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Am I too young to be in love?

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Question - (20 August 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2009)
A female Antarctica age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Hi, i am 12 and i think i may be in love with my boyfriend...am i too young? My friends all think i am. Someone please help!

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A female reader, griffingirl United States +, writes (27 April 2009):

I am also 12, and I'm madly in love with my boyfriend, Griffin. We're going to a dance together this week and we'll probably have our first kiss :) Leave your mind out of it- let your heart take over. If you love him, you love him. Its as simple as that.

And your friends should be supportive, but mine aren't either. They are all mad that he broke up with another girl in the grade for me.

But if you're truly in love- that's enough.

I'm not saying you should have sex, but you probably do love him. I know I do.

good luck!! xoxo

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A female reader, PsyCookie United States +, writes (21 August 2008):

PsyCookie agony auntNo, you're never too young to fall in love.

But there are tons of people who think they're "in love" when it's just a big infatuation, specially people who are as young as you. Don't let this make you feel unsure about your feelings for your boyfriend, as your feelings may be indeed to be true.

So far, I've only known someone who truely fell in love with her boyfriend as young as you, and I didn't even met her, it was one of my mother's school friends. She fell in love with her boyfriend at your age and eloped with him at 14 (that was about 40 years ago, by the way). Many people thought she would regret it as most of the time this would not last, but there they are, still married, after more than 40 years of being together.

It's very hard to know the difference between infatuation and love, so it will be only you who will decide this. Just remind yourself that love is nurtured, and falling in love is like the blossoming of that nurture. Thinking you're in love with somebody you barely know is an overstatement.

But don't ever let your age make you doubt your feelings. You may just be one of those rare cases where what you felt was indeed love, so prove everyone that you two can make it.

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A female reader, lotsofgiggles123 United States +, writes (20 August 2008):

lotsofgiggles123 agony auntno i dont think you are im eman i know this 22 year old who found her true love at 7! so no i dont think your too young

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A female reader, mature teen!  United Kingdom +, writes (20 August 2008):

mature teen!  agony auntNo hun, Of course your not too young! THere is no suck thing! Love is a wonderful and magical thing. All i will say is be careful. Love at your age is fantastic but may not last too long. And you don't want to go getting your heart broken now do you??

Take care hun and let us know how you get on!

All the best! X

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A female reader, Ask Reanne :) United Kingdom +, writes (20 August 2008):

Ask Reanne :) agony auntNo Your Not Too Young You can fall in love at any age but you have got to be careful incase things get to serious and he breaks your heart. As for your friends well there not very good ones because they should be happy for you.

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A female reader, Reina(: United States +, writes (20 August 2008):

Reina(: agony auntno your not. you can fall in love at any age. And forget what your friends say, they should be happy for you. As long as he makes you happy. Just stick with him ya know?

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A female reader, x-kitycatlok-x United Kingdom +, writes (20 August 2008):

x-kitycatlok-x agony auntYou can fall in love at any age. Just at younger ages it doesn't seem to last that long. Don't be discouraged by what your friends are saying. They're probably just jealous. No one knows your feelings better than you do, hun. You know if you love someone, and that can be at 5 or 50. Just trust your feelings.

Wishing you the best.

xx

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A female reader, LanyeeBoo United States +, writes (20 August 2008):

NO...you are never too young to be in love...but what "In-Love" means will change with you over time...I fell in love with my first BF at 11...it lasted like 6 months...since then I have been in-love 3 other times...some good, some bad...but each time it has been kinda different...now that I am 15 I am learning that "love" is even different for boys n girls...we just dont think the same way, but thats cool, you learn to deal with that. So, so long as you can deal with the fact that "love" at your age will eventually end and a new love will appear, let your heart fly free!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008):

No babes, your never too young to fall in love. You fell in love with your mum, the first time you opened up your eyes. Your growing into a young woman, your body is changing and your starting to notice guys and feel strange things. This is all normal. Girls fall in love with cats and dogs, they fall in love with teddy bears and dolls. I know you think it's different, but you care about these things, they make you feel good. Same with you looking at a guy and wanting to spend time with him. He makes you happy, he makes you feel good.

However, you are still very young. You have lots of growing too do. You are too young to say that you will love this guy forever. Maybe you will, maybe you won't. Your too young to have sex. You need to grow some first, you need to get your studies done, there are many things you need to do.

You like your boyfriend, this is good. As long as he treats you right and is respectfull and leaves your body alone, then your doing nothing wrong. Your friends are probably jealous, or they haven't felt like have yet. Remember however what you feel today may change tomorrow. I bet you liked things when you were younger, but you think they're stupid now. Enjoy yourself, and enjoy his company. But don't be surprised if one day, either you or he stop loving and find something else to love. You have a long life ahead of you, probably 70 - 80years. Who knows what may happen, so just make the most of what you enjoy right now.... Take care, be good, and make your parents proud of you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008):

Well, I had a girlfriend at the age of 8. She was called Pamela. My first love. But being a bit older now I realise it wasn't really love. I liked her a lot and we built dens and tree houses, we went fishing for newts and tadpoles with nets and jam jars in the local brook and all that sort of thing, but it wasn't love, it was our first steps in realising there was a slight difference between boys and girls.

Love is something that is nurtured over quite a long time, and I suspect you just have a very special boy friend. The 'Love' part comes much later on in life.

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