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writes: My Ex Boyfriend has just told me he's getting married, we've been split up since Christmas, so why do i feel this crap about it? I sobbed my eyes out in front of him absolutely gutted, were still good friends but this was a guy who didn't want commmitment when we were going out together, so what has changed. I feel terrible
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): Sorry to hear this news upset you so much.
Think of it this way: You ARE split up, which means you and he - have a right to date others and form new relationships. Which is what he did. Even though you were dating, it wasn't as if you two were engaged, or committed. Now he has found someone he does want to marry.
That is hard to take, because you probably hoped it might be you he'd want, in the long run. Crap happens, you know.
You've seen him, he has told you, and now, since he IS getting married, the best thing is to let go of your friendship with him - because you used to be gf/bf. So, let it go, accept that it is finally, irrevocably, over, and begin to focus more on your own life. Surely, there is another man out there who will be absolutely crazy about you! And until you find him, enjoy doing the things you like, with your friends, and by yourself....good luck!
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reader, Tine  +, writes (5 September 2006):
 I'm sure you were gutted, anyone would be. Only he knows the answer to your question and truth i doubt that you'll wanna hear his answer, it would hurt you even more. If you're still good friends then thats great however getting so close to his new relationship with his wife to be will be a shock to the system, so be prepared because when you see how their marriage is going you'll be still wondering what he seen in her that he didnt see in you. So just be careful!
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