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writes:I need to know if this is cheating. I have been sex camming with this guy, and he has a spouse. She does not know about us.Now he wants to meet in person and he wants me to perform oral sex on him.To me this is cheating on his partner.He tells me it is not cheating, because we are not having any sexual intercourse.Please help me here.I need to know.Also is our sex camming classified as cheating.He argues with me that it is not.
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reader, wildman  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 I would like to find out more about this sex camming, what does it consist of? That doesn't seem like real cheating to me if you are not doing it in person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to apologize, he is not married. He only has her for a friend with benefits. We have been sex camming since 2005, and then we broke it off because of personal reasons not pertaining to this.
We found each other this year, and we decide to cam again.
I find out he has this friend for benefits, and that does not bother me. What bothers me is he wants us to meet in person, and that was one of the rules of our camming.
We do not meet in person. I am not with anyone, and I don't want to be with anyone. I just enjoy camming. I should have put this more clearer than what I did.
I apologize. I know giving oral sex is cheating, but I wasn't sure about camming. I wanted to reassure him, not me. Thanks for the answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): of course this is cheating! you seem old enough to know this. plus you are the "other" woman here. Not good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): He says getting a blow-job from someone other than his wife isn't cheating? Of course it bloody well is! And you know it. You said so yourself. What the hell is wrong with you? Perhaps you're just looking for permission here, wanting to play the victim. Get your own man and leave his wife's alone. You know better than this.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Of course it's all cheating. Cheating = having sexual contact (of any sort) with someone else behind your partner's back, while your partner thinks you only have sexual communication with them alone.
So yes, I think the webcamming is cheating, and without a shadow of a doubt giving the guy a blowjob would be cheating!!!!! Put it this way, if my partner allowed another female to give him a blowjob, I would not be a happy bunny. Would you? Think about it. ; )
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Yes its cheating, and i cannot believe he said "oral sex" was not cheating, and you having to ask? give him a wide berth, he is after a bit on the side.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Is his name Bill Clinton?
Sorry but getting sexual with someone else regardless of the form is cheating. Don't matter if it is dry sex, a blow-job or whatever, it is cheating.
As for phone-sex and various variants, yeah it is. Cheating ain't the act of sex so much as the fact that you lie to your partner. Swingers after all don't cheat, because they do it will full knowledge of their partner.
Simple test, tell him to tell his wife what he has been doing. If he refuses, then he is cheating and knows it.
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reader, lifecycle +, writes (30 March 2008):
Is "sex camming" cheating? For me its a yes, plain and simple. Meeting up only confirms that this guy has no loyality and respect for his current partner. Do you really want to get involved with a guy like that?
I think you can do much better then that by moving on and finding a nice single man, who will share the same views on cheating etc as yourself and you can share a good, healthy relationship together.
Best wishes and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Imagine yourself as his partner. Would you class this as cheating. I bet so. What goes around comes around would you want to be in her position in the future? would you really want to meet p with someone like that, there could be many others and probably is.
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reader, polkadotkitty +, writes (30 March 2008):
God this guy sounds really sketchy if I was you i would stay well clear there are plenty of other more decent blokes out there.
Yes what you are doing is cheating its up to u whether or not you want to be the "other woman" although i would advise against it as his partner will always be priority.
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