Is he supposed to call if he's casually dating others? Do I call him?
Q. We talked a lot while eating and we were quieter during the movie. We got to see each other after more than one month so it was a little bit strange first but then we warmed up. After four hours together, we had to say good bye but while he was on ...
A. 11 May 2008: I would call him after a day or two if you are that interested in continuing the relationship. Ask him if you can meet for coffee or something just to see whats going on. Good luck to you... (read in full...)
I feel like he only stays around because I complain or force him... what can be done?
Q. i'm 27 married with 3 kids (5yrs,1yr, and 1mon old) and a step-daughter (4yrs). My husband and i have been having problems from day 1 even before we got married. My husband likes to be with his friends a lot. We don't go out no more and all i do i...
A. 11 May 2008: You need to remind him that he is part of the marriage and needs to play a more active role. it sounds like he is trying to avoid any responsibilities at home an relive his single days. Babies take two and you can't do it all all the time with no ... (read in full...)
Love is not something to base a relationship on?
Q. In my experience "love" is not something to base a relationship on. It makes you ignore what the relationship will realistically be like down the road. When you act on "love" and create a relationship, you still need to get over the "honeymoon" ...
A. 11 May 2008: How does your friend feel about you? Is he in love with you or maybe just used to you? I think a relationship can be developed from friends into something much more. I never really had a spark so to speak when I got married 30 years ago. It just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has moved abroad without considering me, should I follow him?
Q. My boyfriend has moved from the UK to the US a month ago - something he has had planned for 2 years. I met him 14 months ago and we fell in love quickly but he never once considered whether I was able to come with him and decided that he could not ...
A. 11 May 2008: It doesn't sound like he put much importance on you when making such a drastic decision. Maybe should tell him you care for him alot and wish he would return. He may find his decision was not so great after he is there for a while without you. ... (read in full...)
My husband of almost 18 years said he wasn't happy and has moved out, how do I cope?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 18 years. We have two wonderful teenage daughters. We have had a great marriage - no real serious problems. We hardly ever fought. We have always been a close knit family, went on trips a couple ...
A. 11 May 2008: What kind of work does your husband do? Is he having problems there? Do you think there may be someone else?
If there is no one else, maybe he is feeling inadequate in some way with you being the primary breadwinner. Maybe he is disappoi... (read in full...)
Why is he lying about looking at porn?
Q. I've been with my bf for 10yrs. now and we've recently been having problems. The situation has been resolved, but now he's looking at porn. I don't know if I should be offended or not. I know he's looking at it, but i can't tell him how I know. He ...
A. 30 April 2008: glad to hear you both are working on it. I think it will all work out fine. good luck... (read in full...)
Why are guys so obsessed with breasts?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with breasts? It's unfair! I see so much naked boobs online, and the obsession with whose cleavage is hotter, this and that, and I feel inadequate! In a normal day I feel that my breasts look pretty, but then all this ...
A. 28 April 2008: Babe, I like small boobs more natural myself. I think small is better especially with great nipples. Less back problems too. ... (read in full...)
Why is he lying about looking at porn?
Q. I've been with my bf for 10yrs. now and we've recently been having problems. The situation has been resolved, but now he's looking at porn. I don't know if I should be offended or not. I know he's looking at it, but i can't tell him how I know. He ...
A. 28 April 2008: Why do you worry about it so much. Let hime explore it and he will get over it at some point and move on to doing other things. Don't let porn be an obssesion for you, just ignore him or find something else to do until it blows over which it wi... (read in full...)
I need hugs and help aunts! Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to have forgot...
Q. Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to of forgot. I feel devastated, am i just over reacting, come on aunts i need hugs and help, what do you think?...
A. 12 April 2008: Happy anniversary to you both. I would not bet on him planning a special event. I bet he has forgotten and would appreciate being reminded even if it is after the day. You can always celebrate a day or so late.
He may have his mind on work or ... (read in full...)
What should I do for myself and my children. What is wrong with him?
Q. I have been married almost 3 years and been with my husband for a total of 7 1/2 years. we have two beautiful little girls and we have had our little fights but nothing major. Here in the past two months he has changed. He has started drinking more ...
A. 8 April 2008: Unfortunately it sounds like there may be another woman involved to me. Have you had any indication of that or any other changes besides alcohol?
I would bet on the other woman thing first, maybe ask around to see what you can find out. If that ... (read in full...)
He never pleases me in bed when I ask to be pleased, should I surrender to his phantasy, a threesome, because I love him?....
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome with another girl, hes always said before me and him got together about how its his fantasy and i do want to give it to him because i love him and want to give him what he wants. But im too scared to, i worry ...
A. 3 April 2008: I am sorry but your boyfriend sounds like he needs to be alone for a while to see what he has with you. I would pack up and leave for at least a week or two and tell him you need to sort things out. Maybe that will scare him a little, maybe not. If ... (read in full...)
Crybaby...
Q. I've been with my husband for 13 years. We have twin 9-yr-olds and my 17-yr-old from my previous marriage. Over the years we have had many fights. His favorite thing to do over the last 3 years during our fights is threaten our marriage being over ...
A. 2 April 2008: If I were you I would leave him for two weeks and not answer the phone but about once or twice. My wife did that to me and it was devastating. It showed me what it would be like to be alone, bad.
Good luck sweetie... (read in full...)
I need love so bad and can't get any hardly ever from my wife...
Q. I need love so bad and can't get any hardly ever. I don't look bad 210 and 5 11, a small gut but oh well. What is a man to do to get some sex back in his life? I have tried a lot of things with my wife, but nothing really changes, everything is ju...
A. 31 March 2008: She is overweight more than I am. Lifestyles do change for some as they age. I don't really believe the weight is the major factor but thanks for the answers... (read in full...)
I thought it was a girls-night-out, drank too much, and woke up next to a naked man...what should I do about telling my husband?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. My husband went away for a business trip that extended into last Saturday (because he had a late Friday meeting, and he was several hours away). My in-laws took the kids for the weekend for a visit. My girlfriend invited me ...
A. 31 March 2008: I surely would not tell your husband. I agree with H2H, What happened at Stacy's stays at Stacy's.
He would probably not trust you again even though you did nothing wrong. good luck... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past....it's not the 'normal' jealous story!
Q. Have been married 7 years....happily. Wife mentioned in conversation 3 months ago about a threesome she had once. ( 20 years ago). I explained I don't want to know thing like that as it would do my head in. She mentioned it again. I went in...
A. 31 March 2008: Sounds like a threesome brings back exciting memories. Even though she will not admit it, it sounds like a fantasy to her. Maybe you should talk about the details with her and help her move on. good luck... (read in full...)
I met an older man after my divorce, one year later the excitement has gone though and I'd rather be alone. Why is this?
Q. I've been living a separate life with my husband for 4 years. We've got two flats and we only see each other mostly at weekends. In the end I was fed up that he was refusing to live with me so I divorced him. I am craving for love and company. ...
A. 31 March 2008: I think it is very hard to find a compatable mate, but when you do you will know it. It sounds like you were in a hurry this time. Don't give up, I'm sure you can find the right one when you least expect it. You don't want to make another mistake ... (read in full...)
His comments about other women make me feel insecure, and I want to be more confident!
Q. Am a 48 year old, attractive, intelligent woman. I have been seeing this wonderful man for 4 months. Just back from holiday with him. On occasions when we are out, he'll say things like "that barmaid was gorgeous, wish I could take her home" or ...
A. 31 March 2008: I think men just like to look, I know I do. I just feel the urge when I see a good looking woman, but I don't say anything about it out loud. My wife gets mad even when I look, I don't have to say anything.
I think saying things like that out loud... (read in full...)
I need to know if this is cheating. I have been sex camming with this guy, and he has a spouse. She does not know about us...
Q. I need to know if this is cheating. I have been sex camming with this guy, and he has a spouse. She does not know about us. Now he wants to meet in person and he wants me to perform oral sex on him. To me this is cheating on his partner. He tel...
A. 31 March 2008: I would like to find out more about this sex camming, what does it consist of? That doesn't seem like real cheating to me if you are not doing it in person.... (read in full...)
What goes on at Bachelore parties?
Q. Hallo I have a guestion for guys mainly. Is there any sex or kissing or stuff going on at a Bachelore parties?? I heard from one of my friends haveing BP and the strippers were going down on them for $200 .. I find it not only overpriced but d...
A. 26 March 2008: I think it depends on a lot of things. For the most part they are harmless, a lot more than 200 for anything other than a strip show.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets messages from sex sites, but denies being a member, says they are random. Is he lying??
Q. My boyfriend gets these instant messages from sex sites, stating "hey I liked your profile, if you want to see my webcam pics you can contact me at...." He says they are just random junk mail that everyone gets. I've got a yahoo account and I ...
A. 25 March 2008: Porn sites send out all kinds of crap. I wouldn't take any of the emails seriously. I have to constantly delete the junk when I visit porn sites. ... (read in full...)
Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?
Q. when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...
A. 25 March 2008: Swallow is best for the guy I feel but I can certainly understand not doing that. My wife back when she was doing that kind of thing would take the full load then spit it out on a towel or something else.
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Whenever I criticise his porn viewing he brings up my past and calls me a slut!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 4 years... at least that's how HE puts it. We hung out together for one year, have lived together for the past 3, but in my mind, have been officially a couple for maybe 1. I have always tried to make it perfectly ...
A. 25 March 2008: I won't worry so much about the porn. It is a curiosity that will get old for him after a while. I do the same but the more you do it the less of an adventure it becomes.
Porn is a fantasy not a real reality.... (read in full...)
How do I get my best friend to see I am a good asset to have in his life?
Q. i am not sure but i think that know this guy i really like that is also my best friend is starting to have feelings for me and last night he did something unexpected i got to hold his hand in public kind scared me a little at first but was glad that ...
A. 25 March 2008: i would tell him exactly how you feel, he will probably like it. good luck... (read in full...)
I rejected his hints as I'm not physically attracted to him, do I tell him that?
Q. There is a guy friend who is interested in me. He has dropped plenty of hints that he wants more than a friendship with me but I act as though I don't get his hidden messages. I am not physically attracted to him nor does his personality pull me in ...
A. 23 March 2008: I would just tell him you are interested in someone else right now and that would have to be the end of it.... (read in full...)
I'm eighteen and my breasts are really small! What can I do?
Q. i am an 18 year old female, with small breasts, im still wearing a 32 a. It is really embarasing when i c other women or girls even younger than me with bigger breast than i. I really need help will my breasts ever grow? i am even self consious when ...
A. 23 March 2008: I wouldn't worry about it honey, great things come in small packages. I love nipples more than the size of breasts. I think women who alter their breasts are sorry many times. I personally love natural breasts.... (read in full...)
Should I just try to forget about him as we're both married, or really open up before he goes to visit his wife?
Q. I have been happily married and with my husband for 12 years. I am in my late 40's, and my husband is in his late 50's. Lately, my sex drive is through the roof and my husband is not interested. In the past few months, I have become friends with ...
A. 23 March 2008: I know how you feel with the sex thing even though I have caused my problems by looking at other women too much I guess. Its a catch 22 dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. I was looking for excitement elsewhere too, not really doing any... (read in full...)
He looks at porn - does this mean he doesn't love me?
Q. hi my partner has a addiction to looking at porn magazines and acts on them masterbates over them i was just wondering how much of a percentage of partners do this is it that theyre not happy with there sex life and partner i dont know how to think ...
A. 17 March 2008: I think it is normal for many men. Working opposite hours could definitely be a big factor. I would try whatever it takes to change that. I know my wife and I had to work opposite shifts when the kids were younger to save on daycare, but it doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn?
Q. How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn? Even if you cut way back she still keeps bringing it up and using that for a excuse to not have sex. ...
A. 4 March 2008: I guess I should not have asked this question, you all sound like my wife. Unfortunately you probably are right, thanks for the ideas and comments. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he french kiss me anymore?... he does everything else
Q. My longtime boyfriend of several years used to french kiss me (really well) all the time during foreplay and sex. Now he will go down on me and is very oral sexually EXCEPT when it comes to French kissing. He will no longer French kiss me, only a ...
A. 4 March 2008: I think a lot of time men aren't careful enough when trying to satisfy their mate. They tend to go for the goods right away and skip the foreplay such as kissing and touching. I think if you ask in a nice way when you are all sexied up one night, ... (read in full...)
Desperately need advice about my partner's porn watching.
Q. Hi, I'm so unhappy at the moment. I work full time but my boyfriend works from home. Every day he watches porn, despite at the beginning of our relationship him telling me he doesn't watch videos. Today I went to the shops for one hour and came bac...
A. 4 March 2008: I think men lie about porn so they won't have to get beat up by their significant other. I am not sure how you first get started but is kind of a curious addiction. Too me it has absolutely nothing to do with how my wife looks or needs to look or ... (read in full...)
The ex fiance who harassed my husband and I now surprisingly became part of our sexual games! Should I allow her to aproach similarly?
Q. Okay, let me start from the beginning. When I first met my husband he had an ex fiance that was just obsessed with him and he was totally through with her, but she wouldn't stop trying to get in touch. Finally after about a year and a half of her ...
A. 4 March 2008: Sounds like fun to me and if it is exciting for you I would go for it.
Your husband should love it.... (read in full...)
2 Is company, 3 Is a crowd? Did we go too far inviting my friend for threesomes?
Q. Well i am engaged and my fiance asked if we could do a 3 some before we got married, since he never had one, and i agreed. The person we did it with is a mutual friend. i have done 3 somes before and they are fun so it doesn't just usually happen ...
A. 3 March 2008: Would your guy feel the same if you brought in another guy? You might try that once to see if that cures him.
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How do you convince your partner to give you a blow job without actually asking?
Q. Do most women enjoy giving a blow job or do they do it because their mate pushed them to? How do you convince your mate to do it without you asking and many times giving you the ultimate rejection?...
A. 3 March 2008: thanks for the answers, everything helps ... (read in full...)
How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn?
Q. How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn? Even if you cut way back she still keeps bringing it up and using that for a excuse to not have sex. ...
A. 3 March 2008: I do still go to strip clubs about once a week only or maybe once every two weeks. But what do you do for sex, I hate to get older and have to waste valuable time now until I get too old to do anything. How can you forget sex or who would want to go ... (read in full...)
We used to have sex, multiple times a day. Now it's nothing!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We have lived together for about 6 months. About 4 months ago i found out that he was regularly looking at porn on my laptop. I confronted him then and he said he would stop. A month or ...
A. 3 March 2008: Unfortunately to me it sounds like he may be loosing interest in you. Have you been giving him a hard time or riding him about something lately besides the porn?
He could just be exploring a new adventure, but there might be something else. I ... (read in full...)
He no longer French kisses me, although for years we had done that, why??
Q. My boyfriend will go down on me and do all things sexual like he has done for several years but he will NO LONGER french kiss me. What do you think happened? He will only give me a little "peck" anytime - including during sex. I think this is ...
A. 3 March 2008: Do you notice any other differences like not wanting to do things together as much? Face to face seems to be more of a problem if you are having other issues I think.
Sexual stimulation may be easier to perform such as down there and other th... (read in full...)
Is it better to endure little or no sex of have an affair??
Q. Is it best to put up with a crappy marriage with little or no sex or venture out for a wilder woman and take your lumps? I have tried a lot of solutions but everything stays the same. We are alone now that the kids are moved out....
A. 3 March 2008: I guess sex isn't everything but it sure is a stress reliever. Taking lumps may be worse than no sex.... (read in full...)
Are threesomes just a fantasy or do they really happen??
Q. Are threesomes only a man's fantasy or do they really happen that often? I believe it might be fun with the right circumstances. ...
A. 3 March 2008: Thanks for the answers, I guess I will be lucky to have a twosome at this point. Mostly it is just me and myself. It would be nice though.... (read in full...)
Obesity: an issue to overlook or batchelor - beware?
Q. I am interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman (a real-life woman, not a hypothetical person)who has the following qualities: beautiful, honest, trustworthy, smart, funny, creative, would be a great mother and caring wife, shares my values, ...
A. 2 March 2008: Weight should not have to be a problem unless she thinks it is. She may be extra sensitive if you look at other women which is natural I think. You may find that overweight women can be sexy. good luck... (read in full...)
I thought going participating in a lap dancing session would be fun with my husband, now I'm jealous, how can I deal with this?
Q. hi, my husband and i have been married a couple of years and have recently had a new baby(4months). it was a significant birthday for him at the weekend and he asked if we could go to a pole dancing club, i said yes, though inside felt alit...
A. 2 March 2008: I agree with rcn for the most part. Don't put too much thought into strip club lapdances. Its only about money for the most part, just a job. They try to appeal to whatever will get them more money and thats about it.... (read in full...)
What stimulates women the most?
Q. What stimulates women the most, kissing, massaging or something else? I know I should know but just want to get a few ideas. If you just pretend there are no other issues blocking a sexual turn on such as looking at other women, porn or an ...
A. 2 March 2008: Thanks for the great answers. I think they will be most helpful.... (read in full...)
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