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writes: I'm too shy to ask a girl on a date, I'm not really scared of her saying no I'm just too shy to ask her but I really want to be with her. No matter how hard I try I can't seem to be able to pluck up the courage to ask her and I don't really want to ask through my friends, whenever I say I'm going to do it I chicken out when I see her. Is there a way round it or a way to build up my courage or should I just move on and ignore my feelings because I don't have the courage? Any opinions or advice would be appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice and help. I'll be sure to do it next time I see her.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 It's very sweet that you feel this way about her. If you really like her then simply talk to her and ask her out on a date. Don't make a big fuss about it and don't do this through your friends. All the best.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Some things in life aren't easy, but you do them because you have to. This is one of them. You need to believe in yourself and just do it. I'm the same way, so one thing I do is practice what I want to say beforehand. That way I don't go blank when I'm in the situation.
Remember, there are other options, but it's much harder to turn someone down to their face than it is via note, friend, text, email...
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reader, AnalyticalMentalityOx +, writes (18 April 2011):
No i don't think you should move on, you obviously like her and the next step is to make the move. So many people loose out and don't take the chance because their nerves get in the way which a sad thing really because they'll always wonder what if?
Like they say 'A lack of courage comes because of fear. Fear comes because of ignorance. What are you afraid of?' your answer is nothing, as you stated you aren't scared of her saying no. So next time you talk to her, during the conversation just straight out ask her don't think about it just do it! She probably knows your a shy guy and will be impressed you asked and find you sweet.
But just be yourself, don't plan what you are going to say or rehearse it because more times than often you never say exactly what you planned or in fact muck it up. Besides, if it is genuinely real it'll be more a more natural question asked and you wont be feeling as much pressure :)
Good luck!
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (18 April 2011):
 If u rly Like her and dont have the courage have another person ask her for u or just write her a note and give it to her....u dont have to do it exactly face to face
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reader, Honey Sweet  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 simply text her.
Start saying how are you okay???" blablabla
Then offer to take her to a museum or something so youre nurves aint so bad when you take her out.
texting is genuis lol xxxx ask me for another question if you wish
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