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writes: Is there somebody for everybody? Or is this just a fairy tale? What's wrong with me? I've kissed my share of frogs but no one turned into a prince. They all remained amphibians, happily jumping around in the mad. All my friends are married with children. Happily? That's another issue. But at least they have somebody to share their lives with, somebody to care for, somebody to sleep with. I'm 36 and I've never had anyone to call my partner. I've had lovers in the past but I know nobody loved me and I doubt that any of them really liked me even. A life not shared is a life wasted in vain... Reply to this Question
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (10 September 2006):
 concentrate on being nice to yourself and have lots of intresting things to do, the rest is not important you'll see how things happen on their own naturally
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reader, Yos  +, writes (9 September 2006):
 Think about who you are meeting and how you are meeting them. Whilst you can just be having bad luck, to a certain degree I believe we make our own luck.
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reader, midgetgem +, writes (9 September 2006):
 I don't believe that a life not shared is a life in vain.
I've not had anyone I could call my partner unlit recerntly and I'm 32.
Until last year I lived alone with my cat, did my own thing, bought my own house and basically took care of myself.
And that is how I'd always been. Boyfriends either turned out to be total maniacs or just total nothings!!
My Mum joked that I would be found in my dotage, living with my sister and covered in cat's wee!!
An indication of the sucess of my love live!!!
Love came when I least expected it in the form of a long term friend. We had always gotten along and well ..........
What I'm trying to say is that we often don't find love. Sometimes love finds us.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 i believe that there is someone out there for everyone, but its wether you put yourself out there to be found is the problem. don't be giving up and whenever you do go out on dates and that be yourself and the great person within you will shine through. However remeber to take things slow at the start and dont rush into anything because this may be off - putting. someone will come to you within time just be patient, 36 is not old, you've still plenty of years left to find that right someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): There are a set of people for everyone, but it doesn't necessarily mean those people are near where you are. Sometimes, you have to take initiative and look for them, try different settings, different hobbies and even careers/jobs.
As for your friends being married and 'at least having someone' - you know what? I rather be alone than with someone I am partially happy with.
And I'll say this bluntly in reference to "A life not shared is a life wasted in vain..." - A life is what you make of it. If you think/believe your life revolves around sharing with another person, great - up to a point. If you can't live through life empowering your core self, then that means there is a good reason why no one is attracted to you as a potential long term partner in the first place. You see to lack a lot in the foundation and solidity of your own character.
Build yourself first, so whatever setbacks the world forces you to face can bring u back on your feet again. With and without a man/woman in your life.
To me, it would be nice if I can grow and share life with someone, but I don't need it. This is not because I am a guy. This is about filling in the stability of your mind/emotions.
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