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writes:How can i break up with my muslim boyfriend ?so, i have finally decided to end things and forever with him.the only problem is that my parents don't know about the 7 months relationship and if they knew they won't forgive me.so i'm afraid that he will tell them or something?i was thinking of telling him that my mom caught me and she wants me to end things with you ... ect.is this a good story ? because he was talking about asking my parents to marry me and it sceard the hell out of me!i'm christian btw :)
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reader, xAx +, writes (8 September 2010):
 I would try to make him break up with you. Try to be as boring as possible etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I agree with CindyCares....its not a good story. You can gently tell him its not working out and that you should end things before it gets worse.Is he the "I cant see a life beyond you and Il never leave you come what may" kind of clingy guy?? Btw, what CAN he tell your parents?Obviously he wont be parading letters and e-mails in front of them.
However, Worst case scenario...if he does...deny everything. They are YOUR parents, so think rationally...who would they believe, you or him? Obviously you. And in any case if he's the cheap spiteful types who wants to drag issues and create a scene, your parents wont believe an ass like that either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): first of all you are free to break up with him if that is what you want.there is nothing wrong in that. it happens all the time.if he is a gentleman he will respect your decision and not create a scene with your parents but if he is otherwise then tell him that if he tells you family you will take your shoe off and beat the hell out of him with it, muslim or no muslim. for your information I am a muslim too and I have been in similar situations many times before and have always respected my counterparts decision if she wanted to depart.Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 No,it's not such a good story. He might decide to come in person to talk to your parents,to show them he is a good guy and he is serious about you !
I think honesty is the best policy, why don't you just break up with him and take the responsibility of your choice. What makes you think he would want revenge ? Is he a spiteful type ? Has he shown an inclination to blackmail ?..
If you just can't bring yourself to tell him you don't like him anymore, you could tell him you feel your relationship cannot continue because you and your family cannot deal with the difference of religion. Which, from what I write, seems to be also true, and it is a feeling that should be respected, even if not shared. Interfaith
marriages are not for everybody.
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