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writes:Hi I have finished with my partner, he was a lazy, critical, unemployed pig whilst I worked, did the housework, childcare everything basically! I havent cried yet tho could it be cos Ive cried buckets in the past? I feel relief if anything! Reply to this Question
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reader, Nikita +, writes (25 January 2007):
 your reaction is perfectly normal trust me. Like I said, I felt the same, in fact the whole family felt it, my kids were jubilant so I knew id done the right thing and my only regret was that I hadnt done it sooner! Take care.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your advice everyone! Its good to know that my reaction is normal, I guess I just needed to know that im not heartless, just the opposite in fact!!
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reader, hopeless_teen_ +, writes (24 January 2007):
Even from a male's point of view I have to say good on you hun. Don't get stuck with a guy like that, you deserve better and in my point of view he deserved it and had it coming to be honest.
Don't worry about not being upset, I am only 16 yet ended a relationship a few months ago for multiple reasons. (not the same ones but still... lol) basically, I wasn't upset about that even though I had been going out with her for a while. So don't worry - it's understandable that you weren't upset.
Anyway, good on you.
Good luck with the future. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): I agree with the other Aunts. You are done crying, girl! Be proud that you said 'enough'. Long before you booted him out..you knew the relationship was done and you likely grieved, not necessarily for the loss of him, but more for the loss of a relationship. There was likely so much pain and angst for you. But now-that's over, done, finished and life goes on. Now get and enjoy!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 January 2007):
 I think relief is such an appropriate emotion for you right now. You've done all your crying in the way he treated you. You should feel so proud of yourself for managing to walk away from him. Don't be emotionally manipulated!
CD
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reader, Tine +, writes (24 January 2007):
 i applaud you.. honestly he sounds like a complete ass.. no offesnse lyk but dont be thinking that you should feela tiny bit of regret for ending it with this man, men nowaday in the world annoy the hell outta me. they think that they can sit all day, with no jobs, waiting on their wives/girlfriends coming home from work to pick up after them and cook and clean up while they sit on their lazy asses all day and watch tv.. maybe now that you've finished with him, this will open up his eyes to the real world and he will realise that there wil never always be someone at his beck and call and that he will infact have to lift himself up and actually earn a bit of independance through a job.. so luv good for u
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reader, Nikita +, writes (24 January 2007):
Hi there. First of all, well done on getting rid of that lazy so and so. Now you can get on with the rest of your life. I dont blame you for feeling relief and I know exactly where you're coming from because I ended a similiar relationship six years ago and I felt relief too. I think that when you're in a bad relationship, you go through all the tears and pain of trying to change it, of dealing with the frustration, the unfairness, the pain that that person heaps on you until one day you're out the other side and all cried out and you just want out. He's killed any love you had for him. Thats what happened with me. It just dies and you end it and thats why there's no tears because there's no love anymore. Enjoy your life now and one day you'll meet someone who will treat you the right way. Good Luck.x
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