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I have always been an 'Agony Aunt'. I don't even know why, so I suppose I am really an 'Accidental Agony Aunt'. I do like trying to give people sensible advice and hopefully make some difference to them. Sometimes I actually get this right.
I came across this website by accident and thought 'how wonderful'. I really wanted to be part of this.
I actually believe that I can take responsibility for how I see and feel about the various events in my life. It can get pretty difficult but I have learned that I can change things that make me feel not so good into something that doesn't make me feel quite so bad. This doesn't always work, but I try.
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I want to build on my friendship with her, how do I do this despite the problems in the past?
Q. i really really really like this girl a lot!!! she knew that i liked her and since then she changed her attitude towards me. She didnt talk to me as much, she hesitated to sit next to me in class and lots of other things, i basically didnt get her ...
A. 19 April 2011: Be honest and don't mess her around. It won't put you in a very good position. Forget about the prom and other things from the past and get on with the future. It's important to tell her what you are thinking.... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my BF's wallet...but we don't use condoms!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been togther for 3 years and i found a comdom in his wallet we don't use comdoms i ask him about it and he said he was going to use it on me i don't beleve him what sould i do...
A. 18 April 2011: It seems strange that he was going to use it on you when you don't use condoms. However, if there was something for him to hide, I am sure he could have hidden the condom in a lot better places than his wallet. Give him a fair go. If something is ... (read in full...)
Her immaturity is driving us apart
Q. Dear Cupid Key facts: -She is 18 years old -Maturity level of a child -Defence mechanism: complaining and irrationality When I first met her, I believed that beneath her immature perceptions of humanity there would be a deep philosophi...
A. 18 April 2011: Immature or not, she has the right to be different from you. I can't see any relationship here except that between a self-styled ``guru'' and student. For both of your sakes, just leave her alone.... (read in full...)
She seems untouchable but approachable, how can this be?
Q. The question sums this up. Theres this gorgeous girl i always see about at my college, we don't know each other though. But when i see her and we look at each other, there is a connection there. So we know of each other, im just not sure what sort ...
A. 18 April 2011: Set a goal. Tell yourself that before this week is out you will talk to her, no matter what you say. Try saying ``hi'' whenever you walk past her. If she is a decent girl she won't reject you for just that. Work from there. Then you might find ... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating because I don't feel good afterwards
Q. ok i haven't had a girlfriend before or had sex and i just keep masterbating. the other day i masterbated twice before 7am which is just crazy. what should I do to stop masterbating. i want to stop because i don't feel good after i have finished ...
A. 18 April 2011: So you haven't had a girlfriend or sex before... no problem. If you really want to stop masterbating then perhaps you should try to distract yourself by changing your focus, like reading, exercise, etc...
Instead, why not change you mind about ho... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair, how should I handle this?
Q. Hi all, Sorry 4 the length. I had to explain in detail. I am so confused. I got an anonymous call with a hidden i.d a woman informed me that my father has a mistress and is willing to marry her. He is 58 years n has been married to my mum for 3...
A. 18 April 2011: This is a terrible position you have found yourself in. This is not your battle and you needn't take responsibility for your parent's choices. Keep out of the way.... (read in full...)
Were his words sincere? OR was it a ploy to pantyville?
Q. I've fallen for a man (who lived in shared accomodation) for no longer than 6 months. (He has left now) However he had a gf but he consistently flirted with me, in the process I fell for him but now that hes moved out, Ive completed ridden him of a...
A. 18 April 2011: I'll bet he says that to all the girls. He sounds like an opportunist. You were convenient at the time and he gave you a little attention, but now you're no longer convenient for him. I am glad you didn't waist too much time on him. Keep away, he's ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to ask her out when I'm so shy?
Q. I'm too shy to ask a girl on a date, I'm not really scared of her saying no I'm just too shy to ask her but I really want to be with her. No matter how hard I try I can't seem to be able to pluck up the courage to ask her and I don't really want to ...
A. 18 April 2011: It's very sweet that you feel this way about her. If you really like her then simply talk to her and ask her out on a date. Don't make a big fuss about it and don't do this through your friends. All the best.... (read in full...)
Wife is away, does husband want to play?
Q. Can anyone please tell me why a married man has made it a point to tell me that his wife is out of town on business for a few days? Is this an innocent statement or is there a reason he is saying this to me?...
A. 18 April 2011: Either this guy is terribly naive to not realise how his words could be interpreted by you (not to mention the other women he may have repeated this to) or he has all the finesse of a scolded dog on heat.... (read in full...)
Should I stay or go. Don't want to be 'second' in his life. I think I am about to break up with my boyfriend.
Q. I am about to break up with my boyfriend.. The reason is because I found out sweet messages between some chick who he met years ago.. I checked the messages and sent time, was the time where we went through the darkest time together as a co...
A. 25 March 2011: Leave. You shouldn't tolerate treatment like that. Your question shows that you don't trust him already and it seems that he is not really the one for you. Break up with him now because you can do much better.
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My ex boy friend hasn't talked to me in five years.
Q. My ex boy friend hasn't talked to me in five years. Why not? he's the one who left me. i miss him so much. well he said hi a few times a few years ago, but i think he was made to. but he still looks at me (we attend the same church) i dont get w...
A. 25 March 2011: Five years is a long time. You must get past him. He will most likely have other things in his life now and so should you. All the best.... (read in full...)
How do I come clean to him about the fake pictures, without losing him?
Q. One day i was bored at home and decided to create a Smeet.I decided to use fake pics because I wanted the attention from guys. I searched on google pretty girls and I found this one girl that looked somewhat like one of my classmates in school. I ...
A. 25 March 2011: The main thing is why didn't you use your own picture in the first place? Bad self-image! That sort of thing might be fine for a quick and harmless flirtation on the web, but now you are in a situation with a guy who likes who YOU are, but what ... (read in full...)
We like each other, but he has a girlfriend whom he is not sure about!!!
Q. Hi Everyone, Please help me out ! A week ago, I went to this party , and I met this wonderful guy, who was also from the same country as I am. We kept chatting and it was amazing. he took my phone number and he texted me the same night to tell me...
A. 25 March 2011: It sounds like you are on a good thing here, but I will bet he is not telling his girlfriend that he is `not sure about her'. Don't get involved until he has sorted things out with her. If he doesn't or won't then forget about him altogether. His ... (read in full...)
My bf is constantly looking at pics of naked women...is this adversely affecting our relationship?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a year and at first things were hot and steamy but lately he has been less and less interested in sex or anything else. We are only having sex 2-3 times a week. He works an average of 70 hours a week and although we ...
A. 25 March 2011: If he is working about 70 hours each week, he probably doesn't have much time to cheat on you and I would imagine that he would be very tired. If you feel you need to lose weight, do it for yourself, not him. Do it sensibly. Don't resort to starvi... (read in full...)
Will my body issues turn my fling off?
Q. So I'm kinda worried right now. I have this fling ( we were on a no commitment zone) and we were planning to get into the sack after his vacation next month. Although we've seen each other in person, this will be our first sexual experience. The...
A. 25 March 2011: You are who you are. If he has a problem with that then you can find someone better.... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive, how do I get him to change his behaviour?
Q. Hi Whenever my bf gets angry i.e. like when i try to call him when he is at work or when he is busy, he verbally abuses me. He calls me names, if i have known that he is busy i would have never called him in the first place. We discussed a ...
A. 11 January 2011: Whether or not you irritate him, he should not be abusing you, and you shouldn't be taking it. Just keep in mind that if you can't change him and if you stay with this guy, you are buying into both sides of his nature.
If you are really up to ch... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive!
Q. been with my bf for few months,seem 2 have lost my sex drive latley and have he cant seem 2 make me orgasm through sex or forplay. never had problems in the past! also can being too drunk affect an orgasm??...
A. 11 January 2011: Relax. Don't get wound up about this or you might make it worse. It can be a nasty cycle. You don't orgasm, you get worried about no orgasm, so you don't orgasm again, and so on. Concentrate on the sex and relax.
Being drunk can affect your abi... (read in full...)
Married but don't love him anymore, what should I do?
Q. im eighteen years old and married i love this guy but i dont wanna be with him anymore. when he does something wrong i tell him its really over but he always has someway to make me stay and i do even thought im really unhappy, im torn between the ...
A. 11 January 2011: If you really don't want to be with him anymore, then you must be honest and end this relationship now. If you don't then you will only end up tormenting yourself and your husband. But ask yourself, or remind yourself, why do you love him?... (read in full...)
Have I missed the opportunity to resolve this argument?
Q. My boyfriend is on a business trip to Germany for 3 months while I am in the UK. We both took annual leave the week before he left and were supposed to go on holiday but didn’t manage to book anything. So we decided to spend time together where he ...
A. 11 January 2011: I'm sorry that you have been so upset about this situation, but neither of you can help whether or not his ex still has feelings for your boyfriend. Don't forget, he is not with her anymore. Don't feel insecure. If you really can't cope with this ... (read in full...)
My fiance watches porn on my teenage daughter's computer!
Q. Is it unreasonable to confront my Fiance on his recent porn watching on my computer that my young teenage daughter uses as well? I am another one who is not thrilled about him watching the porn, but he can do what he wants (I'd rather not know ...
A. 11 January 2011: Yes, you would be right in confronting your fiance. I think it would be unnecessary to go at him like a demon, but just talk to him calmly about this situation and how concerned you are that your daughter may find out or may have already found out ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't treat me well or help out, is it because of our age difference?
Q. Hello every body, here is my story,I am 23 years old and my husband is 37 years old,we have been married for 2 years now and his mother was living with us since we got married. he was my 1st love and relationship so I do not really have any experie...
A. 9 January 2011: Actually, your husband doesn't treat you well or help out because he is a lazy pig, not because of your age difference. He is simply taking you for granted, like the furniture in your house.
This is a problem because you are not likely to see him ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with jealousy.
Q. I've been broken up with my ex for close to three months now, but we went through a period of "getting back together" for a month, so it is effectively two. Only in the recent month have we had no contact with each other. We hurt each other prett...
A. 9 January 2011: You shouldn't be worrying about him or her anymore. It's over. Leave them alone. You need to worry about yourself. Seriously.
Jealousy is pretty normal, you just don't want it to get out of control. You have to be strong and deal with it yourself... (read in full...)
Do I really like her for who she really is?
Q. right, ive been with a girl for nearly 6 months now. we're both 17, she's 4 months older than me, and we go to the same school though she is in the year above. The way we started going out is a bit strange really, she just started talking to me ...
A. 9 January 2011: Ok, I don't seriously think you are too young to be in love and everyone is capable of blurring the lines (for want of a better word) between lust and love.
She may be easy going about sex, but don't forget that you were in on it too. As for love... (read in full...)
In our LDR I feel I take more than I give. How can I satisfy him more?
Q. I am 17, he is 19. We are in a Long distance relationship, and are sleeping together. Problem is, I tend to take more than I give, meaning I am usually satisfied with the sex, whilst he gets nothing. I can't seem to stimulate him, and I feel selfish ...
A. 9 January 2011: It is good that you are able to see each other regularly even though sadly it is not very often.
I don't think you are necessarily taking more than you give, but perhaps because of the limited time frame that the two of you are spending together... (read in full...)
Crazy love story can't let go
Q. Been through a crazy love story and seem not to be able to give up. Even friends and family hope it works out. I'm 25 and met this girl through her sister a couple yrs back she had a long distance relationship of 5 yrs and she is 2 yrs older than ...
A. 9 January 2011: This is certainly a `crazy love story'. Outside of a witness protection program, I can't understand why anyone wanting a serious and healthy relationship would be sneaking around town to meet. The moment people found out about you and her being ... (read in full...)
Despite our different domestic situations, what is he revealing on his thoughts about me?
Q. We are adults. We are not friends. But we share a nice friendly relationship since a year. We are friends on a social networking site too. And I have noticed that of late he visits it daily even when he doesn't do anything there. I really like ...
A. 9 January 2011: I am not sure about what your social and domestic situation is. He seems to like you, but to what extent I wouldn't know. I agree that you should just be yourself.... (read in full...)
My girl has me, but she has also gone with a boy. Why couldn't she put our relationship first? How do I cope?
Q. A normal girl in love with another. Something I would have thought impossible for me, until over a year ago. I have been in love with her for a long time, I don't know why or how, but I am. On new years of last year she went the extra mile and kiss...
A. 9 January 2011: One thing that stands out in what you have written is that YOU need to accept yourself for who you are and care less for what others think. A lot less. Are you some uncaring person? No. Learn to love yourself as if you are wonderful because you ... (read in full...)
Are guys losing respect for girls today than in the past?
Q. I know the guy I am with does not act like this what so ever, but is it just me, or am I getting the feeling that now a days, men expect girls to bend over and give themselves to them? Are guys really loosing respect for females now a days? ...
A. 9 January 2011: Wow, your question is worthy of a thesis.
It may not be so much that guys are losing respect for girls as much as the rules have changed.
Has human desire changed? I don't think so. Perhaps the extent to which we can express that desire has.... (read in full...)
I feel I have no choice but to leave him and move on
Q. Hi, I have been thinking for a while now and feel it is time to move on with my life and break up with my boyfriend. i love him a lot but they way we are with each other is very unhealthy. He says he hates me and i tell him he needs to stop bu...
A. 9 January 2011: I don't think your idea of what a relationship is messed up or you wouldn't be here asking these questions. You are just in the middle of a distasteful situation that you want to get out of.
There is no secret to quickly getting over him, but I th... (read in full...)
Could this be all because I am still a virgin?
Q. I am still a virgin, but my guy and I do do stuff. I am curious on why I act "wild and crazy" during our "fun time" but when my guy jokes with me about it any other time, I am extremely embarassed, and don't want to talk about it? Could it be ...
A. 9 January 2011: I am not sure if this is because you are a virgin, but you seem to want to keep your `fun time' separate from other times. Don't be in a hurry, it is perfectly ok to feel this way.... (read in full...)
Would any men be weirded out that their girlfriend donated her eggs?
Q. I've been considering donating my eggs and have been "preliminarily accepted," meaning that I've filled out my application and sent pictures; and now they want to interview me face-to-face. While I've considered all aspects of it and now that I'm ...
A. 7 January 2011: I can't think of a reason why a man would get weirded out if you donate your eggs. You have obviously thought this out rationally. I think it is a good idea to tell a man in your future about this. If you explained this to him like you have in your ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of two years suddenly wants to break up
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating two years and now she wants a break up and doesnt want to be with me all of a sudden. i do not know what to do. i have been through so much. i do not know what i did. i think it might be because i am too jeal...
A. 7 January 2011: I'm very sorry, but, If she doesn't want to be with you, then there's nothing you can do about it. The best way to find out why this has happened is to talk to her.... (read in full...)
Are these signs your boyfriend loves you?
Q. Is these signs your boyfriend really loves you? 1.says he loves you all the time 2.kisses your hand,neck,lips 3.holds you really close and tight 4.spends time with you whenever he can even if its just coming over and cuddling and falling a sleep...
A. 7 January 2011: How sweet. I think they are good signs he is very much in love with you.... (read in full...)
What does he get from being with them rather than our son and me?
Q. Been with my spouse for 5 years now, but he has cheated in the past. However the past year he has been the worst to me and put me through an extreme amount of hurt. He cheated twice this year but not just gone and slept with some one he's left our ...
A. 7 January 2011: This guy is a big zero. To take a wild guess, I'd assume he's cheating on you again. It appears you have a spineless creep for a husband.
He isn't prepared to step up and set a decent example for your son and is completely irresponsible towards ... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to convince me the age gap is a problem
Q. I'm 20 and my current boyfriend is 33, we've been together for 10 months or so. We met via work (we play pro badminton) and I used to play mixed doubles for a little while before we got together, which is where we initially got to know each other. (...
A. 7 January 2011: It sounds like you two are really in tune with each other. You are very fortunate. As for your friends, well, they may be a little jealous of you. Your age gap isn't too big. Just think when you're 70, he will be 83. That doesn't seem so bad.... (read in full...)
Will the pain of this break up ever go away? Will I ever be able to smile and laugh again?
Q. My bf and I broke up 2 months ago and I'm completely lost. We broke up because he had stuff to do ( he's in a band and said he didn't have time to treat me like i should be treated) and I wanted to travel. He never wanted to really do the things I ...
A. 7 January 2011: Snap out of it! Ok you were in a relationship which has now ended. The next time you sit around crying just think that you shouldn't let this guy's actions dictate what you are going to be doing or feeling one year outside of the relationship.
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Is it a good idea to 'replace' my ex so I can get over him?
Q. I'm really struggling with what to do if anyone could help? I've recently broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years, i grew up with him so its really hard on me and i miss him like mad. its torture living without him :( the type of person i am is i...
A. 7 January 2011: Your life is not a mess. You're hurt and can't get over your boyfriend fast enough. Why not just learn to deal with it. I can see how your 'replacement' strategy works, but what is so wrong with spending some time alone? Sort your head out. How ... (read in full...)
Every time I start to get over her past, something new pops up!
Q. I have been in a relationship for aprox 10 months and I'm having trouble getting over my girlfriends past. When we first started dating one time after sex we were lying in bed and she started in on the "what's the craziest sexual thing you have ...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't think you are being childish, but it sounds like you are in a place you shouldn't be. You've become suspicious and started checking up on her. Is this who you really are? I hope you answer 'no'. This is not a good way for a relationship t... (read in full...)
Since we got engaged he is getting more and more mean, and refuses to seek help for his anger problems. Help!
Q. Hello, I've been dating my guy for two and a half years. We got engaged around our two year anniversary and have set a wedding date. Since the moment we have gotten engaged he has been progressively more mean. We have had fights before, he would...
A. 7 January 2011: What a disgusting specimen. I shuddered as I read your post. He obviously thinks he has you cornered. But you're not. I am sorry that you have to tolerate the monster. You are right, you need to get out of this relationship... and fast. ... (read in full...)
Was this advice, or a warning?
Q. Hello, I am posting on this site because well I need help and I havent found any other websites to post to so maybe you all can give me some answers. My girlfriend and I have been toghether for a year and a half and we have always been very happy, ...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't think you're close to breaking up. You've had one rough week in just over one year. Why don't you go to her and talk about this? Like in most relationships, there is more going on than just the two of you (surprise!). You both need to fit ... (read in full...)
Does my fetish make me abnormal?
Q. Hello, I would like some advice on a personal and potentially embarrassing issue. I have a sexual fetish for shiny or transparent, glossy pvc plastic. Anything made from shiny or transparent pvc arouses me- pvc raincoats, transparent pvc shower c...
A. 7 January 2011: I understand fetish to be "a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body". Then give or take the definition of abnormal, most of us would have fetishes to some ... (read in full...)
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