
Q. I feel as if i'm over my ex.. but sometimes I do still think of him and it really unsettles me, he has a new girlfriend now, I don't feel jealous, she seems perfectly nice, but I can't help feel hurt if I see pictures of them together. Me and his ...
A. 1 January 2010: Probably you miss being in a relationship as you were close to him, you feel the connection and want it.... (read in full...)
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