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Was he looking at porn or flirting on line befoe having sex with me?

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Question - (3 February 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ummmm, without trying to be too specific, I took a shower and then when I was done I went to my bedroom to put on clean clothes, and my man was in the room with something in front of the door, and when I walked in he was more then ready to get "down". And after we were done doing the dirrty he leaned down and grabbed his computer.......I think that he was looking at porn, or talking to some naked chick online....am I right..? I think that he does this kind of stuff all the time.....am I just being insecure??? PLEASE HELP ME!!! I don't know what to do anymore.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010):

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Honestly I don't know what is holding me back from dumping him. Other then the fact that we have a kid together. I too think that the whole masterbating is cheating is B.S because he isn't as sexual as I am...so it would only make sense for me to masterbate on those days when he doesn't feel like it. Idk....anymore advice?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010):

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I refered to sex as doing the Dirrty because I didn't know that you could also ask sexual questions on this site, not that I have any issues with saying we had sex. Not too hard to say. Lol, and I do not have paranoia problems, he locks his computer, and his ex before me has told me multiple times that he cheated on her, and he would flip out if I were to look at porn and I expect the same courtesy from him. He also thinks that if I were to masterbate that it is like cheating. Also, yes I have found him doing suspicous things in the past which leads to my being suspicous of him now. He has been on dating sites, and has sent sexual emails to other woman...to me it seems like he cheats in every way but actually having sex with someone else. Which I think is just as bad, if not worse, then having sex with another woman.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010):

"uh, Huston,,I think we have a problem.."

Why do you refer to sex as "doing the dirrty" ??? The phrase you used might be a clue as to your insecurities.

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A female reader, veronika Australia +, writes (3 February 2010):

veronika agony auntThe most important thing - hands down - in a relationship is communication.

Therefore, you need to talk to him about anything if you have a concern, including this.

No one here can tell you what he was doing because none of us are him.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2010):

Next time, ask him what he's doing, or look at the history.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010):

Ask to use the pc straight after the next "event" and look at the history. It will tell you what he was doing as he wont have had time to delete it. If you feel something/some else else is getting him horny and hes just jumping your bones because you are around at the right moment, i can understand that not feeling very loving or flattering. Check the history, that should tell you x

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